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Menopause Discussion => All things menopause => Topic started by: Vicky81 on August 09, 2022, 05:56:32 AM

Title: Flat mood symptoms
Post by: Vicky81 on August 09, 2022, 05:56:32 AM
Hi all

Hope you all are doing well?

So since all this started with me,, my mood is just flat, my personality too is just flat. I don't feel emotions like excitement, upbeat, or looking forward to anything.  I just feel pan face ....like robotic each day.
Is this something you ladies can relate to as a peri symptom? Is this a sign of low Oestrogen?

Thanks so much

Vicjy xxx
Title: Re: Flat mood symptoms
Post by: Minusminnie on August 09, 2022, 06:15:39 AM
Are you still on the Sertraline Vicky ?  as i have mentioned before my daughter was given this and although it helped the anxiety  after months on it at gradually increased doses she began to feel very very flat.  Her partner bought her a special red letter day out which for her would normally have been exciting but she felt nothing.  For other reasons she has now stopped taking the Sertraline so i can't comment further. How many months have you been on it ?
Title: Re: Flat mood symptoms
Post by: Vicky81 on August 09, 2022, 07:01:08 AM
Hi
No i am on Duloxetine. Have been on this for quite some time now. But must admit, before any AD i had this flat feeling....so i guess its peri??

Thanks so much for replying xx
Title: Re: Flat mood symptoms
Post by: Vicky81 on August 09, 2022, 07:06:59 AM
I also remember breaking down to my Mum a year ago at her house when it all really kicked off, saying "I feel empty. like all my emotions have gone. the only emotions i feel is anger and tearfulness"

I remember saying to my partner, that i feel like i have no connection to anyone, like i dont feel anything for anyone...
Title: Re: Flat mood symptoms
Post by: VanillaLover on August 09, 2022, 09:36:30 AM
I think perhaps your anxiety/depression is not quite properly controlled yet. That’s the first sign for me that I’m having a little dip, that I dont look forward to anything!

Did you seek out the CBT in the end ? Mine was life changing. And it’s the third time I’ve done it! Combined with drugs it can be very powerful.
Title: Re: Flat mood symptoms
Post by: Vicky81 on August 09, 2022, 10:33:24 AM
Hi VL

Yes you are probably right....

And no i didnt seek out CBT, i may look into it as Duloxetine has made some diffrence xx
Title: Re: Flat mood symptoms
Post by: KarineT on August 09, 2022, 10:56:38 AM
Hi Vicky81,

I experienced what you're describing at in 2019, when I was, what I believed, late peri.  I wasn't having any crying spell until towards the end of 2019.  But this flat mood was weird.  It also brought on lethargy and at times I felt spaced out.  Very strange.  I still don't feel as I was before March 2018, when meno symptoms sort of started and began to cause emotional issues.  I have never been on HRT or ADs so it was not a side effect of these.
Title: Re: Flat mood symptoms
Post by: CLKD on August 09, 2022, 11:51:02 AM
Have U had a thyroid function and VitD test recently Vicky81?  One shouldn't blame everything onto menopause. 
Title: Re: Flat mood symptoms
Post by: Sazzle42115 on August 09, 2022, 06:27:25 PM
Hi Vicky I have been feeling exactly like this for around 2 years. I have tried all manner of HRT implant now levels at 221 the highest they have been. Tried ADs but they haven't really helped but haven't really struck to anything long term. Tbh I don't know how much more of it I can take. I used to be so laid back, intuitive, funny, kind. I'm just an empty shell and no one seems to be able to help.None of. Y friends have had anything this bad xx
Title: Re: Flat mood symptoms
Post by: CLKD on August 09, 2022, 07:31:27 PM
There is usually a physical reason for 'flat moods'.  C if you can get some bloods done.
Title: Re: Flat mood symptoms
Post by: Vicky81 on August 10, 2022, 05:47:10 AM
Hi all

Clkd yes I has tons of blood tests...all fine.. vitamin d the lot! Thyroid all fine u even had a Thyroid scan ..all fine

Karine- yes I agree this isn't the AD..  as I said remember being this way before AD ! It's horrid...it must be low Oestrogen... nothing else it can be right? I was so bubbly.....but a shell now just like sazzle says xxx
Title: Re: Flat mood symptoms
Post by: Minusminnie on August 10, 2022, 07:15:48 AM
I think perhaps your anxiety/depression is not quite properly controlled yet. That’s the first sign for me that I’m having a little dip, that I dont look forward to anything!

Did you seek out the CBT in the end ? Mine was life changing. And it’s the third time I’ve done it! Combined with drugs it can be very powerful.


And no i didnt seek out CBT, i may look into it as Duloxetine has made some diffrence xx


Karine- yes I agree this isn't the AD..  as I said remember being this way before AD ! It's horrid...it must be low Oestrogen... nothing else it can be right? I was so bubbly.....but a shell now just like sazzle says xxx

Just my opinion but you have nothing to lose by giving CBT as advised by Vanillalover a go.  It would be something personal for you and could make you feel a whole lot better.  You've have mentioned that the Duloxetine has made some difference.  I would build on that rather than questioning for now.
Title: Re: Flat mood symptoms
Post by: CLKD on August 10, 2022, 08:23:52 AM
 :hug:
Title: Re: Flat mood symptoms
Post by: Vicky81 on August 10, 2022, 09:46:17 AM
Awww thank you all xxx
Title: Re: Flat mood symptoms
Post by: CLKD on August 10, 2022, 10:49:19 AM
Also - alcohol is a depressant as well as many women going into peri find that tolerance isn't as good as it was when younger ;-).

When very depressed I was unable to read, follow a story line on TV; couldn't be bothered with magazines .......... agitated, my brain wouldn't slow down  :'(. Could it be that your AD is flattening your mood?