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Menopause Discussion => All things menopause => Topic started by: westie on January 21, 2016, 08:27:46 AM
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Morning all
Just after a bit of advice from you lovely ladies. Just recently ( for the last couple of weeks) I have had terrible night time anxiety, at least that's what I think it is. I drop off to sleep ok but then am woken in the night , around 2am, with what I can only describe as an adrenaline surge which , no matter what I do (deep breathing etc) just won't go away and stops me sleeping so I wake up completely exhausted. Does anyone else have this? It's driving me mad , I am now so tired I can barely function. I am not on HRT at the mo and am keen to avoid it due to breast issues in the past. Thought I had been managing quite well with this meno lark until this started. Any advice would be very much appreciated.
Thank you.
W xx
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Hi it's horrible that early morning anxiety or adrenaline surges isn't it,I do understand those feelings !
Have you tried to ensure that you have a snack last thing at night and a milky drink ,blood sugars dropping can cause these episodes. Also although it sounds counter productive its better to get up and do something until it passes rather than lie there,again have a biscuit or something,that way the adrenaline has something to work on ,somewhere to go.
Hope it settles down soon.
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Morning Westie. I am sitting here this morning trying to recover from such a night. Been like this for a couple of weeks and it's awful. I have started some new ADs which will be making it worse until they kick in but I too try everything to calm myself but only passes once I get up in the morning and get dressed. I can't work at the moment because of it. Anxiety sucks. X
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I remember night anxiety so well ,same as Westie always 2.20am in the morning i woke as if i was frightened,and panicky it just came from no where,
I also read that eating something before you go to sleep ..breakfast cereal,or banana ,or a muffin it does work so worth a try ..
feel well soon x
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I have enormous sympathy for you, I remember this well and it made me feel wrecked. I'm sorry I don't know the solution for you if you are not able to take HRT, though the ideas already mentioned seem sensible. I used to read/do stuff and occasionally came up with solutions for problems which cheered me up a bit. It was so tiring though. All I will say is that my (?imperfect) understanding is that if, like me, you are post menopausal, taking transdermal oestrogen and progesterone (ie Utrogestan) rather than pills with progestin seems to be the best option with regards to breast cancer.
http://www.menopausematters.co.uk/forum/index.php/topic,26990.msg427313/topicseen.html#msg427313
However I don't know how this works for women who have higher risk etc. I would be interested to know.
I hope things get better for you - such a rotten thing to experience.
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Thank you so much ladies for your kind replies, it does help a little to know I'm not the only one!
Yes I am post menopausal (4years since last period so thought I was doing ok). I will take the advice re eating before bed, I have heard elsewhere that bananas are good so I'll give it a try- anything to stop this exhaustion. I should be thankful that this is so far the only bad symptom as I know many people have far worse, but this is driving me mad.
as always this forum is a whole lot better than a trip to my useless GP!
thank you
W xx
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gosh i remember this its awful i feel your pain i used to get 2 hours sleep and wake up with the knot in my stomach horrible not rational i hope you get sorted x
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I had this for years too and it is very hard. I had to resort to sleeping tablets was very worried about addiction but for me it got me through an otherwise soul destroying time and I was really pleased to find that it wasn't difficult to drop them eventually. I had to weigh up the effects of the night anxiety and effects of sleepers.
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I get this too.
I wake up suddenly. My eyes just ping open , then it hits me. A wave of utter doom. A feeling like something really bad has just happened. My mind starts spinning with stuff, usually silly stuff which in the morning will seem insignificant, but I can't rationalise how I feel at that point. Usually sad depressing thoughts about illness or dying, or regret or guilt, general anguish . It's awful :'(
Just wanted to say you're not alone and I sympathise.
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Think I might have to resort to something for sleeping. Can't cope if I don't get at least 7 hours and that's fast becoming an impossibility.
Clovie, yes, there's a lot of us who are experiencing these night terrors, absolutely awful and can't get back to sleep properly. Keep posting, as you are obviously having a really awful time and the ladies on here are wonderful and it's such a release to get it all out. X
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A couple of years ago I was waking every 45 -60 minutes and taking over an hour to get back to sleep. I was exhausted and miserable and felt it would never end. It did, I now wake once, twice at the most and sleep 3 - 4 hours in between and go back to sleep within 5 - 10 minutes.
Ladies there is hope but it is horrible at the time.
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Well I was thinking I was depressed and thinking it was me going mad or having a breakdown but I am waking up and thinking something bad is going to happen or has happened why do I think these things and yet in the morning as others say why was I thinking it everything is ok I have been thinking about seeing a councellor . It's a feeling of dread and anxiety my heart is pounding and I'm thinking I've got to go to sleep I have work in the morning but my mind doesn't want to stop thinking of such weird things i have a hiatus hernia and my doctor said not to eat 2 hours before I got to,bed otherwise I get indigestion and reflux I suppose I could have milk if I can't sleep but then I think It will take me longer to get back to sleep oh then I get hot sweats which disturbs my sleep anyway and I am on half hrt as I'm trying to come off it . I Am seeing the memo nurse nxt week and see if there is anything I can do .
j s
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Hello westie.
My adrenaline surges always happened at a reasonable time in the morning or at other points during the day ( so yay, lucky me eh!). However if I wake during the night I find getting up for a drink of milk and/or a biscuit helps me get back to sleep quickly so perhaps this would work for you.
Sending hugs and I hope you feel better soon.
Take care.
K.
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this problem just has to be a physiological thing, surely, as there are so many of us with the same problem ::)
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this problem just has to be a physiological thing, surely, as there are so many of us with the same problem ::)
I was awake three times last night with it. For me it's definitely linked with the night sweats as I either wake up drenched or wake up and the adrenaline whooshes through me followed by the intense burning. I've found that not reacting to it all is the best way to lessen it though some nights I take an extra half a betablocker. I make sure I drink plenty during night too even if it means and extra toilet trip, I still wake up on edge and it can take till mid morning before I feel it's over. I just wish our health care providers looked at this from a menopausal physiological changes side a bit more before doling out anti depressants.
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For me I do need the ADs because I have issues going back decades which need to be resolved and they are helping me cope with the psychotherapy. However for those ladies who are perimenopausal and suffering like this I agree with you coldethyl. I am post meno and my meno symptoms have started to lessen now.
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Thank you so much everyone for all your responses.
I have tried a banana last couple of nights and last night it seemed to help, only woke up once and not so panicky. Early days though. A friend has recommended Teanine and lemon balm capsules which I've just ordered- you take a couple before bed so I'll give them a try and see how I go. Will report back.
Thanks again, without this forum I would be completely bonkers!!!
W xx
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For me I do need the ADs because I have issues going back decades which need to be resolved and they are helping me cope with the psychotherapy. However for those ladies who are perimenopausal and suffering like this I agree with you coldethyl. I am post meno and my meno symptoms have started to lessen now.
How long have you been post meno? When did the symptoms start to lessen? Almost 2 years for me but I still have symptoms.
Re. night time anxiety: I do get this sometimes but don't particularly link it to menopause. I just know that problems do seem worse in the middle of the night so I try to tell myself that i will feel more positive in the morning.
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Like so many ladies, I have had terrible issues with the anxiety. Waking anxiety and generally feeling panicky and so much more worried about matters with which I would, previous to menopause, have been able to cope. It is no wonder that this is called The Change, it has changed me into a nervous wreck! I fervently wish that there was more medical knowledge and understanding from the health profession. This is all due to those chemical messengers, hormones. We should be trying to unlock more of the secrets about adreneline and cortisol output because it sure plays havoc with women's lives and we are on average only 50 when all of this begins and ends, who knows?
Meg
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For me I do need the ADs because I have issues going back decades which need to be resolved and they are helping me cope with the psychotherapy. However for those ladies who are perimenopausal and suffering like this I agree with you coldethyl. I am post meno and my meno symptoms have started to lessen now.
How long have you been post meno? When did the symptoms start to lessen? Almost 2 years for me but I still have symptoms.
Not sure as I had a hysterectomy (retained ovaries) when I was 38 so had no periods, therefore not really sure exactly when I went into perimeno, proabably not that long after the hyster but didn't realise it as I had no point of reference. Anyway my first hot flush/night sweat was 6 years ago when I was 52 and, although I could cope, they were there day and night. Last year I realised they were not there in the day and not every night and when they did arrive they were milder. This winter I have been able to tolerate the central heating and a normal weight duvet (much to my husband's relief) plus he commented that I don't open the window so much. I have even worn acrylic jumpers that I could not even consider last winter - cotton only. I am having trouble with anxiety but that is only partly hormonal as I have severe deep rooted issues to resolve. At a guess I would suspect I am about 18 months post meno at 58 but with an absence of periods it is difficult to be sure.
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My heart goes out to all of you suffering at the moment, I remember the doom and gloom feelings of dred, thankfully I Ve not had them since I started the Hrt 5 years ago and dread having to come off it at a later date although hopefully I won't have to for many years yet as I'm not quite 50 yet it's the not knowing if what we're feeling is normal that is scary I think we'll it was and sometimes still is Hrt doesn't get rid of everything we feel, but I certainly remember before it not wanting to go out of the house on my own as I was so scared, but I wasn't actually sure what of!
I now get the waking up at 3am bit still but without the aniexty and its only for a week when I have my period, but I have found that taking a sleeping aid that was reccomeded to my on here called Valerie something helps they are cheap and you can get them from Boots or pharmacys they also help the aniexty you take one 1/2 before bed and can take two if needed, they seem to help me drift off quickly and if you wake in the night I can fall back to sleep immediately rather than start the thinking which goes on and on. The are a hormone based tablet maybe these may help some of you. I think what we all need is coffee mornings for menopausal women, so it's discussed and we could support each other like on this forum. After all there are Mother and baby groups why not menopausal!
I don't know what part of the menopause I'm in at the moment as I've not come off the Hrt long enough to find out, Do you still get a bleed if your post memo on Hrt? What I mean is does the progesterone in it cause a bleed which is not really your own? Does that make sense?
I still have so many questions about it all and it confuses it all with having ms too.
Ann x
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Hi Smokey
I haven't read the whole of the thread but in answer to your Q about hRT and post-meno.
If you are post-meno and go onto continuous combined HRT - this is designed so you don't get a bleed, although many women experience some spotting or bleeding for anything up to the first six months - but especially if they haven't been on any formn of HRT and the lining builds up a bit and comes away sporadically.
If you choose to remain on a cycle as many of us do in post-menopause - because we don't want to have continuous progestogens, then most women do get a withdrawal bleed every 4 weeks ( a few don't) - but this is due to the oestrogen in the HRT not their own oestrogen.
Once you are post-menopausal then your ovaries do not produce oestrogen on a cyclical basis and you do not ovulate so any bleed is artificial - due to the added oestrogen.
I agree it would be a great idea if GP practices or Trusts had a menopause support group - but sadly I imagine it is due to funding that these don't happen as they would need to be facilitated by someone, and also it tends still to be more of a taboo subject. It's a pity there isn't a voluntary organisation/charity dedicated to Menopause Support which could be run voluntarily - maybe someone should start one in their area and then it might spread wider!!
Hurdity x
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Clovie, yes, there's a lot of us who are experiencing these night terrors, absolutely awful and can't get back to sleep properly. Keep posting, as you are obviously having a really awful time and the ladies on here are wonderful and it's such a release to get it all out. X
thank you so much Justjules :thankyou: - the replies I've had from the lovely ladies on here have helped me sooooo much, I'm so grateful. Really. :thankyou:
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I'm so sorry your suffering this but at the same time relieved too because I am going through the same thing.
I've implants for the last 6 years but recently I let them run low and since then have had the most horrific night time adrenaline surges. They're teryfying. I just sit, curled up on my bed and cry. Nothing helps them. I've tried deep breathing and consciously trying to calm myself down but it doesn't help. They last for a couple of hours.
Other times I sleep through the night and it starts as soon as I get out of bed.
It's no coincidence that they kicked in when my implant ran low.
I'm now on EVOREL patches and hoping to increase to a higher dose soon because I'm only on 25mcgs at the moment.
I sympathise hugely and send you hugs.
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Hi
After commenting about not getting anxiety during the night since starting Hrt find that now I am, I wake up during the night and can feel these anxiety feelings starting to surge through me even before I open my eyes, I haven't had the dread and doom feelings back yet as they are terrifying !
I'm off to docs tomorrow for chat about upping Hrt I'm on everol sequil patches at the moment 75mg total ( 50 oestrogen /progesterone plus a 25mg oestrogen patch)
Ann x
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Could it be cortisol ? levels fluctuating?
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Hi CLKD
I really don't know anymore !