Menopause Matters Forum
General Discussion => This 'n' That => Topic started by: Annie0710 on April 17, 2015, 10:55:08 AM
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My hair is thinning :-(
I had some clip in hair extensions that I use to use pre this hormonal horribleness, back in the day when I felt good about myself. So, today I trimmed them to just below my new shorter hair cut and I'm smiling. It's brought something brighter to my look, a healthier look. It's making me feel feminine again. And yesterday my delivery came of a synthetic curly hair scrunchie, which tied in a bun gave the look of volume to my thin hair, even up. I've felt and looked so flat lately these 2 things have lifted me, maybe I'm just having 2 relatively good days or it is what I've used for my hair but I'd happily cope as I am if this feeling lasted
Well, something for my libido would be the icing on the cake :-)
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What a great idea!
as for libedo, use it or lose it ;) - to get over the guilt I felt I decided to 'lay back and think of ……. ' anyone I liked ;) and once we get going, I usually find I'm OK 8)
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It's uncomfortable though CKLD
I used to initiate it lots (my lovely OH enjoyed that) so when I don't but also don't say no to him, he knows it's not what I'm wanting and he's said he doesn't want me doing anything I'm not comfortable with? Because he can tell my hearts not in it, I'll tell him if I don't use it I'll lose it, lube up and tell him to just 'do it'
Poor bloke (and me) I'm sure that was a large part of why he stayed with me, he used to always compliment me on the part I played lol
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What are you doing about it being 'uncomfortable'?
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Vagifem....... My daily dose ends Sunday then it will be 2 x weekly and yesterday I started replens 2/3 x weekly too plus next time we do it I'll get my faithful cherry flavour lube out the drawer
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Is the Vagifem helping at all?
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No, I still feel dry inserting the applicator, and it feels ever slightly uncomfortable but I've been sitting in the loo doing it so tonight I'll try standing to see if it feels better
I already feel more lubricated from last nights replens application and I must say I've not had one hint of a UTI since starting (had them almost continuously)
OH came home and apart from showing him my hair extensions and new sandals I blurted out "we've got to have sex more often, otherwise I'll lose it!" He was mortified I'm talking about it on the forum but also said he's not happy doing it with me having no libido, I knew he'd be like that so I'll have to force myself to initiate this
Thanks CLKD, I value your input xx
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Not happy that we are talking about it ::) ……… we talk about most things on here ;)
I use my applicator whilst laying down in bed. That way there's no risk of the product running back out and my vagina gets full benefit ;)
Lack of libido doesn't always = lack of interest ………. we found that if DH approaches me and I go with the flow, my body wakes up …….
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He should know me by now
He said not long after we met he's amazed how I will talk with anyone about anything!
He's very private, and I'm well.... People know my life history within minutes lol
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;D ………… do you tell your family though? I can spout on about most things to friends but *never* to family members :-X
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I can to my daughter, and vice versa , she's trying for another baby so hormone chats are flying backwards and forwards for different reasons, she's been today, I always value her opinion on my look too. I said to her it's important I educate her re:menopause because my dear mum didn't and I subsequently didn't have a Scooby Doo when this hit me
I actually talk to my brothers too about it if they ask how I am and they seem comfortable talking about it. They said they were getting worried about my declining health
I wouldn't talk to my sons about it though !
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Not yet ;) - maybe their sister will give them an idea ……..
Don't have brothers and my sister and I don't speak, 'went through that' was her response a few years ago ::).
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Not yet ;) - maybe their sister will give them an idea ……..
Don't have brothers and my sister and I don't speak, 'went through that' was her response a few years ago ::).
I have a sister , 10 years older than me and also had a hysterectomy in her 30s so would've been a great help, but she decided to disown every member of the family 16 years ago
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That cut down the C.card list then ;)
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Lol
She broke my heart when she did it, but after some time I realised it didn't concern me as much, I wish her good things in life though
She was like Hyacinth Bucket and made me feel like Daisy lol xx
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I drifted away from my family. I see Mum because I have to fortunately she's 88 and has a very busy diary! My sister makes me angry so I stepped back. She was the golden child (still is) …...
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Sadly these things happen, my 2 brothers and parents and myself were all very close , and I still am with my brothers, 2 of her 3 children, now all grown up had made contact with us and are back in our lives, during the years since she spoke she left her husband of 30 odd years and he's back in our life too
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Is she afraid to 'come back in'?
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I doubt it, she's not afraid of anything
Her words "she's different from all of us, and felt she should've been born into a different family" she meant upper class
People would comment about her character saying it's weird how we are all related to her, but we'd explain If you dig deep, she's got a heart of gold
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Maybe there's a little narcissism there …….. (long story short) ;)
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Hmmm could be. Someone mentioned they thought bipolar
Bringing her children up was stressful for everyone around her, her home was spotless, with very strict rules but the kids had no love or attention. The youngest spent more days and nights at mine than her own home