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Title: Peri? Feel like I'm dying of exhaustion
Post by: Diamondqueen on January 11, 2024, 09:28:38 AM
Ladies, this forum has helped so much.

I'm a mess. I'm 46 and since summer last year have been suffering from awful drowsiness. Went to private endocrinologist after GPs three times and all is fine. She told me to lose weight (fair enough as I need to) but this persistent drowsiness is making me so down and depressed/anxious it's just making it worse. My periods are shorter/heavier. Last couple of years I've had awful anxiety, worrying and obsessing to the nth degree about any issues in my life. I didn't attribute that to peri at first but wonder if that's what it is. I get quite sinus stuffy sometimes too.

Weird thing is I am not fatigued per se, my body doesn't feel weak. I have had odd moments of dizziness and definitely have brain fog forgetting words etc.

I guess I'm asking if anyone experienced awful sleepiness rather than fatigue as there's a difference  I feel permanently jetlagged and struggling to keep eyes open. I had been very anxious about some personal stuff and the pandemic affected me a lot as I had long covid BUT fatigue was never really my issue there.

I am seeing the GP again in a couple of weeks as I can't function. I don't know if HRT or antidepressants/anxiety is what I need. I feel so frustrated, I want to enjoy my life and family but feel sleepy all the time.

Anyone got any words of wisdom or shared experience?
Title: Re: Peri? Feel like I'm dying of exhaustion
Post by: Diamondqueen on January 11, 2024, 09:43:54 AM
Ladies, this forum has helped so much.

I'm a mess. I'm 46 and since summer last year have been suffering from awful drowsiness. Went to private endocrinologist after GPs three times and all is fine. She told me to lose weight (fair enough as I need to) but this persistent drowsiness is making me so down and depressed/anxious it's just making it worse. My periods are shorter/heavier. Last couple of years I've had awful anxiety, worrying and obsessing to the nth degree about any issues in my life. I didn't attribute that to peri at first but wonder if that's what it is. I get quite sinus stuffy sometimes too.

Weird thing is I am not fatigued per se, my body doesn't feel weak. I have had odd moments of dizziness and definitely have brain fog forgetting words etc.

I guess I'm asking if anyone experienced awful sleepiness rather than fatigue as there's a difference  I feel permanently jetlagged and struggling to keep eyes open. I had been very anxious about some personal stuff and the pandemic affected me a lot as I had long covid BUT fatigue was never really my issue there.

I am seeing the GP again in a couple of weeks as I can't function. I don't know if HRT or antidepressants/anxiety is what I need. I feel so frustrated, I want to enjoy my life and family but feel sleepy all the time.

Anyone got any words of wisdom or shared experience?

I forgot to say that my oestrogen, LH, FSH were all fine in 3 separate blood tests each several months apart, they were all similar values each time so the docs said they're very stable but I know that blood tests are not necessarily the way to diagnose peri. Just didn't seem much fluctuation. That said, I don't know what my usual oestrogen level is so the results could be low for me.
Title: Re: Peri? Feel like I'm dying of exhaustion
Post by: CLKD on January 11, 2024, 10:05:36 AM
Morning.  Recently I read that if we R low in VitB12 it may cause intense tiredness as can low VitD levels.

Also it may be the hidden sugars that we eat.  Interesting programme with Dr Mosely earlier this week, who went through a diet plan with an overweight couple.  Physically buying a weekly shop then working through when and how often they drank for example, Diet Coke.  Which has sugar substitutes.

I suggest that you buy your regular items and spread everything onto the table.  Thinking about when you consume and how often. Make a list too - some find that a meal planner helps.  What ever suits your daily life-style. 


 The lady in the programme [above] drank 2 glasses of wine every evening = more sugars.  Don't worry about fruit and veg 'sugars' as the body processes those differently.

When I was a child in the 1960s sweets were a treat.  The ice cream van was round 1 evening a week though ice cream wasn't the quality that it is now.  We ate more seasonally and did more exercise.

Don't panic about your weight.  MayB seek the advice of 'weight watchers' who will support, advise and not judge. 
Title: Re: Peri? Feel like I'm dying of exhaustion
Post by: CLKD on January 11, 2024, 10:07:43 AM
And yes, all last year my brain didn't want to wake up in the morning  :o.   Once out of bed and active, I felt better.  When we were on holiday and walked more, that brain sleepiness disappeared!


Also, I can no longer remember words etc.. ....... I am 70 and long through hormonal upheavals though I do treat vaginal atrophy.

Depending on where you live, how much sunlight do you access each day which can impact on the brain's activity.  Being 'up there', the brain is often out of sight, out of mind. 
Title: Re: Peri? Feel like I'm dying of exhaustion
Post by: sfreesto on January 11, 2024, 10:18:42 AM
Diamondqueen,

Sounds like classic peri to me. My main symptoms were brain fog and fatigue, with a shortened cycle and heavy periods. HRT was transformational for me, energy and brain function back after about 3 weeks. X
Title: Re: Peri? Feel like I'm dying of exhaustion
Post by: Banjo1973 on January 11, 2024, 03:59:44 PM
Hi diamondqueen,

Sorry to hear you're going through such a tough time.

I completely agree with sfreesto, sounds like my experience of peri. I've always worded 3 days a week and on my days off would do nice things and catch up on chores. But with peri all I could do was rest!

Brain fog and anxiety are very common symptoms.

If I were you I would try HRT before any AD meds. HRT gave me energy and much more confidence.

As a bonus I also lost that spare tyre that seemed to suddenly appear.

Good luck xx
Title: Re: Peri? Feel like I'm dying of exhaustion
Post by: Moog77 on January 24, 2024, 08:38:37 PM
Can totally relate - this was one of my biggest indicators of peri. Groggy/sleepiness. Horrendous. I still occasionally get it I suspect when my own hormones fluctuate in the background.

Try some HRT - I started just after my 45th birthday (am now 46) - and check Vit D, folate and ferritin levels just incase. Ive found cutting out all alcohol really helpful.
Title: Re: Peri? Feel like I'm dying of exhaustion
Post by: Diamondqueen on January 26, 2024, 07:49:22 AM
Thank you @Moog77, that is really reassuring as no one else has mentioned sleepiness, it felt like I was the only one. I have been prescribed HRT this week! Let's see how it goes. All my bloods were fine for foliate, ferritin and so on. I had 3 rounds of bloods done since last autumn and all fine.
Title: Re: Peri? Feel like I'm dying of exhaustion
Post by: Diamondqueen on January 26, 2024, 07:51:07 AM
Thank you @banjo1973. I have been given HRT now, here's hoping it helps.
Title: Re: Peri? Feel like I'm dying of exhaustion
Post by: Diamondqueen on January 26, 2024, 07:53:27 AM
@CLKD Thanks for your reply. I saw that Michael Mosley show, one guy was drinking 38 pints of coke a week! He was horrified when he saw them all laid out. I am well aware I eat too much sugar and I know it makes me feel better when I don't so am being much more conscious of it recently. That show was very effective!
Title: Re: Peri? Feel like I'm dying of exhaustion
Post by: Diamondqueen on January 26, 2024, 07:55:07 AM
@sfreesto That's amazing, I hope it as effective for me!!
Title: Re: Peri? Feel like I'm dying of exhaustion
Post by: Shorty Pants on February 02, 2024, 10:46:44 PM
I had this several years ago. Went from being extremely active (fell and mountain walking, running, etc) to literally falling asleep at my desk through the day.
GP just wanting to throw HRT and/or Antidepressants at me.
Finally decided to take matters into my own hands. Turns out I was deficient in vits B12, D and also low ferritin. I've had to treat myself  but am just about back to my old self.
I do take HRT, but after many false starts and side effects, I find I get the best results from less than 1/4 Evorel 25 patch.
I'd recommend getting some full bloods and not being satisfied with them saying the results are 'in range'. Get a full print out and check the numbers. I was told in range and my D and ferritin were bumping along the bottom for years.
Title: Re: Peri? Feel like I'm dying of exhaustion
Post by: LouOzi88 on June 09, 2025, 02:54:46 PM
Hi
I know it's been a couple of months since you posted however I'm just new to group and found your post interesting. I'm having similar symptoms of brain fog fatigue and light headedness and it comes on most of the time straight after my period. You mentioned ferritin levels. I've had thise tested and docotr says in normal range. Although I got a printout and yes they are in normal range but low end of normal. My ferritin sitting at 27 can I ask what your levels were if that's OK to get context thank you xx
Title: Re: Peri? Feel like I'm dying of exhaustion
Post by: SundayGirl on June 09, 2025, 06:57:57 PM
NICE guidelines say anything under 30 is deficient but GP's don't seem to be on the same page. My ferritin was marked as being fine by my GP when it was 17.  :o

Just noticed this thread is over 12 months old so why don't you introduce yourself in the new members section. I promise we don't bite -- well, not always  ;D
Title: Re: Peri? Feel like I'm dying of exhaustion
Post by: LouOzi88 on June 09, 2025, 07:53:56 PM
Really? At 17? Did you get any symptoms at all? It's like they wait until its worse case scenario I.e 15 or under before they decide to take action regardless if its impacting your day to day life yano. Its ridiculous. I'm gonna call my gp in the morning and ask to be supplemented as my symptoms are ongoing xx
Title: Re: Peri? Feel like I'm dying of exhaustion
Post by: CLKD on June 09, 2025, 08:35:24 PM
If he refuses it may be due to protocols set by NICE/Government.  If this is the case then asking for a referral to a dedicated menopause clinic may help.
Title: Re: Peri? Feel like I'm dying of exhaustion
Post by: SundayGirl on June 10, 2025, 08:28:22 AM
Really? At 17? Did you get any symptoms at all? It's like they wait until its worse case scenario I.e 15 or under before they decide to take action regardless if its impacting your day to day life yano. Its ridiculous. I'm gonna call my gp in the morning and ask to be supplemented as my symptoms are ongoing xx
The lab range went down to 15 so apparently I was ok as I was within that range  ::).  Symptoms of low ferritin include tiredness (tick) and hair loss (tick).


If you pay for prescriptions it's probably cheaper to buy your own supplements. You can buy the same iron supplements that doctors prescribe over the counter. Alternatively, increase the amount of iron rich food in your diet or maybe eat paté once or twice a week as liver is full of iron.

Before supplementing with iron tablets, either yourself or prescription, you need a full iron panel. If that shows low levels, then supplements are a good idea. If your iron panel is ok and just low ferritin, supplements can be a bad idea as too much iron isn't good.

What symptoms do you think are connected to your low ferritin?
Title: Re: Peri? Feel like I'm dying of exhaustion
Post by: LouOzi88 on June 10, 2025, 09:00:35 AM
I'm getting real bad fatigue which isn't good when I have 2 boys to look after, light headedness also. My ferritin used to be at 50 about 2 years ago and I think with my breastfeeding and periods over time it's now dropped to 27 last time it was checked about a month ago and Its about same time I'm getting these symptoms. I cant even do exercise I get tired.
Title: Re: Peri? Feel like I'm dying of exhaustion
Post by: CLKD on June 10, 2025, 09:14:06 AM
Protocols seem to be have altered over the years, when we went for cholesterol bloods we were advised that we require statins.  The level had dropped considerably, of course GPs get paid for each prescription they write.  With other health conditions it seems that levels have risen - cost cutting?
Title: Re: Peri? Feel like I'm dying of exhaustion
Post by: SundayGirl on June 10, 2025, 01:09:46 PM
If it were me I'd go back to the GP and tell him that I'm tired all the time. That should be a trigger for all sorts of bloods - Thyroid function, iron panel, ferritin, vitamin D, vitamin B12 and folate.

In the meantime, increase the amount of iron rich foods in your diet.
Red meats, including liver, eggs, seafood, nuts and seeds, green leafy veg are all good sources of iron.

GP's these days seem to treat you when you're ill, rather than try to help you not become ill in the first place  :(