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Menopause Discussion => All things menopause => Topic started by: babyjane on August 11, 2015, 02:43:24 PM
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anyone know the song?
You've got to accentuate the positive
eliminate the negative
Latch on to the affirmative
But don't mess with mister inbetween
Following on from suggestions made today about pretending to be optimistic even if you don't feel it, lets try an experiment in glass half fullness.
As far as possible, for a week, if you can, try and 'pretend' to feel positive even if you don't really and see if it makes any difference to your mindset after a week.
I will find this very difficult being naturally a glass three quarters empty person for over 50 years but I am going to try. Anyone else? Unhinged? Sparkle? Lynda?
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Babyjane, I'm in!
Whatever happens, our experiment can't do any harm to us, only good!
So whenever I feel a big flush or the anxiety starting, I'm going to laugh and swear loudly at them - or in my head if I'm in company!
Everytime a negative thought comes in, I am going to grab it and make a deliberate effort to think positive when it happens.
I'm going to make an effort to think cheerfully about the future and every day.
I'm going to try tricking my mind into believing that everything's great, so it becomes a habit to think that way. Habits are very hard to break - this could work! x
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fZUmAbi0Vm4
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'Very good idea. I'm tired of the negativity too. My tinnitus among other things has done my head in and I've been fighting it, to no avail. Today I decided no fighting, Im going to relax into it. And I kept saying I will get better, I will get better. Before I even read this thread.
So yes Im up for it. It cant hurt and its not a drug so here goes.
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that's wonderful bramble :thankyou:
lets keep each other going if we can. We are probably going to be exhausted by next Tuesday :catscratch: :meltdown:
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I've just realised that I am going to have to ignore the 'what ifs', and turn them into 'so what's'. eeeek :o
Maybe, for me, the challenge is to try and live in the moment. Goodness just what has LellyM started with her comment ???
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Yes we're all going to be worn out ha ha! Good point Sarai, I'm going to stop fighting it too - no point, I'm going to ride through, and I've just laughed another flush in it's face!
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I find that if I go into the village shop or meet people briefly, it gives my adrenaline a boost and I feel better. So long as anxiety isn't there first!
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Already been doing it, can I have a 3 day headstart ;)
I have just been on the SimplyBe website and ordered some pretty new underwear in the sale, only me see it but it makes me feel better. That is my positive for today.
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My positivity is not going to be genuine to begin with, it is going to be false and forced. However I will be very interested to see if I can start to break the negativity habit and turn this round.
I realise a week will not change long held habits but it feels good to be proactive and take control of a small part of this wretched process.
I also want to say that we are not trying to be glib or make light of the troubles some of us experience. this is not saying 'cheer up' to anyone who is genuinely depressed or in turmoil. This is more a light hearted approach to issues that we feel able to confront. It is not meant to cause offence or make anyone feel trivialised. If this thread does make you feel like that then please pass it by.
SadLynda we'll just follow your lead................................
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new undies all round then ;D
(also certainly not making light of this, feel like a bag of poo most days)
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Hi SadLynda, ooh, do you feel it has made any difference yet?
That's a good positive. My positive is that I went to the docs unplanned without an appt and waited, and got new HRT to try!
I've also been chatting to some ladies on another thread about Scotland and planning my holiday. I actually don't feel a bit anxious at the moment, only excited!
I'm on a roll, I have just in the last few minutes arranged to go out with my great sister for lunch tomorrow! Ain't like great! (? see am doing it!)
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babyjane, yes, much of it is going to be forced, it's our attempt to change the way we think. I hope others won't think we're trivialising cause this menopause and anxiety sucks, this is just one other way we're trying to help ourselves. Anything that might even have the remote-ist possibility of stopping the darkness has to be tried, and there's no pressure, we'll all just do the best we can x
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I don't think they will Unhinged but I just wanted to cover all bases because if someone felt really down and looked at this thread it may appear a little trite and they might not understand what we are doing. I didn't want anyone to be offended so I tried to explain what we are doing and why.
Well I have decided that it really doesn't matter what dinner is like tonight so have left hubby in charge and I am not going to go down and see what he is doing until he calls me to tell me it is ready, although he has called up a few times to ask questions ::)
If any of you knew me you would realise what a biggie this actually is :-\
Sparkle, no pressure, see it as a game. there is no success or failure but we need a little fun sometimes. Give it a go, I am and I don't think I will come to any harm however it turns out. I will just have to try hard not to beat myself up if I don't manage it one day :)
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No it's good you've covered it off babyjane, it will always be there right on the very first page so everyone will know what we're trying to do, and we can go forward guilt-free about what we write without holding back for fear of upsetting anyone.
Well as that is a biggie for you then that's a fantastic start - I did chuckle about the calling up with questions though!
Nope no failing, we'll have hiccups and bad days as always, I think the fact that we're even trying it is the biggest positive of all, shows we haven't given up yet!
I am going to celebrate and take my ginger tea to the bath with me!
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Hi babyjane
I'm very much a glass half-full person, but I just wanted to say what a brilliant idea to encourage others to be like this even if it involves pretending to start with - and don't some of us do that all our lives in some situations ie act as if we're something else to give confidence - I know I've done this loads of times when I've been unsure!
Anyway I think it's a great idea because it's easy to get dragged down by negative feelings if you're feeling rough oneself and I love the idea of yours! :)
:sunny: :sunny: :sunny: :sunny: :sunny:
:) Hurdity x :)
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Hi Hurdity, I can't take all the credit. A new member called LellyM made a comment about trying to be optimistic and some of the other ladies developed the idea. It was just my idea to give it a thread of its own :).
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BabyJane, I'm in. I'm normally a 'glass half empty (& with a potential hole in it') sort of girl, so it wont be easy!
This is one of my favourite 'positivity' quotations: Life is not about avoiding the storm. It's about learning to dance in the rain.
B x
PS Anyone else not able to get the tune out of their heads?!! :whist:
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Count me in too.
Generally in my life I have been a glass half full but lately I've not even had the bl**dy glass so I'm ready to try wholeheartedly.
So when do we start.
Now or tomorrow morning.
The mind is a very powerful thing .....so....
Ready steady. ;D
Honeybun
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Unhinged, only ordered new stuff its not arrived yet. BUT, I did also order some bright pink wellies for my dog walking and they arrived today, more brightness in my life ;)
nobody gets beaten up for having an 'off day' we are totally excused with those (beyond our control).
HB my glass had the hole in it too and remained empty often.
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Honeybun - that make me chuckle! As for starting, yes it's right now, SadLynda is ahead by 3 days, but otherwise it's today!
I already have some positives today listed above (one thanks to you re the HRT!), but I've just done another one - I have been in the bath for at least 30-40 mins, normally I get in and out as quick as possible so I can get back to the safe sofa, but I took my tea, slowed myself down, had a cheerful chat with the spider who lives behind the loo (he never moves so I don't mind him - I don't like the ones that run about fast and so big you can see their faces!. My fingers look like prunes, haven't seen that for a while! x
P.S. SadLynda, we posted same time so missed you on my last post - love the pink wellies ha ha!
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Spider behind the loo :o
Honeybun
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Good thread. I was just remembering that we had a Positive thread a while back and I've just found it. Seems that I was the one who started it... meno brain!!!
Taz x :rofl:
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I positively remember that Taz
;D ;D
Honeybun
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If you practice positive thinking for long enough then I think it can change your mood.. obviously not your memory though!
Seriously it is a good thing to do. I thought positively at the weekend and managed to achieve a long journey and a family meet up (both stressful at the moment for no good reason!) and I felt good. Am trying to keep the positive vibes going. Hence my reply to my son's text that he was getting drenched trudging from the station was "The plants really need it though". I didn't get a very positive response. :)
Taz x
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Ha ha ha, Taz, what an excellent answer, I'm cracking up! x
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Count me in too, just told my husband I will go out tomorrow night for a meal, he's been asking for ages but I couldn't be bothered getting ready, now he deffo thinks I've lost the plot lol xx
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Hello again Cthrnstowe, that's a brilliant start, let us know how it goes! (And it's good to keep the men guessing ha ha!) x
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I'm in too :-).....sharing positive stories too can only big up the positivity :-).......absolutely positive as a collective we will feel better ....:-)
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It must be underwear week as I treated myself at Bravissimo yesterday!!! Loving the thread - positivity though sometimes elusive does help! My extra special positives today are my partner will be training to be a nurse plus doing a reflexology diploma next year so I can feel the need to be a guinea pig for the latter. Plus ben & Jerry's ice cream is half price at the supermarket. 😆😆😆😆
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I bought new nickers last week 8) - slightly less 'old lady' ones in that they don't pull up under my rib cage :D
OK - positives for 2-day: managed the eye appt. without anxiety; went shopping with DH without anxiety; been out with friends and fell asleep but they know not to wake me, feel rested ……. I could hear them vaguely in the background ::)
As for the spider behind the loo, if it doesn't move it's probably no longer alive ;D.
I can pick them up in a glass/cardboard these days and put them out ……. DH opens the front door and away we go ;D
Hoovering them up is another way which is what we do with FLIES - is that a positive :P
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By the way - I now have an ear-worm ::)
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I'm in. Your subconscious can't tell the difference between truth/fiction so as you're drifting off to sleep keep repeating I am fine, I feel good, I am okay etc as you fall asleep.
It's meant to re program your subconscious so you wake feeling happier.
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A bit of CBT then? Makes a change from counting sheep ;)
'this too will pass' sometimes works for me if I have time to relax.
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I'm in :) !
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Well ladies it's a lovely day, been up since 5.30 cleaning, my husband will definitely think I'm nuts, not done any cleaning for a long time, been leaving it all for him to do, happy Wednesday xx
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Morning! Beautiful sunshine here. In bed with a lovely cuppa. Chap off work today so planning on a trip out somewhere once the brake lights are fixed!!! Enjoy your day xx
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Count me in too.
Funnily enough, I was having a word with myself on the way to work this morning and decided to give the 'What if...' gremlin a boot up the butt as I'm fed up with its constant whining!!!
Today is the peak of the week, hubby is due home after being away for 3 days, and the sun is shining in a cloudless sky.
Galadriel x
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, I was having a word with myself on the way to work this morning and decided to give the 'What if...' gremlin a boot up the butt as I'm fed up with its constant whining!!!
Love this ^
Count me in too, just told my husband I will go out tomorrow night for a meal, he's been asking for ages but I couldn't be bothered getting ready, now he deffo thinks I've lost the plot lol xx
That's it (penny drops). For me I need to have the courage and the positivity to say 'yes' instead of 'no'. I've been scared of anxiety, the unknown, the unexpected,, not being in control, bad things happening for so long.......the list is endless. I've ended up in this safe little coccoon which is wrapping itself tighter and tighter around me.
Another thought that came to me is that if I have nothing nice to say then just be quiet :-X
This is group therapy for anxiety I think. On my own I lose the motivation but as soon as I read all the new posts here I felt re motivated.
My thought for today - nothing will be so bad that there is not a solution to it :)
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wtg BJ, good for you :)
BIG positive for me today. For months, infact most of this year.. I have not been able to take devil dog out (screwed up nutjob of a Labrador that hates everyone and thing when out). Today, I did it! I only took him round the big block with sausages and cream cheese at hand, but I did it. I am very proud of myself and my confidence is soaring. Next I am going 'shopping'...................
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I am often afraid to voice how I feel due to childhood conditioning (very long boring saga) so by bottling it up it gets bigger and bigger.
Has anyone else noticed when asked how you are you are not really expected to tell the truth! ::)
SadLynda would you consider behaviour therapy or advanced training for your dog. He can't be very happy if he cannot enjoy his walks due to his issues. Is he a rescue dog? Labs are usually quite placid natured if a little excitable. My husband's family has a history of labradors and we had one when we were first married.
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I'm reading this thread with interest - I've been trying to do this also! I can't say I'm a glass half full or empty - somewhere in the middle maybe - just a glass lol. I'm aware that recently I've been falling into negativity - pain does that I guess - but have already found that I'm feeling better being back at work - just talking to others does help! Count me in! My positive for today is that my new cushion - called "clever yellow" which I'm using because of my coccyx pain - does indeed give me some relief! The only thing is that every time I get up the cushion "farts" much to everyone else's amusement so that's a good thing!! lol
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ohhhhh, that's what I always say :(
reminds me of the whooppee cushions we used to put on people's chairs ;D
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I'm guilty of the "I'm fine" - someone in the office actually looked at me yesterday and said "you're not fine though are you" - true, but sometimes someone saying that is enough to make you cry don't you find!! So the "I'm fine" is sometimes a way of fending off the inevitable sympathy!
Went to the bargain store last night to try and find a cover for the clever yellow - as its leather - and a bit sweaty (you know what I mean!!) I got chatting to a lady who was also looking at cushions and laughed her head off when I told her what I wanted - a cushion I could just remove the cover from - didn't want to spend much. She found the whole thing hilarious for some reason - but looking at the positive I made someone laugh!
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count me in :-)
my postive for today is - off work. sun is shining so plan to sit in garden reading :-) also my two children are with yheir dad in spain having a whale of a time so i can relax. and partner off work also so we get some qt xx
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That was supposed to say taller lol x
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This just made me feel positive: “A woman in the autumn of her years deserves an Indian Summer rather than a
winter of discontent…†Robert Greenblatt, Medical College of Georgia, USA
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Great positives here - I also say 'I'm fine' lost too many so-called friends to say anything else, as few are interested and if they are would then make me cry too.
BJ - he is a rescue dog, we have had him just over 2 years, been to 3 lots of training and nobody can help. I did 6 years in Labrador rescue, and have had rescue dogs for over 25 years and never had/or met a dog like him - he is just totally 'screwed up' we just do what we can. Hubs can take him for off lead runs on the beach, as he can cope with the fall out from people, I cant. So its not that he doesnt get out, just not with me. I spent months doing training with him each morning and playing ball round the back before the warehouse opens, so he does get exercise, also has arthritis so cant do too much. He is only 3, so still time to grow a brain we hope.
Afternoon positive, survived shopping and kept cool at parents house, despite best efforts from them :D
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Oh Babyjane that reminded me ::) - someone I knew vaguely walked by me in the street and asked "Are you well today" and I replied "It's pouring and cold isn't it" …….. I watched her walk away and she never battered an eye-lid ::)
Today I've been out with DH - anxiety background on the journey there and back, in-between OK even managed a light lunch :-*
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sounds good clkd :-) im managed to snooze in garden.. so cant be that anxious..although same - background x
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Today I am marvellously cheery, relaxed and optimistic....good positive vibes ladies XXX
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SadLynda, poor boy and only 3. Do you know his history or not, could he have some abuse damage? I dread to think what he endured to make him like that. Bless you for giving these dogs a forever home and love.
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Some great positive comments on this thread already!
I've returned home after a great day; lunch in a pub with my sister and a visit to an antiques centre, so I'm come home exhausted but in a good way.
Also picked up my new HRT patches, so will try putting one of those on as soon as I've done my ironing - back to work tomorrow so ironing for the week to be done (yuk, I know this is a positive thread but I just can't get enthusiastic about ironing - I'd rather dig a trench ha ha!).
Hope everyone is having a good day! x
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yes thank you I am having a lovely day, really, honestly, yes I am, I am, I AM :great:
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Great stuff babyjane, it don't matter if you're faking it or forcing it, you're still saying it! x
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it don't matter if you're faking it
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I could never fake 'it' - is that a positive ;D
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Hi Ladies, this thread has been recommended to me today as I was feeling pretty low - I am going to try & give a a whirl! I am due to have CBT sometime soon which is meant to challenge negstive thoughts so lets try & get a head start! :) x
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Well done on taking on a rescue dog. If he don't get on with other dogs then try a muzzle? that way no one gets nipped. Also if he is muzzled he may be less reactive. Do you have friends with dogs who are non confrontational?
As long as you are aware of his traits and can give him some off lead exercise; as long as he returns, otherwise how about a pony lunging rein? That's what I used with dogs that wouldn't come back, one because of deafness. They had good 'free' runnig but under control ;)
Positive this evening: bathed and freshly smelling
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I am feeling calmer this morning, taking my youngest daughter to the beach and fair at Burnt island :-)
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I have broadband again today after a day without, so that is a big positive.
The sun is shining and I'm off to do my food shop which I positively hate ;D
Onward and upwards today
Honeyb
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Had a lovely day yesterday, had to push myself to go for a meal last night with the hubby, but really enjoyed it xx
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I slept all night in our marital bed and only woke up once briefly. don't know what that's all about but I feel great today as a result :)
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Hi folks,
I like this idea - I do try to be a positive person most of the time as I feel that being negative just makes things feel worse and doesn't change the outcome!
I find the different reactions to the M quite interesting. I hear of women who go into a downward spiral of "OMG I am no longer a woman.......". I guess I must be confident in my identity as my thoughts have been "Great, no more cramps and mess". I suppose it makes a difference if you are the maternal type. I never have been so maybe that makes it easier?
I have a close friend who is going through the same (we are the same age). We also both had surgery for ovarian cycts and have had our gall bladders removed. We have decided to be "Crones together". It is nice tho as we are closer than sisters and can talk to each other about ANYTHING.
Lx
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Today I am celebrating my DD getting into York University. She worked her socks off and I'm so proud of her.
I'm also eating freshly picked tomatoes from our garden and rhubarb stewed with cinnamon and ginger, also freshly picked from the garden.
I'm fortunate to have a great colleague at work who is exactly a year older than me (we share a birthday) and had a hysterectomy last year - we keep each other company with daft symptoms ;D
Galadriel x
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congrats Galadriel, great news. Well done on your sleep BJ.
BJ - no we dont know his history, we were lied to by rescue. Sparkle, we had 'normal' Labradors in the past too :) CLKD, the muzzle is a bone of contention, I think he should have one DH disagree's, the dog doesnt bite but lunges and dives (given the chance), DH can handle him as he is very strong so takes him way out on the beach for running times, the Staffie has a lunge line every day.. she is fine but everyone is afraid of her due to her breed so I have to keep her on a line as she is so friendly.
Positives - took devil dog out on lead walk again :) AND, daughter had baby scan today and I am going to be grandmother to a girl :) AND her middle name is to be Lynda :) :)
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congratulations to Galadriel's daughter and to your daughter Lynda.
I have had a lovely morning :). I found a smashing outfit for a wedding in 3 weeks time. I found it by accident in Monsoon as I was all set to wear my outfit from daughter's wedding last year. I am really excited about it now. :gym:
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Well done girls!
I've never met a bad Staffie yet and I'm getting on in years ;D
Muzzles keep your dog safe. It alerts passers by that there is a problem - I always approach an owner with a dog in a muzzle as they usually want to talk about it …….. and usually the dog is fine too when ignored ;)
Today have been OK - is that positive enough? ;)
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What lovely news SadLynda - you need a name change to HappyLynda.
Thank you ladies - I'm soo pleased for DD. For a while I wasn't sure she'd go. As some of you know, she's had a bad time with anxiety but is now getting good results from citalopram and weekly counselling. With the Uni being 20 mins away, she knows she has a safety net if needed.
The Staffies I know are lovely and very playful - such a shame they get bad press.
CKLD - that counts as a positive in my book.
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Positive going to York too - 1 of my fav Cities and where my Dad did his TT training ……. so lots of family connections
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Have you tried a Halti on your dog. It stopped my bouncy retriever pulling me off my feet when she was young. Five stone of dog is very powerful but if they are trying to pull with their nose rather than shoulders it makes a huge difference.
Been in the garden this afternoon. Just pottering due to my back but managed a little. It was lovely to be out in the ....SUN .. ;D
Honeybun
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My positive for today stepped down in work, it will reduce my stress levels,felt like a weight had been lifted xx
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cthrnstowe well done. I hope this helps and doesn't bring other stresses such as financial.
I had to leave a job I loved but it was killing me (exaggeration but it felt like it). I have been so much better since. My husband did the same a couple of years ago and he is so much better now physically and mentally.
Good luck to you in whatever you choose to do.
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Progress then Cthrnstowe!
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Good thread. I was just remembering that we had a Positive thread a while back and I've just found it. Seems that I was the one who started it... meno brain!!!
Taz x :rofl:
You did and I've found it too! I'm bumping it as I'd forgotten you thought of it months ago too! looks like lots of members getting the same idea so can only be a good thing. :)
Hurdity x
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It's so good to read all of your positive stories ladies....it definitely helps both reading them and thinking of positives......going out today, just not sure where ATM lol with my daughter.....I am upbeat and hopeful :-) ...have a fantastic day all :-) xxx
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I'm struggling a bit today but here goes... I lost one of the four holiday pounds this week and it's Friday so I can have some wine tonight.
Galadriel x
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my positive thought for today -
I was thinking last night in bed, my symptoms have abated considerably since 5 years ago. In fact I feel a lot better than I did 12 months ago :).
The symptoms I do still get are milder too and I believe the menopause does run its course and eventually levels out with or without help, whichever way you choose :yipi:.
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This is a lovely thread, makes me happy just to read it, I personally am very positive but still have days when I get tangled up in myself and know it really helps to think through all the great ( very normal ) things about my life and take lots of exercise as that really helps, I like to smile at people I dont know hopefully not in a mad sort of way and when they smile back that feels good, x
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great news BJ :)
HB, oh yes 'the halti' I have lead trained many a dog with the use of a halti, now then... devil dog came to us and we discovered he had never had a lead on, he is a very big and very powerful dog he pulled DH on the floor many times. I got a halti, devil dog threw himself at the floor and refused to move. I have photo's of the week I tried and of devil dog on the floor in the driveway while I sat on the wall. The halti did not work. Also tried the gentle leader and all other variations. Not forgetting the 3 trainers.
Didnt take Devil dog out today.
I'm fine today - honest 8)
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Oh dear, poor thing has really had a hard time. My Retreiver was as soft as soft and I could really do anything with her that I wanted. However I did have an Irish Setter that had a bad streak a mile wide. I paid to send her to a training school for a week and it did help a bit. Hubby was the only one who could control her.
My positive for today....umm. Back is a bit better and son is coming to visit tomorrow....I think.
Oh and I'm home after a morning at mothers...that's always positive ::)
Honeybun
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I'm struggling today, night sweats are back, had my first panic in the night for months and am so down, and its raining. Whats positive? I honestly don't know :(
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he didn't understand what you were trying to do to him did he Lynda? Poor dog, how to overcome all his issues will take all your expertise but you will find a way in eventually. You will win his trust.
I know a family who took in a very damaged dog, damaged from a few weeks old. It took 5 years for him to learn what love is and to start to trust. He died 2 years later from issues related to his very poor start but he knew love and play and what grass is for those final 2 years.
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I'm struggling today, night sweats are back, had my first panic in the night for months and am so down, and its raining. Whats positive? I honestly don't know :(
If your night sweats are back sarai then they must have gone away once and will go away again. Try to believe that if you can, if only for a little while x
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To be honest i went to bed feeling good, my tinnitus was quieter, thought that was a good sign and woke up scared stiff with it screaming at me. hence the panic.
Cant decide if hormones causing the sweat made it spike.
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BJ - 5 years!!! omg, that gives me another 3 yet, looking back I really do not think he did know. Before him we adopted a similar dog at 18 months old, he had a bad start and was rather difficult too. Took him about 2 years to settle and we loved him so much, we lost him days before his 5th birthday to bone cancer :'(
Sarai - not sure if I should say this or not here, but I tried 'sage capsules' last week, not had a night sweat since, might be co-incidence and they may return, but might be worth trying till you get any other remedy sorted out. I do drink sage tea at bed time too.
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Big positive today :-) went to finalize wedding arrangements - scaled it down to what i really want instead of the big "do".. then went for pub lunch. - no anxiety and actually quite enjoyed it. - now if this background fear would just bugger off... would be a perfect day ! :-)
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Sadlynda, thanks for that , I will look into sage. see if its ok with blood thinners.
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SadLynda we can say what we like here if it is positive ;)
Your boy might not take that long but he will learn what love is and stop fighting you, I do believe that. You have so much experience with them, just be patient and consistent and he will learn x
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Good Luck Sarai.
BJ - he is fine now in the house, better in the car. He loves us too, just too much - he now thinks everyone out there is trying to kill us and he must protect us from them all.
having a think for a postive...............
fish n chips for tea so no cooking :)
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Been out and about with no anxiety
[we have a dog thread ;) ]
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my positive thought for today -
I was thinking last night in bed, my symptoms have abated considerably since 5 years ago. In fact I feel a lot better than I did 12 months ago :).
The symptoms I do still get are milder too and I believe the menopause does run its course and eventually levels out with or without help, whichever way you choose :yipi:.
Hi Babyjane and all, Babyjane I've only just got in from work so have just seen your post! This gives me great hope, please can you tell us more, what the worst of the symptoms were 5 years ago and how they've improved now? I'm been thinking about if the menopause does run its course and what is in store, this is the first post I've read on this subject so am very very interested in what you said! x
My positive for today: I'm excited about my coach trip tomorrow. I have to get up at three as the coach leaves at 5 so I'd better go bed soon!
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Enjoy your trip Unhinged !
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Thanks CLKD!
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Happy Outing Unhinged.
were is the dog thread?? ???
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Thanks Sadlynda!
Sorry can't help, don't know anything about dog thread
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unhinged my main struggles were low mood, irritability, loss of energy, hot flushes, night sweats, vaginal atrophy, loss of libido, insomnia and, more recently, anxiety.
I have used Vagifem successfully for 4 years now and over the last 12 months the flushes and night sweats have become less, not every day, and when they do they only last a few minutes. I do have episodes of insomnia but they don't go on for weeks and weeks like they did.
I believe, and this is my opinion, that whilst the oestrogen levels are fluctuating the body is in turmoil, not knowing which way is up and that is when you get a deluge of symptoms. Gradually I think that the hormone levels, although lowered, become more stable and the body starts to adjust to the new setting and the symptoms get milder. This is my opinion and I know some ladies have symptoms well into their 70s and beyond. Other ladies have less trouble.
It is such a personal thing and one lady's experience will not necessarily be the same for another but this is what I, personally, have found so far.
SadLynda, dog thread -
http://www.menopausematters.co.uk/forum/index.php/topic,27218.0.html
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Thanks very much Babyjane, that makes sense re the oestrogen levels, I have read that it's when they're fluctuating that we suffer, I know it'll be different for everyone but it still gives me hope, after two years of increasingly worse symptoms and I'm hoping that in another couple of years I'll be lucky and they start to settle.
But even if they don't, I honestly believe that it won't stay this bad forever! (I really do, that's not a 'pretending' comment!)
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I know a lady who had her last hot flush aged 71, then she never had another and is now fine.
If we live long enough then it is bound to come to an end :)
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Oh crikey, 71? Mind you I suppose that would be ok if symptoms were milder, I can deal with flushes, it's the rest of it. I have noticed though, you don't see many elderly ladies with anxiety do you? So it must stop when hormones settle - can't wait for that day, it will come! (Just got to survive for long enough ha ha - that did make me chuckle!)
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unhinged I know another lady who is 63 and has never had a hot flush.
Like I said, you can't compare your own situation with anyone else's as you are you x
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We don't know how others are feeling ;) - that could be a positive 'cos if I thought others were freaking out I would join them!
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it's strange, don't know if it is coincidence but over the last few days my mindset seems to be shifting and my glass seems to be filling up a little. Just a few drops here and there but I seem to be finding more positive alternatives to issues that arise and things aren't mattering quite so much.
I do hope it lasts but I can't do it on my own so I will keep this thread up if that is all right with others :)
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Thanks BJ, great post - and found dog thread now :)
yes, do keep this going - need to read good things for others.
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I must admit I'm feeling more positive, just because I found this forum and know I'm not going mad, for the last few days I've not been looking on the Internet to see if I have a life threatening illness lol xx
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I treated myself to a lovely facial and eyebrow trim before going shopping with DD for stuff for her University Halls. We had a good giggle and we drove the car with the roof down, singing at the pitch of our voices ;D
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Not sure if this will help anyone struggling at the minute.. but certainly made me feel a bit more in control.. messaged an old school friend (male) who i knew suffered anxiety in the past and had counselling.. now recovered :-) this is what he had to say :
Welcome anytime. Easier to talk about it, then you know it's not just you who thinks the weight of the world is on your shoulders. I've had lots of messages from people, lots of folks our age struggling with the stresses of life. Definitely not alone. It can only make us stronger.
I convinced myself I was dying, was scared to leave the house. Looking back it's laughable. You really are what you think you are. Control the negative thoughts which are totally exaggerated and put in some new ones by writing them down and learning them like we did spellings at school. Sounds daft, but it's simple and an easy way to regain control. Don't believe those irrational thoughts. Write them down and decide how silly they are.
Hormones are a bugger! obviously I don't know what it feels like, but it's a challenge that I'm sure you can work out.
Don't bottle anything up. Always talk to someone.
Haha, I was the same! Trust me, it's ridiculous looking back at it.
I was so scared that "something bad was going to happen", just that single thought got me into a full blown panic attack!
So I wrote down all the bad things I could think of. Added stupid ones like getting attacked off dinosaurs, mad giraffes, tortoises.... Then it just clicked, I Realised that I could control my thoughts and that they didn't control me.
Took years to realise this, but it was a defining moment.
I'm never ashamed, you shouldn't be too. All you've been through and how hard you work. Be proud you can talk about it, being worried that someone finds out you had struggles with anxiety is nothing to worry about.
Definitely made me stronger, wiser and mentally aware.
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Thank you for taking the time LW44 :thankyou:
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Great help LW44, thank you :)
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That's so true LW44 ! After a hilarious session of aqua aerobics with my long time friend(also a fellow anxiety sufferer and psych nurse) we went for a cuppa. And we're saying the same thing. I'll also add not focusing on things helps. The less you think about anxiety (or any negative thing) the less important it is.Three weeks ago I was convinced my anxiety issues were back with a vengeance but I ignored it and the irrational thoughts and it's gone. It's not the big monster. As a positive if you ever need a good belly laugh and a bit of exercise try aqua aerobics. 😆😆😆
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LW44 - all of your post applies to me and it made me laugh too ;D
I just remembered and funny positive from my holiday.
I was concerned about how my estradot patch would hold up in the humid high temperatures of Orlando and how it would fare in the water parks.
Well I'm pleased to report that as long as I was careful where I stuck it (abdomen seemed best as you will see...) it stuck to me like a limpet.
And then one patch change day I went into autopilot and stuck it to my butt cheek - not normally an issue.
No problem until the next patch change day... and I couldn't find the little blighter.
What had I been doing that day? Zooming down flume rides in a water park. One in particular is a five storey drop. Great fun until you hit the run-off channel and the bottom. Not only did it give me the biggest wedgie I'd ever had, it turns out it blasted my patch off. Goodness only knows what happened to it but it made me giggle that evening. I even roped in DH to hunt for the missing patch ;D
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aww that is sooooo good to hear ! its true thats how ive got myself stuck.. thinking "oh no its back" and the anxiety got a grip ... i am working really hard to ignore the thoughts amd feelings now... even writing positive ones down... managed to have an hrs conversation with my sis without talking about how im "feeling" ;-) just bought paint and plan to paint hallway... that will keep me busy ! thank you for sharing :-) aqua arobics sounds good fun ! x
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galadriel - thats hilarious ; D. and the sort of thing that would happen to me ! i love water slides. and so good we can laugh about these things x
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I would normally have panicked about being patchless for the day but I couldn't have cared less. I wondered if it got stuck to the bloke who came down after me :rofl:
I've often thought about writing the negatives down and then feeding them to the shredder :o
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;D love the patch story.
My positive for today, that awful GP who tailed me from one practice to the new one is leaving in September :gym: and I had a nice appointment with the nurse.
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my positive for today is that I had 7 hours sleep last night, and 6 the night before. I wonder if feeling more positive helps you sleep better. I guess it's better than lying awake staring into the dark mulling over how awful everything is.
LellyM I bet you didn't know what you were starting with your little comment about being optimistic but thank you for it x
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7 hours sleep??? what all at once?? Wow :) :)
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apart from a wee in my bucket at 3am ;D
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Bucket :o
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Explanation....are you in a tent.
I was up in the night and guided myself half asleep only to discover my dear hubby had put both seat and lid down. I backed up and sat down only to discover I was sitting on the lid....and blooming cold it was. I just thought I was lucky not to wee all over the floor.
If I've told him once .... ::)
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Hi BJ and all our other ladies doing the week test!
Well, it's the end of the week, how do you all feel - do you feel that thinking positive has helped with your anxiety?
For myself, although thinking positive thoughts hasn't stopped the anxiety (I didn't expect it to and it has only been a week after all), I do feel that it has helped me ride through it better and helped me to cope better when the anxiety strikes. In fact for the milder attacks I think it did make quite a bit of difference.
It's hard work this not giving in ha ha, but I am going to continue with this attempt to re-train my brain, so it's a thumbs-up from me.
I hope you're all doing ok x
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Hi Grangravy,
That's a good analogy re driving, that's what I want to aim for, to work towards 'automatically' thinking positive. I do agree, if you are so used to thinking negatively which is a 'side effect' of anxiety - not because we're negative people in general ie before this damn menopause hit I certainly wasn't, then that becomes an automatic habit. So I want to form a new habit of thinking positively. It is so interesting how our mind works and I do believe we can take charge of it - no matter how hard it is!
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That week went fast, all good to me :) Not posted so much as had a poor few days. But today is good.
One more job to do and then I am going to town (this is an achievement for me) to meet my friend for a coffee and maybe cake too ;) I cant remember the last time I did this. I usually think it is too short notice to ask her on the same day, but today I thought 'well, if she is busy then so be it' so I text her and she said 'love to, see you then' :)
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Way to go SadLynda and Grangravy! That's positivity in action, deciding to get out and do something even if it is difficult. I always feel good after I do something like that, spurs me on to do another one.
Enjoy the cake SadLynda - yeah I'm like that, never like to ask anyone at short notice as I feel like I might be a nuisance, but that's proof that I shouldn't worry! Sorry about your lamb chops GranGravey - there now, a reason to go again another day!
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Well then... that's made up my mind. I was going to give my bike a miss today as it's raining but after work I am going out to play on it anyway!
In other news, my new mattress is due to be delivered this week. I can't wait to try it out ;)
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Great idea Galadriel, I have also been playing in the rain doing my fences (well helping the fencing guy anyway!).
Ooh re the mattress, I don't suppose your Celeborn is going to complain, and, if you can nudge Aragorn my way, well I'll go buy a new whole bed especially! (Am assuming am talking to another LOTR fan - if not you'll just think I'm a nutter!)
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yay, great positives and stories.
I'm back, one hot chocolate with cream and one v.large chocolate cake later (yes, I will regret that one later, but who cares). I had a fab day. My friend said she often thinks the same, but knowing how hard it was for me to venture into town she never liked to ask for fear of putting pressure on me, so sure we will do this more often now. She will be joining the forum soon, she just needs a new desktop pc to arrive and her and her vast amount of meno problems will be here, she has loved hearing all about it.
meanwhile the husband who was 'meant' to be here dog sitting went out to sort out a new lease car leaving me not knowing what to do about tea, phoned up and said leave it he will fetch a chinese home, so good day all round really :)
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what lovely stories, I love yours grangravy, very well done :foryou:.
I have been out all day at friends with husband and dog. We had a lovely day and a lovely pub lunch (must post in pub thread).
One week on and I do feel the difference. I am not positive every minute, old habits die hard, but my attitude to the not so positive times is shifting so will we keep on with this? yes I think so.
Let's keep in touch via this thread and support each other because it seems to be doing us some good :)
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Babyjane I'm glad you also feel it's helping, yes let's keep it going, I do find it really comforting when we're all on here, it really is a support network! What a lovely day you've had too!
At the risk of you all thinking I've lost it completely, there's a 'thing' I've been doing this week; whenever a negative thought comes in, I actually picture me getting hold of it with my mind and moving it into a box then pushing it away into the open sky, whilst saying "Perspective" (as in keep things in perspective - I tend to magnify bad things). I do all this silently and without movement of course or they'll be sending the yellow vans for me. It nips the smaller negative thoughts in the bud in 5 seconds flat. It hasn't fully worked with the worst anxiety yet, but maybe I can build up.
In the meantime, like you SadLynda I have made an impromptu arrangement for a meal in with a friend and we are having a Chinese. I also have a bottle of red wine waiting - gawd knows what that's going to do but I'm in a 'who blooming cares' slightly carefree mood! x
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Yes Unhinged, I'm another mad LOTR fan. I've been reading the trilogy every year since I first discovered the books aged 16.
Celeborn (DH for all you non-fans) is very excited about the new arrival. Next time I see Aragorn, I'll nudge him in your direction... he's left his swords in my study!!!
I do a similar mind exercise for negative thoughts. I relax and go to my 'safe place'. Then there's a wall with a lovely pair of closed curtains - Cath Kidston Cherry pattern (I have a vivid imagination). I open the curtains and see a pair of small lift doors (like a dumb waiter). I press the button and the lift rises. Inside is a steel chest, padlocked. I open the box, put the negative inside, and lock the box. I can even hear the click of the padlock! I press the button again and the box descends deep into the earth. I close the doors and the curtains and walk back into my safe place and stay there for a few moments, before returning to reality.
Enjoy your Chinese and wine.
Mmmmm Chocolate Cake... Sounds like you had a nice impromptu meeting SL
I agree babyjane, this is helping me focus on the many positives out there so I'm keeping going with it.
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Galadriel - Aragorn has left his swords in your study? Well that's just plain greedy! But thanks, do send him my way next time you see him! Gosh you're just like me, I was a fan long before the films ever came, I don't think I've read it as much as you but I have read it in full 16 times plus dipping in and out of favourite passages as extra. Nice to hear of a real pre-film fan!
Your routine does sound similar to mine, thanks for telling us about that, I wasn't sure if I sounded a bit 'weird', so was grateful to read yours!
Thanks, I will enjoy the Chinese and wine - and maybe watch ROTK with it! x
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Loving all these posts- they really make me smile thank you 😊😊😊😊😊 I've just done 60 lengths of the pool (ok it's a small pool but it sounds good) and instead of my usual counting I decided to repeat a saying as I swam. I though of 'there's nothing to fear but fear itself' and 'every day in every way I'm feeling better and better'! 10 mins in the jacuzzi and I'm off home feeling relaxed refreshed and a little wrinkly! !!!
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I will be away from the forum for a few days due to family birthday, whole family including grandchildren descending for the weekend and a laptop that I am sure is menopausal and needs attention.
Keep positive everyone, I am going to have a lovely weekend, I am, I really am :)
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Have a lovely time Babyjane!
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Have fun babyjane.
Today's positives are DH arrives home tonight after his weekly 3 day trip to the office, the network was down for most of the morning at my work so I took the chance to do some studying (I could have dusted my desk etc but decided it can stay where it is), and the sun is shining 8)
Galadriel x
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miss you BJ x
Today's positives, took devil dog out - and seems I can lift him off all his feet and dump him in a driveway after all (another dog barked at him). Also went to Aldi, this is a major achievement as it involves a big scary roundabout to get there, and having lived here for 15 years I have never gone right round that roundabout till today. One reason was never having a car quick enough, which I have now. Other reason was confidence. I also did the dentist, this is not a good thing, but I did it anyway.
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" ……… will fetch a chinese home ………. " :-\ is he good at housework ? ;)
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Today's positive for me was going out for lunch with a friend after having panic this morning.......brain fatigued but went....I am a survivor :-)
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Well done you! It always amazes me how much energy a panic attack takes! :-\
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Thanks clkd, yeah it was difficult but I did it .....shaky today but hopefully I will feel better later xxx
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Well done TV... :medal:
My new mattress has arrived already. The nice delivery men were here at 7:30am :o , put the new mattress in and took the old one away. I can't wait to test it ;)
Galadriel (champion bedroom trampoline bouncer) x
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Thanks, just looking in. I am ok, still very busy, meeting myself coming back but looking forward to family and grandchildren arriving tomorrow. Had a bit of a sticky moment in town this morning with hubby, it was so busy, but all right again now.
Just popped in to keep myself grounded.
Had a good appointment with GP this morning :)
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Hope apt went well BJ.
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I bought my first tablet yesterday (computer type I mean). With the aid of my brother in law it is up and running and I am becoming familiar with using it. Not bad for a real technophobe dinosaur :)
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I love my iPad, so fast and easy to use.
Enjoy BJ
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What's a tablet ;D ::)
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Today's positive was smirking and trying not to laugh when I served peas to go with tonight's dinner. (See Piles thread for explanation) :o ;) ;D
Galadriel x
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My positives for today are went for a swim with a friend, had a friend over for dinner, made a vet and dentist appt for our cat and daughter respectively lol....oh...and my daughter had her induction day at college.....hooray for a good day :-)
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I loved watching my DH open his birthday pressies today Each one was a winner :)
Galadriel x
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Happy birthday to him GD, your baby boy growing up. ::)....except they never do in a mums eyes.
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:-\ DH Honeybun, DH ;D
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Oh heck, read that one wrong.
Happy birthday to your hubby GD.
Foot and mouth for me today ;D
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Lolling ladies.....sure he's growing into a fine man Galadriel.....lovely to see people you love excited opening presents :-) x
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I need to find a positive as I am feeling rather negative today.
The sun is shining, I am alive, my husband loves me, I have three wonderful children and three gorgeous grandchildren, I need nothing more just at the moment. Also I am not responsible for everyone's happiness and wellbeing and the world would turn without my help and I cannot save the world. There, if anyone reads my ramblings in another part of the forum my last comment will make sense as I am buckling under responsibility anxiety. If not it won't but it doesn't matter.
I am having a very funny day today and I hope it is all right to put it on the forum as I need somewhere to lay it down.
this forum is a very positive thing :hug:
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:foryou: :hug: BJ - sounds like you need it today.
My positive today is my appointment is made for some more acupuncture which I know will make me feel better, if nothing else at least he listens to me :)
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Well done for finding the positives in your day babyjane, I know the feeling of not doing enough to contribute to the world....but if you contribute to those you love then this helps the world become a better place....hope this helps....brilliant lynda, its a move in the right direction....I've got a massage booked for next week.....after years of neglecting myself, I have decided to do stuff for me and look after myself.....positive for the day, a healthy salmon salad for tea :-) xxx
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Laughed my socks off HB. ;D
I set a new personal best time in my cycle route even with strong head winds.
And now I'm in the garden in the evening an with DH and a beer!!! :drunk:
Galadriel x
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A reminder to think of some good things about your health/menopause rather than look for ailments which can be depressing!!
I felt so much better today because the sun was out, and I was able to sit outside in it as my work hasn't really got going yet! :)
Hurdity x :sunny: :sunny: :sunny:
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Well good for you....
Some of us can't be Pollyanna all the time.
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Can I be positive about my lovely bubble bath this evening as well as DH who cooks/cleans for me regardless?
It's OK to have several 'how are we' threads ;) - dip in, dip out!
By dropping a pebble into a puddle, love and hope can be spread
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Did drumming again with Resonate, a ladies drumming group and had a great time, not sure if I'm in yet as on a bit of a trial but fingers crossed :-)....bit shaky this morning but trying to ignore it....job centre today hurrah ;)....have a blessed day ladies xxx
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My positive is that I'm going out for lunch with my sister and then packing ready for holiday!
CLKD your quote: "It's OK to have several 'how are we' threads ;) - dip in, dip out!
By dropping a pebble into a puddle, love and hope can be spread"
Absolutely agree! x
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Only one of my ankles is broken? ::)
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The sun is shining and we are going out.
Both ankles would be a real problem Limpy ;D
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Limpy, that really made me laugh ;D well done.
Aside from earlier headache I feel pretty good today - fingers crossed its the start of a better few weeks :)
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My word - what did I start?????
I would live to give everyone an observation that me and the Hubster have found. if you "fake" being positive long enough it seems to stick and become a habit. Makes me feel better about things anyway.
LellyM!
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Good Luck with the drumming Tropical :)
Thanks Sparkle :thankyou:
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Thanks LellyM, are you LesleyM now? that is what struck me after your original comment and why I started the thread. I thought maybe we could fool our negativity into being more positive and so help us to feel a bit better. Best wishes to you and your hubster :)
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I'm still above ground ;)
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Thanks sparkle n Lynda....not sure to be honest.....think they all need a wee conflab.....fingers crossed......after a ropey morning, actually feeling quite good tonight, dicky n acid tummy but mood actually OK hurrah....hope you all have a wonderful relaxed sleep tonight....me too :-) xxx
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Last week I took the plunge and bought a Kegel8 for stress incontinence. I'm fed up leaking when I sneeze >:(
Been using it every day.
I sneezed last night, forgot to 'brace myself', and no leaks! Woohoo!
Galadriel x
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Todays positive - Sat in the sun paintbrush in hand turning my garden wall mushroom colour! No spotting or cramps since stopping the vagifem and no replay of the two weeks anxiety horror 😊😊😊😊 youngest son off to Ireland in two weeks then Asia in the new year and eldest coming back for Xmas then back to Oz for another year and it didn't even phase me!!!! Yes I'll miss them but what fab boys I brought up!!! Even when I feel yuk I try to be positive and it does help Lellym 😉
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Christmas isn't that bad, really it isn't. (keep repeating to myself and I will start to believe it instead of fretting about it).
Go with the flow, just let it all happen, no need to get stressed. It will be lovely to see all the family, I don't have to wear myself out or do everything.
Honestly, Christmas will be all right, truly it will :)
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There's always Macdonalds Babyjane ;)
No panic symptoms today
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Ok it's September and the C word is about a hundred days away so how about stressing maybe two weeks away.
It's as hard as we make it.
I'm afraid I do what I want to these days and it was not popular in my family to start with. They thought because I was a chef for years that my idea of a good time was to cook some more.....well I did for years and then got so fed up that I said no more.
So now we have the Xmas I want....yes me...as I was the one that did all the work.
So ladies .....in the nicest way....if you don't like what's coming up....then change it. I did and although difficult for the first year its
fine now.
Oh , and I don't do New Year catering either, I did it for years and for ever increasing numbers....but no more...I'm too old and it's my festive season too.
Get what you want sorted out and just go for it.
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:rofl: Babyjane - I will go to my Grave never having set foot inside a Macdonalds ;-)
Is that a positive :-\ ;D
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Nowt wrong with Mac Ds
They do great chips, in fact their chips are :-*
Don't knock it till you've tried it.....oh and they do a mean bacon and egg roll.....yummy.
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Why that face CLKD, have you actually tried anything.
They do muffins and good coffee too.
What's up with a bacon roll, especially on a cold morning.
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Yuk …….. can't digest eggs, love the smell of bacon but unless it's burnt to a crisp then you can eat my share ;)
I avoid muffins these days - too much sugar which makes my system feel sluggish ……. since I stopped eating shop bought cakes for 11s I feel a lot better!
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Oh they do, and on my annual visit..... ;D I indulge, along with chips ;D
Usually accompanied by DD who is a terrible influence when she has the munchies.
I have not had chips from a chippy for a couple of years...until last week. DD and I were in town doing a bit of shopping and we walked past the chippy. The smell.....oh the smell....we ended up with a portion of chips between us....salt and vinegar ...on the sea front, fighting off the gulls. Tasted wonderful.
I rarely indulge ...but sometimes ;D
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i can't eat shop fish and chips any more either :'(
Chocolate milk shake anyone ;)
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It was just chips CLKD.....And eaten by the beach....improves digestion I think.
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You didn't dunk the chips into the milk shake then ;)
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Well no, buts it's an idea.
Wasn't a MacDs.
Just a local Italian chippy.....lots of them here and they do great ice cream too ;D
Hardly ever indulge, but in the winter especially when you walk past a chippy :-*
Mind you we have a hand made chocolate shop that does tablet next to the chip shop, you get the sugar hit as you walk past one, followed by the chippy smell. Puts you off both ::)
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Survived the first yoga class this term and am the teacher' pet due to being quite bendy ;D
Mmmmm tablet! You don't get it down here HB. I have to make my own and I'm rubbish at it :(
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I'm not that good at making either GD, fortunately we have a great old fashioned chocolate and sweet shop that does it really well.
I used to make tablet for the kids at Haloween....went down quite well but it wasn't that great.
It's death for teeth though.
My sis is the tablet queen, she makes lots for coffee mornings and it sells so quickly and she always gives me some.
Oh heck, now I've got a bit of a notion ::)
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My positive today is that I got into the ladies drumming group I auditioned for.....so excited ....mmmmm if anyone fancies sending tablet up to Scotland feel free :-) x
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:congrats:
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Well done TV69 :medal:
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Thanks girls so chuffed :-)
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Great news TropicalVon - what sort of drumming? I saw an amazing drumming group at a festival called the magic drum orchestra (I think) - they were absolutely brilliant and their leader was superb!
Hurdity x :)
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Thanks hurdity....its very hard to describe...maybe a bit tribal.....they're found on YouTube.....they (we) :party: :boobs: :boobs: are called Resonate from kirkcaldy....there also a Facebook page...wow the festival sounds brilliant....will seeif I can find them on YouTube.....thanks for the support.....think we have a gig on 26th and I may be playing....fingers crossed :-)
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Thanks sparkle...:-)
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Well done TV69
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I've got a Moon Boot Cast and am SO much more mobile :)
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Aw feeling really anxious today was in hospital all last night with my daughter who has suspected viral meningitis. She's home, but poorly. Been there all morning with hubby and Nonna helping with babe who is one. She is 18 weeks pregnant too, so I've been so worried. Suffering a lot of palps and funny vibration feeling on my left side. I know it's all anxiety, but it frightens me! I didn't get to bed til one this morning and just had to come home while she is sleeping to have some time out. Feel better just getting it off my chest dear listeners....😏
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Thanks TV69 :thankyou:
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Orchid - Hope everything works out for your Daughter :hug:
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Orchid, what a fright you must have had ..I can only imagine.....sending :hug: and best wishes for you and your family and hope all is well with your daughter....keep us posted x
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Best wishes to you and your daughter. :hug:
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Get Well wishes to your daughter and a :hug: for you Orchid.
Taz x
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How is your DD Orchid? Hopefully on the mend :hug:
My positive for the day is that I've lost all my holiday poundage. Just 2 more pesky pounds to go.
Galadriel x
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Well done Galadriel, sure you'll be looking and feeling great.....where does your name come from? X
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Feeling quite pleased :)
The name is from Lord of the Rings. I am a self-confessed nutcase about all things LotR. ;D
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Galadriel
Galadriel x
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I'm home ::)
That's my positive, oh and a book I ordered has arrived and the sun is shining.
Honeybun
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Sat out in the sun again for 20 mins this morning.
Had a lovely meal for lunch.
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Thank you lovely ladies for all your good wishes! My daughter is much better and out of the woods. What a tough week it's been though I feel physically and emotionally drained being there everyday to help her look after her one year old. I just wish my new AD's would kick in and i can feel better. Is anyone else on Mirtazepine and what dose? I'm on 15mg and advised by GP to increase to 30. Isn't it so hard trying to be positive all the time...😙
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Hi Sparkle, yes it was viral meningitis, although awful as it was thank goodness it wasn't bacterial! She is a community midwife so susceptible and being pregnant the immune system is dampened.
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3 days without anxiety :-X
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:thankyou:
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Sounds good to me. My positive is that I had some holistic treatment recently and it flipping really helped. It gave me heaps more energy and everyone can see the difference. After being really into it in my twenties and totally rejecting conventional medicine, I then did a complete U-turn and now try anything from both realms that helps. I have been sceptical about alternative medicine for a while and can see how vulnerable people can be exploited for cash sometimes, but a friend offered to treat me for nothing and it was amazing. It is called kinesiology and it is rather obscure but it really did make a difference. I am taking supplements - B6 and Biothin with food as well as HRT etc. I like passing on stuff that works. When I was pregnant and a mum of a baby then, I got all my good advice from other mums by word of mouth.
Big group hug
SallyGx :)