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Menopause Discussion => Personal Experiences => Topic started by: Tc on October 23, 2019, 09:32:45 AM

Title: Thank you ladies
Post by: Tc on October 23, 2019, 09:32:45 AM
Hiya ladies. I've been on the forum a year now and just feel I want to say something.

When I made my first post i was in a bad place. I'd never felt so alone, scared and confused.
I couldnt have imagined then how much I would gain from being a member here. 

There is a wealth of knowledge and experience youd be hard pressed to find elsewhere. The sharing of ideas and information is invaluable. I am now far more clued up than I was. But perhaps even more import is the support, the empathy and understanding, genuine kindness and reaching out to help others even though we are all struggeling in our own ways.

Losing my wife almost 4 years ago has been devastating but I've been overwhelmed by the comforting and caring words I have received here. Its helped me get through some very dark days., (and nights)

1, 811  posts later, covering everything from psychological issues to candid conversations about vaginas, bladders , bowels and a few other things I hadnt expected   ???     We may not always all  agree on everything on here, but that's o.k with me. It keeps things real and makes for interesting conversation.

I've said things here I've never said to anyone.   Over these 12 months, I've opened my heart, spilled my guts, vented my spleen , (see what I did there?)  and I've also had a proper giggle at times.  :)

Ladies you have picked me up off the floor, calmed me in meltdowns, given sage advice and encouragement and reassurance.  You've made me laugh, taught me much and inspired me. And I hope along the way I've been able to give some of this back in my own way. 

I certainly dont feel alone in my meno journey anymore so thank you thank you thank you, my friends 

And to anyone who is watching and unsure whether to take that step of making their  first post,  I say do it.!!  You have nothing to lose and much to gain.

Here's to the amazing ladies of the MM forum and here's to Dr Heather Currie. . Long may it continue..
Cheers  🥂

Title: Re: Thank you ladies
Post by: CLKD on October 23, 2019, 10:16:38 AM
 :thankyou: :foryou:
Title: Re: Thank you ladies
Post by: Perinowpost on October 23, 2019, 10:33:17 AM
Thanks Tc

It's a great group, I have bouts of going away for a bit but I always come back x
Title: Re: Thank you ladies
Post by: pants46 on October 23, 2019, 11:41:20 AM
Tc, what a lovely message. And, I for one, feel this place has been enriched by your presence. So thank you.
And happy mm birthday !  ;)
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Post by: jillydoll on October 23, 2019, 11:58:55 AM
What a great post TC.......thanx so much....and every word is SO TRUE....👍🏻
  :bighug:
Title: Re: Thank you ladies
Post by: Yorkshire Girl on October 23, 2019, 03:54:29 PM
What a lovely post Tc  :foryou:
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Post by: ElkWarning on October 23, 2019, 04:13:44 PM
Aye, and what a lovely and loving thing to say.  Biggus huggicus. x
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Post by: Lanzalover on October 23, 2019, 04:19:30 PM
What a lovely post

Lanzalover x
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Post by: Jeepers on October 23, 2019, 04:38:05 PM
hey TC,

That's a fabulous post, and don't forget, you have been a mountain of strength to us too...your contribution to this community is so very appreciated

Love :-*

Jeepers xx
Title: Re: Thank you ladies
Post by: Ladybt28 on October 23, 2019, 04:52:28 PM
 :thankyou:  It always cuts both ways honey - you've been here for us too... when we are down, when we up and when we haven't a clue which way round we are (in my case pretty much most of the time).
Here's to another year coming - onwards and roundaboutwards  :-X ::)
Feel like we should be having a collective toast??!! - break out the Babycham!
xxx
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Post by: AgathaC on October 23, 2019, 08:24:53 PM
I'll join in the collective toast, for sure.
I've definitely become more of a nutter during peri but now I know what it is, everyone's support and guidance has been invaluable.
Thank you all. And here's to you, Tc xx
Title: Re: Thank you ladies
Post by: Tc on October 23, 2019, 08:33:51 PM
Thanks ladies. Agatac and Ladybt you were among the ladies who answered my first post but guess who my very first reply was.... ??
Title: Re: Thank you ladies
Post by: Whatsupwiththis on October 23, 2019, 08:48:20 PM
Beautiful post Tc. 
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Post by: pants46 on October 23, 2019, 08:49:18 PM
I know, I know !!! < hand waving in the air>
Does she like an evening bath ?  ;)
Title: Re: Thank you ladies
Post by: Tc on October 23, 2019, 08:57:12 PM
She loves her evening bath
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Post by: bear on October 23, 2019, 11:22:29 PM
Hi Tc,

What a heartwarming post, TC.  :-*

BeaR.
Title: Re: Thank you ladies
Post by: Hurdity on October 24, 2019, 08:23:22 AM
Aah that's amazing Tc - what a lovely thing to say! We are all here to help and support each other and so pleased you have benefitted! Your posts are always so thoughtful, respectful, friendly and honest and it's great to have you as a member and a regular contributor on this forum. Onwards and upwards as they say :)

Hurdity x
Title: Re: Thank you ladies
Post by: Tc on October 24, 2019, 08:39:43 AM
Thank you BeaR.
Thank you Hurdity. What a lovely thing to say xxxx
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Post by: alibeau on October 25, 2019, 08:55:52 AM
Lovely post TC, I couldn't agree more  :)
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Post by: Blot on October 31, 2019, 05:13:46 PM
Lovely post Tc. You are very kind and supportive to everyone, despite all the problems you have been dealing with yourself, so thank you.

I joined about 15 months ago when I was in a right state with VA and that very same person was one of the first to respond to me as well. I am so very grateful for all the advice and patience of all mm members who I'm sure must think I'm a right selfish so and so at times to be whinging on about my own stuff.

I used to belong to another well known forum but the folks on there can be very judgemental and downright rude at times. This place is the complete opposite. Bless you all ❤️
Title: Re: Thank you ladies
Post by: Annie0710 on October 31, 2019, 06:24:00 PM
Aw that's nice..

I'm a 4 year member here (quite absent lately but I've become a golf-a-holic and obsessed with playing)

This forum has taught me so much and helped enormously too x
Title: Re: Thank you ladies
Post by: Tc on October 31, 2019, 07:23:45 PM
Thank you for your kind words blot and thanks go to you for starting the anxiety support thread which has been a lifeline for so many of us, myself included.

Hiya Annie. You were among the first to reply to my first post as a new member. Hope you're getting that handicap down :)

Xxx
Title: Re: Thank you ladies
Post by: Annie0710 on October 31, 2019, 07:52:25 PM
Thank you for your kind words blot and thanks go to you for starting the anxiety support thread which has been a lifeline for so many of us, myself included.

Hiya Annie. You were among the first to reply to my first post as a new member. Hope you're getting that handicap down :)

Xxx

Aw glad I've helped in welcoming you.
Well yes, started at 42 h'cap last September and now 29.  Have won 9 cups and over £300 in vouchers, so it's been a good year ! X
Title: Re: Thank you ladies
Post by: Tc on October 31, 2019, 09:12:13 PM
That's good going for your handicap annie. Well done xx