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Title: Personal Messages
Post by: Sussexgirl on August 14, 2012, 09:24:06 PM
I have been sent a personal message that I would like to reply to but it says that I am not allowed to send messages? Am I doing something wrong?

UPDATE BY FORUM ADMIN
New members must post 10 useful posts before being able to send PMs.
Posts in the 'This and That' and the 'Menopause Humour' boards don't add to your post count.
Title: Re: Sending Messages
Post by: Emma on August 15, 2012, 09:55:35 AM
New members must post 10 useful posts before being able to send PMs.
Posts in the 'This and That' and the 'Menopause Humour' boards don't add to your post count.

Emma
Title: Re: Sending Messages
Post by: Firewalker50 on August 15, 2012, 11:03:27 AM
I notice some members have First Flush against their names and some have Member.
Some of the First Flush people have been registered for years.

Is that also linked to the number of postings they make?   I don't think I had noticed those definitions before.  Are there any other categories. 

I am just curious.

Fx
Title: Re: Sending Messages
Post by: Emma on August 15, 2012, 11:15:42 AM
The definitions have been there since before my time.
First Flush is now up to 100 20 posts, more than that you become a member.

The reason for the change is to prevent anti-social types registering on the forum and flooding members with spurious PMs before they can be recognised for what they are.
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I notice some members have First Flush against their names and some have Member.
Some of the First Flush people have been registered for years.

Is that also linked to the number of postings they make?   I don't think I had noticed those definitions before.  Are there any other categories. 

I am just curious.

Fx
Title: Re: Sending Messages
Post by: Firewalker50 on August 15, 2012, 11:26:23 AM
Thanks for the explanation Emma.
Title: Re: Sending Messages
Post by: CLKD on August 15, 2012, 12:55:00 PM
 :thankyou: Emma

One Forum I was on many years ago had 'secret' pages and it amazed me that, as a welcomed regular member, more areas were 'opened' up to me  :o - oh the joys of modern technology and that was 10+ years ago  ::)
Title: Re: Sending Messages
Post by: nelliedee on August 17, 2012, 08:49:16 AM
Lol and there was me thinking it was because I had my first flush last monday !!
Nelliedee x
Title: Re: Sending Messages
Post by: Taz2 on August 17, 2012, 08:51:28 AM
 :lol:
Title: Re: Sending Messages
Post by: jax on August 17, 2012, 12:10:21 PM
thanks Emma x
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: MAT48 on November 16, 2012, 04:30:03 PM
I'm a bit confused - how is it I can recieve a PM but not reply to it then? I understand that I don't qualify because I'm post meno now and don't really use this site - although it has helped me in relation to ruling stuff out in the past and people on it have been lovely. But it's pretty annoying if you can receive but not reply because this person is definitely expecting a response from me so I would appear very rude if I didn't? But now may appear to have breached her confidentiality by going on the open forum in order to respond. A system failing perhaps? ???

Mat
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Joyce on November 16, 2012, 05:46:20 PM
Once you have made your first 100 20 posts you can PM other members to your heart's content Mat.  :)
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Taz2 on November 16, 2012, 05:46:36 PM
Do you mean it would be better not to be able to receive pm's as well as not being able to send them as this would then not put you in a difficult position?

Taz x
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: MAT48 on November 16, 2012, 06:02:35 PM
Well yes I do really Taz. I suppose I should just come off this site because I am post meno and have no symptoms so I don't need this forum for myself? But I would hate someone to think I was letting them down and one of my threads had flagged up for her. So you see I don't really want to have to make over 100 posts just in order to be able to PM her back! It's a strange old world isn't it?! How are you anyway Taz2?
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: lady57 on November 16, 2012, 07:03:02 PM
That seems like a good idea as sometimes a new member might want to ask some advice from another following a post that is personal and not want to have to put it on the open forum. 100 posts is a lot to make if you are not naturally gobby.  :-X  Thank you
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Taz2 on November 16, 2012, 07:16:49 PM
Thanks Emma.

MAT - I'm fine thank you.  why would you think that being post-meno means you aren't supposed to be on this site when it is often when you become post that the symptoms really kick in?  Post-menopause lasts for the rest of our lives and continues to throw up challenges for all of us. I am sure your "post meno" experiences will be of help to lots of us on here.

Taz x

Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: MAT48 on November 16, 2012, 07:57:37 PM
Yes - I'm naturally quite gobby but not when someone else's confidentiality is as stake. I hope I will be forgiven in this instance though.
Mat  ;)
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: MAT48 on November 16, 2012, 09:57:38 PM
I guess I know very little about being post meno Taz. Every now and then I develop a weird new symptom and wonder, with my GP, if its RA, RA drugs or meno. That tends to be when I come back here.

It's a tiring disease for which I have to take cytotoxic drugs so I have to conserve fingers, energy levels and brain cells for work, kids and OH. Under strict orders these days!

Glad to learn you are well though.
Mat x
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Morwenna on November 17, 2012, 11:04:38 PM
I'm one of those who previously had many posts - over 400 but I went through a paranoid phase and deleted them all as I was worried about being identified by someone who knows me. So apologies for being anti social!  ::)
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Ju Ju on August 30, 2013, 01:04:28 AM
Well that explains why I can't reply to a lovely kind personal message! To quote another member, I shall have to be 'gobby'! It seems a shame.
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Taz2 on August 30, 2013, 07:45:24 AM
It is a safeguarding measure on this and other forums Ju Ju. There will always people who join forums and then use the private messaging facility to spam members as has happened on here in the past. Sad but true. There is also a limit to how many pm's you can send in a specific amount of time but I can't remember what it is.  :)

Taz
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Suzi Q on August 30, 2013, 01:16:29 PM
Well yes I do really Taz. I suppose I should just come off this site because I am post meno and have no symptoms so I don't need this forum for myself? But I would hate someone to think I was letting them down and one of my threads had flagged up for her. So you see I don't really want to have to make over 100 posts just in order to be able to PM her back! It's a strange old world isn't it?! How are you anyway Taz2?
IM 17 years or so post meno but I come on the site all the time?
If your fine then thats great but maybe you can answer some questions
Thats why we all came here and it behoves us to stay yes? xxx
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: MAT48 on August 30, 2013, 01:23:44 PM
Well if menopause was all I had wrong with me then I would use it more but I have RA, Sjogrens, Hashimoto's and possibly other autoimmune diseases now so I need other forums that are more specific. I think my menopause was probably the trigger for all this autoimmune stuff though. Many people I have come across over the last two years have delayed treatment for serious illnesses because they or their doctors have assumed that menopause accounted for their symptoms. Not good!
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Ju Ju on September 02, 2013, 06:45:21 PM
I have made more than 20 posts, but seem to be stuck on 19. So near yet so far! What am I doing wrong?
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: honeybun on September 02, 2013, 07:04:28 PM
The posts you make have to be in topics other than "this and that " or the "three word " threads.

I think the words used are " meaningful " posts.

Hope this helps.

Honeyb
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Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Diamonds and pearls 53 on March 24, 2014, 10:32:29 AM
How do you know that you have been sent a personal message..what alerts you to it?..or am i being dim?
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: honeybun on March 24, 2014, 10:57:36 AM
If you look at the menu at the top there is a little box that says messages. It will show a new message in brackets next to it. You can also set your profile to have messages forwarded to your email inbox if you want.


Honeyb
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I will send you a hello now so you can see it happen  ;D
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Diamonds and pearls 53 on March 24, 2014, 01:39:28 PM
Many thanks honeybun..have P.M'd you a reply :)

Diamonds and pearls x
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Rowan on April 01, 2014, 11:03:08 AM
When I login to MM if I have a PM a notice comes up on my screen saying "You 1 new message" or however many messages there are.
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Emma on April 01, 2014, 12:40:18 PM
I've updated this today so members only need to post 10 useful posts before being able to send PMs.
Posts in the 'This and That' and the 'Menopause Humour' boards don't add to your post count.

Emma
Title: lol
Post by: precious4 on July 28, 2016, 02:32:06 AM
 ;D
Lol and there was me thinking it was because I had my first flush last monday !!
Nelliedee x
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: CLKD on July 28, 2016, 11:41:57 AM
 :thankyou:

I have to remember not to respond via my own e-mail addy but to come back to the Forum  ::) - or the person doesn't receive my PMs …….
Title: How do I start a post??
Post by: Niki on July 29, 2016, 05:37:58 AM
Hi

I have just signed up to the forum but am at a loss as how to start a new post? I've tagged onto this one but would be grateful if someone could let me know how I start.
Many thanks
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Taz2 on July 29, 2016, 11:49:33 AM
Hi Niki - welcome from me too.

Taz x  :)
Title: I have user id n password but everytime i try to log in it says not recognised
Post by: Shelby64599 on February 06, 2017, 10:25:24 PM
I cant seem to be able to reply to ppl or ask advice  im not technically  minded but i lig in yet still says my details don't match
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Taz2 on February 07, 2017, 08:01:59 AM
Hi Shelby - you have to make a certain number of posts on the forum before you can reply to personal messages. I think it may be ten.

Taz x  :welcomemm:
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: pannyg on April 27, 2017, 08:29:38 AM
Hi I'm a newbie to this lovely site. With regards to being a 'first flush' do I have to post 20 new threads or just reply to.20.posts to 'move on'. Thanks ☺
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Emma on April 27, 2017, 08:35:39 AM
New members must post 10 useful posts before being able to send PMs.
Replies to existing posts will count as well as new topics.
Posts in the 'This and That' and the 'Menopause Humour' boards don't add to your post count.
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Bluebell1 on May 03, 2018, 05:34:55 PM
How do Ipost
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Shadyglade on May 04, 2018, 11:49:21 AM
Just click on the 'reply' tab at the bottom of last post and a box will appear for you to type in. When done just click post.
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Daisydot on May 05, 2018, 12:39:12 PM
If you wish to post a new topic or question go to the section you wish to post under ie personal or menopause or thisnthat click on that section and at the top you'll see a blue marker which says new topic just click on that and post away,good luck.
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Charys on May 21, 2018, 08:20:15 PM
Hiyer,

I have sent a PM but if I go to my 'sent items' list, it is showing nothing there, an empty sent item box? Is there a reason for this? I have enabled it to be 'viewed as a conversation'.

Many thanks
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Emma on May 22, 2018, 12:03:57 PM
In your Messages area, go to Change Settings and tick the checkbox for 'Save a copy of each personal message in my sent items by default.'
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Hurdity on August 29, 2018, 05:13:31 PM
I don't seem to get notifications by e-mail for pm's any more. I've checked my settings and it says I should and I've tried the obvious logging out of MM and back in again but to no avail. Nothing in my spam folders. Could this be the fault of my e-mail provider or is there something else I can do?

Many thanks
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Emma on August 30, 2018, 11:20:54 AM
Your ISP may be blocking email thinking it's spam since it's an automated email from a forum. You could ask them to add mail from menopausematters.co.uk to their whitelist. Anyone else with this problem could check their junkmail. If you have a Google email address then use that - they seem to have more intelligent filtering rather than just blocking whole swathes of the internet.

Emma
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I don't seem to get notifications by e-mail for pm's any more. I've checked my settings and it says I should and I've tried the obvious logging out of MM and back in again but to no avail. Nothing in my spam folders. Could this be the fault of my e-mail provider or is there something else I can do?

Many thanks
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: CLKD on December 07, 2020, 08:03:12 PM
Should messages sent to Members privately be shown on the Forum?  Is there anything in T&Cs to cover this situation? 
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: RA on April 01, 2021, 08:33:50 PM
Hi trying to reply to a private message without much luck, any advice? Thanks
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Sparrow on April 01, 2021, 08:55:21 PM
As you are a Newbie, you have to clock up 10 posts before you can reply to PMs.

Keep an eye on the total, it doesn't take long. You already have 4.
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: RA on April 02, 2021, 08:06:09 PM
Thank you, I need to reply to someone pronto, better get posting 😃
Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Wildeve on August 09, 2022, 08:18:30 PM


Good evening ladies.
I think I need a little help posting on this site, its quite confusing!
how do I post a new topic? Many thanks for guidance.




Title: Re: Personal Messages
Post by: Flossieteacake on August 09, 2022, 08:22:27 PM


Good evening ladies.
I think I need a little help posting on this site, its quite confusing!
how do I post a new topic? Many thanks for guidance.

Hello Wildeve. To post a new topic you click 'forum'. Then you choose which category you want your post to come under. Once you click on that you will see something near the top of the page which says 'new thread'. Click on that and you can start your post.  :)