Menopause Matters Forum
Menopause Discussion => Personal Experiences => Topic started by: Mumalmighty on February 13, 2017, 06:43:54 PM
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Hi everyone. I'm new to this site and have been trying to find my way around. I've already posted on someone else's thread as I didn't know wat I was doing and still don't really lol! I'm a 48 yr old mum of 4 and although have had peri symptoms for sometime now I am only just realising that's wat it has been. My symptoms provoked me to go to the doctors for blood tests. Thankfully they were all normal and I haven't been back yet as I'm still trying to make sense of it all.. my symptoms include erratic periods anxiety, numbness/tingling down my left arm and leg and chest. Sore itchy skin, painful breasts, aching swollen knee joint night sweats, general feeling unwell, dizziness. Weight gain, tearful snappy, low mood it goes on. I'm so glad I found this as all I do is google symptoms and frighten my self to Death So from now on I will come on here if I need reassurance as from wat I can see I'm certainly not alone. No one has ever told me wat to expect, my mum died wen I was 20 and she was 44 so didn't reach menopause and my friends just seem to be getting on with it so I tend to keep wats going on to myself. My husband has difficulty dealing with these things so I don't talk to him either. ☹️
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Hi :welcomemm:
Seems like most of your symptoms are par for the course in this meno journey . At least you have support here now.
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Sounds about 'normal' ::) - browse round, make notes.
As oestrogen levels drop muscles may become lax = aches and pains. Also the body dries out: nostrils, deep in the ears, eyes, vagina, skin >:( ::)
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Wow and I've also had dry nostrils for the last 3/4 years 😳Not to mention vaginal dryness I guess that's standard. Thankyou all for welcoming me 😊
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Hello Mumalmighty and welcome to the forum.
Yep, you are certainly not alone! Your problems sound fairly typical unfortunately plus many men don't understand how we feel so the ladies here provide a lifeline at this time in our lives.
Wishing you well and keep posting.
K.
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The vaginal dryness can be eased! Do ask your Practice Nurse/GP for either Vagifem or Ovestin for vaginal atrophy, this is totally different to other forms of HRT delivery. Once the vaginal skin becomes thin it can dry and stick :o :do read our threads on vaginal atrophy of which there are several! [My Bladder etc.] is one ...... some ladies find that along with the above they require regular moisturiser to keep outer lips moist.
Symptoms often present as repeated urine-type 'infections' which actually, aren't.
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Thankyou so much for that advise. And thankyou Kathleen. I won't suffer in silence from now on ::)
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Thank you Stellajane :)
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Thank you CLKD 😊
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Welcome mum almighty glad you found here docs can be seen to ignore menopause,I am 53 soon and think I am at the end ??but over the years had everythink you have mentioned and possibly more,and as you said your friends are getting on with it but everyone is different n if you need help shout from the roof tops somebody will hear you eventually,just stay positive and remember it will get easier and come to an end :bighug: :bighug:x
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Bless you for that lollipop. Just today I have had my period again (12 days early) and feeling even more dreadful. It's that kind of hazy drunk feeling that comes in waves aswell. Just tired of feeling sorry for myself. I have 3 sons and a daughter whose only 9 so as u can imagine I have to go around acting as normal as poss when all I want to do is scream and cry and shout out how unfair it all is. It's so lovely to know I can now just air my feelings like now instead of keeping it to myself. Thank you so much. Hope u r well 😊
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To an extent, I can empathise, Mumalmighty. My mum died before I became menopausal and she never talked about her symptoms anyway, so I've no idea what she felt during the meno. I now realise, though, that snappiness/irritability was one of her symptoms, although I used to think it was just my siblings and I being out of order. Oh well, you live and learn!
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You certainly do live and learn. I just don't think it occurs to a women wats really happening until we reach our late 40s. I have actually explained to my 9 year old about menopause as she is very inquisitive regarding periods etc but I don't let her know I'm feeling ill or worried as I don't want to burden her with that. I am one of 4 kids myself and we drove our mum crazy so yeh she was always snappy and irritable wen I think about it ;)
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Hi mum almighty I have got 3grown up daughters and I certainly have told them what to expect,like other ladies on here our mims never shared there experiences with us so yeah we got the shock of our lives when it started :'(even the children I childmind seem to give me a wide birth on some occasions lol but to be honest they help cuz I don't have time to think about feeling rubbish.so air and share your feelings out on here they are a good bunch in the same position :)x
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I had left the village B4 Mum went into her menopause ....... so we never talked about it.
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Welcome. So much info on here and think the best thing is you find you are not alone and it take a while to get your head round it but theres lots of help and support here and no question is too silly . Theres no one size fits all but somewhere along the journey you will find some solutions.
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Also back up CKLDs advice re vagifem, gynea I saw recently said every lady at this stage of life should be on it as early as possible as stops so many problems later on ,
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Thank you winterose. I've read up a little about vagifem and other than vaginal dryness it treats itchiness, pain and soreness, painful urination etc at the mo I only have vaginal dryness. Do u think if i startered Taking it now it might prevent all the other things is that wat u mean? 🤔
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Obviously consult your doctor and read up on it but basically the lady I saw said she advises it for everyone who can take it to do so as its a good preventative and so much easier to prevent than treat if its gone too far,