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Menopause Discussion => Personal Experiences => Topic started by: pants46 on October 20, 2019, 08:13:03 PM

Title: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: pants46 on October 20, 2019, 08:13:03 PM
I cant stop crying.
Parents on their way to me. But will take them over an hour.
Dont want to call an ambulance.
Help.
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: dangermouse on October 20, 2019, 08:22:04 PM
Everything will be ok.
Please just keep saying that as it's true.

You are not having a breakdown, most likely it's a panic attack so please breathe in with your mouth closed and breathe out for twice as long with you mouth open.

This will all calm your physical panic.
So breathe and say ‘everything will be ok'. Just keep repeating until your parents arrive.

You will be ok. xxx
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: Brassedoff on October 20, 2019, 08:27:43 PM
Hang in there lovely sending you a massive virtual hug, hope your parents are with you now  😢 xx
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: pants46 on October 20, 2019, 08:30:36 PM
They just left their house. They needed to pack all their medications.
It'll be an hour before they get here.
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: Rosie63 on October 20, 2019, 09:06:38 PM
Try to stay calm pants46.  As Dangermouse says, try taking deep breaths to calm yourself and try to distract yourself until your parents get there. They will be with you soon.  You will be ok.....just hang on in there.  We are all here for you.

Sending much love.

Rosie63 x
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: Tc on October 20, 2019, 09:11:43 PM
Pants. Concentrate on breathing. Think about what you can touch, hear and see. You are safe. You're not dying. Nothing bad is going to happen. This will pass.

Keep talking to us they will soon be there xxxx
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: Jeepers on October 20, 2019, 09:16:13 PM
Oh pants

I've just seen this.i hope your parents have arrived and are helping to calm you .

We are all here for you,  it will be okay, and take the fabulous advice from the other ladies.... Keep breathing and concentrate on the things around you.

Sending love

Jeepers xx

Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: pants46 on October 20, 2019, 09:20:09 PM
Cant stop crying.
Am so scared.
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: Tc on October 20, 2019, 09:23:21 PM
Pants. Sit down in a chair. Try to breathe in for 7 out for 10.  What can you feel under your hands?  Can you feel the chair? You are safe.
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: Tc on October 20, 2019, 09:24:26 PM
Keep talking to us. This feeling is going to pass.
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: pants46 on October 20, 2019, 09:25:47 PM
Im still here.
Parents not arrived yet.
Feel so bad calling them. They are in their 70s.
But have no one else.
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: Tc on October 20, 2019, 09:31:01 PM
They will want to help. I'm glad you've called them and so will they be. We all need help sometimes pants. I know what it's like living on your own. But you are not alone. I'm here keep talking to me xx
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: pants46 on October 20, 2019, 09:31:39 PM
They've arrived.
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: Tc on October 20, 2019, 09:36:05 PM
O.k. still here if you need me. PM if you like. Much love my friend xxxx
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: pants46 on October 20, 2019, 10:37:07 PM
Thankyou ladies.
In bed now. Parents in next room. x
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: Jeepers on October 21, 2019, 07:59:32 AM
Morning pants

Just wanted to check in with you, and see how you are doing this morning?

Sending hugs, and positive vibes

Jeepers xx
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: Tc on October 21, 2019, 08:39:28 AM
Hugs from me too pants. Hope you got some rest  xxx
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: Hurdity on October 21, 2019, 09:08:11 AM
Hi pants

Just seen this and sorry to hear how dreadful you are feeling and hope you are feeling better ths morning?

If this happens again and you are having to wait in such misery that long hour, for your parents to drive to you, you know there are organisations you can phone who can talk to you and talk through how you are feeling - so if you haven't already - when you are feeling better, make sure you have their phone numbers to hand?

And wanted to give you a  :bighug: !!

Hurdity x

Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: kayellvee on October 21, 2019, 09:21:36 AM
So sorry pants - I'm glad that your parents are there and hope you are feeling better soon.
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: pants46 on October 21, 2019, 01:49:29 PM
I'm still alive. But probably soon to be jobless. In bed. Drinking camomile tea by the gallon.
Thank you, all, for being here. xx
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: bear on October 21, 2019, 02:54:25 PM
Hi pants46,

Sending you a giant hug, sweetheart  :hug:

You will beat this, trust me, I've been there.

BeaR
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: Tc on October 21, 2019, 03:29:18 PM
Are mum and dad still with you?
Xxxxx
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: Sammas on October 21, 2019, 07:00:17 PM
Sending virtual 🤗 xx
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: Foxylady on October 21, 2019, 07:08:02 PM
Hi Pants, sorry I haven't been on for a few days so just seeing your message, glad the other ladies were able to support you. Sending al my love, hope you feel better today. xx
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: Brassedoff on October 21, 2019, 08:38:54 PM
Hi lovely, hope your feeling somewhat better this evening xx
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: jillydoll on October 21, 2019, 08:55:46 PM
Hi Pants....👋🏼
How you feeling tonight...?
You'll be ok, just remember to breathe, and focus on it. It's just awful isn't it....
We're here for you, your not alone, we know how it feels...
Hope your a bit better.
Xx
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: pants46 on October 21, 2019, 09:45:35 PM
Hi. Well I feel a bit better now. Lots of tears this morning. Then spent the afternoon in bed.
Do feel like I've been hit by a bus though. Feel nauseous and my back hurts too.
My Parents are staying over another night, then I'm going back to theirs for a week or so.
Dad can drive me to appointments and stuff. Going to try to see a Meno specialist. It'll cost a lot, but something has to change. Can't keep going like this.
Wish I'd never meddled and had my ovary removed. My life is fucked up.
Thanks for your messages of support, ladies. You are a beacon of light in the darkness.
Oh ... that's going to set me off again !!
N nite, sleep tight. xx
Title: Re: Help. I'm having a breskdown
Post by: bear on November 01, 2019, 04:02:57 PM
Hi pants46,

How are you doing, sweetheart?

BeaR.