Menopause Matters Forum
Menopause Discussion => All things menopause => Topic started by: Robin on April 30, 2021, 05:07:59 PM
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Hi All,
I’m considering joining Facebook with the sole purpose of accessing a couple of private groups but I don’t really want to use it to interact with friends and family. I’m rubbish I know but I’m just not really into all that. I know nothing about how it works so hoping someone can help. Is it possible to have an account without everyone who knows me knowing? I don’t want everyone put out that I’m not interacting with them
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I think for private groups you have to ask to be admitted. It will be seen by those on the group. An open group can be seen world wide by anyone.
Have a look at 'facebook' for information.
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That would be fine. I mean will all my friends and family know I’ve joined Facebook not the actual groups
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If it's an open group, then probably. It surprises me that in all the public groups I contribute to, messages can be seen in them all.
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I haven’t explained very well ;D. What I mean is when you join Facebook (not the groups) does everyone know that you’ve joined Facebook ;D . I’m not sure how to say it in way that will make sense ;D
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I thought 1 joined a group in order to join in?
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I think so in order to join the groups but I don’t even have a Facebook account and only want to get one if I can do so without everyone I know finding out
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:-\ I know what I mean but can’t put it into words that will make sense
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It makes sense but I don't know too much - can you tell ;D
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;D I thought I was the only person in the world who has no clue about Facebook
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Hi All,
I’m considering joining Facebook with the sole purpose of accessing a couple of private groups but I don’t really want to use it to interact with friends and family. I’m rubbish I know but I’m just not really into all that. I know nothing about how it works so hoping someone can help. Is it possible to have an account without everyone who knows me knowing? I don’t want everyone put out that I’m not interacting with them
I just filter my family members out so they don't see my posts. My dad is embarrassing.. Bless him. ;D ;
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Ah thanks Belle1.
So does that mean by setting up a new email account all my contacts on other email accounts wouldn’t automatically be notified that Ive joined Facebook?
Sorry I’m so dim on such matters. I once tried to join Twitter so that I could better access health accounts such as Dr Newson, Jane Lewis etc and was immediately inundated with many messages from my whole iPad contacts lists. I ended up cancelling it within about 10 minutes as I didn’t particularly want all those people seeing what I would look at or comment on as it would all be personal medical stuff. My plumber, kitchen fitter etc don’t need to know I’ve got VA or going through menopause ;D
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Twitter asked far too many questions ! so many, I no longer recognised myself ::)
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Thanks Belle,
If I set it up to not receive friends requests or so people can’t see my group lists will the people in my phone contact list still know that I have an account but am excluding them all? I’m anticipating a lot of narked friends/relatives 😬
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Thanks Belle.
I will make sure I do it when my brain is in gear. Hopefully the groups will allow me to join 🤞🏻
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Thanks Belle.
Hopefully the groups will allow me to join 🤞🏻
You have to apply to join a private group but it's straight forward & easy. You usually have to answer a few basic questions & it may take a few hours or more before one of the administrators sees it & clears it.
I've found some private groups that have been useful & I'm sure you will too Robin.
Good luck - Cazikins x
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Thanks cazikins. Got granddaughter today so going to give it a go wed/thur 🤞🏻
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Is it 'down' again ? I understand that the name has been altered .......... mayB that's why it's silent?
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Facebook is so incredibly intrusive and I have heard of the menopause group from reading posts here, but there is no way on God's earth would I trust any Facebook group, no matter how private it is, with all my personal and intimate information.
I have to be on Facebook for commercial/business reasons but that is where it ends!
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Yes, people will know you’ve joined Facebook unless you use a completely new email address than you’ve ever used and use it only for Facebook. If you use the same old email address that friends and family have used, you will show up under their “you may know” or suggested contacts. Doesn’t mean they will see posts, but they WILL see that you have a new account.
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Did any of you watch David's programme last night, repeated at a later time this week? Interesting about the culture of bullying and everyone wanting to 'be right'. With 1 particular woman I want to scream and shout >:( because she has taken a dislike to me. I can't understand wanting to tell the World everything 1 is going to do though :-\. i.e. Twitter where every man and his dog posts their every move.
What do people want - we all need validation but the amount of flak that people draw seems not worth it!
I looked at joining Twitter but too many questions were asked. There are people that I would like to 'follow' but haven't the energy ::).
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I used to be on Twitter but had to get out of that cesspool, it became so depressing. I didn't realise there was so many total nutters in this world.
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They crawls out of the woodwork they does, drop a comment into the world then crawls back under their log ::)
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There is always 1 woman who contradicts what ever I post >:(. Making out that I don't know nowt :kick:. I have to bite my tongue these days .........
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Hi Robin
You can use Facebook and have no friends just so you can access private groups. I’ve a secret account I use for this!
You can still use your email and don’t have to notify anyone you’re on there - you can even use a fake name.
Nicola x
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You have to set up a profile first , just don't add any friends or family , then you can join groups, in a private group can only be seen by group members but in public groups it can be seen by anybody I hope this helps.
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When you join Facebook everyone you’ve ever interacted with in other ways such as email and text will come up as possible friends. You will also come up on their page as a possible friend. Private groups are just that and none of your friends will know you’ve joined them or will ever seen any posts (unless they too are members of that private group). It is annoying. Not everyone wants to be on Facebook to speak to friends.
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That woman had 'another go' last night. No hopes for World Peace there then ::)
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Now it seems that I have to 'register' in order to make comments >:(
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Hi All,
I’m considering joining Facebook with the sole purpose of accessing a couple of private groups but I don’t really want to use it to interact with friends and family. I’m rubbish I know but I’m just not really into all that. I know nothing about how it works so hoping someone can help. Is it possible to have an account without everyone who knows me knowing? I don’t want everyone put out that I’m not interacting with them
. You can just choose a fictitious name which your friends won't find/ recognise. I am in a private FB group concerning VA and it is genuinely private. You do have to put in a request to join and answer a few questions.
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Robin, once you've set up an account, you do get suggestions of "friends" based on who you've connected with. One way to reduce the risk is to not request or accept a friend, that way there's no connections, dont post anything, dont use your photo, you can also use a different name when setting up. I have a police officer friend who does that. I have very few people on my account, I'm very careful. Just use it to access support groups.
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Would advise not going too off beam with a fictitious name. I chose one that was deemed inappropriate and told not linked in any way to my email & I then found that I couldn't access Facebook anymore. That was a while ago so things may have changed.
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I think it has to be a name but it's possible to change your own enough to not come up in searches. As for twitter, my account was hacked. It took me forever to get it closed down. I wouldn't touch it. As for Facebook, the more connections and interaction you have, the more you comment on oublic posts, the more risk of being hacked. You have to be very savvy and not click or react on anything you think might be dodgy
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I’ve joined a couple of groups for support One for Atrophy and the other for Prolapse
You’ll find they’re private groups so you have to be approved by the moderators this means the world can’t see your posts only other members
Really useful information and knowledge from other members and good if your feeling down because you always get support from the other members (like on here) Happy to give you the names of the ones I’m on if it helps
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I apparently have an account ;D - so all sorted now with a new password .......
I don't click 'accept' unless it's friends that I know.
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I’ve joined a couple of groups for support One for Atrophy and the other for Prolapse
You’ll find they’re private groups so you have to be approved by the moderators this means the world can’t see your posts only other members
Really useful information and knowledge from other members and good if your feeling down because you always get support from the other members (like on here) Happy to give you the names of the ones I’m on if it helps
Kathryn could you possibly give the name of the prolapse group please. I may see if I can get back on Facebook as I’ve found little else forum wise useful specifically for prolapse. Thanks if you can.
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Agree with all the advice so far but I am not keen on facebook or anywhere these days, nothing is private. Even in a private group your friends and the public can see if your name is in the list and the group admins may end up approving someone you know into the group etc. Some people will make up a false name to join that group. Call me picky.
For that reason I'm not going to any personal support groups on facebook.
Also facebook seems to be full of people now that were never meant to have so much access to my life, I went on there originally for positive support groups and had them, but more and more people have joined (which is their right) and now my feed is all about wading through all this other stuff and people who haven't earned my trust, before I can find what I originally went on there for.
I've often wondered whether women here should find a chat room or something or something private that no one outside of it will see in a google search.
I know that's not helpful though.
OP good luck in navigating FB to get some value from it, it's not impossible.
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We have private areas for members on MM Forum KaraShannon and those private FB groups that I contribute to, no one else can see names etc..
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We have private areas for members on MM Forum KaraShannon and those private FB groups that I contribute to, no one else can see names etc..
thanks CLKD, there are private areas on here? Do I need to navigate around the site a bit more and find?
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It's the section called Private Lives. Threads posted there can only be read by members rather than being open to the whole of the internet. I think it says it's for sexual problems but we also use it for things that are more personal such as relationship and family problems or mental health.
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On some forums there are private areas where admins can discuss issues between themselves, I don't know whether this forum has one but it would be by invite only if there was.
As for FB, no it would be a minefield even on a private group to be completely private from any friends, its a platform that is far too intrusive for discussing personal medical issues. I am in a private gardening group where I am happy to pass on some advice but that is as far as I will venture.
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Oh a gardening group 8). Off to the gardening thread ;-)
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Just aside, i worked in childrens social care and there used to be a video I think called lollipop, showing how criminals can find out about children from social media. It was so sinister. I still see parents posting their children's life on Facebook with no regard for their safety or privacy
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It's called Take This Lollipop
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It amazes me when 'people you may know' pops up in the friends section, how many babies and tots have their 'photos posted!
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I see the most private things ftom children's lives, like one sat on a potty because she finally asked to use it. They wouldn't do that about themselves on the loo.
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It's the section called Private Lives. Threads posted there can only be read by members rather than being open to the whole of the internet. I think it says it's for sexual problems but we also use it for things that are more personal such as relationship and family problems or mental health.
Interesting Taz2, so I can see that forum because I'm a member, the rest of the internet can't?
That's good. It's a start.
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It's the section called Private Lives. Threads posted there can only be read by members rather than being open to the whole of the internet. I think it says it's for sexual problems but we also use it for things that are more personal such as relationship and family problems or mental health.
Interesting Taz2, so I can see that forum because I'm a member, the rest of the internet can't?
That's good. It's a start.
Yes that's right. :)
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I'd suggest setting up an account with a fake name, set everything to private so in security make sure your details are visible to "only me". Set the account up with as little information as possible, don't post anything unless it's questions within your support groups. Some groups allow the option to post anonymously as well. Don't add a profile picture, don't add friends and turn off the option for people to friend request you. It'll take a bit of time to go through all the settings but it's worth doing if you want to be as invisible as possible. Hope that helps.
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:thankyou:
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I'd suggest setting up an account with a fake name, set everything to private so in security make sure your details are visible to "only me". Set the account up with as little information as possible, don't post anything unless it's questions within your support groups. Some groups allow the option to post anonymously as well. Don't add a profile picture, don't add friends and turn off the option for people to friend request you. It'll take a bit of time to go through all the settings but it's worth doing if you want to be as invisible as possible. Hope that helps.
The whole thing is confusing to me. I was reading this morning on Reddit some people who have attempted to create a totally private facebook page that's not linked to any of their other accounts. Their knowledge of how to do that is way beyond me.
You seem to have 2 types of people these days on the subject of privacy. Those who are suspicious if you want to be private, what are you hiding. And those who want to be totally private because they see others' access to their lives as an invasion if it's not invited (and if there's undue interest).
I'm of the second camp. I know there are dark and secretive people out there, but I just want a degree of bullet proof privacy to protect myself from those. I'm not afraid of real physical threat or identity theft or anything, it's just the principle that my life is my own.
We are supposed to be more connected these days but with the lack of privacy I find I'm way more disconnected as I won't discuss anything openly with anyone online.
edited to add that I came on here to reply to Peach8 and ranted at a tangent instead ;D so the reply is the problem with a fake name, etc, tried that but there's a lot of blocks along the way, having to provide ID etc. I don't want to go against facebook I just want privacy.
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Rant away. It's easy to get the keyboard warriors 'going' on FB ;D, even those who I know personally and who wouldn't speak to me 'like that' face2face.
This morning some1 told me that they live at our address ;D after I complained, in general, about barking dogs from 6.30 a.m. >:(. As I don't recognise her name I can't go talk to her about hers, ::) I actually don't think that they are. My dogs never barked unless there was a strange about in the night, visitors at the door were coming to see her not us :D
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visitors at the door were coming to see her not us :D
Exactly. No one should create noise that could wake people up at that time. It can ruin the whole day for someone. It would for me, i wouldn't be able to get back to sleep at that time and would have to get up soon. I hate that more than being woken late at night because at least then there's still the rest of the night to go back to sleep.
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I'd suggest setting up an account with a fake name, set everything to private so in security make sure your details are visible to "only me". Set the account up with as little information as possible, don't post anything unless it's questions within your support groups. Some groups allow the option to post anonymously as well. Don't add a profile picture, don't add friends and turn off the option for people to friend request you. It'll take a bit of time to go through all the settings but it's worth doing if you want to be as invisible as possible. Hope that helps.
The whole thing is confusing to me. I was reading this morning on Reddit some people who have attempted to create a totally private facebook page that's not linked to any of their other accounts. Their knowledge of how to do that is way beyond me.
You seem to have 2 types of people these days on the subject of privacy. Those who are suspicious if you want to be private, what are you hiding. And those who want to be totally private because they see others' access to their lives as an invasion if it's not invited (and if there's undue interest).
I'm of the second camp. I know there are dark and secretive people out there, but I just want a degree of bullet proof privacy to protect myself from those. I'm not afraid of real physical threat or identity theft or anything, it's just the principle that my life is my own.
We are supposed to be more connected these days but with the lack of privacy I find I'm way more disconnected as I won't discuss anything openly with anyone online.
edited to add that I came on here to reply to Peach8 and ranted at a tangent instead ;D so the reply is the problem with a fake name, etc, tried that but there's a lot of blocks along the way, having to provide ID etc. I don't want to go against facebook I just want privacy.
Hi KaraShannon. I've read some of those reddit posts and that level of anonymity is quite extreme. The level I was referring to didn't hide your contact details from Facebook necessarily, it was about not being traceable on the platform by other users. Several people on my friends list have fake names, they are school teachers and don't want to be added by pupils. They still have many friends and post a lot of photos, they just can't be searched for using their real name. I haven't tried it personally so I'm not sure how it's done and my fb page was set up so long ago that I can't remember what is required. I choose to be very selective about what I post, nothing is deeply personal and I rarely post anything to groups because I just don't like people knowing my business. I'm not ashamed of my meno journey but I absolutely do not want the 25 year old guy from work seeing that information. Some groups give the option to post as "anonymous member" but not all. I've seen other people question their choice to do that though on the assumption that something untoward is going on, seems you can't win. I choose to post on this platform because my real name isn't visible and because we are all here for much the same reason. I guess it's all down to personal choice really. Unless you have an unusual or uncommon name, you could probably set up a "real" fb account, post nothing, add nobody, hide all info, block people from adding you etc. If there's nothing on your page to see and no photos then people aren't going to be able to tell if that's the Kara Shannon they know or another Kara Shannon on the other side of the world. I hope that makes sense. At the end of the day, it really comes down to what lengths you want to go to and what you're willing to share and what exactly you are looking to gain from said app. If the possibility of being visible at all bothers you then not having an account is the only way to guarantee it. Don't know about you but I feel I'm getting left behind when it comes to technology as things change so quickly x
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I've been asked to add my photo by a few people in the village ........ which was intimidating.
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Many people use a pet or a scenic picture. It's your account, your choice. I had a friend thought I'd blocked them because I removed a profile pic. You could easily go stir crazy over thinking it.
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;D. I've really put the wooden spoon in our local group by reporting a drone, which hovered over our gardens yesterday. When I shouted at it the thing was whisked away - the user was un-sighted and we heard car doors all morning, stopping and driving on: with the sound of grass trimmers so we didn't think much of that: until this thing appeared! sounding like a grass trimmer.
After I put a warning on FB all vitriol crept out of the woodwork. Mods had to step in as some was slanderous! The Government and CAA websites have different guidelines: the former states the Law around flying and CAA gives 'guidance'. >:(
I fight on ;D not 1 to miss an opportunity. What I did as a warning as it may be criminals - which someone asked me to prove !!! - seeing who has back doors open or sheds full of stuff!
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;D. my input on the village FB is written in Azabijan [sp] but not on other groups :-\. Any ideas any1?
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Apparently I've been suspended from FB so am no long able to join in with the various groups ...... I've no idea how I joined initially ::) or whether I was invited. ETA are asking me for a mobile phone number :-\ but I never give out that.
:-\ :'(
Apart from the Private Menopause group and the village info., I can't remember where I drop into out of ::). This includes some groups that I contact via FB and no other way :-\
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Can any of you dust off the brain cell : if U have ever joined a FB Group : as I need urgent assistance in how to make a FB account. As stated I've been locked out but am needing to contact people on various groups due to personal situation here. [note 2 self].
When I try to join I'm asked so many queries which are all quite personal and I wouldn't hand out to any1.
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I was locked out of Facebook several years ago as my user name was considered flippant and didn’t relate to my email address. It was when they were clamping down a bit.
I see that you can now join using a mobile number & create a new password etc. So avoiding same email that will be rejected.
Don’t know if this helps.
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Tnx.