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General Discussion => This 'n' That => Topic started by: Menomale on January 30, 2017, 03:17:52 PM

Title: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: Menomale on January 30, 2017, 03:17:52 PM
Gone? What happened? Hope you come back soon!  :(
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: CLKD on January 30, 2017, 04:34:09 PM
WHO! think that you dreamt up that one  ::)
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: Menomale on January 30, 2017, 04:54:04 PM
Nope, she was asking about Mirena and heavy bleeds, and also posted her blood tests results...
http://www.menopausematters.co.uk/forum/index.php/topic,34744.0.html
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: Tempest on January 30, 2017, 05:19:32 PM
Oh no!!!!! I really loved chatting to Murph - I do hope she comes back! Murph, if you're out there - we've got unfinished business! You were supposed to be following the whole Tibolone thing - it might just work for you! ;)

 I can understand if you're totally brassed off after this whole Mirena thing and the grief with the transdermals - remember, we were the 'non absorbing twins' (hell knows what was going on really, but I do know you've had the patience of a saint too)!

Sending you hugs - don't make me come up to Auld Reekie and flush you out!  ;) xxxxx
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: Tempest on January 30, 2017, 05:21:05 PM
Menomale - you're going to ask me what Auld Reekie is, aren't you? Well, that's a whole history lesson right there..... (it's a Scottish thing)!  ;) :) xxxx
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: CLKD on January 30, 2017, 05:22:15 PM
Oh go on then  :D
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: Tempest on January 30, 2017, 05:27:03 PM
I'm a Weegie, and Murph's an Edinbugger! Auld Reekie is a nickname for the capital of Scotland - harkens back many moons ago to the days of coal fires and chimneys. The place was a veritable smog...... ;)
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: CLKD on January 30, 2017, 05:35:41 PM
Oh I remember smog  :D but not this murphydurf  :-\
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: Tempest on January 30, 2017, 05:37:47 PM
I think it didn't help that a lot of folk burned peat up here too! The smell is truly something else........ :o
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Post by: cubagirl on January 30, 2017, 05:39:33 PM
Tempest  ;D Having lived largest part of my life here, I'd be an Aberdonian.  Not quite as distinct as a Weegie or Edinbugger!  ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: Tempest on January 30, 2017, 05:56:13 PM
Aww, is there a nickname for Aberdonians too, Cubagirl? :) ;D xxxxxx
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: Menomale on January 30, 2017, 06:04:17 PM
Long live the Scots, then.

And come back Murphydurf Eddinbugger!
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: Murphydurf on January 31, 2017, 12:05:46 PM
Hi Menomale and Tempest - I've popped back briefly to say thank-you for being kind. I've pm'd you my email as I'd love to keep up with your 'journeys'.

A certain member's posts have finally made me realise that it's time for me to move on from this forum. Whilst in the main everyone has been really supportive, kind and informative, there's one particular member who has made me entirely doubt myself and has suggested strategies which are quite the opposite of my needs. I'm a big girl and I need to work out what's best for me. I didn't take this sort of Head Girl/Prefect superiority nonsense at school and I certainly won't take it now!

Thanks you so much for your help and Tempest I didn't know I was an Edinbugger! As I'm  sure you weegies would agree, it's the better of the 2 cities!

Mx
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: Menomale on January 31, 2017, 12:48:08 PM
Murphy,

Same thing happened to me, I left but I came back. As you say, we're big girls and we should not let a few bullies spoil the party. I understand you and respect your decision but I hope you come back and let this member talk to herself, maybe she need this. We're all in need of something here, right?  ;)

XXX
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: Annie0710 on January 31, 2017, 01:30:03 PM
Please don't let one member make you feel like this

We are all different in our journeys and have individual needs to bring us back to some sort of 'normal', what works for the majority doesn't always work for a few others. 

I had quite a few months out of here for exactly the same reason, i got fed up of 'you shouldn't have a because of b, or you don't need c because you haven't got d' it all got tiresome and made me really doubt myself but no one knows our bodies like ourself, certainly not other members

Xx
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: Murphydurf on January 31, 2017, 01:43:51 PM
Thank-you Annie0710 and Menomale - I couldn't sum it up better. It's the self doubt which is intolerable  when you KNOW yourself so well and what makes YOU tick! This sort of prescribing is dangerous! I became really unwell and unable to function properly which makes you even more susceptible to prescriptive nonsense, not relevant to your needs but which you consider as you're desperate. We're mostly mature women with many and varied experiences between us and we come here for support and assurance. I have to say that with one exception that's what I've received on here and I'm very grateful for that.

Mx
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: Menomale on January 31, 2017, 01:48:34 PM
Leave it behind you, focus on your health now, we're here to help and to seek help, not to add more trouble to our already troubled bodies/minds.

I'm glad your're back!  :D
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: Elizabethrose on January 31, 2017, 01:52:38 PM
Murphydurf, I'm glad you've returned, I'm also glad that you have explained why you had left. Too many members just disappear because of upset and then sadly the problems can never be resolved.

We'd love you to stay and may I suggest that you just totally ignore the offending individual and their remarks, 'water off a duck's back'!! Don't even read them.

This is a particularly tricky stage of our lives and this forum can and should be a support to all.

All good wishes to you. x
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: Menomale on January 31, 2017, 01:57:20 PM
"Water off a duck's backËœ, ER you're wise! And please keep posting these expressions, maybe one day I'll speak proper English  ;)
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: Elizabethrose on January 31, 2017, 02:01:03 PM
I wish my Portuguese was as good as your English Menomale, sometimes I forget you're Brazilian! All I can say is that you're a fantastic linguist!!

Maybe that's a new thread in the making, idioms. x
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: CLKD on January 31, 2017, 02:47:03 PM
OK - Murpydurf: I can't see your thread/s any reason to leave  :-\ - good advice given by Members of long-standing.  What some don't realise is that the written word is static.  What is given as advice and suggestions which can be filtered and used/not appropriately, can seem stubbornly 'you must do that/this' when written.

Some ladies find that keeping a mood/food/symptom diary useful, enabling them to chart the ups and downs of symptoms.  Handy to take it to the Practice Nurse or GP  ::) to reiterate what is required.


Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: Menomale on January 31, 2017, 02:58:40 PM
I'd love that, ER. As I said in another thread (words you like) it's so nice to learn different words and expressions in English, Scottish, Irish, Welsh, Australian, Kiwi, American, Canadian... a world of words.
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: dahliagirl on January 31, 2017, 04:09:14 PM
Hi Murphydurf - do keep posting and adding to the varied experiences.

I had a locum doctor that said 'Anything goes in menopause' when I was all confused about my symptoms.  As I see it, there is no one-size-fits-all and no typical experience.  It would be so much easier....... ::)  You have to work out what fits you best and what you are happy with.
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: CLKD on January 31, 2017, 05:34:52 PM
Some days I can't remember who I am or what day it is  ::).
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: Murphydurf on January 31, 2017, 09:19:04 PM
Thank you ladies - your support is very much appreciated.

Mx
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: Tempest on January 31, 2017, 10:25:34 PM
Just popping by to say - love all you fantastic ladies, and you all ROCK! Don't let anyone make you feel uncomfortable - you know what's best for you and your body!

Murph - dammit, girl! I'm so glad to hear from you. Please stay? Just so that we can continue the banter about Edinbugger's and Weegie's at least.  ;) ;D xxxx

And wise words, Annie - you're totally one of the 'good 'un's' and always have such kindness in your posts.  :) xxxx

Menomale - I'm making you an honarary Scot, as of now! You don't need to learn to play the bagpipes (but maybe I should learn Brazilian - your English is always impeccable by the way)!  ;) :) xxxx
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: Menomale on January 31, 2017, 11:00:04 PM
Wow, thank you lady Tempest! Mr. Trump, here I go...  ;D
http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-scotland-scotland-politics-35054360
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: Annie0710 on January 31, 2017, 11:07:08 PM
Aw thankyou Tempest !

I warm to nice people and that's why I hold you ladies in such high regard

My mum always taught me "if you can't say anything nice, say nothing at all"

Xx
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: Menomale on March 01, 2017, 01:45:09 PM
It looks like she's been gone or banned :'(

I hope you're ok, murphy!
Title: Re: Where's murphydurf?
Post by: CLKD on March 01, 2017, 08:18:50 PM
Why would she be banned? People are free to come and go .......