Menopause Matters Forum
Menopause Discussion => Personal Experiences => Topic started by: dazned on July 30, 2015, 04:58:38 PM
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Today I've experienced overwhelming fatigue,I know I've had a few late nights recently but this I'm sure is more than that ! It's just like someone has drugged me ! Has anyone else had this just out of the blue ? Feeling slightly nauseous too. It even feels too much effort to turn my head .It's not cycle related as I'm only using estrogen at the moment so can't explain it can anyone else ? :-\
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Crashing fatigue? I remember my Mum suddenly sitting down half way through the day and dropping off to sleep. It is awful ………..
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Oh gods, yes. Not aided by the poor sleep, but yes; I can very easily be hit by a tsunami of fatigue, just wanting to sit and fall asleep, even if I have a relatively (and all things are) good night and feel ok. It comes out of nowhere!
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I've had this for years. Just having a shower seems like a mountain to climb. It's why I had to give up work. HRT has helped up to a point, which shows there is a hormonal element.
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Wading through treacle. But when my brain needs to sleep, I'm gone! at least I don't get the aching and heaviness now. I had that during my menstruating days >:( ……….
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I just keep plodding on with no sympathy from anyone.
My hubby is a funny soul. He is very stoic and never complains about anything so over the years I have kind of taken my lead from him. I say nothing.
Just for example...I really hurt my back yesterday. He was there, he saw how much pain I was in. He was sympathetic for ...oh about ten minutes, it's never been mentioned by him again.
I could moan, but I don't, I just keep on going but it's seems that's the excepted thing to do.
It can be a lonely place at times.
He did say today as I struggled to stand up.....oh your backs better isn't it.....really.....do you actually look at me. I doubt he really does hence feeling lonely.
Sorry....moan over.
Honeyb
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Yep. Once I've had the initial moan unless I repeat the moan the next day it's rarely mentioned again ::)
But when I sleep if DH tries to wake me he gets :cuss: and :kick:
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Doubt mine would notice.
My daughter does notice and cares. Not saying hubby doesn't but he has always been the same. Unless you have something falling off, are bleeding profusely or are vomiting rings around yourself it's not serious enough to even notice.
Honeyb
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Probably worth a visit to doctor if you have never suffered with it before , just to rule out other issues apart from our age which can cause this,
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I just keep plodding on with no sympathy from anyone.
My hubby is a funny soul. He is very stoic and never complains about anything so over the years I have kind of taken my lead from him. I say nothing.
Just for example...I really hurt my back yesterday. He was there, he saw how much pain I was in. He was sympathetic for ...oh about ten minutes, it's never been mentioned by him again.
I could moan, but I don't, I just keep on going but it's seems that's the excepted thing to do.
It can be a lonely place at times.
He did say today as I struggled to stand up.....oh your backs better isn't it.....really.....do you actually look at me. I doubt he really does hence feeling lonely.
Sorry....moan over.
Honeyb
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Moan away to us on here, HB! What you did to your back sounds really sore. Don't suffer in silence, anyway. Would it be worthwhile going to your GP about it, if the pain lasts?
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Thanks Dulciana.
It's not nice though. When there is something wrong with them we generally fuss. One way street it would seem.
I think I'm really quite hurt with his attitude this time.
Honeyb
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Hi
Yes I had this several times last week. Eyes felt so heavy and just wanted to nap all day, despite having had a good night's sleep.
I was confused though because just like you it was while I was on the patch only part of my HRT?
Don't understand it? Unless it was something to do with my hormones under the surface?
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Oh my husband is the same. If I mention I am seeing my GP he never asks me why? Same if I'm ill, which luckily is rare. I might get an initial cuddle and perhaps a cup of tea but after that I'm expected to just get on with it.
He has been very sympathetic over my hormonal anxiety and low mood. Lots of hugs and he has 'listened' to me. But then again, I have kept a lot of it to myself too.
Sorry your back is hurting HB. Often alternating hot/cold compress can help.
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I used to keep quiet, but have explained things to DH. He is wonderfully supportive these days, but maybe because he is in a good place now he is retired. He tells me to relax and stop beating myself up for not having the wherewithal to get the things I have planned to do done. He wasn't so brilliant when he was stressed when he was working. Maybe when people are dealing with their own issues they have less to give to others?
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I get the same level of fatigue - can sleep all day if not working and then all night too; I am sure it is hormone related. I always get it when on my pill break, but also occasional while taking the pill - it's always linked to other hormonal symptoms, which is why I am very sceptical that BCP completely overrides my natural cycle. E.g. I have recently had two days of crashing fatigue along with minor spotting and cramps, even though I was in the middle of my pill packet. Had the same problem pre-peri, but the tiredness wasn't so extreme.
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Not quite so " drugged like " today,but not quite right either and I can't really say how ! Nothing I can pinpoint all I do know is something doesn't feel right ,anyone else know what I mean ? :-\
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Oh yes, not ill, but not well? So vague.
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You describe it perfectly. Like CKLD says, it's crushing. I nearly always get nausea and chills at same time. After a while, I noticed that it nearly always came before a period (but at that point my periods were irregular). I was absolutely convinced it was my thyroid but six months of HRT/pill and it has all but stopped. When I posted on here about it previously, someone said it's also connected to your progesterone levels. High progesterone can cause fatigue, like it does at start of pregnancy. Even though you don't take it with your estrogen, I wonder if your own progesterone is still fluctuating? I was surprised to still get it (randomly) when I first starting taking estrogen but it's gradually calmed - it's now manageable whereas before I felt almost drunk with it (the post-drunk feeling rather than the happy-drunk one!).
Anyone else hate the fact that when day time fatigue arrives, you feel more awake than normal once you're in bed that night ?!! Tired but wired >:(
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Yes I'm normally always hot but I've felt chilly and nauseous but I'm not due to use my utrogeston for a few days yet and at 55 surely I wouldn't be producing any progesterone. But then with these same hormones who knows and I'd been doing well lately ,so fed up. >:(
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Yes forgot that terrible tired but wired . DH says go and lie down but it just don't work like that does it !
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I do think women are nurturing as they are programmed to carry and raise children so they are more likely to recognise a need for care and attention in others.
Men are capable of learning to nurture (trying to be careful to be pc here and not upset anyone) but I don't believe it is an inbuilt instinct for them to naturally show care and concern unless it is asked for as they are programmed to be providers.
Mars and Venus really are very very different species regardless of how 'equal' the modern world would like them to be.
I speak from experience ::)