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Menopause Discussion => Personal Experiences => Topic started by: alibeau on September 30, 2019, 10:47:09 AM
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Hello Ladies,
I'm not sure if anyone can help at all, I have such a mixed bag of symptoms and emotions going on, I think I will just try and keep my post to bullet points below to help me keep on track.
I am 47.
I've been peri menopausal for about 2 years, unbearable hot flushes being my main symptom, on the hour every hour of the night and day.
Started taking Femoston 1/10 about a year ago, happy with the results, hot flushes gone.
In March this year I felt like some of my peri symptoms were creeping back (low energy, aching, mild random hot flush) which I was due to address with GP but then....
My 15 year old daughter died suddenly in April.
GP did not want to alter HRT at this time, I agreed.
Diagnosed with anxiety in late April after an anxiety attack at home resulting in a trip to A&E. Paid for a private appointment to see heart specialist (as I was worrying about my chest pains and at this point did not know the cause of my daughters death), ECG, etc all ok.
Took beta blockers (low dose) for a couple of months but I got to the point where I didn't think they were helping so I gradually stopped them (so have been off them for 2 months).
Anxiety symptoms have kicked back in in the last fortnight as we have finally had some preliminary results from the coroner (daughter died of pulmonary aspiration), this hit me hard and felt worse than being back to square one. At the moment, I feel I am getting mentally stronger again but physically suffering....
My current symptoms are:
Fluttery & tight chest at times (anxiety I presume)
Infrequent Palpitations (anxiety I presume)
Low energy (grief/anxiety? hormones?)
General aching (hormones?)
Left sided breast/rib/chest ache/pain (on and off).
Tiny lump found (just beneath my skin) where my left breast meets my armpit. Difficult to find it as I can only feel it when my arm is relaxed and not when my arm is up in the air as I would usually have it when examining my breasts.
I am due to see my GP on the 9th. I don't know where to start with my current list of symptoms when it comes to my appointment, how on earth is my GP supposed to know what to do with me?
If you are still reading, thank you. I don't know what I expect any of you to say if I can't figure all this out for myself......
I suppose I am just looking for anything constructive that may help with my GP appointment?
Thanks.
Ali x
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I have never posted here before but had to say how sorry I am for your terrible loss. 💐
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Have you found out the cause of your DDs sudden death?
Maybe decide which symptom you would like to ease first? Make a list to take to the GP appt. and ask to talk through to see which needs treatment, then ask for explanation of treatment/s offered?
You are grieving, naturally. Have you contacted your local CRUSE group?
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Thank you both.
CLKD - yes she died of pulmonary aspiration (food matter was found in her lungs)....
That is good advice, I think I would be happy to stick with the HRT and perhaps work on easing my anxiety. Thing is I felt better in myself for just typing out everything I was feeling... I would rather not take medication, at times I feel I am a warrior who can work through all this but at others it is all just too overwhelming. The strong me outweighs the overwhelmed me.
My 13 year old daughter has just found a counsellor she can open up to, both my husband and I did not feel the need for counselling in the early days but now feel we would like to give it a go and are awaiting appointments.
Having said all that I would like to give the counselling a go prior to starting any anxiety medication.
I have been practising some meditation/mindfulness and also have signed up for a yoga/meditation course, an hour and a half once a week for four weeks starting this Thursday......
Ali x
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Does knowing why, help? :-\
Relaxation and listening to music won't go astray. We all grieve in different ways and there is no time-line.
I use Bach 'rescue remedy' mouth spray with success but take regular betablockas and anti-anxiety medication to hand 'if necessary'. So there are plenty of ways to try to counteract anxiety surges.
xx
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CLKD - thank you. Erm, yes it does help in a way... we waited 23 weeks for the coroners preliminary findings, we had expected the reason to be some serious underlying health condition that we did not know about, so to find out it was a 'freak event' that killed her was hard to handle and seemed like such a 'pathetic' reason to die.... iyswim.... not that there is ever a 'good' reason.....
I could try the beta blockers again, my problem is, is that the last few months have all been a bit 'foggy' and so I can't clearly remember if they helped at some point (I think they must have done).... and perhaps I could take them more 'as and when' required...
Thanks again, I do appreciate your input!!
Ali x
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I use 20mg Propranolol at night. Initially it was 80mg 3 times a day [years ago] then dropped to 40mg twice a day then for 5 years 40mg at night. I woke with headaches so dropped the dose to 20mg. I also take an anti-depressant at night and 5mg in the morning.
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Hello alibeau
I agree with CLKD in making a list to take to your GP appointment and I feel that counselling for you and your husband will hopefully help ease some of the pain.
I am so sorry for your loss , I cannot begin to imagine what you and your family are going through. Sending love.
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Again, thank you both.
I think that I was too eager to stop the Beta Blockers, I wanted to prove to myself that I was 'ok'..... I honestly can't remember how much they were helping at the time (or not as the case may be)...
I am far more open now to taking appropriate medication as I feel my physical symptoms are not helpful as we try to put our lives back together....
And I guess that the other frustration is that I just want a quick fix when clearly it could take time to find the right dose and medication if/when the time comes.
Thanks again, it has helped a great deal to think all this through in a calm way....
Ali x
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Hello alibeau
I am so sorry for your loss and naturally you are grieving for your daughter. My heart goes out to you.
Your current symptoms do sound like the menopause and as your HRT had been helping your GP may suggest an increase in dose to see if this helps.
I am sorry that I can't be of more help but there are many knowledgeable and sympathetic ladies here who can support you at this difficult time.
Take care and keep posting.
K.
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Thanks Kathleen.
I had a good chat with hubby this afternoon prompted my post and replies on here.
As he quite rightly pointed out, we've only just received the Coroners preliminary findings, it may go to inquest, we haven't even had the opportunity yet to start healing, 23 weeks of worry about what the reason was, plus even today we had to pop into school to speak to the head about informing our daughters friends and parents about the cause of her death. We still have some friends that we need to tell.... It's been a relentless six months, no wonder my body is in turmoil!
Plus the peri menopause.....
I think I probably deserve a medal ;)
Ali x
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You can certainly have a :medal: little steps ;)
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Birdy, CLKD - Thank you x
Your replies are much appreciated - I do feel better for sharing all my thoughts and for your replies, so many thanks.
'To get through the hardest journey we need take only one step at a time, but we must keep on stepping'
Ali x
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I am so sorry for your unimaginable loss. I'm not surprised that you are suffering physically. In so many ways, you are doing amazingly well, just getting up every day and functioning.
Grief works in unexpected ways. I would take as much counselling as you can. Talking helps, especially about your beloved daughter.
My friend lost her son suddenly two years ago and she is just now beginning to feel that she can function, although her life will of course never be the same again.
I would definitely say you deserve a medal. I can see what must be your amazing resilience and lovely nature in that comment of yours.
I would get the GP to rush you through on the boob checks - you've had enough stress not to have to wait. Given your circumstances, I reckon the GP could rustle up an emergency appointment (Not that I'm saying it's an emergency - just good to get it put to bed).
I'd like to repeat how sorry I am for your loss x
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My heart goes out to you - I don't think I've ever felt what that means so deeply.
I am lost with admiration at your strength and determination to treat yourself with love.
You are making your way with grace through a terribly hard time, and one step, one action at a time, you will come through this X
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I am so sorry, I can't imagine how hard it is for you. It's still early days, this sort of grief has to measured in months and years. Good idea to take a list to the gp, it's easy to forget about something. I agree you may need increased hrt. It was 3 months before it cured my anxiety so not a quick fix, and it's likely your anxiety has a different cause. No harm in taking something for it to get you through this difficult time, it doesn't mean you'll be on it forever. I hope the counselling helps, they say it's more useful when some time has passed since the event.
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Hi Ali
Some lovely wise words above. And I am so sorry, so terribly sorry.
In terms of your GP knowing what to do with you ... they have hundreds, sometimes thousands, of patients and so they're fairly experienced. Key here, as you know, is to be able to communicate how you're feeling health-wise, both physically and mentally. Making a list (CLKD is a big fan) is a great way of getting things down on paper and into an order. You've already done that ... How are you sleeping?
In terms of the symptoms you're describing, given that you've had an ECG, yes it's probably 'anxiety', although that's a bit of a catch all term and what you're experiencing is trauma. As you know, the body and mind aren't separate, we come as whole people, and it's not unusual for feelings to present physically. You've got such a lot to process, and it's still ongoing. You mention your family, who you're plainly being extremely strong for, and that also has a 'cost'. It's OK, you can take that at the moment. You're doing this huge thing. I'm really pleased that your 13 year old daughter has found a therapist she can open up to.
My son, who's 26 now, was born with a congenital condition which means he's been very sick from time to time. He has life-threatening epilepsy. Anyway, point being, it's an enormous amount of emotional stress. I kind of know what it's like to carry the whole world on your shoulders, to care for your family in the middle of intense pain, to keep going because if you're not sure what would happen if you stopped ...
CLKD mentions CRUSE above, this is good advice. And the best advice anyone ever gave to me: 'Be kind to yourself'. I manage my anxiety (or basically the fall out from trauma) by emergency meds (Diazepam) and taking time. I can't do yoga or mindfulness, because I can't stop the endless war in my head. However, I do enjoy massage, from a therapist, and find that this balances my body, kind of, or enough. I deliberately make the time to see friends I can trust with my fragility.
Take it easy, Ali.
With all the best wishes in the world, EK
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Thank you all so much.
I know we don't know each other but your support and kind words have really given me a lift.
I am sleeping pretty well all things considered. I purchased the 'Calm' app and so do the 10 min daily meditation before bed (if I haven't done it earlier in the day) and then listen to a sleep story. I would be lost without this as listening to the sleep story stops my mind from wandering..... I have had the odd bad night where I just can't get to sleep but luckily they are few and far between.
Having chatted with Hubby yesterday and compared our thoughts and feelings (taking into account we are all different) it would seem that I am struggling to shake the memories of what we saw on the night my daughter died. Hubby says he only thinks of those images about once a week (and he was with her for far longer than I was and was far more involved, I left the house to get help), I am more like half a dozen times a day, this is where I am hoping some counselling may help as these are not the images I want in my mind when I think of her, I want to picture her fabulous 15 years on earth and not the terrible moment we lost her.....
When it comes to my GP appointment I think my most pressing worry is that as soon as I mention this tiny lump in my armpit she is going to say I need to stop my HRT. I'm not going to say I couldn't cope with that but it really would be a severe blow to both my mental and physical well being....
Anyways, I will cross that bridge next week and see what she says.
Thanks again ladies, honestly you have been a real help.
Ali x
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My heart goes out to you - I don't think I've ever felt what that means so deeply.
I am lost with admiration at your strength and determination to treat yourself with love.
You are making your way with grace through a terribly hard time, and one step, one action at a time, you will come through this X
Thank you.
I have to say that it comes from a place of being absolutely determined that as a now family of three we have to live the best lives we possibly can. I do not want to live the remainder of my life in constant misery and my daughter would not want that for us either.
It's a tough daily battle but I can only hope with time that it might just get a smidge easier.
I deliberately make the time to see friends I can trust with my fragility.
Wow ElkWarning - this exactly. Some friends have bowled me over with their empathy, kindness and support and the funny thing is this support has sometimes come from people that I least expected it from. This works both ways of course and I have felt slightly let down by a few too!
Ali x
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Alibeau. I am so very sorry for your terrible loss.
I agree wholeheartedly with the comments that you should get all the counselling you can.
You are dealing with the loss of your beloved girl but there is also an element of trauma. And post traumatic stress which realy does need counselling to deal with in my experience.
I hope you have some open ended counselling as I did when my wife died. It helps to know that you are not on a time limit and that you can continue to go for as long as you need to.
Hopefully you wont have to wait too long for your counselling but in the meantime as the ladies have said CRUSE helpline is very good and I came across something recently which might be of interest. It's the Sue Ryder foundation.
They offer free one to one online bereavement counselling to "bridge the gap" while people are waiting for counselling to start.
To access it you have to join their online community but you dont have to give any info other than name and email. And you dont have to post or go into the forums to access it. You just have to join. Here is the link
https://support.sueryder.org/bereavement-counselling/about
Good luck with your docs appointment and please feel free to post anytime you wish. I have found everyone on here so supportive to me in my grief.
Xx
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Hi Tc,
Thank you for your message, I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you.
I do think that there is some element of PTS that I need help with. We were referred to a charity the night my daughter died, they contacted us very quickly but then the support was slow to come forward. My 13 yo daughter saw a counsellor quite early on but did not 'bond' with her. We then spent most of the summer chasing an alternative counsellor for her which was worth the effort as they seem to be making some progress. She will receive 12 sessions, we can request more, we may or may not get them. We are fortunate enough to be in a position to be able to pay for our daughters counselling ongoing for as long as she needs if she decides this is what she wants.....
Both myself and my husband have now switched charities to a more local one and are awaiting appointments. We feel that we can cope in the meantime. We have been offered up to 24 sessions each.....
Thanks again, I really do appreciate you taking the time to reply.
Ali x
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Interesting about the Sue Ryder support - tnx Tc!
Little steps. As years went by I gave myself 10 mins in the morning and 10 mins in the evening to totally focus on the gaps in my Life. Now when I find a lovely space I take time to simply 'be'.
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Interesting about the Sue Ryder support - tnx Tc!
Little steps. As years went by I gave myself 10 mins in the morning and 10 mins in the evening to totally focus on the gaps in my Life. Now when I find a lovely space I take time to simply 'be'.
I currently use the 10 mins to 'rest' my mind, to try and clear out all thoughts as my mind feels messy and busy. I am scared to have time to simply be as my thoughts head off into areas that are just too painful...... obviously quite often this is unavoidable though.
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This too will pass. We may not want to stop grieving - many feel that by letting go means that they care less but that simply isn't true. It is never the same for each person because we all deal differently with situations. Put 50 people in the same experience and there will be 50 different reports and recovery journeys.
Adjustment is difficult - little steps :hug:
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Good afternoon.
For a certain type of experience, one that's very sudden, over quickly and shocking, EMDR is apparently very useful. The idea is that it shifts the persistent relived moment and allows for it to be processed. In a situation such as yours, Ali, it's the recommended course of action in both an NHS and private setting. I have a friend who was the victim of an unprovoked and multiple knife attack and he says it was really helpful. He also works with British service veterans and says his client group have been treated with this method with success.
https://tavistockandportman.nhs.uk/care-and-treatment/treatments/eye-movement-desensitization-and-reprocessing-emdr/
It's really nice you can feel the love here. x
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Again, thank you both.
I really do feel the love and it means the world to me.
Ali x
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Hello Ali
Firstly, I just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear of your dreadful loss, I wish I could say something to help, but really, there isn't anything is there? I hope that the love and support of your family and friends is bringing you a little comfort in what must be the saddest of times.
I just wanted to say, that a couple of years ago, I lost my Dad, and his death was not really peaceful, and those last moments haunted me, and sometimes still do.
However, as time goes on, I have started to remember better times, and even though I still feel traumatised by the end, I can sometimes smile about my Dad. Its still very early days for you, so as Elk says "be kind to yourself"
I use Calm, and find it invaluable for sleeping. It works soo well, that I still haven't got to the end of the Matthew Mchaunghay story!
I'm glad you came here, there are a lot of amazing women here, and I'm sure that you will get loads of support, I know I have
Take care Ali
Jeepers xx
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Just wanted to say how sorry I am about your daughter. 💐xxxx
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Thank you Jeepers & Sally S.
I too would be completely lost without the 'Calm' app. Just being able to focus on the spoken words of the sleep stories stops my mind from wandering, a total godsend and like you I rarely get to hear the ending!!!
I had a mini melt down yesterday morning, we've still got a lot going on with the Coroner and also communicating with the school about how best to tell both my daughter's close friends about the cause of death. We also were informed by the Coroner that there will be an inquest, probably in Feb.
Then I had a text from a parent saying that a group of my daughters friends want to do something in remembrance of her at their school prom next summer. This is such a wonderful gesture, it means the world to me but is also a slap around the mush that she really is gone.
Things just got on top of me, I had a really really good cry and then a chat with Hubby, got it all out and am feeling brighter again today.
Thank you all for listening.
Ali x
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Our young people are more savvy about issues than we probably are even as adults. Maybe get them into an intimate space with the knowledge that you have news about your daughter's cause of death and ask how much they know about the particular condition - bring it gently into conversation with a large box of 'kleenex'. You may be surprised at how collected they will be about it.
No one reacts the same and we shouldn't assume that they will be as affected as you and your family as they are a step away and also, they will have filled their Life in other ways. A prom involvement, how nice. Maybe once they know more about the cause of death they will be able to focus on what do remember your daughter : a collection perhaps or a dance-a-thon ..........
I think you are entitled to have melt downs, it's expected and really is early in the whole process. :hug:
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Thank you CLKD.
The school have been fantastic. We are due to go into school towards the end of next week, into a room they call ‘breathing space' with our daughters friends and after much discussion my husband has decided he will talk to the kids, the school counsellor and myself will be present.
Have a good weekend x
Ali xx
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I'm sure she will be very much missed by her friends and never forgotten Ali. I imagine it will be hard but I hope it's a comforting experience for both your family and the young people.
Much love xx
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I've only just seen your post Alibeau.....
I've just got to say I'm terribly sorry about your loss. What a terrible time for you, it's the most horrific thing any mother and father could possibly go through. I'm truly so sorry....💐
Words fail me....xx
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Thank you both.
I'm busy with work today, hope to fit in a dog walk, trying to keep my mind occupied and then GP appointment tomorrow.
Thanks all.
Ali x
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I'd go for the dog walk first ;D - tell us more about your pooch ;-) we have a dog breed thread somewhere ::)
Remember, kids are resiliant as long as they get told the truth.
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Hi Alibeau,
I'm so very sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you're going through.
BeaR.
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Evening all.
GP appointment went well, hubby came with me as I obviously knew my daughter would come into the conversation and so he was able to talk about the tough stuff on my behalf.
I have tried to persevere with my physical anxiety symptoms for nearly six months and so although I do not feel depressed my GP felt that I would benefit from something just to take the edge off my symptoms and so she has prescribed Fluoxetine 20mg once a day. She said this was her preferred medication as she felt it had the least side effects. Does that sound about right?
She then examined my breast/armpit lump, agreed it was tiny and has referred me to the breast clinic for an ultra sound.
Given all the above she felt it was best to leave my HRT alone for now, to be reviewed in three months.
I have an appointment to go back in four weeks to review the 'Fluoxetine' situation!
I would appreciate any feedback on the above including is there a 'best' time of day to take the Fluoxetine? Morning or bedtime?
Many thanks ladies.
Ali x
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Hey ali.
I'm on fluoxetine (also known as prozac). Been on it for 2 weeks and 4 days :)
Best time to take it is in the morning, just in case it disturbs your sleep. And try to take it after eating something. So try and have breakfast first.
I am taking it for the same reason as yourself - physical anxiety. Although my mood hasn't been great over the last few months, so hopefully it will help with that too. I'm not on hrt at the moment. I think the fluoxetine has helped reduce my evèning heat (inferno).
Any side effects will last 2 to 3 weeks. The full benefit comes after about 6 weeks. So be patient with it.
Sending you love. xx
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Thank you Pants46!
Only day two of the fluoxetine and I am feeling very nauseous! Started a couple of hours after taking my first tablet yesterday. Obviously I'll stick with it but not much fun so far!!! ;)
Hope you are doing ok :)
Ali x
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Nausea is what caused me to stop most ADs until fortunately we hit on one that didn't make me feel sick.
I always take any new meds at night ............ ::). hopefully your symptoms will improve.
Let us know how the ultra-sound goes, do you walk in or have to wait for an appt.?
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Keep going Ali. It's not much fun, but it could really help. You won't know until you push through. Keep eating regularly. Small portions of yummy food. Keep hydrated too. You can do this. xx
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Thank you both.
I will receive an appointment through the post for the breast clinic....
I was expecting the worst yesterday as I popped my second tablet but I didn't feel so nauseous yesterday which is good. Strangely my physical anxiety symptoms have improved over the past couple of days which is also good?!? So all things considered, I'm doing ok :)
We went into school to speak with my daughters friends yesterday, the school counsellor spoke to them first on their own, informed them of the cause of death and then we joined them. They were all in tears, very upsetting but I am so glad we talked to them and that they were all together, they were all able to comfort one another. The last thing we wanted was one of them to read about it whilst home alone etc so I think we did a good thing....
Thanks again ladies. Have a good weekend.
Ali x
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Morning.
I think joint discussion is good. So many issues are seen as 'adult' and the younger people are put to one side. Eventually they will be able to talk to you about your DD so you will gain other insights. Maybe in time, make an album?
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Thanks CLKD.
We've already had a glimpse into DD's school life, her friends made a PowerPoint of photos which was shown at a memorial assembly, it was lovely to see, I always knew that DD was witty but her friends say she was just so funny and the pictures showed this.... they also made us a memory book filled with hearts with hand written messages on from all the children who have been effected, the school have been brilliant....
Ali x
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That's lovely.
How's your day looking? Dog walking :scottie: ?
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You wouldn't be asking if you could see the weather here ;D Pouring down this morning!!
Hopefully it might clear up later and we can take the pooches out... working from home in the meantime! :)
:thankyou:
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Have you told us about your dogs in the dog breed thread - I'm all ears :D
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Will do :scottie:
Well, the wheels totally fell off the bus yesterday!
Took my third fluoxetine tablet after breakfast.
I had felt nauseous on day one but ok on Thursday.
After my third tablet (one a day 20mg) I felt really drowsy so went for a lie down. Had a doze, woke up with terrible headache and nausea. Then my whole body was trembling, pins and needles all over, short of breath, chest pains, hot and cold...
Hubby called our GP who said to call 999!
Ambulance arrived, lovely people, monitored me, blood pressure was sky high when they arrived but then it eventually came down. Verdict was side effects of the fluoxetine possibly with anxiety symptoms also.....
I felt terrible all day and night, I am just starting to come around a bit now, haven't eaten for 24 hours, just sipping some Lucozade!
I have got through six months without medication and at this point I don't think I am brave enough to try any alternative meds....
At least it got me out of helping hubby with the decorating ;D
Ali x
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That's a bit of a harsh way of not wielding a brush though :o
Awful. Sometimes meds simply don't work for people. Don't take any more. Relax. Lots of me time. You did all the right things and were advised by the paramedics, aren't they brilliant! They helped my parents a lot, one night Dad was stuck in the bath :-\ and they kept Mum on the 'phone with advice until the guys got there: helped Dad out, into bed, made sure his obs. were satisfactory. No need for hospital but they felt reassured.
Was the dog symptathetic ? :D
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Thank you CLKD.
Anyone have any idea how long it will take for this medication to leave my system. Only took 3 20mg tablets fluoxetine, one a day. Took last one on Friday.
Today I am still feeling rotten. My physical anxiety symptoms are miles worse than they have ever been prior to starting this medication and still are today...
Any feedback please, I would do anything just to rewind to Tuesday 🙄
Thanks in advance.
Ali x
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Hey Ali, so sorry to hear you had such problems with fluoxetine. Sometimes ADs can make anxiety worse in the first couple of weeks, and it takes up to 6 weeks before they really start to work.
But I feel your pain. I took Sertraline for 6 days, before I had to give it up. The day after stopping I had terrible shakes :'(
The thing with fluoxetine is that it stays in your system for 5 weeks. But I think that is only after you have been on it for a while and it has built up in your system. So I wouldnt take anything else for at least 5 weeks (like St John's Wort), but I think it will be out of your system a lot quicker than that, because you only took 3 tablets.
Try and relax. Have some warm baths with aromatherapy oils. Drink camomile tea. Walk the dog.
I'm sure you will feel better in a few days.
xx
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5 weeks seems along while :-\.
How R U this afternoon? :bighug: feet up, doze. Let your body come back to neutral. Some medication side-effects can be awful. I had prozac years ago and felt like I was walking on shoes with 7" soles :o it must have looked funny 2 anyone watching me gently putting feet down, I was afraid that they would sting each time :-\
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Again, huge thanks to you both, it really is a help to read your replies.
I have been on the sofa since Friday! Plenty of trashy tv and lucozade!
Hubby is busy decorating without me ;D
I slept well last night but am not recovering as quickly as I had imagined I would. Today I still have a tight, fluttery chest, totally drained, no appetite. At least the nausea and headache have passed :)
I only took the meds for three days so am hoping I improve soon...
Thanks again.
Ali x
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It's a bit of a shock to the body and brain and may be a slight adrenaline rush which can cause awful feelings.
Is The Husband doing a good job ;) ???
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It's a bit of a shock to the body and brain and may be a slight adrenaline rush which can cause awful feelings.
Is The Husband doing a good job ;) ???
;D ;D ;D I haven't actually checked!!! But given he's been running around after me all weekend I'd probably keep it buttoned even if he's done a botch job ;D
That makes sense re the adrenaline rush, hoping it passes soon.
Appreciate you taking the time to reply xx
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It's OK. Sitting here with feet up, B Touring Cars on the TV waiting for evening meal then Strictly.
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Hello,
Just a little update from me.
I am still getting over my Fluoxedine incident! It took me a good week to even start to feel human again. Very slow progress. I am now up and about but am left feeling dizzy, fuzzy and light headed? Weak and jittery too. Particularly in the morning? Don't know how long this will last?
I have an appointment at the breast clinic on the 31st and we also have a family appointment on the same day with a charity who may be able to offer both myself and my husband counselling (my daughter is already receiving counselling through a different charity).
Thanks everyone.
Ali x
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Ali, I was wondering how you are. Timely update. Glad you are up and about.
I am at week 4 on the fluoxetine, and had a breakdown on Sunday. Emergency Dr appointment yesterday, and she said to up my dose. Not sure I can do it. Feel like I've been hit by a bus. Another day to be spent in bed.
I'm sorry, I can't tell you how long the weakness and jittery feeling will last. I have that all the time anyway.
Wishing you well. And please keep us updated with how you are doing. xx
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Thank you Pants, so sorry to hear you are still struggling, life is sh*te at times..... I wish I had a magic wand for us all....
You hang in there and fingers crossed you see some improvement very soon.
Best wishes xx
Ali x
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I have sudden feelings of 'oh' - it's not dizziness per se but a feeling of my head not being quite where it ought to be ::). I have a nerve in the back of my neck which gets trapped if I move suddenly.
R U hydrated?
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Morning,
The Dizziness is steadily improving, just slow progress. It's that feeling when you move your eyes/head and your brain takes a few seconds to catch up!!!
Bad night on the sleep front, fluttery chest until about 3am... not to worry though as I still feel much better than a week ago!
Hope everyone is doing ok.
Ali x
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Glad you are on the up and up. I may be quiting the fluoxetine too. We'll see. I cant get an appointment with my Dr until the 9th Nov >:(
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Aww I do feel for you....I was given fluoxetine ( if that's Prozac) for the anxiety I had...
Made me feel really ill, after about 6/7 days on it...I could feel my blood pressure dropping and feel like I was about to pass out, started one night in bed, it woke me up. Scared the life out of me, I stopped it straight away, and it took nearly a full week to get out of my system.
I stayed the whole week laying down on the settee or else I'd have passed out, had to keep my head lower than the rest of me. When I told the doctor what had happened, she looked at me as if I was crazy! 🙀 🤬 so, I'm wishing anyone whose on this drug, the very best of luck as it didn't suit me at all....x
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Thanks Ladies,
I had a good day yesterday, first day in a while where I felt some relief from my physical anxiety symptoms and that makes such a difference to my state of mind.
Coincidentally (or not!) I visited my hairdresser and so had a good long chat with her (known her for over 20 years) and so I am wondering if 'off loading' has helped? and I am therefore also feeling more positive about speaking with a counsellor (initial meeting/family assessment next week)......
Slept well the past two nights, physical symptoms remain low this morning and so fingers crossed for another good day and weekend too.
Sending you all love and light ;)
Ali x
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So after my positive post yesterday, palpitations kicked in and have not stopped since, v unpleasant to say the least. Also feeling weak and jittery again....
I've ordered some magnesium spray to try.....
At least I managed to sleep well :)
Have a good weekend ladies xx
Ali x
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A good sleep makes a HUGE difference!
I've never had palpitations ....... just the instant nausea in the gut, weak thighs, calves then full blown anxiety >:(
Make sure that you eat regularly ;-)
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Will do CLKD - thank you x
:thankyou:
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We have a thread about 'what are we cooking tonight' ::) - sometimes we talk about menopause :D
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Not so little update from me...... ;)
Breast clinic appointment went well, had an examination, mammogram and ultrasound, all came back clear - phew. Wonderful doctors and nurses, fabulous experience as these things go!
Then on to family appointment with new counsellors for assessment. Both Hubby and I are going ahead with separate counselling, now just wait for an appointment to come through....
I have a GP appointment booked for Tuesday. This was supposed to be to review my progress on fluoxetine. However I stopped taking it but am still of a mind to talk to GP about upping my HRT from Femoston 1/10 to 2/10, my logic being....
I still don't truly know whether my physical anxiety symptoms (currently fluttery chest and palpitations) are down to grief or peri?
I am experiencing the odd hot flush (not a real problem at the mo)
I am feeling very achey again....
Do you think I might benefit overall from an increased dose or would I be best advised to leave well alone at the moment? Any feedback appreciated.
Thank you :)
Ali x
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hi! Probably if you don't try you won't know. How about putting the product name into the search box to see what pops up and see how others manage?
Oestrogen levels dropping may cause aches and pains as muscles become lax due to lack of elasticity. Have you tried over the counter pain relief as necessary.
If you stopped the Fluoxetine it may be a side effect - the fluttery feelings.
Glad that the breast appt was good, one thing you can put away. I think that counselling gives us the chance to vent without someone telling us 'that can't have happened because ........ ' . Discuss, decide, ditch ;-)
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Hi CLKD and thank you.
I have had a good read up on the forum as you suggested - will see what GP thinks on Tuesday....
:thankyou:
Ali x
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Great news from the breast clinic. That was one worry you could have done without. That's behind you now. Good.
I'm really very pleased that it was an okay experience for you.
Hope this week goes well for you and sending support and admiration of your coping skills xx
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Thank you AgathaC x
GP happy to increase my HRT to Femoston 2/10. I will finish my current pack of 1/10 and then do the switch.
:love:
Ali x
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Let us know how you get on?
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Will do, keep your fingers crossed for me!!!!
Ali x
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I have everything Xd ;)