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Title: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: lemondrop on September 25, 2018, 05:21:35 PM
Hey Ladies ,
Since I've realised that I've got meno brain ( well I sincerely hope that's what it is - all the bloods I had done a couple of weeks back have come back normal ), it seems to have got worse? Or am I just hyper aware of it now ?
I can't seem to multitask any more I always mess up somehow , I had a thing with words which seems to have gone for the moment , I can't remember sometimes doing things that I've done ( I.e. Opening or closing a awindow or door ) and the lack of concentration and daydreaming is unreal . Sometimes fell like I'm in a daze ! But so far haven't forgotten anything important ...... go into a room and forget what I'd decided to go in there for two minutes earlier ...got I bit upset this morning cos I put the wrong cushions on the wrong sofa ( pathetic I know)

Hoping for some reassurance . So I can stop worrying about it and accept it .  :-\

Lemondrop xxxxx
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: jillydoll on September 25, 2018, 05:32:18 PM
Hi Lemondrop.

Yeah, I think the more we focus on something, the worse it gets.
There's another thread on here somewhere called ‘doing stupid things ‘.
Have a read, we're all the same, sometimes it can be quite funny.
Don't stress, it will get better I'm sure.
I've lost count how many times I've gone into a room and forgot what for.
Sometimes I wonder around the supermarket and forget what I've gone in there for, and you can bet
your bottom dollar, I've come home without it..lol
I think we've all worried about it at first, but then I really think the more we worry, the worse it gets..

Jd xx
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: CLKD on September 25, 2018, 06:19:56 PM
Acceptance is helpful.  I have had to make lists for years  ::) but now if I leave my shopping list behind, I can no longer remember what I have written on it.

I go upstairs and can't remember ........... I have no recall so can't back-track if I lose anything, i.e. 'phone, keys, reading glasses ........ we have a thread: 'doing stupid things' : which might reassure you ;-)

..... and look out for the 'strange woman in your house'  :whist:
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: BlueButterfly on September 25, 2018, 08:10:01 PM
I've always had a bit of a spacey brain but I knew it was getting bad when I found the phone in the refrigerator one day. I don't know how long it was in there. It was cold. I would have had quite the time if someone had tried to call me. I stressed for awhile and then just gave up. The harder I try not to do it, the worse I am. I have just accept it for now. My family will just have to answer the same question 2 or 3 times and deal with it since I can't remember asking the first time.
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: lemondrop on September 25, 2018, 09:15:15 PM
Thanks for the replies ,
Stella Jane , I have been to gp and been put on hrt , and had bloods , it's not happening constantly, just  few times a day and it is definitely worse I think if I stress over it or am very tired . I did some dementia memory tests online and results were fine . Anyway with me it's more absent mindedness and foggy thoughts sometimes ? I don't forget names etc ( fingers crossed ) .
This is started for me after a period of very poor sleep , maybe a connection there . So maybe not so weird after all .

Lemondrop xxx
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: jillydoll on September 25, 2018, 09:50:48 PM
Yes, sleep deprivation is the worst.
When I have that, I can't remember what day it is, never mind anything else..lol
Bluebutterfly, my kids get fed up with me asking the same question over,
I don't know if it's my brain or because I'm not totally listening to them, so therefore,
have to ask again.
I know it does my head in....just as much as them....
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: CLKD on September 25, 2018, 10:26:02 PM
Going to update 'doing stupid things' thread, if I can remember ......
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: jillydoll on September 25, 2018, 10:42:35 PM
Can't remember that thread, lmao
                                 
             :rofl:






   
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: CLKD on September 25, 2018, 10:44:00 PM
Did too!
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: jillydoll on September 25, 2018, 10:50:28 PM



      :rofl:
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: Roseneath on September 26, 2018, 11:28:50 AM
lemondrop This was totally me last year. Please don't worry. I ended up at the GP twice in a period of 6 months thinking I had dementia.
I felt distracted/anxious/tearful. I do something daft because I am distracted (e.g. got into the passenger seat when I was ment to be driving or put the cereal box in the wrong cupboard. I called the local cinema the theatre once to a friend.   Then I go into a hyper worried state. I too did all the on-line tests in a state of panic at all hours of the day and night! (The one with the three hills and the Sage one!). Could I recognise a harp/rhino/draw a clock face/, recite the months backwards etc  Of course I could.  Then a week or so later the brain fog cleared and I was fine again. Felt stupid. Than bam about 5 months later I get into the same hormonal infused loop. Lack of sleep and worry play a huge part on this too.  Talking to the GP totally reassured me. I now notice that my kids and friends are constantly making daft errors. I think at this age and because the hormone changes make us feel rubbish we are hyper aware of it. Plus brain fog is a recognised part of Peri/Meno.
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: CLKD on September 26, 2018, 08:16:29 PM
Mine tends to stop in doorways  >:( and I'm usually behind him ....... a gentle  :kick: would you recommend?

When tired meno brain is worse.
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: CarryWarry on September 26, 2018, 09:53:33 PM
I feel better now I've read this thread.  In the last 2 weeks I've had 3 things go bonkers.   My kitchen was changed SEVEN years ago.  I went to the old cupboard for the bin and later I went to the island for cutlery (no drawers in it now).
Then a few days later I went to flush the toilet pulling the blind cord and that toilet doesn't even have a chain flush!!!!  Losing it!!  🤣😂🤣😂😅😅😂
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: lemondrop on September 27, 2018, 09:00:54 AM
Hi all,

Well this is a comforting read . Re. the kitchen thing , ours was changed 12 years ago and both myself and hubby sometimes go to the wrong cupboard for cups ...we are having a new one soon so I think we will have to have signs on all the doors ! Yesterday was ok for me but i ve had right old morning of it today , looking for deodorant whilst putting it on  :o, folded  a sofa throw and then my son asked for it and i looked all round for it even though id put it down two mins earlier ( to be fair i was on tablet AND trying to see thru my reading glasses  cos had forgotten was wearing them - don't get me started on the whole reading glasses/sunglasses thing ....)and was flushing at same time ...called windscreen wipers screen scrapers ! 7 out 10 on the scatty scale , including the weird words in head  ::)
Roseneath are you me ? yy to all the test things . Actually I cancelled the memory test at docs cos I googled it and knew I would pass it .
Oh and something else . I nearly tried to stick a pantie liner to my thigh instead of my pants when I first went on HRT patch because I was nervous and obssessed about it ..... :o
Lemondrop xxx
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: Roseneath on September 27, 2018, 03:52:54 PM
lemondrop . I think the best medicine we could have would be a group hug and a good laugh and cry. I am freaking out today  because I have been doing these huge painful burps after eating a M & S salmon/soy salad. I just looked in the diary and it was 5 years ago this month I freaked out at the GP because I thought I was burping too much! I even did 2 trips to A & E with my burping. We should just get a leaflet saying Welcome to your new life of anxiety, paranoia and accompanied by a myriad of horrid symptoms cause by fluctuating hormones'. Talk about life begins at 40.....                                     
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: lemondrop on September 27, 2018, 04:04:46 PM
Yes I could definitely cry ...was 90 % normal yesterday and a bit relieved , not so good today , been flushing too and I am bit worried this hrt isn't going to work for me  :( but I've only been on it a couple of weeks so will give it more time ...


Lemondrop xx
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: CLKD on September 27, 2018, 04:39:42 PM
It's The Change - does what it says on the tin!

Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: RubyLove on September 27, 2018, 05:01:02 PM
What I would like to know is whether any one thinks their Meno brain improved after they started HRT. I am only 3 weeks in and it hasn't helped. The only other person I know on HRT after 3 months days she still has the same level of brain fog.
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: Poppi on September 28, 2018, 02:03:18 PM
I am so pleased to have found this thread and to feel reassured that I'm not alone. Recently I've been unable to stop crying once I start and wonder if stronger HRT could help? The only difference I've noticed that HRT makes (after 14 months) is no more constant hot flushes, it hasn't helped with meno-fog or meno-memory but I'd hate to have to suffer hot-flushes again  :'(

Does anyone else feel they are either rushing around very, very busy or have a chance to relax but find worrying, often about very little, overtakes the relaxing feeling? Or maybe I'm just a moaning-minnie?
 Poppi x
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: lemondrop on September 28, 2018, 02:21:31 PM
Oh no sorry that you're still suffering . On reflection I think I may have had the fog for quite a while , just hadn't put two and two together ( probably due to the fog lol )  It got worse recently and as I am approaching twelve months wi th no loss whatsoever ,  I think my hormones are at an all time low at the moment. So am hoping for some improvement , there has been a bit , it comes and goes . I honestly feel drunk and hungover at the same time sometimes , with none of the nice bit ! I do silly little mistakes often . Getting used to it now .  :-\

Lemondrop xx
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: Hurdity on September 28, 2018, 07:45:13 PM
I haven't read all of this thread but just to say for anyone on HRT and still suffering from brain fog ( foggy-head?), if you are on continuous combined HRT then the progestogen you are taking could be the culprit as it can cause these sdie effects - I know I get foggy headed when I'm on the prog part of my cycle (12 days every 6-8 weeks) and no way could I take it all the time. Just a thought as a possible explanation for some women anyway!

Hurdity x
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: lemondrop on September 28, 2018, 08:07:28 PM
I was foggy pre HRT - it's what made me see the gp xxx
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: Roseneath on September 29, 2018, 05:00:39 PM
My brain fogs comes and goes no matter what regime I have been on in the last 3 years.  Two days ago I felt terrible,  I would have taken anything. Now I feel fine; all the anxiety gone. I have had this pattern for three years now. Mostly every 6-8 weeks I get a 4-5 days of anxiety/dizzy/off/poor sleep feeling. I have found nothing to stop these episodes and all the GP (Eight in total I have seen now) can say is that it is ' fluctuating hormones' . Really pees me off why science can't be more specific as we all seem to have these OK  then Bleeding Awful days no matter what we are popping/pumping/doing etc.
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: lemondrop on September 29, 2018, 05:27:36 PM
Well I've had the dire lack of concentration for a month to varying degrees at points during the day , feels horrible then it will suddenly go for a bit . Very annoying, really pees me off . Just want it gone  >:( . Hate it so much . Could cry . Sorry feeling sorry for myself and anxious . Going to try put it all out of mind and watch strictly now . Xxx
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: Roseneath on October 03, 2018, 07:19:11 PM
Hi lemondrop. I really sympathise. My Peri has been a two year slog of worry and anxiety with one symptom after another, GP trip after another. I sometimes get in such a state a can feel the panic rising. It feels like the end of the world. Taking deep breathes helps and the feelings always shift. At the moment I have these vertigo like feelings, a bit like car sickness; not exactly dizzy. GP has already done bloods and testing BP but puts it down to anxiety or / and inner ear virus. I have had it before a few years ago but I find I just dwell 100% on this new symptom wanting it to go. My last resort is to go down the sertraline (AD) route which a few GPs have offered. I feel sometimes this is the end of the line option but part of me just wants a rest from the anxiety. Huge to you.
Title: Re: Does " meno brain " get worse if you worry about it ?
Post by: CLKD on October 03, 2018, 08:12:40 PM
I have various medications daily and have had a 'hung over' feeling for years, better than the alternative though  ;)