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Menopause Discussion => Other Health Discussion => Topic started by: Justjules on June 11, 2016, 05:08:33 PM
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Off on holiday early hours of Monday morning to Spain....so mad with myself as I have left packing until last minute and no time to do it tomorrow as long story, but need to travel to in-laws in two cars to leave one their for coming home so that's half a day and mornings are a complete no no energy wise and family coming tomorrow night :(.... I am going to attempt it tonight but after being out all day with my granddaughter and elderly Mum, I am so worn out and have zero energy to put the iron on and sort clothes out.....stupid woman...I am now getting anxious and stressed and over faced ..... Option is to just chuck it all in the suitcase and iron it when I am there but it's boiling hot over there....just ranting, fed up of lack of stamina, I read some comment on here once to say 'someone has removed my batteries' and that's exactly how I feel!! I know I need time to build myself up again but this is ridiculous, feel about 95 right now :'(
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Don't iron! Save yourself the nerves and trouble! At the end no one will care if your clothes are perfect if you don't feel well!
I am sure things will fall into place, have a great vacation - this is what is most important!
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I know Milamam, I'm my own worst enemy....like to be organised and sorted but no use stressing! Just needed a moan! Husband has gone out for the evening so thought great, chance to get myself together and not going to happen. Soooooo frustrating!
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I gave up ironing a long time ago, except for very special outfits for very special occasions. I cultivated a 'clean and crumpled look' and soon realised that no one actually noticed and if they did they were too polite to comment. It's surprising how much creases hang out once you get the garment on.
Drop your standards, JJ, be kind to yourself and enjoy your holiday x
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Well I've thrown stuff into the case and thought like you say BJ and Hasty, who cares about some creases in the heat! I usually iron all my linen pants etc but have whipped the iron over them and to hell with it, it's not a fashion parade, I'm on holiday and not out to impress anyone so yes, will lower the standards and take it as it comes.... Thanks ladies, just needed permission to be a little bit lax for a change :) it's just the anxiety trying to sneak in :beat: x
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Absolutely, I have never ironed pants or socks or pyjamas, which just get crumpled up in bed anyway ::)
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What's an iron :-X ::)
When I had bad panic attacks I packed weeks in advance in case I was too ill to face it closer to departure date. Then we had several emergency trips to various hospitals so I learned to pack within 10 mins.. Still I over-pack! As long as we both have undies enough for our time away, we can buy anything else. How much of it will you wear anyway ::)
Get there, relax and enjoy!
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I definitely haven't overpacked this time as I intended to buy some stuff from Zara when I got there and because it's so hot, was struggling to know what to take anyway. Just wish I'd started it weeks ago....lesson learned.....holiday needed, clothes optional ;D
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I remember one year getting to our holiday cottage assuming towels were provided to find they weren't. It all worked out, son in law drove me into the nearest town to Argos and we bought some :)
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Have a lovely holiday Justjules, totally agree with the others, ironing is the last thing you should be stressing about. During the day, it's tee shirt/ shorts or swimwear so no need to iron as no one will notice . Linen is a waste of time ironing anyway, and you can get away with the " lived in look" 😄
Last time I went abroad was October, so when I washed the stuff in my return and ironed some of it, I put it all away together in spare room, as wouldn't be needing it again.This time round it was great as I just transferred it to suitcase.
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I dont even own an iron,threw mine out years ago,lifes too short ! ;)
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Have a lovely time. Ironing is for people who have nothing better to do with their lives ;-)
Remember this is your holiday too so if you feel that chilling refacing a book is all you can manage, then do it and let OH do his own thing. We are not each other's keepers! Xx
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Thanks ladies. Apart from nausea, which has plagued me all week and an upset stomach today, I was stressing about OH's packing....he drags all sorts of dire stuff from the depths of the wardrobes, has the house totally messed up with stuff everywhere but now I've thought sod it, if he wants to look like a total moron, you're right Coldethyl, I am not his keeper, I'm going to concentrate on me. Holidays are not supposed to be stressful! x
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But they are. Planning. Booking. Agreeing where to go for starters ::). You can pretend you aren't with him once you arrive ;-)
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No good when Himself asks 'where's such and such, I was planning to wear it this week' so I now get him to lay out what he thinks he will require then I add a few extras 'in case'.
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I'd never pack for mine - he's a grown up and can do his own packing. I do ask him in advance to put out anything that needs washing but it's up to him to remember what to take. I work on the assumption that if he did forget something he'd remember it the next time.
Taz x
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I haven't done a thing,he's still doing it now!!! >:(
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Mine wouldn't. He looks after me by cooking, cleaning, digging the garden, the least I can do is help him pack - means less stress for me ;)
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OH has a list that he uses to ensure he doesn't forget anything. Takes him around 10 minutes to pack. He would never trust me to do it. He always overpacks if we drive and has stuff for every eventuality.
That's because I always leave it to the last minute then just wander round wardrobes, chests of drawers, etc. and grab stuff that looks about right. I then think of stuff I've forgotten or probably don't need overnight, then repack in the morning. I work on the principle that if I don't have it I can buy it.
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I am like your husband, getting_old! I always have a list, and I do overpack, especially when driving. And for every occasion I have to be prepared. Not a good thing as I can't relax until I've packed everyone in the house. Hubby fortunately doesn't mind. He packs for 5 min by putting everything he wants to take on the bed, then I go through it, add or take, and pack away.
Milamam
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Wonder if Justjules arrived :-\
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Hi folks, back from holiday! Actually had a really good one, no rows, which is a first!!! Wifi in area was so poor and couldn't log on as I had forgot my password and I'm registered under my work email address so couldn't post but kept on top of everyone's. I can't believe I managed to have such a relaxing holiday, tummy behaved itself, slept at least 9 hours most nights so after months of awful anxious nights and early mornings, was such a relief and much needed, managed a few walks, albeit nothing more than a stroll down the odd prom but it was more than I thought I would manage, so pleased with myself. Had horrendous delay at airport yesterday thanks to the French air traffic control but managed to keep calm. Obviously, all my meds are now working again :)
This morning, different matter!! Am absolutely shattered, no energy, dragging myself around, just feel the same as before I went away!! Can't understand it >:(....might be the thought of all the washing, which will be hampered with a bad weather forecast most of the week..think I need to be on a permanent holiday or maybe I'm allergic to this house!!! ;D
Hope everybody is feeling okay, and to those who aren't, keep on going, things have to get better at some point. Big hugs. x
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Nowt. It's HORMONES :sigh: ……
Welcome home Justjules!
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Pleased to hear you had a lovely break. I do find that I am a totally different person on holiday but I know it's because I absolutely hate where I live. I think being relaxed and happy can make such a big difference.
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Glad you had a good holiday JJ! It's amazing how good you can feel when you are away and it all returns on getting home!
I'm feeling really good as I'm away, sun and relaxing but no doubt as soon as we are back and Hubs is away again I'll be back to my usual anxious self. Still it's good to get built up again in the meantime.
Sorry your hols wasn't quite as relaxing Sparkle, the chest pain thingy sounds scary but glad you got it checked out.
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Poor you Sparkle I am so sorry. Did you have signs of a period starting- spotting or other warnings?- I wonder if your hormones were to blame for the emergency you had. I have had lots of mucus today and last night had palpitations during the night and was very hot, and now have what feels like PMT all very odd.
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Sparkle, sorry to hear your holiday was spoilt by anxiety. That's a real shame as we look forward so much to our holidays but then the dreaded anxiety and fear takes over and ruins what should be a relaxing time for us. Having a dash to a&e on top didn't help but glad to hear it wasn't anything serious. I think, like me, once we're out of our 'safe' zone, our subconscious takes over and we inwardly panic. I wasn't like it this time and I don't know why, just that for once, I actually rested, relaxed and apart from the usual flying anxiety, was fine.....think I've had some sort of help from above because it's not me at all but I'm not complaining! Must admit though, yes, routine is a relief somehow, probably a sort of comfort zone.
Thanks for your kind comments ladies....x
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My last period was January but it was light. Recently though I have had so much mucus so I think another is imminent. Do you think your discharge was ovulation? Also the mucus was so much all at once - have you had loads like this? I never had this much before peri. No night sweats either but I have had palpitations last night so something is happening.
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:hug: lots of!
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I get that sudden dip into a black hole sometimes even though I take regular medication. I can be fine then I feel deeply depressed ………. it is scary.
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No this is different. If my brain feels low for more than 3/4 mornings in a row then I add 5mg at night. The sudden dip can occur at any time, I can be absolutely fine but the depression hits like a rocket and I think 'not again'. Fortunately it doesn't last long.
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CLKD my heart goes out to you and also to you Sparkle that must be so hard. xx
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Sparkle how do you feel when you have the mucus? I feel like I have PMT- very irritated and miserable, which is odd as I know mucus=high oestrogen, and PMT is normally progesterone related. So hard these days to know what is going on, but I am more moody with the mucus, so certainly hormones are up somewhere and they affect how I feel.
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I have packed over the last couple of days in case I can't cope in the morning.
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Sparkle, I'm fine at the moment thanks. Still very low in energy, especially till lunch time. I think I am a 'work in progress' at the moment. I honestly think I was at rick bottom a few weeks ago, nobody to help me, nobody understanding and food poisoning for a weekend which sent me over the edge and then I felt like I honestly had some sort of epiphany, which I posted about because something just clicked in my brain and I'd had enough, thought nobody is going to help me except me, so somehow just thought this is it, no more and was determined to change my whole mindset and ok, it's not that simple, but I have felt very different since then. I really thought I wouldn't be going on holiday and had to make a real effort because I knew it was ultimately what my body needed. I hate flying but manage it with good old Valium. I'm not particularly religious but do feel there is 'something' out there and I asked for help and seemed to get it. Not preaching, and it may sound daft to some but I feel much more able to cope. Yes, I'm still struggling, got a lot if healing to do and realise it will take time to build back up but determined to put myself first, do what I want to do, try and be less negative and count my blessings a bit more. Time will tell but I hope that I will still be posting positively for months to come and be able to help others who are struggling.
CKLD, where are you going away? Hope you enjoy it and relax once you're there.
X
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Do you eat breakfast?
[see holiday thread]
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Thanks Ladies. This forum has helped so much too. It really helps to get things out of your system and written down somehow. I don't doubt that hormones will go awry again at some point but I am going to make a concerted effort to not get as low as I was before.
CKLD, yes I always have to have breakfast otherwise would faint! I wish I could eat more first thing to be honest, especially protein, but I can't. I try to have porridge most mornings with fruit on top.
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