Menopause Matters Forum
Menopause Discussion => Personal Experiences => Topic started by: Suzi Q on November 26, 2014, 01:29:22 AM
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Ive found over the last 2/3 years that I go to the loo more often no blood no pain stools the same colour
Sometimes loose stools almost the runs sometimes not But I can go 2/3/ 4 times for 2/3 days then not the next?
I cant seem to clean my bottom as well using loads of paper till I started using disposable cloths cos bum stung
I looked at the ahemmmm general area nothings there no difference to my bottom?
Sometimes Its Like I havent finished others Im fine? this started with the Vagifem@of course it affects Vagina area
I had chronic constipation all my life even had to use Ducolax for 10 years UNTILL after a year on Vagifem
Since then never know what type of number 2 day it will be normal or runa roonies thank god for Aloe Disposables
Does anyone else suffer this? I think the number 2 makes vaginal area sting as Ive no inner labia down there
So being gross the numeber 2 gets in to the bitsa the bit between bottom and vaginal opening area
I never have accidents not incontinebt bottom wise its just Paper doesnt clean it and when I only used paper
Even the best it rubbed my bottom and bits of blood around the area as I rubebd it raw trying to clean it
I bought Bottom wipes for adults so I clean myself then use Cloth to make sure Im clean and its always marked
This doesnt happen every time about 1 out of 4 or so but if I dont take the cloths and I go to the loo outside
You can guarrantte marks on knickers EWWWWWW
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Perhaps chat to your Dr, in many countries 50 is the age where one needs to have a colonoscopy.
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Whenever I have a consistent change of bowel habit, I do go to the doctor. The last time I went was a year ago and because of my age, more than anything else, I was referred to the consultant and had a colonoscopy. All was well and the change put down to functional reasons, in other words, my IBS. No solutions, but the reassurance that nothing sinister was going on. It's hard when your bowels rule your day. I have similar challenges as you do. I have OCD tendencies and like to feel clean, but you just have to get on with it. Do seek advice from your doctor, expressing what your concerns are, including how to protect your vaginal area. ( I could go for several days without going, to doing small motions over 10 tens a day, and I have had accidents. I do recommend fybogel, which has helped lessen the severity of this. )
The other thing to remember, as I was by a life coach, is that my digestive system is working; it's keeping me alive, despite everything. It's doing it's best and not trying to screw me up! This keeps me calmer! Be kind to yourself and do seek medical advice.
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I had this and I was diagnosed with IBS and haemorroids (which caused the bleeding) but do see your doctor if you are concerned. Better to find its piles or IBs than worrying.
Someone wrote on my 'inserting vagifem' thread that a rectal prolapse can make it difficult to clean sometimes.
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Also incomplete evacuation. Sometimes it just won't cooperate and come! :o
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yes I agree, although internal haemorrhoids can make you feel that you still want to 'go'.
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'incomplete evacuation' - sounds like me several times a week. Even if I 'go' it seems like my bowel still wants to empty. Just behind the coccyx feels 'full'. At least I don't have to remove poo manually :o ……… yet :-\
I have had to use Andrex wipes as I get dirty otherwise, can't believe I'm finally owning up to this :-[ ……. for about 2 years. My botty feels sore on the skin of the cheeks ……. having to use cream sometimes.
The bowel can get lazy. I have found actimel-type drinks help keep mine regular. I find that red meat makes me feel sluggish throughout and slows the bowel ……….
Ginger and garlic can help the digestive system. SuziQ this sounds like an alteration in habits but I would have a chat with my GP who may suggest a different 'additive' as the bowel can become used to Fybogel etc.. Let us know!
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This is something we don't like to talk about even to our nearest and dearest! Sadly I have on occasion had to help things on manually. Yuck! There never told anyone before. And yes I am extremely meticulous with hand washing! Having a normal, easy, clean and quick to do poo is something to celebrate! And I love those days when I don't need to know where the loo is!
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It's the panic and cold sweat that comes over me if I'm in the car and I need to go. And then not being able to distinguish between wind and :-\.
Then it's trying to go quietly in a public loo.
Bloomin nightmare really.
Afternoons are usually so much better for me as the morning rush has passed.
Some of it is my own fault. I find veg and fruit so difficult to resist and then I pay big time.
Thank heavens for me herbal drops.
The things we talk about here ::)
Honeyb
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I HATE using a public loo - so why did we buy a camper van :o ……… however, putting loo paper into the water first sometimes helps ……… if you think that many years ago there were 3-in-a-row outside privies :o - large for Dad, smaller for Mum, smaller for the child …….
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Ju ju, don't feel ashamed, you are not the only one. Years ago, before my underactive thyroid was diagnosed, I was terribly, distressingly constipated and on occasion it was the only way :'(
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Sorry I am not understanding this too well.... are there some that have to literally shove their fingers up and pull out the poop.... :o
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Sadly yes. This happens to some who are disabled, they need to help open their bowels. Lots of gloves and Vaseline required.
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Wow! Never knew this!
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Yep! Well with loo paper as well! Gross isn't it? But needs must.
Billy Connelly said that once you are 60, never trust a fart! :hotflash:
Talking of farts, the other day there was a distinct whiff around my 2 year old grandson. I asked him if he had done a poo and he replied, " No Gram, just a fart!"
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;D …….. say it as it is :-*
Do you remember Billy Connolly's Jobby Wicker sketch ;)
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Yes, I also remember his incontinence trousers.
I have seen him quite a few times and he always reduced me to tears. One concert we went to we were sitting in the front row. Not a good place to be ::)
Honeyb
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;D In 1991 we were at Cropredy Reunion and he appeared un-announced on the Stage :o too much swearing but the whole field fell silent!
Gosh SuziQ that's a meander, sorry ;) - but brings me back to toilet issues - after he left the Stage, 45 mins. later, the queues to the portables were very very long :-X
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hey girls,someone told me about glycerine suppositories !
brill! I just use one when I feel I need to "go" and they are so gentle, usually work in bout 10 mins, so you can use em when yr at home!
great to get you back on even keel!
love Lindylooxxx
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Thanks girls
sounds to me Im normal no pain no blood stool normal just loose bowels and an inability to clean up 100%
Im not constipated anymore but if I dont go for say 2 days which does happen its liike having a baby
And when it comes out it looks normal. My cousins just been diagnosed with Lazy bowels shed had it all her life
So unless pain blood or incontinence or sumat sticks out of me rear end I will soldier on seems Im not alone xxx
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SuziQ - think about your diet over 48 hours plus any thing you use to help constipation etc.; then cut out - get back to basics and see how your bowel reacts. I find when I don't take my AD and betablocka at night, by the next afternoon I have had a good result.
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<wave> how are your bowels?
Did you get any damage in the storms last week? :-\
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I got home 10mins before it hit trains stopped $300.000000 damage Us fine and son and dinlaw thank god.
Bum chum was fine till yesterday loose but not the trots but my bums stinging and feel I could go again
I stopped all roughage eased off bread I think its just me a I say no pain no blood no bloating no change of colour
In fact tummies flatter than its ever been for years No weight loss just this bum chum
Seems some have it 100 times worse than Ive got it IBS maybe but defo started with the use of Vagifem
OH news just started floods and storms due again Fri Sat and Sunday GREAT!!!! But this is tropical Qld
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I could have written this. My first peri symptom & I googled it too &
Got no where. It gets really sore doesn't it. I used to wonder why they sold bottom wipes before I got to 50 & all those bidets make sense now. I have to have a shower if I leave things I struggle to walk it gets so sore. I've considered it hormonal due to the timing, some days are worse than others like you say. Just another thing to add to the list of ailments. Being away from
Home for the day could be difficult if it happened. Acid bum :o B xx
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Savlon after use, Vaseline to line the skin prior? It stings don't it >:(
Glad you didn't have damage SuziQ!
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I recommend Sudocrem . It soothes my bottom as brilliantly as a baby's and you can now get tubes to pop in your handbag.
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do you have haemorrhoids? they can make you feel sore after opening your bowels :-\
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I don't, fortunately.
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yes you are fortunate, they can be quite unpleasant :(
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Kids have a lot to answer for. Had piles when I was pregnant and have had the little b***ers since ;D
They really can give you gip.
Honeyb
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Oh & apparently running to the loo a lot can cause them too as I found out a few years back. I thought you only got if constipated. Wrong, the runs cause them too. Very nippy I can tell you! I'd have willingly stuck my tush in bucket of ice water.
Blimey the things we talk about on here. ;D
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Another reason not to have been pregnant, my Mum and sister both suffer ::)
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People who have never had children get them too. I know someone who had op for hers in her 20s and she'd never been pregnant.
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And you can have them and not know. I was told after an endoscopy. Have had one flare up since.
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My husband has them and as far as I know he has never been pregnant ::)
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;D a medical miracle!
I know of a traffic police motor cyclist with them. Apparently caused by sitting on the bike too much! I remember being warned at school, that I would get them for sitting on a radiator and then again for sitting on a cold step!
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Oh Granny always said that I would get piles if I sat too long on her front step which was a block of 'stone' - but I was happy, watching the lizard that lived underneath ;)
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I'm 54 and every relative on both sides of my family has taken the liberty to tell me that I'm full of s%*t since I was a small child. Queen of constipation here :cuss:. My mother took me to several docs as a child...solutions offered ranged from drinking warm prune juice 3 X a day to being forced to sit on the toilet for long periods of time and "it" would just naturally happen. SURPRISE...it's MINE and I'm keeping it! After a couple of years of eating high fiber foods, drinking massive amounts of water, and using up several box of crayons and coloring books used to entertain me during my lengthy and non-productive toilet times, docs concluded that going once every 7-10 days was "normal" for me. This caused me no discomfort whatsoever UNTIL menopause! I haven't resorted to "excavating" as some of you have had to :sigh: but I found myself using far too many harsh laxatives. I now drink a Yogi brand tea called Smooth Move and it actually WORKS! I can't stand the bloating from constipation anymore and I'm thinking that constipation adds to some urinary incontinence issues I've been having lately. ????
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I was prescribed charcoal biscuits as a young teenager for wind when I first had symptoms of IBS, not that it had a name then. Disgusting things. I'll look into your yogi tea Tami. Maybe it will help me.
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:welcomemm: Tami
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Welcome from me too ………. your sense of humour will fit in well "SURPRISE it's MINE and I'm keeping it" ………. ;D