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Menopause Discussion => All things menopause => Topic started by: Katherine on August 08, 2022, 11:03:17 AM
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Hi ladies, I am feeling shocking today with head and body aches, face burning, fast heartbeat, physical exhaustion. I’ve never felt like this. Yesterday I had no oestrogel or utrogestan as there has been a lot of drama at home. Not sure if I should say this but it’s anonymous and well intentioned. My partner sometimes becomes very angry and upset if I’m feeling depressed and it has any link to him and I had thoughts of not being able to live anymore. I have been at the end of my tether for 3 days and ended up not doing my routine. Anyway, does anyone think based of their experience that my physical symptoms could be due to missing just one day of HRT? We are taking steps to address the relationship issues but today I am just really concerned because I feel like I’ve been hit by a bus. Sorry if this is a bit long but I’m not thinking straight and just hoped for some insight or comfort from you ladies. I may delete this post later if it’s possible.
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Hi Katherine
I’m sorry to hear you’re having a rough time recently.
It’s very hard sometimes to distinguish what’s due to menopause or external factors, in your case issues with your partner.
But yes I can confirm similar symptoms to yourself within a day of stopping HRT.
Your body doesn’t like such large fluctuations and goes into panic mode both physically and mentally.
It doesn’t sound like you were well balanced before your recent stopping of the HRT so that probably needs further thought, but in the meantime I would restart.
It’s great that you are taking steps to address your relationship issues and in the meantime don’t feel worried about offloading on this forum, that’s what we’re here for… To Help!
xx
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Hi Marchlove, thank you for your reply. It is kind of reassuring that my symptoms today are probably just due to the lack of HRT. I have had some estrogel and some strong painkillers but take utrogestan at night so I’ll wait til this evening if I can. I won’t be stopping abruptly again. I’ve taken steps to sort out the other issues so I should be ok soon. I think when we’re ok most of the time and then have a blip it’s easy for people to forget that hormones can be a factor. I feel like getting a T-shirt saying ‘please handle with care, I’m vulnerable.’! Thanks again, you have helped me feel better. X
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Sending big hugs Katherine, another thought for a T shirt is ‘I’m Special and don’t you forget it! X
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I didn't think I had this when I went 'cold turkey' - blood pressure emergency and HRT was likely culprit so needed to be withdrawn. However, looking back at that time, I believe the sudden fluctuations did negatively impact my mental health and overall sense of well-being.
I hope you return to calmer waters soon, Kathleen.
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Hi Katherine,
Sorry to hear about this. That's a terrible situation for you.
I can't give you much advice on HRT because I'm not taking it. You need to be with people who can offer you some support because you've got enough on your plate. You don't need the added stress.
Take care
Karine
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Thanks so much for your replies ladies, they have given me some comfort. Karine, I am moving out of our home temporarily while we work on our issues just so I have a guaranteed safe emotional space in the meantime. I haven’t got any close friends nearby at the moment due to moving around so much but I’m going to make a big effort to make some new friends in my area. X
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I'm sorry things are so bad. I haven't gone cold turkey so can't really comment but don't underestimate how much stress can affect you, it can cause as much harm as physical illnesses. My money would be on stress rather than hrt but I may well be wrong. I think you should look after you for the next few days and I hope you feel better soon.
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Hi Kathleen,
I can tell you if I miss one day of gel I feel so bad. My faced is flushed, nausea, anxiety etc. People say it couldn't be possible as its built up, but it happens. Also when near end of bottle as it must be weaker...
Hope things settle and you get the support you deserve.
Wxx
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Hi ladies I’ve just tested positive for covid for the first time and I’m unvaccinated (too scared of severe side effects) so that explains why I feel so ill. I’m reading all your replies and they are all really helpful x
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Ah Katherine, that would explain it!
Try not to worry, I’ve had covid twice now and I’m not vaccinated.
It’s very important that you rest and drink lots of fluids.
When I got covid in May I stopped my hrt which in hindsight was a mistake. But I resumed after a few weeks and it was only then I stopped feeling so exhausted.
There’s a covid thread going which could be worth you reading. x
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Hi Marchlove, that’s reassuring. I will take your advice. I have a bit of desk work to do as I’m self employed but I’ll take it slow. My cat is currently supervising everything I do which is lovely!
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I forgot my HRT once and woke up feeling dreadful, shaky and sick. I could not work out why, until i went to take my HRT later that day and saw i had forgotten yesterdays!
So i can confirm that it does effect one.
I am sorry that you are having a dreadful time at the moment. Take care of yourself and try some relaxation breathing exercises, and do something that you love. I do not know what your situation is but Men can feel overwhelmed and assume it is their fault that we are feeling awful. I do hope things improve for you.
Pepperminty xx
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Thanks Pepperminty. I am looking forward to taking my utrogestan later as I know I will sleep well after it. I have been tempted to share more details of my situation on here but it doesn't feel right but I will say that we are taking steps to try and resolve our problems and I still have hope. In the meantime I just need to look after myself better. x
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Thanks Pepperminty. I am looking forward to taking my utrogestan later as I know I will sleep well after it. I have been tempted to share more details of my situation on here but it doesn't feel right but I will say that we are taking steps to try and resolve our problems and I still have hope. In the meantime I just need to look after myself better. x
Bless you, I wish you well.xx
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Marchlove, and anyone else who’s unvaccinated, how long did your covid symptoms last? I’ve had it for 7 days now, fever and headache have improved but I still feel as ill as the first day, now it’s more chest symptoms, I feel like my chest is ‘heavy’ and congested although thankfully I can breathe, it just takes more effort. The drama at home only stopped a couple of days ago and then with the heatwave …. I’m running out of strength and I need it for my house move in 1-2 weeks. Is it normal for covid to drag on a long time?
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Hi Katherine
Sorry to be the bearer of not good news, yes indeed the symptoms can go on for quite a few weeks, which isn’t what you want to hear with the house move comping up.
Mine lasted a week the first time I got it in April 20 and 4 weeks when I got in May this year, with fatigue being the last symptom to go.
This heat won’t be helping either as it’s very draining.
Can you get anyone to help you with the house move, could a friend come and stay for awhile?
Also, are you taking anything like vitamin c, vit D or zinc for the virus? These will help it clear through quicker.
X
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Hi Marchlove, it’s not so much the physical side of packing, I can do it slowly and manage, it’s more the emotional side, my relationship problems have been going on for over 2 years and it’s finally become too much and it’s coincided with covid and the heatwave. I will start back on vit D and my multivitamin. I guess I just have to remember everything will be better soon and be grateful I can breathe. Although there is no drama at the moment it’s just all really sad. Thanks for replying so quick x
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What a combination for you, you couldn’t have thought it possible!
But things always come in threes they say and it looks like that’s what’s happened to you.
I’m sorry to hear of your relationship troubles, how very sad for you.
Take heart Katherine, in a years time you’ll look back on this time and remember that your inner strength saw you through. That’s what women do and have always done, they carry on and grow upwards towards the light. xx
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I know it really sucks that all three happened at once. I do hope I can find more strength. As for the growth, I’ve been doing that my whole life so right now I just want to survive it. I am really close to my limit and it scares me. Anyway I don’t want to keep going on about it as it won’t change anything. Thanks again. X
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It feels like you are, for sure. But I can feel that strength in you and you’ve got enough to survive this I’m sure.
Keep posting and seeking all the help you can get. xx
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I hope you find the strength to work through your challenges, Katherine.
I know relationship issues are the last thing anyone needs at this time of life.
I too have been doing lots of reflecting, thinking and analysing of my relationship, but have stayed put for now, largely to see if things improve long term.
Best of luck.
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Thanks ladies. You don’t know how much messages like that mean to me. Nas I hope things improve for you, I really do. Big hug. When I’m in my new place I hope to be able to tell you all I made it. Xx
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Hi ladies, I said I would update you so here I am .. the covid lasted around 9 days, then I got a secondary chest infection which antibiotics cleared but got left with asthma and cold type symptoms. They have gone now and just left with a bit of fatigue but that’s improving. My house move is progressing well and all is on track. Thanks again for all your support. I also want to mention that I have found magnesium and vit c from Carolyn deans range v helpful. You dilute in water and sip through the day. It’s been a game changer for me and so I want to spread the word. Not sure if I’m allowed to say that but guess someone will tell me if not. It dampens my anxiety and makes me feel more awake and better concentration. Xxx
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Hi Katherine
So good to hear from you again! I have been wondering how you’ve been.
Your covid journey has been very like mine.
We are both in similar circumstances, being unvaccinated for our own personal reasons, so it helps to hear your journey through it all.
Carolyn Deans has good advice. But stay low and slow.
X
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Hi Marchlove,
Thanks for thinking of me! Can I ask your age? My Mum is 72 and she got covid before having the vaccine and only lost her sense of smell but it came back. But the vaccine itself gave her flu like symptoms! I am actually now considering getting vaccinated as I found covid such a horrible feeling like I've never had that I am scared of it now. Anyway I'll see.
Yes, I have made the mistake of taking too much of the magnesium before! I used to take it months ago but then switched to another type and when I came back to it my 'tolerance' levels had gone right down so I'm going to have to build up slowly again. I'm going to stick with the liquid from now on though as it works best for me.
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Hi Katherine
Well I’m 65 so not much younger than your Mum!
Covid is horrid that’s for sure, I’m just glad that I’ve now had it twice so hopefully I now have good natural immunity.
It’s funny what you say about tolerance to magnesium as I’ve had similar experiences. I remember reading CD saying that it must always be taken in conjunction with D3, but I expect you do that already. X
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Apparently after you’ve had covid you’re immunity only lasts a few months because it’s a coronavirus like colds. I can’t remember where I read it but it said it’s like when you catch a cold you can still catch another one later. Also there’s the different strains. I’m not sure what I’m going to do but I guess I’ve got quite a while to decide whether I’m more scared of covid or the vaccine!
I take vit d in the autumn and winter as I presumed we get enough via the sun in summer. What do you think?
How’s life for you in general Marchlove? I don’t know much about you but it seems like we have a lot in common.
X
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Hi Katherine
The antibodies only last a few months the same as the vaccine but you have some T cell immunity.
Yes you can catch it again, as you can a cold, but your body will recognise it even though it’s a new variant.
It’s a difficult one to be sure and we each have to make a personal decision, so it’s not for me to persuade you either way. But I hope you reach a decision that feels right for you.
Well I take vitamin d and k2 combined all year. I drop the dose in the summer but raise in winter.
Thank you for asking how I am. I muddle along, well actually I’m doing far better than I was a few years ago, so I’m grateful for that.
I have Lymes disease so that muddies the water a bit as far as menopause goes!
M x
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Hi Marchlove,
Sorry I meant what do you think about Vit d in the summer. That is interesting about natural immunity being comparable with vaccine immunity. My feeling is that I won't have the vaccine, at least not until I'm much older, but I'm not 100% sure at the moment.
It's great that you are doing far better now. I don't know much about Lymes disease, how does that affect you? If you don't want to discuss it I don't mind though.
X
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I also take it in the summer, just at a lower dose. Have you been tested recently? I think late summer good time to test as it shows what you have before the winter.
Lymes disease is much better, at one point I was bedridden. Now I mostly have to keep an eye on my cortisol levels as they can get very low.
X
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I haven't had my Vit D levels tested recently, I had my first 'MOT' at the doctors when I turned 40 so not sure if my levels were tested then. Not sure if the NHS tests them. All I know is when I first started taking it a few years back I felt so much better after a few weeks/months and that something had been missing. To be honest the same thing happened with iron, magnesium and B12 as well. I sometimes wonder if there is actually very much nutrition in food anymore! How do you test your Vit D levels?
Gosh that must have been awful being bedridden. I'm glad you feel better. How do you test your cortisol levels?
X
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Hi all, I’ve not been on here for a little while but I’m now moved in to my new place and I’m ok. It’s such a relief that I got through that bad patch! Does anyone else ever get that feeling too, that you don’t know if you’ll survive a bad patch like you’re just hanging on? I’m glad I started on the HRT as it has helped with the transition.
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just got up to date with your story Katherine.... you are so strong to get through it all and feel well on other side. Glad HRT has helped. I have stopped HRT this week after a short trial as it made me unwell and have felt the withdrawal for 2 days now.... so yes even a day forgotten can impact. Strong stuff.
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Hi Katherine
Lovely to hear from you that your move has gone well and that the hrt has been a help.
I’m sorry I didn’t get back to your earlier post about vitamin D. I can usually persuade my GP to do a test about once a year, now is a good time to try before the start of the winter. If no luck there, Medichecks do the test.
M x
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Hi Katherine,
I just wanted to wish you well.
I think when you have relationship issues, it is important to have a safe space so you can think clearly.
I honestly think we should have some special government menopause tsar, as other half's who either aren't going through the menopause or in the male population case just doesn't understand it, that something would have been put in place by now.
Anyway just wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you xxx
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Hi ladies, I am feeling shocking today with head and body aches, face burning, fast heartbeat, physical exhaustion. I’ve never felt like this. Yesterday I had no oestrogel or utrogestan as there has been a lot of drama at home. Not sure if I should say this but it’s anonymous and well intentioned. My partner sometimes becomes very angry and upset if I’m feeling depressed and it has any link to him and I had thoughts of not being able to live anymore. I have been at the end of my tether for 3 days and ended up not doing my routine. Anyway, does anyone think based of their experience that my physical symptoms could be due to missing just one day of HRT? We are taking steps to address the relationship issues but today I am just really concerned because I feel like I’ve been hit by a bus. Sorry if this is a bit long but I’m not thinking straight and just hoped for some insight or comfort from you ladies. I may delete this post later if it’s possible.
Hugs - "thoughts of not being able to live anymore"
Your post is not long, this is a ramble, hope it helps.
It sounds like your hubby has emotional problems.
A question to ask your self, did he have an abusive childhood?
My Dad used to be abusive and had abuse in childhood.
The last thing you need when feeling depressed is for him to become angry and upset, ask yourself if he has emotional problems outside of your menopause.
I wouldn't miss a day's hrt, best to stay hormonally as stable as possible.
I forget to change my patch for a day a few times, also my patch has peeled off a few times, it's hard to say if I feel symptoms as I have EUPD/BPD, and Asperger's and the EUPD is difficult to manage.
I can't properly say if missing a day HRT would cause that effect, but I do know that it only took a day for flushes etc to go when I went up to the amount of oestrogen I used to need.
I hope this post is of some benefit, and I am happy for you to post if it helps.
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Thanks so much for your replies ladies, they have given me some comfort. Karine, I am moving out of our home temporarily while we work on our issues just so I have a guaranteed safe emotional space in the meantime. I haven’t got any close friends nearby at the moment due to moving around so much but I’m going to make a big effort to make some new friends in my area. X
That sounds like you have a lot on your plate.
I've had coffees with people from Facebook groups on our local little towblet :)
I made great friends doing stuff I enjoy, with people who enjoy the same stuff.
You've always got us.
I have been told by people who tell me their problems, that I am good at that sort of thing, my friend who is a qualified psychotherapist said I am very empathic.
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I'm sorry things are so bad. I haven't gone cold turkey so can't really comment but don't underestimate how much stress can affect you, it can cause as much harm as physical illnesses. My money would be on stress rather than hrt but I may well be wrong. I think you should look after you for the next few days and I hope you feel better soon.
Yeah stress gave me GI issues.
I got a big bill, once that was explained to me, after 7 working days, it went.
It came back when I split with a man I was seeing.
It can make me a bit nauseous occasionally.
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Hi ladies I’ve just tested positive for covid for the first time and I’m unvaccinated (too scared of severe side effects) so that explains why I feel so ill. I’m reading all your replies and they are all really helpful x
Sorry you had COVID.
I am not vaccinated, I respect the views of those who are.
I had COVID, it's weird, it felt artificial.
I have theories, not conspiraloon, as some spread fake conspiracies to put people on the wrong path.
My COVID was not severe, just odd.
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Ah Katherine, that would explain it!
Try not to worry, I’ve had covid twice now and I’m not vaccinated.
It’s very important that you rest and drink lots of fluids.
When I got covid in May I stopped my hrt which in hindsight was a mistake. But I resumed after a few weeks and it was only then I stopped feeling so exhausted.
There’s a covid thread going which could be worth you reading. x
I know so many people who got COVID more than once who were jabbed.
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Hi Marchlove, that’s reassuring. I will take your advice. I have a bit of desk work to do as I’m self employed but I’ll take it slow. My cat is currently supervising everything I do which is lovely!
Cats - aaaah.
I can't wait to foster cats again, I am a leaseholder and its against the rules, but foster cats aren't allowed out, they were a comfort for my Asperger's and great confidants, they are wise and tuned in.
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Hi all, I’ve not been on here for a little while but I’m now moved in to my new place and I’m ok. It’s such a relief that I got through that bad patch! Does anyone else ever get that feeling too, that you don’t know if you’ll survive a bad patch like you’re just hanging on? I’m glad I started on the HRT as it has helped with the transition.
I have fears I won't survive a problem that has been long-standing since 2010 and got worse, and no one has been able, so far, to help resolve it.
The lease on my flat is breached. I never got a survey on it, as my mum advised me not to get my first old "Fixer-upper" house surveyed, so I never got newer properties surveyed.
The old owner did some real Jackass alterations, in parts of the flat that don't belong to the owner, real hassle.
By "not-survive" I don't mean suicide, although it did make me suicidal, I took an accidental OD of hard recreational drugs, and never bothered getting an ambulance, I never did hard drugs until this lease issue.
I also got so low I went on one of those morbid google suicide methods groups, and collected a supposedly lethal combination of drugs, but, told a friend, who rang the GP.
The problem is still not resolved, I can't tell if hormones are making me think it's worse than it is, or it really is that bad, as I have taken lease advice and they paint a bad picture. I want to leave a saleable asset when I die, because, although I don't get on with my family of origin, (malignant narcissist Dad who abused Mum, and she wanted me to stay home to leech off me - I didn't realise her intentions at the time) sorry for tangent.
Mum and dad were fantastic grandparents to my nieces and nephews, but when they were not about, they emotionally abused me, they physically abused me as a kid, I don't know why I didn't report them, I knew I was being abused.
I won't commit suicide now, because I have beliefs that the part of us that "thinks and feels", stays on the earth, disembodied, with worse mental anguish. I am not woo-woo, I know a little quantum physics, seen a couple of spirits, am not a new ager.
Sorry for tangent, I am glad you are moved, and hope your "bad patch" stays away.
HRT wise, I wish I had not started it, as the progesterone is a bitch to come of when you are dependant on benzodiazepines, a well known benzodiazepine forum has plenty of women having nightmares with progesterone.
On the other hand, I had unmanageable flushes, IBS, anxiety etc, so I needed oestrogen and of course, to prevent cancer, I needed the progesterone.
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Hi ladies, sorry for the delay in replying, I have just found all your posts and it was lovely to see them. I will reply properly to you all individually really soon but I will say this for now, Dandelion, I really feel for you, I have been through some really difficult times in my life and had a lot of therapy which sorted me out but unfortunately my current relationship is bringing up these old feelings again which is a great loss to me after all the work I did in therapy. I don’t want to say too much about my partner except that I, and many people including professionals think he has undiagnosed Autism. He is very successful and clever in his career but cannot handle my emotions, if I am upset and it’s partly because of him. If I can tell him in a non emotional voice, ie when I’m not feeling too bad, he is ok and lovely but if I am crying or depressed he loses it, self harms, throws things, screams, gets angry, etc. we are trying to get him a diagnosis so we can do couple therapy but he keeps getting fobbed off and no meds have worked. I do think his upbringing has had an impact but there is something organic there I’m sure. It is an impossible position to be in because he is a really kind, funny, giving person the rest of the time. Anyway I’ve gone on a bit but all your replies made me want to tell you. Dandelion I can tell you are very strong and thanks for all your posts. I will reply to you all properly soon. Love to you all xxxx
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I just found out about the Private Lives section, wish I’d posted there instead!
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Hi ladies, sorry for the delay in replying, I have just found all your posts and it was lovely to see them. I will reply properly to you all individually really soon but I will say this for now, Dandelion, I really feel for you, I have been through some really difficult times in my life and had a lot of therapy which sorted me out but unfortunately my current relationship is bringing up these old feelings again which is a great loss to me after all the work I did in therapy. I don’t want to say too much about my partner except that I, and many people including professionals think he has undiagnosed Autism. He is very successful and clever in his career but cannot handle my emotions, if I am upset and it’s partly because of him. If I can tell him in a non emotional voice, ie when I’m not feeling too bad, he is ok and lovely but if I am crying or depressed he loses it, self harms, throws things, screams, gets angry, etc. we are trying to get him a diagnosis so we can do couple therapy but he keeps getting fobbed off and no meds have worked. I do think his upbringing has had an impact but there is something organic there I’m sure. It is an impossible position to be in because he is a really kind, funny, giving person the rest of the time. Anyway I’ve gone on a bit but all your replies made me want to tell you. Dandelion I can tell you are very strong and thanks for all your posts. I will reply to you all properly soon. Love to you all xxxx
Hello
You have a lot on your plate, I would understand if you don’t have time to individually reply to me.
You did mention me.
I empathise with you, when you say your relationship is bringing up these old feelings again which is a great loss to me after all the work I did in therapy.
I am no expert, however, I feel old feelings come up, when the "emotional charge" has not left them, for instance, you get a feeling of relief, rather than stuffing down a difficult feeling.
Some feelings need a lot of revisiting, until they are worked through. I find it tempting to just think “It’s sorted”, when, really, it isn’t.
For instance, I was seeing a man, and, rather than admit he was emotionally and psychologically abusive, I used my borderline personality disorder “paranoia” as a way to evade dealing with feeling left out, which he was doing on purpose, out of malice.
This is the case with me.
Once I admitted he really was behaving inappropriately, I felt lighter, with just the wound to heal, without the “emotional pus” festering. I hope that makes sense.
I was scolded a lot as a kid, sometimes for things others did, I am on the autistic spectrum, undiagnosed, at the time, and old feelings come up when I am scolded in adult life, by the freeholder, because my old owner did unauthorised alterations to their parts of the building, however, I am working on them with a friend, who is a qualified psychotherapist.
When things “come up” or “resurface” it is a call-to-action to work on them, to discharge the “festering, remaining, emotional pus”.
I hope that makes sense, I use metaphor a lot to describe things, and I often want to create abstract images to get things down as an image, which are difficult to describe in words.
Undiagnosed Autism can be problematic.
I was diagnosed at 50. My mum took me to her GP in the 1960’s as a 9mths old baby, as I was “different” to my older siblings, I did not look her in the eye, I did not cuddle her.
She behaves abusively, unfortunately, and my Dad, I think, was a malignant narcissist, mocking me as a toddler and getting joy from it.
I think my ex, mentioned above is undiagnosed autistic, he has put on a cloak all of his life, I think he struggles to deal with different people who’s faces don’t fit.
His friend of 35 years confided to me, he thinks he is autistic.
He is a very proud man, unable to drive through epilepsy, yet has a car in the drive for appearances sake.
He seemed to have a sadistic side, not like autistics, possibly an adaptive trait, developed, as his memory is affected by his epilepsy, and his mother compared him unfavourably to her friend’s kids of the same age. He is successful, works from home, owns 2 properties, but, alas, must be unhappy, as he would not have hurt me the way he did. Anyway, sorry for the ramble.
I hope it helps.
It must be very stressful for you, to have to tell him in a non emotional voice.
What you describe is an “autistic meltdown”, I get them, the severity of them depends on the level of stress.
Best if luck in getting him a diagnosis. A diagnosis at 54 years old helped me, it would have helped much more as a kid, but back then, autistics were stigmatised, just like my ex and his epilepsy.
Medication, in my view, is not the answer.
Knowing I have autism helps, as I can look up resources online.
Getting fobbed off is frustrating.
Autism and a bad upbringing are not good bedfellows.
You have not gone on, in my opinion and I wish you all the luck in the world.
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Hi ladies, sorry about the delayed response, I am still sorting the house out but hopefully I’ll be done soon. I’m kind of in limbo as I only have time to work and sort the house but once it’s all done I can focus on assessing things.
Ange, thank you, and sorry to hear HRT made you feel unwell. It does have its downsides for me but they are outweighed by the good sleep utrogestan gives me. I hope you are well. X
Marchlove, no worries about the vit d. I’ve started back on it now it’s winter, I like a spray as it goes straight into the bloodstream though I’ve heart soft gel capsules are good.
Discogirl, thanks for your good wishes, I know what you mean about a menopause tsar, from what I’ve seen on the news this issue seems to be coming up more and more so I feel like things are moving in the right direction. I think my partner has difficulties with others’ emotions in general though.
Dandelion, it took me a lot of searching to find a landlord who would accept a cat. Maybe you would be happier living somewhere new, where you would be free of the issues and even have a cat? Sorry to hear about what happened with your family, I really feel for you. As I said before though, I can tell you are a strong person and it’s good that you have got people you can turn to who will support you. Just to clarify when I wrote of old feelings I meant depression and feeling lost but they are linked to my present situation, my old wounds are healed. Im not sure whether I am going to work on my current feelings alone or get another therapist, unfortunately I feel my previous therapist is irreplaceable. Although my partner behaves in a way that causes problems he doesn’t seem to be able to help it and we have not found a solution to the meltdowns yet. I hate the idea of medications too but we were getting desperate. I am concerned that the meltdowns will never stop and I will never be able to handle them and look after me at the same time. As a person who experiences meltdowns, could you give me any advice? I am sure you have a wealth of knowledge. I don’t want to sound insensitive in any way, I know they are very painful for him as well as me, we are both a bit lost. Although I want to be able to cope with them, I have become overwhelmed and can’t really see an answer except a couple therapist with a speciality in this field. Do you know if we would need a diagnosis before a specialist therapist would see us?
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The lease on my flat is breached. I never got a survey on it, as my mum advised me not to get my first old "Fixer-upper" house surveyed, so I never got newer properties surveyed.
The old owner did some real Jackass alterations, in parts of the flat that don't belong to the owner, real hassle.
Dandelion, if you need advice you could post the details on the Landlordzone website forum. I know it isn't a landlord issue but there are some very knowledgeable people on there who could advise you on the best way forwards. If it's something your solicitor should have noticed you may be able to get compensation from their insurance.
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So terribly sorry you are going through such a rough time bless you. I really feel for you and so hope things will improve for you soon. Regarding HRT I started to cut mine down last year when the gel became unavailable thinking I would try and come off it. All I can say was I felt so so ill just like you have and I won't be coming off it again now. Am having trouble now getting the dose right still but am better even now than I was off it. I have not had the Covid booster vaccine and I won't be having one this Autumn as I re-acted really badly to the Pfizer vaccine and ended up in A&E after both of them.
I no doubt will catch Covid at some point as have just started to be out and about a bit more although still wear a mask in hospital or doctor's waiting rooms. Let us hope it keeps mutating to become less and less serious. Sending hugs x
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Hi Pippa, thank you so much. Things are getting better as I now have my own place so that makes me less anxious. I hope you are getting on ok with the gel. Sorry to hear you got ill from the injection. Hugs to you too, it was lovely finding your kind message x