Menopause Matters Forum
Menopause Discussion => All things menopause => Topic started by: Binbon2 on November 10, 2016, 07:08:42 PM
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I thought I would let you all know that I was dismissed from my job today because of menopause symptoms - fatigue, insomnia and poor concentration, which HRT hasn't really helped with.
I was expecting it though, and feel OK about it.
I am hoping I will look back at this and realise that it was actually the best thing to happen.
Just a shame that it had to happen in the first place
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:foryou:
That's really sad that it came to that.
I always say things happen for a reason, and something will be out there which is better for you!
Enjoy just relaxing for a bit and take your time, if you choose to look for another job.
Take care
Xxxx
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Thanks :)
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Sorry to hear that, it must be very stressful for you. I hope you can take some time out to reassess everything and perhaps look at a different type of HRT that combats the problems you mentioned. It could be that a different form of HRT would help? So if you can recover for a while and look at other options, you may find you are in a good position to find another job and hopefully somewhere nicer next time around.
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Sorry to hear that Binbon.
I only have a part time job and even that I struggle with when I'm feeling the effects of peri. I don't know how some ladies manage to work full time with their symptoms.
Hopefully, you will find a new job that suits you perfectly. Good luck.
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That's appalling. I really hope you get the time to take stock and sort out what is right for you.
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I'm sorry to hear that Binbon! Not nice I know!
The others have given good advice here.
So Good luck
Janx
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Thanks everyone.
I think you are right and things do happen for a reason, but no, not overly nice to go through.
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So sorry to hear that Binbon, if you can afford to take a short break I would do so, especially with the stresses of Christmastime coming up. Take some time to unwind and reassess and if you feel you need to do something maybe a little voluntary work would fill in the time?
Enjoy not having to clockwatch or rush around in a morning for awhile and hopefully your symptoms will improve if you're less rushed. Good luck.
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I'm so sorry Binbon - I know what you mean though. If I wasn't self-employed, I wouldn't employ me. I've always been a 'worker' - brought up with a working class 'you must work hard' ethic. Throw in a large measure of catholic guilt and I think you have the picture! I NEVER took a day off work. In my working lifetime, since 17, not counting pregnancies, it's between 10-14 days, and I bet it's nearer 10. If that.
In the last year, since going deeper into post Meno and struggling with hrt regime, I've been a nightmare. Pain, brain fog, disinterest in anything or anyone. VERY low moods/swinging moods. Not a good employee. I've been self employed for around 15 years but NEVER thought I'd be like this. Two years ago I was easily working 14 hour days, looking after 2 teenage boys and walking my lab twice a day. I'm a shadow of that now. BUT - IM NOT GIVING UP! I will find a regime that works and get going again.
I hope you do too.
Dxx
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:hug:
Sorry that happened. However, it's true, things happen for a reason. I hope that once you're feeling more like your normal self, the Meno fog will clear & you'll be able to move on.
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Dear Binbon
I am so sorry for your situation. Meno can take a terrible toll both physically and mentally and much more work needs to be done to address just what happens to women because we are just not getting the help that is needed. Many women are living half lives for many years when reproduction ceases it is hardly acceptable in the 21st century. I can only send sympathy and keep going and maybe one day there will be the answers we need.
Meg
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Binbon I am so very sorry to read this and appalled that it has happened. I think the others are right that you should use some time now, if possible, to just "be" for a while and the Zi hope something nice comes along for you. Best of luck. X
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Thinking of you Binbon. I suffer the same symptoms as you and its my secret fear I'll be dismissed, I manage cos I work part-time. Hope you're in a position where you can manage financially, have a rest and enjoy Christmas x
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Sorry to hear that Binbon. I suffered with symptoms very similar to yours, luckily I was able to change my hours to 5.5 per day from 9. If I hadn't been able to change them, I'd have had to pack the job in.
You have to put your health first.
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I don't think that you can be 'sacked' due to being ill!!!!
Do you not have a Union in your workplace? I think there may be a claim for unfair or constructive dismissal here. What procedures were in place - what support did you get?
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So sorry to hear about your job. I had to give up my job 10 months ago I didn't have a choice. I've had a terrible struggle but I got myself a new part time job 7 weeks ago. I still have a lot going on but the difference now is I've realised I have to ride this out it's going to go and I have no disease. Unfortunately I now possibly could have coelic disease or very low iron. Being tested on Monday.
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Michelle - let us know how you get on? maybe in a separate thread?
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I have had a nice relaxing day, catching up on The Missing, reading the paper and having a couple of walks.
I heard that my boss told my team that I wasn't coming back as I was very sick and was concentrating on getting better - no mention of the fact that they had dismissed me!
Thanks for all the thoughts and advice. I am going to enjoy spending the extra time with my kids and hubby. I am lucky in that we can just about manage on hubby's wage as long as we are careful. And I shall let fate take its course and see where it leads me.
Michelle46, sorry to hear you have found the workplace tough too. I hope the new part time job works out for you.
CLKD - unfortunately and amazingly employers can sack due to ill health. They have to be careful and show that they have followed the correct procedure - i.e. advising from the start of sickness that your job is at risk, consulting with occupational health to help make reasonable adjustments. If they are unable to get you back into work then they are entitled to terminate your contract due to medical capability.
Elsie001 - glad to hear your reduced hours helped
peri - fingers crossed for you - it is a horrible feeling trying to hang in there when you feel ill. I tried to work through the insomnia/low ferritin for several weeks, which wasn't fun.
Dawncam - I have always been a worker too, taking little time off apart from pregnancy related issues, so I know how you feel.
Thanks again all for your thoughts and comments - helps to know it isn't just me
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I am so sorry to hear this Binbon2. However you are still young and sounds like you are looking at this positively and especially since you can manage financially. Perhaps time to look at what you want to do and see if you can become self-employed at something that interests you or you can develop a new skill or training?
I hope it works out for the best for you and you find a way to make the most of this - seeing it as a new opportunity :)
Hurdity x
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Sending you hugs Binbon2. I hope this unexpected time out will enable you to rest, find a way of managing your symptoms that works for you, and think about where you would like your future to go.
Very best wishes x
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Binbon, more or less the same thing happened to me, nearly five years ago. My ability to do the "stop-gap" job that I'd had for more than 6 years had plummeted, due to meno symptoms. Eventually, I ended up hiding in the receptionists' office, in tears, because I knew I'd reached the end of the line there; that night, I had what Hubby described as almost a nervous breakdown. (I must have been bad - I didn't even realise that was how I looked.) Next day, I saw the doctor, who advised sick leave on grounds of stress. I never went back to that job. Instead, I went back into the line I had originally trained in and am soooooo glad that I did. I am having (to quote a well-known song!) "the time of my life" now, because while one door closed, another door opened. Good luck!!! There is light at the end of the tunnel.
Dulciana :foryou:
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This is a shame but we are more than our jobs and work doesn't have to define us. It may be for the best as you have time to reassess what's important and hopefully find the right way for you to manage your symptoms.
Big hugs
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I'm sorry to hear this honey.
I know when I was 48, now 53 and peri hit me it was major tough. I worked as a nurse in the safeguarding children's team, my kids were young teenagers and my marriage in trouble.
It was a hard, hard time........if you cam reassess then do.....always a new chapter waiting to be started in the book of life x
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Thanks all - great advice
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Make a list of your skill base as well as the job you would really like to do!
Have you hobbies that can keep you busy until you hit on something suitable? We have a thread on hobbies etc. somewhere here :D.
Let us know!
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Thanks CLKD.
The skill base is a good idea. I'm not sure what job I would like to do at the moment.
I haven't spent much time on hobbies recently. I do like to read, so will probably do more of that. I was also thinking of doing a daily chat with my mum and writing it up as a book of her life.
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So sorry :(
I only work 2.5 hours per day, 5 days a week and I'm regularly tempted to leave as I find it so overwhelming to mix with lots of other people.