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General Discussion => This 'n' That => Topic started by: Perinowpost on February 07, 2020, 10:13:05 AM
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Phil Schofield out on this morning, made me cry
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Who knew hey?
Good on him....😉
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Who knew indeed ........ wonder when he told his Wife :-\
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Sorry but I have no sympathy for him. It's his wife I feel sorry for, she's been living a lie for the past 22 years. Didn't see it on TV, perhaps I'd have been more sympathetic if I had.
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Can't say I'm bothered really.
What I don't understand is why the need to 'come out anyway'. It's a natural part of the human condition. It's disappointing that is still such a big issue.
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His wife seems really lovely, I hope she's ok
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Maybe she knew all along? I have a couple of friends who lived with the knowledge for years. Both men who decided to be true unto himself - both with children, they waited until the children were able to appreciate Dad B4 and after. They were happy as couples raising children. One wife told me that she loved him regardless and they had 3 lovely children that she would never have known.
It is difficult to live with a lie. I don't know why people need to tell others :-\ and I don't look at people wondering if they are gay. I tend to take people at face value .......... there may be clues but I don't recognise any ::)
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Ditto
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Sorry but I have no sympathy for him. It's his wife I feel sorry for, she's been living a lie for the past 22 years. Didn't see it on TV, perhaps I'd have been more sympathetic if I had.
I don't either. Everybody is falling over themselves to say ?oh he is so brave? etc etc I don't see anything brave about it. The brave one is his wife who has probably known he is gay for years but allowed him to continue living with her and kept his secret.
I have always said he is gay. he has always been very effeminate and I wasn't at all shocked when I heard the news today.
I think he would have been braver had he told his wife years ago and she could have started a new life with someone else had she wanted to.
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CLKD your gaydar is on the blink 😀 I've got to say I wasn't surprised (despite never considering it before), nevertheless it was very moving x
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I don't consider friendship a waste unless there is violence or addiction problems :-\. They have children together. One should learn from each other and if a friendship breaks down it leaves me sad, sometimes angry but I have never felt it a 'waste'.
What's 'gaydar' Perinowpost ???
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Tnx Teresa. Am I old fashioned in not looking to see what other's might prefer ? Is it hair styling? Jewellery fashions? Does it matter :-\. I knew two girls for 5 years B4 I realised ::) ........ they simply didn't act in any way to raise any queries.
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Must admit, when I heard it on the radio I was gobsmacked. I never knew he was straight.
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I have only seen this on the news and a glimpse on Social media....for me it mainly grates to hear someone being called brave for basically hurting others.
Other than that, Stellajane summed it up for me in the post at 4.18pm.
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My son is gay and lives happily with his partner. My whole family know and consider our son's partner to be part of our family. My son always said that there was no way he would enter into a cover relationship. He does not think this is fair on the woman. I am conflicted. Good on Phillip for sharing this news, but I feel really bloody sorry for his wife. How is she supposed to feel when he has basically said that there is no physical attraction to her in a sexual way? It seems to me that we are all supposed to applaud people who come out at any stage in their lives and marriages, but why do they have to drag other people into this? Why not just be single?
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However: we don't know what has been said over the years between this couple. Love can be shown in many ways, it doesn't have to be physical. 'he has basically said' :-\ ........... that's assumption. She may be glad to be rid of the situation - assumption. I'm sure that the Media will produce stories to suit the reader ;)
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Maybe it was her choice to stay with him.
He is lucky to have friends and family around him that are supporting him. But it must be very difficult going through all this in the public eye.
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I have to agree, she could've been totally ok with the situation and wanted to stay with him.
Which I'm sure is the case, or else they'd have divorced years ago. I'm sure I read somewhere she's known for years.
Some people are just happy to be together, especially if they?re ?best friends? too,.
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Must admit, when I heard it on the radio I was gobsmacked. I never knew he was straight.
Ha ha What a surprise .... not! 😂😂
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My son is gay and lives happily with his partner. My whole family know and consider our son's partner to be part of our family. My son always said that there was no way he would enter into a cover relationship. He does not think this is fair on the woman. I am conflicted. Good on Phillip for sharing this news, but I feel really bloody sorry for his wife. How is she supposed to feel when he has basically said that there is no physical attraction to her in a sexual way? It seems to me that we are all supposed to applaud people who come out at any stage in their lives and marriages, but why do they have to drag other people into this? Why not just be single?
Very honest post yellowflower.
A young man and girl over the road from us got married a few years ago. I said from word go that I thought he was gay so did several other people. He worked in a local shop so everybody knew him. Sadly he was cheating on her with men after about a year together and she suffered a lot of anxiety and depression due to this. There was a really messy divorce some time later and it hurt her very badly.
I think Philip Schofield's wife must have spent many nights alone wondering where he was and he must have lied to her on many occasions. I am just waiting to see now who he has hooked up with because there is no doubt someone has been keeping very quiet.
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I also thought he had got very thin lately.
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Hello ladies
Obviously we don't know the home situation for Phillip and his wife and nor should we as it's their private business. Perhaps his news is considered brave because there is still plenty of prejudice about and his career may suffer. Plus his family may be the subject of hurtful comments.
He said he had been struggling with this for some time and had been having sleepless nights. I wouldn't be surprised if he acknowledges a new partner fairly soon. Good luck to them all I say. Live and let live.
Take care ladies.
K.
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Well said Kathleen. Totally agree. xx
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He actually said in the interview that there wasn't anyone else, and that he wouldn't be rushing out to find someone new anytime soon.
Couldn't agree more though Kathleen live and let live x
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That's what I read in his post which was issued prior to him going live on This Morning ....... yesterday. Maybe the speculation across social media was why he waited as long as this to announce his feelings.
I wish them well. No one knows what is around the corner. For any of us.
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Perhaps he should have done his struggling before he dragged his poor wife into it. Unforgivable IMO. Live and let live is fine but not when it involves hurting someone else.
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That's too near the knuckle really. None of us know what went on either B4 their marriage, during it etc.; it may be revealed later on. If his wife knew and didn't walk away ? also his girls? It's such a person issue. Abuse and alterations in a marriage.
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I'm sure she didn't know when she married him. How would you feel if it was you OH? Knowing that your whole marriage was based on a lie. I know I'd be devastated.
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Surely they can't have been miserable all that while? No one could put on a face on TV 4 all those years if things were bad ......... and the Press would probably have outed him if there had been any cracks, real or otherwise. The apparent rift with Holly went to the media last year, this was probably the start of the explanations.
I would be devastated that my Husband had been sad about something that he felt unable to tell me :-\. Although we've been together for nearly 50 years so we have age and experience on our side. For us the more we are together the more forgiving we are: the good days certainly outweigh any bad ones and I've had plenty :'(. He could have walked, I offered him out ........ he's still here :-*. Still cooking for me ;)
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Well I thought he might have been married to Holly in another thread ;D No idea he had been married so long. Poor wife >:(
Massive PR machine in operation over this ::)
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I think it has to be.
A bit like the Harry Dunn story - huge PR person pushing it forwards :-\
It'll be followed no doubt for a few days .
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There are loads of stories and photos on the Daily Mail website, so they have been working hard.
There are rumours on Twitter of there having been an inappropriate relationship.
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As others have said we don't know what goes on behind closed doors and how much his wife or kids knew. It's possible his wife has known for a long time and they've lived their lives happily in their own way. I know of a couple in a similar position who are staying together until their children are adults. Their focus is on their children so they don't want to have other relationships, and only a few people know their true circumstances and everyone else assumes they are just like the rest of us, whatever that may be!
Personally I don't see why he's brave or a hero because the only difference between him and the millions of other gay people is that he's a celebrity, but that's his career choics so why should that mean he's braver than a doctor or mechanic whose gay?
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He is only braver than the doctor or mechanic because that is the narrative the publicity machine has to play in order to make him untouchable.