Menopause Matters Forum
General Discussion => One Life, Live it, Celebrate it! => Topic started by: GeordieGirl on March 29, 2015, 01:15:03 PM
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Ok, so our candles are increasing on each birthday cake but would you turn back time and go back to your teens or twenties? I wouldn't. I love being my age, I love the fact my kids are gaining in independence; I (almost) understand men; I have my career sorted; I have time for me; I know much more than I did 20 years ago (mostly unimportant trivia but useful for quizzes); and I know who I am and am quite comfortable with that, sort of in an old-slippers kind of way.
I'd like to turn back the odd grey hair and little line starting to appear, oh and fit in the clothes I once thought of as my "fat pants" when I was 30, but would I swap? No thanks.
Here's to feeling the same about it all in another 20-30 years time.
GG x
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I wouldn't go back to my teens or twenties but I would go back to late 30s early 40s.
My kids were young, I had energy and confidence. Life was good.
Life is not bad now but those were very happy days for me.
No aches and pains, no meno problems, no anxiety......Oh yes I would go back in a heartbeat. And what's more.....I would stay there.
Honeyb
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Me too Huneybun! Bring it on ;D
They say you will come through this a new woman! Well I wish it would hurry up ! Knowing my luck I will come out as a 95 year old one ! :rofl:
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I've thought hard and no I wouldn't go back unless it was to those incidences where I didn't have any anxiety to affect the event.
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Yes & no. I'd love my energy & my slimmer body back, but I've got a lovely hubby, 2 smashing kids & nowadays 2 wonderful grandchildren. So I'm happy to forfeit my vanity for them.
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If I could go back while still retaining the knowledge and experience I have now, then yes. Otherwise, no!
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I'd definitely go back. I loved being a teenager and everything up my late fifties. I hate this feeling of being a sort of shadow - not a woman anymore - sounds strange but that's how I feel - sort of not one sex or the other? It's nothing to do with my fairly recent hysterectomy either as I have felt like it for the past three years or so. No passion - just invisible. Anyone else?
Taz x
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Yes Taz know exactly what you mean ! I said the same words to gynecologist,I don't feel like a woman,I don't feel like an anything ! Just here ! :-\
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You understand what I mean then. I feel really envious (not in a nasty way) watching younger women out and about full of confidence in their own ability and I guess their status in life. It's an odd feeling and one that older women have mentioned over the years and, of course, you never think it will happen to you! Obviously not everyone feels like that though.
Taz x :-\
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I would go back.
Life till I got to 50 was good.
Not any more.
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I love watching my daughter. Young,pretty and confident and every thing in front of her. I get to kind of live it again through her as she comes home and tells me what's been happening.
I don't like the invisible feeling. It's as if you are not here. People look through you...I guess it's just part of getting older but it's a part I really don't like.
Honeyb
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only if I could go back with all the knowledge that I have learned over the years
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I wouldn't, because life has definitely got oodles better for me over the last few years. Doors have opened and I've made more of a mark for myself than I ever did before about 2006. My self-esteem has gone right up and I'm not the insecure, nothing-y person I used to be. Menopause? Well, it's been a typical bumpy ride but it hasn't stopped my emerging from my chrysalis - even though it's happened in my 50's and not in my 20's! :)
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Anyone know what's happened to Geordie Girl.
She hasn't been around for ages and she was having investigations done for something bowel related I think.
Hope she is ok.
Honeybun
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I would go back to my younger self and give myself a hug and tell myself I was doing ok, I'm fact pretty amazingly. Life, even with health issues, is good now. Now I go out the door, having made myself look as good as I can, then stop worrying what I look like. None of that angst of teenage years.
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Anyone know what's happened to Geordie Girl.
She hasn't been around for ages and she was having investigations done for something bowel related I think.
Hope she is ok.
Honeybun
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Hi Honeybun,
I'm here - I've just had a bit of a curved ball thrown at me in the shape of a bowel cancer diagnosis. A right royal pain in the arse, in my ways than one. My online attention has thus been redirected into anything and everything cancer / nutrition / positivity / healthy living related to help me nip this thing in the bud (or is that butt?). My book shelves are now groaning and my head is full of terms that I'd have found quite unpronounceable a few months ago. I've found it quite entertaining throwing them into the odd consultation just to check the medics know what they're talking about (my GPs don't, my bum consultant fortunately does. :) )
Anyway, I'm back and reading through a whole host of new posts - this could take a while!
GG x
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Welcome back! How are you?
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I actually feel fine. Healthy and fit in fact and feel a bit of a fraud - surely with cancer you're meant to feel ill? Everyone around me is a in bit of a flap about it but I'm fairly calm and resolute, though it has kicked in my insomnia again for a night or two, just after I'd got it all sorted.
I've found the key thing in this (for me at least) is thinking I'm playing some part or having some control. This is where the nutrition side has come into it. Ok so it won't cure me, but it can give me a great boost and I'm really feeling the benefits of having mostly raw food. I'm also cutting out toxins and chemicals as much as possible, it's amazing how many we're exposed to.
It can only help.
I did see my partner cry for the first time on Tuesday after the diagnosis - gulp. That really tugged at my heart strings. Strangely enough I think it's easier for me as I have got some control and some say in all of this, his role is supportive but has limitations. Saying that, he's been an absolute rock in this.
A new journey, not one I'd planned but I'm hoping at least to be able to shape it.
GG x
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Sorry to hear GeordieGirl - well done for being so positive about it, not sure I'd be the same, but nobody knows do they! Best of luck to you.
As for going back, I've always loved the concept of time travel, and often thought I'd like to go back and give my younger self a good talking to..
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GeordieGirl - Sorry to hear your news.
As you say a literal pain in the arse.
It's so good that your bum consultant knows what he is talking about and which way is up.
You will need to educate your GP, I know you shouldn't need to, but it's the way it often is.
Hope all goes as well as it possibly can.
Lots of hugs for you, oh, and your partner who sounds as if he needs them.
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Thanks for the update [have responded in your other thread] - I have never seen my husband cry except when laughing.