Menopause Matters Forum
Menopause Discussion => Personal Experiences => Topic started by: Yammy1 on April 24, 2017, 09:14:21 AM
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Hi all not sure if this is the right place to post but here goes. Dad passed away 3 months ago and between grief and nemopause I don't know weather I'm coming or going, I had a fall a week ago and bumped back of my head. I didn't pass out or vomit and apart from a bump I seem OK, but my anxiety is through the roof. I'm terrified to go out even to the shops in case I pass out,I know my hormones are not helping the situation but I really am finding it hard to function
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Hi there.
Bless you. I took had grief in this meno journey loaing my eldest son at 23.
Mindfullness and taking only one day at a time was my saviour.
Sending hugs
Woodlands xxx
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Thank you woodlands,and I am so sorry for your loss. :'(, I was very clos to my Dad and I think his loss is only hitting me now, My logical head is telling me that if there was Any damage from fall I would know by now, but due to meno my logical head isn't around much these days :P. One day at a time x
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Try not to worry. I have a few friends who fell and banged the back of their head. One cut it open and went to hospital and had to have the cut glued. Dr's told her just to watch out for signs of concussion and to take it easy for a few days. She was fine apart from a headache. Another friend fell and banged her head but no bump. It's actually worse if you don't have a bump. She was seen by Dr's and they said she was OK but again, she had a headache for about a fortnight.
My daughter fell and banged her head when she was young and there was no bump plus she fainted. We took her to the Dr and they just did tests on her checking her balance etc and she was given the all clear.
I'm sure if you didn't pass out, didn't vomit etc then you are fine to go about your normal routine but I can understand your anxiety making you panic but rest assured you don't have a concussion or anything untoward.
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Thank you megamind, I think sometimes we just need reassurance. I just went to local shops(only 10 minute trip) but the main thing is I did it X
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Do the head injury check list: vomiting? dizzyness? wanting to sleep? not being able to be woken? double vision?
How do you feel having been out in the fresh air? I fell about 10 years ago - not so much as a bump but oh the bruising which continued to 'come out' for 2 weeks after ::)
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Well done Yammy. I know it's easier said than done but try to fight your anxiety, don't let it win. You did well there walking to the shop. Little steps x
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I really don't know what I would do without this site, the support and advice is so comforting. No one judges you, just being able to talk is half the battle. Once again thank you all so much, today was a good day, who knows what tomorrow will bring, but as the song goes 'one day at a time'.
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You'll be fine! Little steps .......... what do you take for anxiety?
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I'm not on any ads, but I have a couple of zanax and take half one when I get really bad. Had hysterectomy 4.5 years ago and my pelvic floor and bowel were damaged at the time, I'm going into hospital next month for repair so that also has me anxious, I really have a fear of hospitals. I'm going in on wed for pre op tests so I am going to tell them how anxious I am and hopefully they will be understanding x
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Take a list of your worries. Ask the questions that you need answers to. Do check that you aren't having one of those 'mesh' operations until they have been improved. When I had worries I spoke for along while with the Anaesthetist who is in control of pain relief etc. during surgery.
let us know how you get on.
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Will do, thanks again
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Hi all pre op went well, got to talk to anesthetist and told her how nervous I am, she put me at ease and said as soon as I arrive for op on 24th she will give me something to relax me. My only concern is that the bump I got when I fell almost 3 weeks ago has gone down a lot(but not completely) is still very tender to touch and sometimes stings, probably worrying about nothing as usual :'(
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Thank you megamind, I know I'm being silly but you know yourself how your ur mind can make you think all sorts, when will this meno end :'(. My hormones are all over the place
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Show the anaesthetis (sp) the bump when you book in next time .
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I think I'll go see doc this morning, not sure if it's anxiety causing me to feel so bad. But I feel really sick and lightheaded and my bump is sore and stinging I also have a niggling headache, I'm just scared she'll send me to hospital :'(. Sorry for being such a moan but I'm exhaunted from worrying all the time
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Worry is exhausting! Let us know how you get on!
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Hi Yammy, You will be good, the longer you hold on to something the more its gonna hurt. Hope things will change positively for you..
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Thank you, I decided against running to doc again, I treated myself to a few extra hours in bed, I am determined to fight these horrid feelings and ride it out. My logical head is winning at the moment and telling me my head is fine, that if there was anything wrong it would have shown by now(it's been three weeks since fall). I am going to attempt an hour or two shopping with my daughter now and see how i get on, don't know if i'm being brave or stupid ;D, I'll check in later and let you know how I get on.
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Probably both ;D. I had a hair follicle which was sore, the more I kept feeling to see if it had grown, the sorer it became: Himself gave it a good squeeze eventually :sick02:
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The best thing is distraction. It's worse to sit at home alone with the anxious thoughts running through your head.
Have you seen those things that are all the rage with kids? These:
https://www.ebay.co.uk/p/?iid=292090268680&&&adgroupid=33676502101&rlsatarget=pla-271883376915&abcId=893836&adtype=pla&merchantid=114898570&poi=&googleloc=9046497&device=c&campaignid=707291931&crdt=0&chn=ps
They were originally designed to help kids with Aspergers/ADHD/Autism. My two sons now have one and my eldest son loves it. He's got a short attention span but it has kept him entertained. I had a go myself and found myself a bit transfixed by it! You should give one a go. Also, have you tried wearing a rubber band on your wrist and flicking it when you feel anxious? That's supposed to distract the mind.
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That hurts though :o
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I think that's the idea though...the pain distracts you!!
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Hi all well I did it, I went shopping and guess what I didn't pass out or die :P. I'm exhausted but happy I did it, it's the little things isn't it. I even managed to buy myself some clothes as I saved €50 on doctor fees. I am learning to take one day at a time, still a bit anxious but I'll mark today down as a good day, My daughter is really understanding and kept reassuring me as we shopped,so onwards and upwards and lets hope it continues. Sending good wishes to all
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My BIL fell this time last year. He really hurt his face and had a black eye. The paramedics were called and checked him over and said he was fine. An hour later he started being sick and ended up in hospital. He was discharged the following morning. A few hours later he started being sick again. Back into hospital for an MRI where is was discovered he had had a slight bleed on the brain. He was kept in for two days.
I think what I'm trying to say is...if it was concussion then it wouldn't happen after three weeks. It's an immediate thing.
I fell just before Xmas and ended up with very bruised ribs and a very swollen wrist. The ribs took about eight weeks to feel normal. I couldn't breathe lying down...it was awful.
I think what's bothering you now is anxiety to be honest as if it was the bump to your head it would have caused problems long before now.
Hope you feel better soon.
Mrs Brown
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Well done on the shopping trip! Did you forget about your head or where you checking as you went along? ::)
I take half a day at a time ...........
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CLKD, Checking head as I shopped :P, but I did it and I'm so happy I did, MBrown I'm sure your right if it was anything serious then it would have shown up by now. megamind I bought one of those for my teenage daughter the other day, must have a look at it, she just said all her friends are using them might get myself one,Bane thank you for kind words. Im going to bed now any praying that The morning brings an anxiety free day for us all X
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I still check every part of me to see what works/not and whether I'm queasy/hungry ::). But I do stuff in between ;-)
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Well that 'I'm getting better feeling' I had last night didn't last very long :'(. I feel really awful this morning.woke up feeling a bit jittery but tried shrug it off and dropped grandson to pre-school and went to shops, I felt so dizzy and nauseous I panicked and couldn't get home quick enough. Now I'm sitting here on my own sobbing and feeling what's the point in all this, it's too exhausting constantly fighting with my own head. I have to say for me the worst symptom is DIZZINESS, It really sends me into the worst panic ever, what did we do to deserve this horrible menopause :'( :'( :'(
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That can be caused by tension or not eating properly! When anxiety takes over I feel light headed .......
Make sure that you eat little and often. Drink. Housework can be good exercise with no pressure.
I have a nerve in my neck which if I turn quickly makes me feel 'dizzy', momentarily. Enough to make me go 'oh!'.
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Yammy, I saw this article this morning..if you go to the comments section there are other tips as well to help.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-4486478/Do-want-beat-dizziness-Nod-head.html
Did you sleep well? I find I feel dizzy when I have had a rubbish night sleep.
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Dehydrated?
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just read article Megamind, might give it a try when I settle a bit, thank you. CLKD, i have type two diabetes so I do eat little and often and never have low blood sugars, wish they were low sometimes. and I drink plenty of water, the only thing is I was with doc last week and she said my blood pressure was 99/70. a bit on the low side so maybe when I was standing in shops this morning it dropped a bit, she said to drink plenty when this happens, took emergency half pill and have calmed a little, but I feel I am needing these a lot more frequently lately and that can't be good. has anyone any suggestions what ad to try, one with the least side effects. I tried vedixal 37.5mg last year but they really didn't help. I felt more anxious and the nightmares were unbearable
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I would say your low blood pressure would be contributing a lot to your dizzy feeling.
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Although you may feel that you are taking 'more' than usual in the way of anti-anxiety meds go with it for a few weeks - in the mean time do a 'google' for the various anti-depressant medications to see what eases anxiety too ? or speak to a Pharmacist at your local Chemist.
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Thank you CLKD, Yes i think your right, I need it right now to get through. My Dad passed in January and it was his birthday on Saturday, I was very close to him. Also my Mam is seven years passed today and so a lot of emotional stuff going on. I wonder if I hadn't bumped my head would I be so anxious?, although i would probably find something else to worry about, I don't know about you but I feel as soon as I can manage a symptom another one rears it's ugly head >:(. I'm now so angry I could scream, sorry for the rant but I'm an absolute wreck today
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Himself told me years ago that if I didn't have anything real to worry about I would find something ::) .........
Take time to grieve. Write a letter to your Dad and Mum .........
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Went to doc, happy no damage done in fall, treating me for virtigo as there is fluid in right ear, hopefully this will help with dizziness
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You must feel relieved about your head. I've read a few women on here suffering with Vertigo, it can be an unpleasant feeling but at least now you know what has been causing your dizziness.