Menopause Matters Forum
Menopause Discussion => Other Health Discussion => Topic started by: LindyLouLou on February 08, 2015, 11:14:08 AM
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Hi ladies, I am feeling so bad at the moment as I have been diagnosed with breast cancer. Will be seeing report and oncologist hopefully this week.
Are there any of you lovely ladies out there who can relate to how I am feeling and have come out the other side.
Just feeling so ill with the anxiety of it all. :'(
LindyLouLou
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Hello LindyLouLou and sorry to hear your news.
I know of a few ladies who have had your diagnosis and are now fit and well and I hope that will be true for you too.
Others will soon be along to offer help and advice so take heart.
Sending hugs and best wishes.
K.
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So sorry LindylouLou, there are many ladies on the forum who will be supporting you ( we all will be) and helping with their advice and
knowledge :-*
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So very sorry it wasn't the news you were hoping for.
I have 2 friends who have been through breast cancer in the last few years - both picked up on a routine mammogram. One had a lumpectomy and radiotherapy, the other ops and chemo.
Both are back at work and doing well.
Hopefully, your oncologist will help you to feel more in control of things.
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So sorry to hear that. A very worrying time for you. My best friend had BC five years ago and had lumpectomy and radiotherapy. She is doing fine.
My mum had mastectomy at 48 and went on to live to 85. Many positive outcomes to this horrid disease.
All the best to you.
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How frightening for you , I think we all dread it happening. Hopefully you will find some ladies who have been through it as they will know exactly how you feel. Its very hard for the families too so sending lots of positive thoughts.
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Hi LindyLouLou
So sorry to hear you have been diagnosed with breast cancer. Do let us know how you get on with the oncologist and how they are going to treat you.
I haven't had breast cancer but I know 3 ladies I am close to who have - so whilst I can't relate from personal experience I hope I can empathise - I'm sure you must feel terrified, I certainly would be. 2 of my friends had very early stages with minimal treatment, they sailed through easily and are now fine. The 3rd lady had an aggressive form of cancer that required the mastectomy, chemo and radio therapy - she went through all this in about a year and is now back to normal and really enjoying life - she recently had an appointment about reconstruction - she's quite excited about having this done - she lost one breast but they've promised to do work on both breasts to make them look gorgeous and matching!!!! She coped extremely well with the treatment and wasn't sick once. Yes she still gets a bit tired so it takes time to regain the strength and energy again but I have to say she looks amazing and she is so positive and open about everything. Just before she was diagnosed she discovered her husband was having an affair with a women in her 20s and she is now going through a horrid divorce - she has been such a good friend to me over the years but we live 2 hours travel apart now so I don't see her as often as I would like.
It does seem that they are really good at treating breast cancer these days, talking with my friend (who had the aggressive cancer) was actually rather reassuring. Hopefully you will be allocated a support nurse and it might well be worth contacting the charities like Macmillan or Breast cancer support: http://www.breastcancercare.org.uk
Just as we are all supporting one another here on MM over our challenges with the meno and finding out as much as we can about how we can help ourselves, I think it is very important to do the same with any illness, particularly cancer.
Do keep us posted. DG x
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Yep. Yep. Yep >wave<
In 1994 I felt a lump above the R nipple, knew immediately it shouldn't be there. Initially the Surgeon told me it was non-sinister so I underwent lumpectomy the following June. At histology it was found that there were 'changes' in the margins so he took a 'scrape' the next week to clear out any cells left behind, removed some lymph glands - clear - and once the wound had healed - about 5-6 weeks: I had precautionary radiation therapy for 4 weeks.
At no time did I feel that I was being rushed into any treatment regime that I wasn't happy with. I did feel though that once radiation began, I was scaring off the cancer ::) Still here !
It is important to make a list of your worries however small they seem to you and discuss. Don't let the Consultant hurry you and you should be allocated a Breast Care Nurse. Someone you can talk to in between appts.. Find out which 'type' of cancer you have been diagnosed with and what care route the Consultant suggests. Make notes!
The Conslutant should send a letter to your GP so you have another route for discussion.
Mum had mastectomy after routine mammogram at 65. Still here at 88 but her cancer was different to the 1 with which I was diagnosed.
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Wow ladies, thank you all for replying so quickly - now in tears because I realise how wonderful you all are with your advice and care for others. Obviously I knew that from reading this forum but now it involves me personally it is so touching - if that makes sense ::)
Hugs to you all.
LindyLouLou xx
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Sorry, not the news you want to hear. Know a few who were in same position as you & are now fit & healthy.
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Let us know how you get on! Remember that this is your body so don't feel rushed into making decisions. Will you take someone with you to the appt/s?
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:bighug:
You have come to the right place for support. The ladies here who have been through similar experiences will be here for you and the rest of us can support you in other ways.
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I just wanted to say we will all support you along the way.
:foryou:
Honeyb
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Sorry to hear this news :(
The odds are with you for recovery. As a nurse once said to me: we are lousy at preventing breast cancer but fabulous at treating it.
I recoommend you go to www.breastcancer.org, look for the "discussion boards" and tell them whatever you know about your diagnosis. They are brilliant and you will have a ton of support amd information.
Hang in there and you will feel much better once you have a treatment plan in place.
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Oh Lindyloulou - I missed this news and I'm so sorry to hear this and just wanted to give my support nad best wishes to you.
Just to echo what has been said and having just had a mammogram, I would take heart from the statistics in the leaflet that some women are diagnosed and treated for breast cnacer that would never become life-threatening and others have lives that are saved by the diagnosis and treatment because it has been found at such an early stage - so the odds are very high for a complete recovery.
I can imagine how devastated you must feel and I know that other women who have had similar experiences will be able to share these with you.
Hurdity x :hug:
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Sorry to hear your news - not what you wanted to hear at all. I can't comment as I have no experience of this but just wanted to let you know that we'll all walk with you as you start your journey...... :hug:
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So sorry to hear your news but lots of huge hugs coming your way xxxxx
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Lindyloulou- so sorry to hear your news.
Thinking of you and sending you a :hug: X
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Sorry to hear your news Lindyloulou.
I have no experience of this but am sending you strength and hugs. :hug: (http://:hug:)
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We are always here when you need us x
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Sorry to hear this, keep us posted. It does seem to be one of the ones they can sort out, I have no personal experience to share, but everything crossed for you :hug:
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Thank you all so much. Have been in so much shock that I haven't been on here for a few days. I have to have chemo first to shrink it then mastectomy etc. Still feel ill with all the worry. But thanks again.
Just want to get on with the treatment asap but so many delays etc.
xx
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It takes time. What are the delays?
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See oncologist,scan, results, decision on all the treatment? Sorry I am so bamboozled
xxx
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Sorry to see your bad news. We all go for mammograms, always wondering what the result will be.
Take care of yourself and I hope you are able to get some rest between appointments.
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A friend is taking me along to our local cancer maggie centre today. She has been through it a few years ago.
Going abroad later today, even though I feel so ill with anxiety, hubby very supportive and we feel we should tell our daughter face to face. Will fly home a few days earlier if to difficult to cope.
xx
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Hi LindyLouLou,
I just wanted to say I am thinking of you and I send you my very best wishes at this difficult time.
Jenna x
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Thinking of you Lindyloulou and sending you strength
Love and hugs :hug: (http://:hug:)
PN x x
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It can feel overwhelming.
I had the initial operation followed by further surgery a week later; then a break whilst the wound healed, then a scan to make sure bones weren't affected; they weren't; discussion with the oncologist followed by daily precautionary radiation treatment. Once I got into the routine I felt less worried because I was back in control.
Have a good trip - I too didn't tell family by letter or 'phone, in fact I didn't tell family until 9-12 months after treatment by which time I was better, the prognosis was good and I didn't have to deal with their feelings! I got fed up with being brave for other people ……… ::)
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Leaving for the airport soon. I know what you mean CLKD I went to a cancer support centre earlier today and someone working there said you don't have to be strong or brave etc even though people keep saying you have to be!!
xx
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This is *your* journey. Become selfish or you will burn off precious energy on others. The best thing for me was when people offered to do the housework ……. or simply sit, quietly …….. or stay away but send little notes ;) ………
Once I got into the swing of surgical intervention and treatment sessions my day became structured as my radiation was at the same time every week day - so I was able to go into work in the morning, go for treatment and home for a rest!
You may well feel in limbo until you have spoken with the Oncologist.
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LindyLouLou - I can't offer advice as I haven't been where you are.
I can only offer support and lots of hugs.
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Let us know when you are back and how you a feeling!