Menopause Matters Forum
Menopause Discussion => Personal Experiences => Topic started by: honeybun on October 26, 2014, 10:19:35 AM
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Need some kind words. Sorry to be needy but I'm on my holidays and doing this from my phone.
Having a bit of a minny melt down. Anxiety through the roof, shaky and just horrible. Can't tell anyone as the kids are with us and I don't want to spoil things.
Realy need a hug or something. Just want to go home or cry or both. Been so looking forward to this.
Feel so bloody feeble
Honeyb. Who is in a right old mess
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:hug:
you don't need a wordy post, but I do know how this feels and it is horrible.
Lean on us, we are here and I hear your distress (((((hugs))))))
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Feel like a good cry. Just can't find anywhere to go. Big house but no privacy. Family waiting to go out. So I'm just going to have to get on with it. Not Sure how. Hubby keeps giving me funny looks so he susprcts all is not good. Didn't sleep last night so that doesn't help
Honeyb
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You are out of your comfort zone but you are with your family - hang on to that last bit.
You have probably done all the planning for this so deserve to relax and enjoy yourself - take it moment by moment and go with the flow that your children or husband may be leading now.
I got like this on one family holiday we had - i had done most of the organising for it but not so good when it came to actually doing it. I let my children and husband take more of a lead and followed behind but did some different things because of it - i was ok as the week went on.
Take care
Hattie X
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Oh dear sorry to hear this. You probably built yourself up so much prior to going away that as soon as you arrive, melt down begins. I'm a bit like this on hols and it takes a while to adjust. Could you not spend a quiet few hours alone until you settle down. Alternatively you may find once you are out doing stuff the anxiety will lift. Whatever you decide hope you feel better soon and enjoy your holiday and precious time with your special people.
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This will pass. Hold your hubby's hand, take some deep breaths and try to relax - I know it's hard (I had the same) xxx
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sorry to hear that honeybun, deep breaths, keep busy and hopefully it will pass :'(xx
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Oh HB, are you worried about your mum? Your sister will be able to cope with things you know. Cry in shower/bath if you need to, nobody will be any the wiser. That's where I do my crying.
Breath, concentrate on your breathing most of all. I have a handy app which helps when I'm bad, slows breathing right down. It's called the SAMapp. Maybe try & download it.
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Hi HB
Anxiety is always worse away from home, I think you feel under pressure to have fun and it all backfires :'(
Sending you a hug, know how you feel :( Go and tell your husband you need a cuddle.
Libby
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Go stand or walk in the fresh air and breathe it in, look at the lovely sky and your lovely family and remember that despite how it feels, you are safe and it will pass.
Slow breathes help also. Its a big boat and we are all in it with you xx
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Awww Honeyb - Have lots of hugs
:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
From what you said you are in a beautiful part of the world right now.
Savour it and let it calm you.
Hope you feel right soon.
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Oh Honeybun what a shame - know how you feel as have just come back from a holiday abroad and couldn't get home quick enough! Sending a :bighug: your way.
Katy x
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Totally agree with Limpy. Try to savour the time with your family :bighug:
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Oh thanks all. Feeling a bit better. Just been sitting relaxing and drinking tea. Admitted to hubby I was struggling and he has been great. Don't know what happened this morning but it was an extra long panic attack. Difficult to deal with away from home. Yes a bit worried about mum and guilty about leaving it all to my sister. Kids have gone now so less pressure to try and make sure everyone is having fun. Lit the log fire and nice and cosy and happy to stay in this afternoon. Not even bothering too much with dinner.
Thank you all so much as I was in a mess and reading the encouragement really helped
Honeyb
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So pleased that you feel better.
Now - enjoy everything. :)
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glad you feel better now, another example of this fine forum in action :)
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Glad to hear you are feeling a bit better HB.
Big glass of something for you tonight, CG's orders. ::)
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You have been looking forwards to this break for ages so no doubt you will have anxiety surges. Damn them >:( ……… I find telling DH works as we back off the pressure even by sitting where we are rather than going places.
Remember you are there to celebrate ! your sister WILL manage ……… this is YOUR time ;)
Have you anxiety top ups you can take?
Weather improved any, not according to the news :-\
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how do you send the little group hugs love them, sending hugs anyway honeybun :hug: found it now x
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well done Karenja !
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Glad you're feeling a bit better now. It's so unfair to feel rough when you've been looking forward to a break. Hope you can start to enjoy it now.
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Hi Honeybun
I'm sorry to hear you, feel like this.
I totally understand how you feel, I remember posting earlier this year that I was feeling exactly the same about going away.
You have done it and you are there, try to have fun, I know it's not always easy but when you get back you will feel great, look upon it as a personal achievement.
By the way, I only managed 2 nights away! Still can't face a real holiday.
Makes me very cross as I am very well travelled and the thought of travelling makes me feel anxious and nauseous now and all thanks to the stupid menopause!!!
I think when we feel like this our safety net is our own surroundings.
Really hope you continue to feel better and enjoy yourself.
:bighug: :bighug: :bighug:
Shellb
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Feeling better now. It has taken a while and mornings are not great but as the day goes on I improve. Been out in the fresh air, lots of walking and peaceful places and wonderful scenery has helped. Hubby has been told and bless him he puts no pressure on me at all.
By the end of the week I will have settled. And then I come home. Hey ho. Can't pick the places you have a huge wobble.
Honeyb
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It's always the way - when you need to feel calm and settled s--- hits.
You get over it, then come home.
Enjoy the rest of your time there.