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Title: Am i old
Post by: Lizzy on February 08, 2016, 12:01:56 AM

I have been thinking today "am I old " i am struggling to accept who I am! I can't make up my mind.  Does anyone relate to this ? I have just turned 54. Confused , Lizzy x

Title: Re: Am i old
Post by: dazned on February 08, 2016, 07:25:33 AM

We're all older than we were yesterday.        ;)

Title: Re: Am i old
Post by: Peterspots on February 08, 2016, 07:39:51 AM

I am 50 and the last year has been filled with aches. Pains & worries. Yes I'm shocked to feel this old. A year ago I felt brilliant and had no concept really of being old

Title: Re: Am i old
Post by: babyjane on February 08, 2016, 10:26:12 AM

I am older than you and I know I am no longer young but I also think age is a state of mind.  2 years ago I felt a lot older than I do now.  I am struggling with the prospect of my birthday next year when the decade changes but I am coming to terms with it now and am hoping that my 60s will actually be an improvement on my 50s which have not been very nice.

Title: Re: Am i old
Post by: SadLynda on February 08, 2016, 11:04:59 AM

I will be 50 in April, and refuse to be old ;)

Title: Re: Am i old
Post by: Dulciana on February 08, 2016, 11:28:39 AM

Life is what you make it!

Title: Re: Am i old
Post by: Taz2 on February 08, 2016, 11:31:42 AM

Fifty is young! Mind you my friend of 97 is insisting that my age (62) is young although it doesn't feel like that. He also says that "you don't live long enough to grow old - you only live long enough to grow older"

Taz x

Title: Re: Am i old
Post by: Hurdity on February 08, 2016, 11:55:00 AM

Abso-bloody-lutely SadLynda, Dulciana, Taz2. Girls - stop thinking about being old FGS!!!!!

I am 62 and will be 63 in a few months time, and health permitting most certainly do not consider myself old!!!! Get out there - make the best of yourself and your life, embrace it all if you can. If there is something in your life that you are not happy with - then try to work out a solution, do things that make you healthy and happy, with friends and family or by yourself.

Babyjane - yes 60's can be fab!!!

The best thing any of you can do to stop feeling old is to lose weight if you are overweight and take more exercise and get out in the fresh air - you will feel heaps better if you are feeling glum/old. Also - it's February - for me the worst month of the year and especially this year as we haven't had a proper winter - no crisp clear sunny bracing freezing cold days with ice frost and snow ( unless you live in Scotland!). You will feel less old as spring and warm sunshine arrives!

If you have menopause symptoms - don't suffer them - take steps to eliminate or reduce them.

Yes we are all ageing - no point in bemoaning your lost youth but above all no need to feel old just because of this. Banish that idea from your head whenever it pops in! My mum is almost 88 and even she does not give in and accept her lot, despite being more tired and having aches and pains!

Hurdity  :) X

Title: Re: Am i old
Post by: Kate50 on February 08, 2016, 11:58:02 AM

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Title: Re: Am i old
Post by: Ju Ju on February 08, 2016, 12:59:59 PM

A month today I will be 62 in body and 21 in mind, only happier and more self accepting than when my body was 21. I'm so fortunate to get here! I've had some close shaves!

Title: Re: Am i old
Post by: Dulciana on February 08, 2016, 01:14:44 PM

My Dad is 90 and he's my model for living.  Not lifestyle - living!
D.

Title: Re: Am i old
Post by: coldethyl on February 08, 2016, 01:17:33 PM

Psychologically I don't feel that old at 50, but my body feels about 90 these days. Tried explaining this to hubby yesterday but he just looked blankly at me. I'm not depressed but part of me just keeps thinking that if this is how it is going to be from now , that I'm not sure I want it anymore. Been reading a Canadian endocrinologist who thinks the menopausal transition is basically like being in drug withdrawal ( from oestrogen) and that is how it feels some days - I know my symptoms got worse after I lost 5st( fatter women get used to higher levels of oestrogen ).  So no 50 isn't old, but it sure as hell can feel like it. X

Title: Re: Am i old
Post by: Peterspots on February 08, 2016, 01:47:31 PM

Yes, coldethyl that is how I feel exactly

Title: Re: Am i old
Post by: coldethyl on February 08, 2016, 03:22:13 PM

Sorry you feel like that but glad I'm not alone , EnglishRose.

Title: Re: Am i old
Post by: Joyce on February 08, 2016, 05:56:51 PM

I turn 60 this year. I don't feel old, although my body often reminds me.  ;D

Title: Re: Am i old
Post by: Lizzy on February 08, 2016, 09:06:43 PM

Hi everyone, thank you all i agree it is a state of mind whatever age you are. On the whole i try to be positive but maybe I have just had a case of January / February blues,and trying to stick to the diet ! Easy to think " oh why bother " But I'm going to keep trying! Lizzy x

Title: Re: Am i old
Post by: Hurdity on February 09, 2016, 06:01:38 PM

Hi Lizzy - yes stick to the diet! You'll be glad you did come March/April. Did you see there is a recent diet thread too - you might want to join in :)

http://www.menopausematters.co.uk/forum/index.php/topic,30542.0.html

Hurdity x