Menopause Matters Forum
Menopause Discussion => All things menopause => Topic started by: Jillom on October 04, 2025, 04:17:33 PM
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Hi-looking for some personal ideas or books to read that would help me accept the change my body is going through in perimenopause-been in it a while and really fight against my body and every new symptom that comes up :'(. Which also results in health anxiety . Any ideas/personal experiences would really be appreciated xx
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What are your symptoms? If I could go back in time I would go to a private menopause clinic after ruling out deficiency with the GP. Making sure resting when you can, eating healthily and finding the right exercise for you. I used to love fast stuff but that changed and I know longer felt the hit so I do light weights, walking. I had masses of scary symptoms, things have improved but I never got back to me. Take care
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:welcomemm: How did U feel when going to senior school? How did U feel when periods arrived?
The Change is natural. Some find it difficult to accept the aging process: kids fly the nest, they may be facing divorce or a new relationship; looking after elderly relatives/teens/changing jobs.
Sometimes peri can be overwhelming.
Which symptom would you like to ease first?
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Thank you so much for your replies-I think part of my problem is I’m a control freak and a lot of the time I can’t control what is happening (have improved my diet/exercise ). Symptom that bothers me the most is bloating as I can find 50 million sinister reasons for it happening whereas symptoms like joint pain/sweats I can easily accept!
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This is so sad, nobody has to accept menopause symptoms!
If you had a broken leg or an underactive thyroid you wouldn't just be wringing your hands and looking for coping strategies, you would be pursuing treatment for it, on time and in full.
Yet women are made to feel like they just have to put up with unreplaced loss of gonadal function!
Do you think men would just accept it if they routinely outlived their testicles?
I am on the combined pill. I have taken it with few exceptions since the age of 29, and will continue to do so until I graduate to big girls MHT in my early to mid 50's. Every day for me, hormonally speaking is the same. I don't bleed at all and will have no clue when I go through menopause, it will happen in the background without my knowledge.
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I agree with bomb 100%, there is no reason to put up with debilitating menopause symptoms. The benefits of HRT outweigh the risks and you need to view it like a thyroid condition which you wouldn't hesitate to treat.
I would consult a menopause specialist as soon as possible. It's not just about getting through the hot flushes and night sweats in the first phase of the menopause (if you can call it that) it's about avoiding the other menopause nasties that come further down the track like osteoporosis, cognitive decline and cardiovascular problems.
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I too have been a control freak in order to keep my anxiety levels low. Any1 who stepped out of what was helpful to me: often being totally un-aware of my problems: annoyed me Big Time. i.e. when DH and I agreed to a time to meet for lunch but His family altered it or decided to be late. :beat: :bang: So I began taking my own food as I have to eat on a regular basis basis to keep anxiety levels contained. Worked for me ;-)
Stop looking at GOOGLE. How long have U suffered with bloating Jillom: is it cynical: does it begin at certain times of the day [which happened 2 me]; joint pains may well be caused by a natural drop in oestrogen levels which can cause laxity of muscles as well as dryness in the body: inside and out.
What worries U the most?
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Thank you CLKD, yes my bloating is cyclical and happens at bed time !!!(I think it happens when I wld normally be ovulating or having a period-however I also know there are certain foods now that I can’t eat that I used to be fine with before)
Yes I defo need to quit looking at google-as have diagnosed myself with every form of cancer that can be linked to bloating ! Actually think I’m making it worse with my anxiety about it! I know from going to counselling years ago that I was brought up with the belief that if something was “wrong” health wise that it must always be serious - so think that’s what drives my worries. Thank you so much for taking the time to reply-it really helps x
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As above, the most effective way to avoid symptoms of oestrogen deficiency is to replace your missing oestrogen, alongside a healthy diet and exercise. If you can't or don't want to take hrt you could increase your intake of phytoestrogen rich foods such as soy.
If it's the aging process that bothers you rather than meno symptoms remember the saying
Do not complain about growing old. It is a privilege denied to many - Mark Twain