Menopause Matters Forum
Menopause Discussion => All things menopause => Topic started by: GetStuffedPeri on August 16, 2020, 03:04:14 PM
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8 months..........things starting to ever so slightly improve.........hopeful that getting through this without HRT possible.......
Then this morning happened.
One wipe after a wee and bright red blood, then one blob of white mucus. That was first thing, and nothing since. After 8 MONTHS. F this. I know the clock needs to be reset.
Hate isn't a strong enough word for how I feel about menopause.
Happy Sunday folks! ;D
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Do you have vaginal atrophy - does it look and feel like a period would? Do you have a dry area that has bled on contact?
Otherwise: yep, back to zero ::)
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Annoying isn't it? I went nine months twice without a period and gave up at 53 and started HRT due to sweats and atrophy. I feel your frustration!
Taz x
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CLKD - no VA, definitely fresh period blood, if even with only one wipe. Back to day 1 and it’s GUTTING!
Taz - did the HRT improve things for you? What are you taking, if you don’t mind me asking? Thank you :)
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It's The Change - does what it says on the tin >:( ::)
How do you feel, other than annoyed ..........
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This post is actually about my wife (with her consent of course!). I’m also female, peri, but she’s years ahead of me and this is her third period since Feb 2018. How is she feeling?! She’s pretty irritable, super emotional, noise and smell sensitive tonight and has really itchy skin and eyes. It’s like a period turns back the clock to the beginning of this. I thought period equalled presence of estrogen, therefore woman feeling better?! Never my wife - a period tells us that things will now be awful again for months. I know it’s only one bit of blood but for god sake - the change in symptoms :-\ she’s been really trying to avoid HRT but I’m not sure if it maybe time.....up to her obviously.....
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Hormones rise and fall as the ovaries still kick in occasionally, even if most of the ovary has been removed. She might not feel as bad this time.
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Taz - did the HRT improve things for you? What are you taking, if you don’t mind me asking? Thank you :)
Yes it completely hot rid of the hot sweats which were drenching me every 20 minutes and the VA was also banished! Also aching muscles and stiff painful joints improved loads. I'm on Evorel 50 now as I don't need progesterone as I had a hysterectomy in 2014. I've been on Evorel Sequi and conti in the past and also FemSeven sequi and conti too. I'm 66 now and have been on it for 13 years.
Taz x
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I had a 8 month gap too!
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This is horrible and I'm worried this might happen to me too. I haven"t had a period since January this year and I do want this thing to be over and done with soon. The sooner the better. I don't know about men but we, women, we are plague by this nonsense.
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Hi Karine. What exactly are you wanting to be over? Each stage brings different symptoms. Many of us have found that the longer you can hang on to periods the better even though they are inconvenient and painful. Don't look too far ahead.
Taz x :hug:
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I want to reach postmenopause so, hopefully, the symptoms will go away. I am not talking about physical symptoms but low mood and anxiety. These are the two symptoms I can do away with. I'm still peri at the moment and I do hope that these symptoms won't go on well past postmenopause.
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Hi Karine
Do you not suffer with physical symptoms at all? No flushes, itchy skin, night sweats, tinnitus etc etc? Sounds like you're doing something right (not playing down the significance of the debilitating low mood and anxiety though).
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I would happily have continued with periods if it didn't mean the constant maintenance of trying to keep VA under control that peri and post meno has given me.
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CLKD - when you say "even if most of the ovary has been removed", do you mean it can naturally dissolve? My wife hasn't had any surgical/hormonal intervention at all. Thanks :)
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Of course I do get physical symptoms such as dizziness, nausea, sometimes headaches, burning skin, the occasional hot flush, night sweats & chills. But the anxiety and low mood are hard to control. Also sometimes I feel lost, vulnerable, worrying too much, worrying that this will never stop and that I'm condemned for the rest of my life..
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I had a 10 month gap :sigh:
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Uptick - did they come back regularly after the 10 month gap? My wife's gap before this one was also 10 months :(. Are you on HRT?
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It is what it is. Nature takes menopause to extremes sometimes :-\
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Uptick - did they come back regularly after the 10 month gap? My wife's gap before this one was also 10 months :(. Are you on HRT?
Thank goodness, no! This was the last one. I'm not on HRT yet, still weighing the pros and cons.
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And how long ago was your last one....... :o
yep - pros and cons of HRT = minefield. :-\
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Four years ago. I just hope it's not too late to take HRT if needs be. I've been managing the hot flushes with fan, ice packs, avoiding caffeine, spicy food, etc. The other unpleasant menopausal symptoms are less bothersome now, but I know things can deteriorate later on. I'm particularly worried about osteoporosis, because my mum had it. On the other hand there are breast cancer cases both maternal and paternal sides, definitely a minefield. I'm very excited about a new non-hormonal drug called NT-814. There's only one more trial phase to go and the results are promising regarding hot flushes, night sweats and a 'wider range of symptoms'. The British company responsible for the drug, KaNDy, has just been acquired by gigantic Bayer, which means they're confident.
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Osteoporosis : eating a diet rich in dairy from an early age helps. As does regular brisk walking, 10 mins. daily. [weather allowing ;)]. Skipping anyone ;)
Quality of Life ?
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Hi GetStuffedPeri, how are you doing?
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Ooh 8 months is nothing. I did 11 months and thought that was it. Gave all my stock of tampons etc away and came on the following day.
Be warned tricky business this I had couple of occasions when I was fine and stood up and whoosh from nowhere so just be prepared. I'm 60 now. 6 years since my last one
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Hi Uptick - this is about my wife, not me (I'm peri but nowhere near her stage!) - she's ok ish thank you. She bit the bullet and started patches last week...........we live in hope.............and a bit of terror to be honest ::) How are you doing?
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sueyvern - that sounds bloody grim you poor thing! You jinxed it by giving your stuff away ;D
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Sorry I didn't answer your query - if ladies have ovaries removed it may be possible that a tiny piece is left which can still activate. Apparently ovaries shrivel too ..... I've never been aware of mine.
Hopefully all goes well!
I remember well that if I threw away a shorthand notebook I would need to refer to it the very next day :-\. I think I kept mine for 5+ years, in case.
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I went six months twice, then period. Then I went 15 months without a period, and now three on the trot! Yep, 15 months. And the gynae said I now have to set back to zero!!!!!
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Pumpkin55 - sounds bloody awful for you! Are you on HRT?
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I went six months twice, then period. Then I went 15 months without a period, and now three on the trot! Yep, 15 months. And the gynae said I now have to set back to zero!!!!!
Hi, if you don't mind me asking, were you under or over 50 when it happened both times? I will be 50 in October this year and I haven't had a period since January this year. I'm worried that the same thing might happen to me. I'm very surprised that your periods came back 15 months later because they say that 12 months without a period is a menopause marker. That's very annoying when you really want this crappy menopause to be over and done with sooner rather than later.
Karine
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Hi Karine. If it helps between the age of 51 and 53 I went 6 months without a period then they became regular for a while again and then another nine months without a period before resorting to HRT. Everyone is different.
Taz x
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So, Taz, because of the HRT you may not not if you're postmeno.
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I've been on HRT for 13 years now and at the age of 66 I'm post meno but I have no idea at what age I would have become that naturally.
Taz x :D
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No I'm not. Been seriously considering it this past week as have had an horrendous time - chills, nausea, off the scale sudden exhaustion, mega anxiety attacks (haven't had these before, never had these symptoms with menstruation) but today I had a great day, just as I was at my wits end, so I'm going to try and see if I can get through it.....
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Hi Karine, yes I was over 50. I had my first of this run of three periods in late May, when I was 53, having had none for 15 months. Immediately before that I'd had a six-month free spell, and before that another six-month free spell. So I guess I was 51 when my first spells without periods started.