Menopause Matters Forum
Menopause Discussion => Personal Experiences => Topic started by: daisie on April 14, 2020, 02:15:03 PM
-
hi ladies, v not been on here for a long time ,iv been in shock since november i was diognosed with eye melonoma and had my eye removed .i fell into a deep depression iv tried different antidepressants but the side effects are too much .id like to now if anyone of you take an antidepressant which are not the ssri apart from amitriptyline has anyone taken the same group of that medication and does it help with your depression and anxiety finding it hard coping with one eye .was tol by the consultant it could take months to adapt feel like i need some fuel inside me not on hrt x daisie
-
hi ladies, v not been on here for a long time ,iv been in shock since november i was diognosed with eye melonoma and had my eye removed .i fell into a deep depression iv tried different antidepressants but the side effects are too much .id like to now if anyone of you take an antidepressant which are not the ssri apart from amitriptyline has anyone taken the same group of that medication and does it help with your depression and anxiety finding it hard coping with one eye .was tol by the consultant it could take months to adapt feel like i need some fuel inside me not on hrt x daisie
Hi Daisie. I can't help with your question but just wanted to show support. How was it discovered? A routine eye test or were there symptoms to warn you? :'(
-
Hi daisie...can't help out with your question but wanted to offer support and a huge virtual hug.
-
thanks katejo and whatsupwiththis ,,i was having problems like a lot of floaters and got flashing lights with blurry vision in my right eye thought id got cataracts or something like that ,went to opticians i was sent off to a specialist .thats when they noticed a tuma .it was all syetems go went in hospital had the op then out next day,its been all down hill from there .still early days but need something to try and lift the mood x
-
It is totally understandable you would feel depressed. Can you contact your specialist and request medication to get you through? Are there any support groups in your area that you could have face time to discuss your fears? I know there are several ladies on AD's who could help. Good luck and let's hope they got it all. Melanoma is a nasty piece of work.
-
im waiting to here from a docor at a mental health centre .theyr wondering which antidepressant to put me on because iv tried so many but side effects are awful if i dont here soon i will have to call back but its good to know which ones do work for people and get advise ,thanks for replys ,yes its not good ,i wasnt expecting anything that severe .it was contained in my eye ball thats why he recomended eye removal once its out the melonoma has gone fingers crossed had loads of scans on the eye at the time x
-
Oh have a :hug:
There's so little support after surgery, I would have thought that the Consultant would have offered a specific after-care Nurse? Maybe ring the Secretary and explain that you are struggling [we don't bite ;-)] - ask if there is a support group locally or in the Hospital. It seems remiss to case you off!
I have taken various ADs over the years, can't tolerate any that give me nausea. Currently taking Ecistalopram 10mg at night and 5mg in the morning.
I would also suggest getting in touch with your local Blind Group as well as Guide Dogs 4 the Blind who may have details of support within your area.
-
Oh daisie so sorry to read this.
I can't help with your question but wanted to send a virtual hug and best wishes to you.
Take care
Lanzalover x
-
hi ckld,i was given a card when i left the hospital to get intouch .but didnt bother ,i went straight to the doc and was forward to the mental health team .im waiting now to here what antidepressant they will put me on.like you most of them make me feel sick especialy the ssri x
-
hi lanzalover.thanks for the hug means a lot xx
-
So bother now? If you access the support on the Card you will be aware of what is available when you require it. Knowledge is after all power ;-)
-
hi ckld ,it was to get intouch with the nurse who looked after me while in hospital if i needed a chat ,im 2 hours journey away from where i had to go for the operation but i have help here where i live if i need it , just need the right medication for now so im working on that x
-
Hi birdy ,thanks for your reply ,I am under a mental health team at the moment ,I don't feel I can get out of this depression on my own I feel I need something to get me going , I have got help with family but at moment with all this virus going around I'm in isolation with my partner he's had to retire from work to be with me since it all happened ,I have been tried on meds but there's so many out there ,it's a case of finding one to suit me ,I'm waiting to hear back from the mental health centre for a different antidepressant I just hope there's one out there what suits me x Daisie
-
:hug:
-
Hi Daisie. Sorry to hear your news but really pleased that you don't have to have any more treatment. As for anti depressants a friend has had good success with an SNRI rather than an SSRI.
Taz x
-
Hi taz ,thanks for your reply what's the name of snri antidepressant your friend is taking ,birdy I was put on those mirt?zapine but had no luck with those either x
-
He is on Duloxetine.
Taz x
-
thanks taz ill keep that in mind to ask the doctor xx
-
thank you birdy xx :foryou:
-
Thanks Clio,for your reply ,I feel im still in shock after 5 months it's not got any easier I'm hoping I can get an antidepressant that suits me ,I came off amitriptyline after 11 years did nothing for me just helped with sleep ,I'm waiting to here back from the mental health team so hope it's not too long now thanks for the hug I have heard of venlafaxine I'll x🙋♀️
-
Keep us posted daisie. Good luck and sending you virtual hugs, wishes, and relief.
-
Thanks for the hugs whatsupwiththis ,I will keep you posted :thankyou: :
-
Morning :hug:
-
Hi Daisie
I'm so sorry to hear about what you've gone through... how traumatic and I'm not surprised you?re still in shock. I haven't got anything to add to the other helpful responses other than what helped for me. I have tried antidepressants in the past but they weren't for me. What did really help was CBT. You can read about it and ask your GP? (I just read a book about it but I think there are courses on line) it's basically re wiring your brain to help you think about things differently.. it takes some effort to begin with but after a while it really does help and becomes a very natural thought process (it definitely made a difference to my cancer last year)... anything's worth a try!
Hope you start to feel better soon Daisie xx
-
Hi Daisie,
Can't help with antidepressants, but mindfulness is a life saver. Sending healing vibes and a huge virtual hug. 🤗
BeaR.
-
Morning :hug:
. Thanks for hug Ckld :thankyou:
-
You are very welcome. Little steps. Do you keep a diary of how you feel etc.?
There's usually someone around on here ;)
-
hi sophie,jane and bear.thanks for the hugs and your replys, cbt does sound a good option if it can help me its worth giving it a try im still waiting for the mental health team to get intouch with me i will be seeing them ,will see what options they will offer me x
-
How about yoga? Or look on the net to see if there are any ideas, maybe contact MIND Charity and ask if they have apps or tapes?
In the meantime do some deep breathing? Start at your feet, stretch the toes, hold, relax. Work up the body through all the muscle groups, this can be helpful in the early hours.
-
You are very welcome. Little steps. Do you keep a diary of how you feel etc.?
There's usually someone around on here ;)
no i just go on my feelings day to day which are very low .iv no motivation what so ever ,thats why i probly need an antidepressant something to give me a kick should i say xx
-
good idea clkd .i will give it a look to see what is out there,iv plenty of me time at moment to browse the iternet .thanks x
-
let us know how you get on ;)
-
let us know how you get on ;)
i will do clkd every little helps x :tulips:
-
How long have you been waiting for mh team Daisie?
Might be a while with corona.
In the mean time have you ever tried
5htp or valerian ? Some people have good results.
I'm not surprised your still in shock and feeling down, it's a bloody lot to take on board.
You need that lift just to get you started on the road of motivation
Hope it comes soon 😀 depression is the pits. thanks clio51 .it as been too much realy but just do what i can small steps ,iv never tried 5htp or valerian i take a beta blocker for blood pressure i have to watch what i take but its worth having a word with a pharmacy about it ans see what they say about interactions ,thanks getting back to me :foryou:
Don't let the b......d grind you down Daisie xxx
-
daisie, I'm so very sorry to hear your news. It must have been a huge shock and it will take time for you to adjust.
I hope you can find a suitable AD to help you through this difficult time.
Please keep us posted on your progress.
Jane
(we have 'spoken' before I think).
-
Hi Daisie, So sorry to hear you have had such a horrendous time. Perfectly understandable that you feel low. I hope you get the support you deserve and find something that works for you. x
-
Hi Daisie my husband had his eye removed 8 years ago because of ocular melanoma and I can sympathise with you the aftercare physical and mentally is severely lacking for patients yet you are loosing one of your senses.
Hang in there and read and join the ocular forums they give more information than the hospital does.
I have tried several SSRi and they all gave such awful side effects I could not tolerate them.🌹xx
-
hi mary g,foxy lady for your replys ,im calling the mental healt today ill put a comment back to let you know wat iv been prescribed x
-
hi penelope ,sorry about your husband how has he coped ,im finding things quite hard at moment did he cope ok at first with just one eye ,my depth perception not good at moment ,like i can reach out for an item looks like iv reached it to find out iv not reached far enough ,,yes i cant tolerate the ssri they give me realy bad side effects i will try another tricyclic antidepressant
-
Hiya Daisie yes my hubby is fine but even at 8 years free he still does not tell me everything.He bangs his shoulders on the doors a lot and he fills his cups far to full and it spills.He can no longer drive at night.But he is so happy he opted for removal.xxx
-
hi penelope,thats good to here,,i have same problem with my judgement i can walk through my door and bang my shoulder not judging the distance far enough .its only early days yet for me but hope things will improve mentaly .thanks for your reply x
-
hi birdy ,thanks for that information i will check it out x