Menopause Matters Forum
General Discussion => This 'n' That => Topic started by: honorsmum on March 05, 2015, 07:19:42 PM
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Dulciana' s post on the sweets thread got me thinking...
I'm a twin, my mum's a twin, and DH's mum was a twin.
Somehow, I managed to avoid having twins, but the odds don't look good for my poor daughter when her time comes!
My twin sister and I are very different (you would not take us for sisters, let alone twins) and sadly estranged - so too are my mum and her twin brother, which makes me wonder whether it was something about how she was brought up (favouritism? Competition?) that she then passed down in her parenting of us.
Anyone else a twin, or have twins?
What sort of relationships do other twins have?
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Sometimes twins mis a generation ;) - interesting query!
I don't get on with my sister and she's younger by several years :-X
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I took out an insurance policy when I was pregnant ...three times....there were three sets of twins on my dads side......oh heck my poor daughter.
I would hate to be totally estranged from my sister. We are very different people and she is 13 years older than me....but she is the only sister I have so I make excuses for her as I'm sure she does for me.
Can't imagine my life without her in it in some way....so I put up with her as she puts up with me.
Honeybun
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Interesting subject honorsmum but a shame you are estranged from your sister.
My Mum was an identical twin and my Son has identical twin boys (4yrs) His wife has 6 sets in her family!! (She is not one)
My Nephew also has 2 sets of twins , but sadly lost one of his first boys at birth. His twin daughters (23 yrs) are very close but like chalk and cheese
Will your daughter mind having twins?
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I think my daughter would have a fit.
One of the places we lived had four sets of twins in the street.....two were from IVF. Apart from that we blamed the water ;D
Honeybun
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Sometimes a twin doesn't survive and gets absorbed ……. so it's never absolutely certain ;)
We found out the year before we were married that there are twins in the ancestry ………. :o - fortunately ::) ;)
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It makes me very sad, HB - she has met my children only twice, 6 years ago.
We were quite close until our 30's (although she bullied me throughout our childhood), but then her behaviour became horrendous and there's only so much I was prepared to put up with - she emailed me after our dad died to tell me that he didn't love me, and she'd make sure I didn't get a single penny of what he'd left me in his will.
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Interesting subject honorsmum but a shame you are estranged from your sister.
My Mum was an identical twin and my Son has identical twin boys (4yrs) His wife has 6 sets in her family!! (She is not one)
My Nephew also has 2 sets of twins , but sadly lost one of his first boys at birth. His twin daughters (23 yrs) are very close but like chalk and cheese
Will your daughter mind having twins?
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Wow! That's a lot of twins! :o
She's only 11, but has already said she intends to adopt!
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Twins? ;)
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Sometimes a twin doesn't survive and gets absorbed ……. so it's never absolutely certain ;)
We found out the year before we were married that there are twins in the ancestry ………. :o - fortunately ::) ;)
DH's mum had a dermoid cyst...So maybe she was actually a triplet??
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Remind me - what's a dermoid cyst?
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That's horrible for anyone to say let alone your twin.
I think you have made the right choice...you and your kids do not need someone like that in your lives.
My sister is a pain....but nothing like that because if she was..... :P
Honeybun
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That's a lot of twins, honorsmum and purplenanny! There doesn't seem to have been much in the way of twins in our family before we four popped on to the scene. It's just the four of us and our mother was only 5" tall, so she must have had two exhausting pregnancies! Both of our sets are identical, one pair of girls and one pair of boys. My sister and I are both musicians, while our brothers are not - and there was definitely a bit of competition between us!
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We can choose our friends …….. I have distanced myself from my sister, fortunately we live hours away from each other so that eases the situation. No need to justify why ;)
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Remind me - what's a dermoid cyst?
Well, DH suggested that it was another foetus that had been absorbed by his mum in the womb...but I've just Googled and I don't think that's right. :-\
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My nana on my mums side is a twin and on my dads side his sisters are twins but no one else has popped any twins in the family yet x
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I don't think it's a cyst …….. I do remember a man many++ years ago who had a lump which turned out to be his twin sister beneath his rib bone ……. she hadn't formed properly ……..
The body does 'strange' things at times. It amazes me that any baby is born at all ::) …..
Millykin - keep that word: "YET" : in the back of your mind ;D
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Oh the thought CLKD x
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Get knitting Girl ;D
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Apparently twins are decided by the mums side with the sex of the babies being determined by the dads?
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Funny how the sex is determined. I have a brother and sister and all our kids are girls. My husband came from all boys and they all have girls, we were hoping my sis in law would have a boy just there but nope another girl! X
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The sex is determined from the male side. Don't know about twins.
Some diseases are carried by the female but affect males. Which adds heaps of guilt at diagnosis :'(
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Yes, sperm is either or female, as it were.
My mum has always claimed that she and her twin brother were conceived at different times, so she was actually premature. Not sure how she would know this, bearing in mind she's 80, so born before dating scans!
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Some times it can happen ……… 2 different eggs let down at different times …….. was she a light weight?
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It's apparently very rare.
I think she was small, yes, but not overly for a twin.
I think it's a case of being possible to give birth to twins from 2 different fathers, rather than conceiving weeks apart - what I mean is, she wouldn't be noticeably prem and her twin not, even if they were conceived at different times.
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My grandmother lost twins late in the pregnancy, but they are the only ones in our family. None on the other side of the family YET, although my cousins are breeding like rabbits, so who knows...
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My dads sisters who were the twins were conceived during menopause, she had 6 boys then thought it was by with, what a shock! Lol x
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Enough of a shock finding out you hadn't finished your family after all, let alone finding out it was twins!
I knew a couple who spent ages debating whether or not to have a third child...yep, they ended up with four! She was quite miffed about it as she had always made this big thing about three children being the maximum any responsible parent should have. ;D
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Doctor told my mum I was gastroenteritis ! Xx
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I knew someone who was told she definitely couldn't have children. Then she started getting 'stomach trouble' and the doctors treated her for a stomach ulcer. By the time they realised the real problem...she was 6 months pregnant. :o
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You would think after six kids she would have figured out what was causing it Milly ;D
Honeybun
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Well her neighbour also had 6 boys and 2 girls, don't know what was going on there! All born and breed in they houses. Maybe the water supply ;D x
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I have twin girls - 4th attempt at IVF - I'm very lucky! Nothing alike, behave just like any siblings, know how to wind each other up but when push comes to shove ....!!
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Awww, how lovely, Sparkle! :)
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Sparkle - how *is* motherhood ………. bet they keep you on your toes ;D
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I have twins and so do my cousins on both sides of the family. No sign of any before this!
I do have friend who is extranged from her identical sister. I can't see it mending easily. Mine have got on very well as children, but it must be difficult to sustain an intense relationship when life throws such different things at you.
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ps - it was very unexpected and was not what I had wanted, but they are the best thing that has happened to me ;D
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I have a twin brother. Quite often when this comes up in conversation I am asked "are you identical?". Really, honestly, you couldn't make it up!!! My response to this is "different egg" - that usually leads to more quizzical looks. I do wonder what some people learnt about human reproduction/biology at school.
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:thankyou: a snoring husband can be turned over with a nudge in the ribs ……..
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But a crying baby does eventually grow up...
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How about a strong perfume wafted under his nose ;)
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Just read on another site that twins, fraternal or identical, are significantly more likely to go through menopause early - they are yet to find out why this is.
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Hmmm......I was the average 51-and-a half when my symptoms set in four+ years ago, while my twin sister doesn't know what a hot flush feels like; although she did have a horrible time for about a year and a half, while things "came to a head" for her. How about anyone else?
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Well, my twin sister started her periods at 12, but I was 15.
My mother hasn't mentioned her having any perimenopause problems so far, whereas I've been struggling for 6 months or more. My mum breezed through at 52, no problems, so I've started earlier than her, and my elder sister, who started at 47 and is only recently post menopause at 55.
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Interesting ……. I know what lots of girls board together or in Convents, menstruation usually takes place over about 5 days because of the hormones whizzing around!
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because of the hormones whizzing around!
I've got this picture in my mind, CLKD...........! ;D
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Like little bees ???? whizzing is very descriptive, yes?
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When my daughters started there periods we all eventually synced to be at same time, now if I miss a period I still get cramps when they are on. Hirmones must be whizzing about the house, wonder if Thats why hubby gets huffy at that time ;D x
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Yep! imagine - teen girls, plus a mum going into menopause, he's got good reason to be grumpy :P
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I'm sorry, I lose sympathy with our menfolk. They don't have to go through periods, childbirth or the meno. We get grumpy through all this - no wonder!! - but we're not supposed to complain, even though we can't help it. Like it or not, it's a man's world. >:(
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Bad day, Dulciana? :bighug:
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No, honorsmum - just that men's bodies don't go through what ours do.............they wouldn't like it either! :)