Menopause Matters Forum
Menopause Discussion => All things menopause => Topic started by: mk94 on April 02, 2023, 03:43:44 PM
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I think a may have f#$%#@ up big time and now I'm going to die of cancer
I have not seen a doctor in years due to extreme health anxiety. So I have not had a pap in years due to ptsd. I am sooo terrified right now that I have cervical cancer
Brown spotting for a month now every day!
I use to get extremely heavy periods last year that had massive blood clots!
My periods would last for weeks!
I have lower back pain! on and off
My last period was in December! I'm 57 Still in perimenopause or at least that's what I thought
I'm crying non stop thinking I may have cervical cancer that has gone on for years untreated and I'm now dying.
The brown spotting on and off for weeks now is the one thing that is putting me over the edge GOOGLE says its advanced cervical cancer 😱😭 I'm so scared. if it is cancer its too late and I only have a year left
Oh god I'm so scared right now. its probley already spread to other parts like my lower back and hips I can't stop crying. I can't breath
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OMG its just too late to get checked out!!! I have too many symptoms. Spotting everyday! Heavy long periods with massive clots. Lower back pain. So it has spread to my back and other organs 😭 Oh god I don't want to die
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And breathe. It's old blood so far more likely to be peri related than anything sinister. When I had pre-cancerous cells years ago it was bright red spotting. I didn't twig at the time so it didn't get picked up til I went for a routine smear, can't remember how long it was but certainly several months later. Don't look at Google, every little thing turns into something you're going to die from but do ring your gp tomorrow and get checked out. You can explain your anxiety to them. Do you have a partner or trusted friend who could go with you?
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I do have red spotting too :'( I get one day of very light red spotting only when I wipe and then the rest of the days of different shades of brown It's been like this for a month now :o All of march.
But before this I would have very heavy periods and no spotting at all
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jaypo
Everyday?? Different shades of brown and sometimes bright red?? Did you have heavy periods for that?
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I don’t wish to sound harsh, but I think you need to put your health anxiety to one side and see a Gp ASAP.
Can’t a friend accompany you?
A relative?
Please do NOT google.
Ring the surgery tomorrow at 8am and get an appointment made.
Best of luck 🤞🌻🌻
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U already have a thread about your worries. Health anxiety feeds on itself, if you had something really serious you would have a lot more symptoms. Brown discharge was normal for me all my menstruating life: a couple of days after my period stopped: it's old blood that gets held up.
My periods were HEAVY with clots: some times I couldn't move because it would come away into a double layer of pads. Fortunately it. never reached the floor! Painful++. 'within normal limits for me'. When periods began to wax and wane I knew it was 'the change' so normal for me.
Ring your GP surgery and ask to speak to a Nurse Practitioner. Have a list of your main concerns and discuss. Hormones can delay/speed up as we age. Health anxiety doesn't help but unless you speak to a professional you will continue to be worried.
What's the worst that could happen?
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I completely understand how you are feeling right now.
I too suffer from health anxiety that’s only started since Peri.
I too have had bleeding problems for the whole of March, although a little different from yours.
Mine has been a few days of brown spotting, then almost 3 weeks of a bright red but light bleed. Then followed by a week of brown spotting and then 6 days of what seemed to be more like a ‘normal’ period. Back to the brown spotting then after that. It looks like it maybe going off now 🤞, but I thought it was last time, so taking it day by day and see how it goes.
I saw my GP last week who is sending me for an ultrasound scan to check that all is okay.
It’s never too late to see your GP. Please ring them in the morning and take the next steps and put your mind at rest
Peri is very scary as all sorts of things happen and we think the worst due to the health anxiety, but if we don’t get checked out the worry continues
Be strong and make an appointment and if there is someone to go with you even better. I took someone with me.
Let us know how you get on
Much love ❤️
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I’m so sorry you feel this way, I always think the worst when I get unusual symptoms, I always google and wish I hadn’t, but nothing has ever turned out to be what I thought. So I hope that is reassuring. You can get rid of the horrible anxiety and uncertainty by seeing a GP as soon as you can. Knowledge is power, go for it and let us know how you get on. Big hug x
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I just wanted to say that through peri/menopause transition irregular bleeding/ heavy bleeding happens. Brown blood tends to be older blood that indicates, I believe, estrogen is getting low. Are you on HRT? I've had many blood clots and weird bleeding in recent years and different pain pelvis/low back pain. Last year I went onto continuous progesterone after bleeding for ages heavily. I had a scan and a hysteroscopy and it showed there was nothing wrong. I understand health anxiety and anxiety in general. Get yourself to the doctors, I really think you will be glad you did. They usually can get you in very quickly if you are concerned about this kind of thing and should be able to eliminate your worries over this xx
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Mk94 I'm really sorry to hear of your struggles. Anxiety is very real and once it takes hold, nothing anyone says can get you out of it. But it is vital you get seen by a GP. I can see you post was made in the middle of the night so it's clear you were up and panicking.
Do you have anyone close to you to share this with? Do you have someone who can get you to an appointment or have you kept all this in, only sharing online?
I presume this forum allows PM's so I'm happy to do whatever I can to help you, no matter what. I know from years of experience with a close family member anxiety is serious but can be overcome. It's that and that alone that is driving your health fears.
If you want to, do get in touch to talk things through. There is no need to struggle alone.
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MK94, hope you are okay?
Really hoping you have called the GP surgery now?
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Mk94, please let us know that you are okay and have made that first big step and rang the surgery today
We’re all here to help you in any way we can
Much love ❤️
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MK94 sending you lots of hugs xxx
Sometimes we worry ourselves sick over things and turns out most of the time, we have been worrying about nothing at all. So all the time working ourselves up into a ball of stress for no reason at all. I myself do this all the time.
Why dont you make a normal gp appointment and say to yourself this is just a normal check up on my health and then just let the doctor do his job. I bet everything will be fine sweetheart...go make that appointment and try not to let your mind race to the worst senario as 9 times out of 10 that is not the case.xx
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*Update* So I've made a doctor's appointment for tomorrow morning. I'm not sure if I'm ready to consent to any tests just yet. I just want to talk first. (baby steps) I'm still so terrified 😭 Thank you all for trying to help with all your replies. Some have calmed me down a bit. Thank you ❤
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Mk94
That's fantastic, you should be proud. We all have fears that are very real to ourselves and can feel overwhelming. There are a lot of people here sending support, care and advice. Baby steps is fine, go at your pace. The important thing is you have begun the first step in gaining professional medical advise and help.
I hope you have someone who can be with you if you feel that would help you?
Wishing you well
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Make a list of your worries. To discuss. I used to hand mine over and the GP would go over it with me.
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Oh you’ve done so well to take that first step, well done.
Just take it one bit at a time. Don’t think too far ahead
Each step you take you’ll find the next one a bit easier to do as you’ll find it’s not as bad as you thought it all was
Are you taking anyone with you?
CLKD has said to take a list with you. That’s a great idea.
Let us know how you get on
Big hugs and much love x
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Well done mk94, i don’t know you but I'm proud of you!
Keep going, let us know how you get on, we are with you xxx
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Well done mk94 hope it goes ok for you. We are here for you
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Hope the appointment goes well this morning.
Please update us and let us know how it went
Thinking of you 🤗
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You have done so well to call the Dr! That was such a huge step for you and I hope you feel proud of that. I hope you can manage to attend the appointment today. We are all thinking of you.
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Well done you. As you say baby steps, one thing at a time. You are stronger than you think. Let us know how you get on.
Thinking of you my lovely x
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I know exactly how you feel MK94. I am also a health anxiety sufferer, it is truly the worst thing to have. I agree with other posters that it is very unlikely to be cervical cancer and it is great that you have found the courage to speak to the GP who can talk you through having an examination. Smears are so much better these days- I say this as someone who was so terrified I didnt have one for 13 years!! You can also ask for a little bit of Valium to take prior to an internal (or have a couple of gin and tonics ) . You need to speak to your GP about your health anxiety and maybe consider anti-depressant medication if you are not already taking some.
I wish you all the very best and please keep us updated.
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How are you feeling now? I hope the appointment went well, thinking of you xx