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General Discussion => This 'n' That => Topic started by: Ju Ju on October 03, 2014, 08:18:10 AM

Title: Bucket List.
Post by: Ju Ju on October 03, 2014, 08:18:10 AM
My husband has asked me to write a bucket list and I'm stumped.

When I was young I had a wish list. I wanted to have a happy, fulfilling marriage, lovely children and to live in a place where I feel at peace. Ticked all that! But there is nothing I can think of that I have to do or have, only vague ideas of places that would be pleasant to visit. Oh and just a fun thought, I would love to own a pair of beautiful and comfortable pair of red shoes that fit my very very narrow feet!

What about other people?
Title: Re: Bucket List.
Post by: babyjane on October 03, 2014, 08:37:59 AM
I like this thread, I will have a think as my brain doesn't really kick in till mid morning  :)
Title: Re: Bucket List.
Post by: Taz2 on October 03, 2014, 09:08:10 AM
We had some ideas here http://www.menopausematters.co.uk/forum/index.php/topic,7847.msg239232.html#msg239232

I still haven't got one..

Taz x
Title: Re: Bucket List.
Post by: Joyce on October 03, 2014, 11:02:16 AM
Well on my original list I said a Hot Air Balloon flight over plains of Africa, that was before several balloon accidents. So that's off the list now. I did go on a tethered balloon at Downtown Disney, so that'll do.  ;D



Title: Re: Bucket List.
Post by: Taz2 on October 03, 2014, 01:08:38 PM
I had a balloon flight for my 50th - surprise pressie. I really loved it. Being up there was fab but taking off coming down was the scary bit!!

Taz x
Title: Re: Bucket List.
Post by: honeybun on October 03, 2014, 01:23:55 PM
Still the same as before. A VW camper and just drive off.

Still the same reasons as before, too many commitments.


Honeyb
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Title: Re: Bucket List.
Post by: dulciana on October 03, 2014, 07:19:59 PM
A house and a garden, instead of a flat (even though it's on two floors)
A complete new wardrobe
Visit to Paris
Visit to Austrian Alps
Various musical hopes and aspirations that are so important to me that I daren't share them
Daughter and boyfriend tying the knot


Title: Re: Bucket List.
Post by: Ju Ju on October 03, 2014, 08:38:50 PM
Thanks, I've got something to put on my bucket list! Pass Grade 8 singing well and having the skill to sing in public on my own.
Title: Re: Bucket List.
Post by: Ju Ju on October 03, 2014, 11:30:44 PM
I sang one of my Grade 3 pieces to my choir this week and made some of them have watery eyes, because of the emotion of the song, not because the singing was so awful! I love performing, but have a lot to learn.
Title: Re: Bucket List.
Post by: dulciana on October 04, 2014, 10:02:33 AM
Fantastic, Ju Ju - aim high and go for it!!   And really glad to hear about your recent success!
D.
Title: Re: Bucket List.
Post by: littleminnie on October 04, 2014, 11:02:00 AM
Mine is just places I would like to go on holiday.

Lake Garda
Miami
Chicago
Canada
San Francisco.
Title: Re: Bucket List.
Post by: babyjane on October 04, 2014, 11:08:00 AM
I would just really love to be able to sing, anything, and in tune  :( Ju Ju it sounds as though you have a gift.

littleminnie our daughter and new husband had their honeymoon in Lake Garda. The photos are really beautiful and make us want to go there.

So back to the thread - bucket list - learn to sing and see Lake Garda perhaps  :)
Title: Re: Bucket List.
Post by: Ju Ju on October 04, 2014, 12:34:27 PM
I always knew I had it, but needed lessons to find it! Took several years to get to this point, but have had a lot of support. Other choir members have taken my lead. One, age 71, is taking her Grade 1. She was told she couldn't sing when she was a child. She has a gorgeous voice, velvety and rich.
Title: Re: Bucket List.
Post by: babyjane on October 04, 2014, 01:02:56 PM
Ju ju that gave me goose bumps. I was told I couldn't sing as a child too, by parents and at school so I just grew up believing it. I do have a pitch problem as when I took my piano exams I always fell down on the bit where you have to sing a note or a chord played. I just couldn't pitch it  :(

If I had the money for lessons I would try again, all credit to the 71 year old lady.
Title: Re: Bucket List.
Post by: Ju Ju on October 04, 2014, 02:02:52 PM
Everyone has weaknesses, but you get better. I struggle with timing and how long to hold a note. I can't roll my Rs, but I'm not sure I ever will. I can't whistle either! I think those are things you either do or you can't. Yes, lessons do cost, but I've put it up there as an essential like eating!!! Even more important than shoes!
Title: Re: Bucket List.
Post by: babyjane on October 04, 2014, 02:21:33 PM
I do think it is important to have something for ourselves, just for us. My husband has his gym membership and I have my pet dog. We are retired so have to consider all the costs of what we want to do very carefully and the little dog is dependent on me and getting older  :(

But we don't know what the future holds do we  :)
Title: Re: Bucket List.
Post by: Ju Ju on October 04, 2014, 06:51:41 PM
No we don't know what the future holds. Following my sister's early death and my husband's retirement after 30 years in the police, we took a 6 month break from life and traveled round the world. We could ill afford to do this. We couldn't afford to get our home into a rentable condition, but our children agreed to postpone leaving home. My daughter's partner moved in and they were able to cover the mortgage and bills between them. Much cheaper than renting elsewhere. We sold our cars and camped round NZ and Australia . We are not campers. This was a trip that we were going to do 'one day'. My sister's death prompted us to do it now. We enjoy the memories.

Just had an interesting conversation with my husband. I explained I was having problems making a list. He says that that's ok as a bucket list is all about 'doing' and I am a 'being' person. He was concerned he was imposing his wishes on me and I explained I was happy to fall in with his wishes and enjoy myself.
Title: Re: Bucket List.
Post by: purplenanny on October 04, 2014, 09:40:48 PM
Oh how I would love to own a vw camper van again. Hubby had one when we first met but we had to sell it - the big ends went and it was too costly for us to repair at the time.

We hired one some  years ago for 4 days in Oxford and it was wonderful

Sadly our dream of owning one in retirement has gone now  :'( (http://:'()
Title: Re: Bucket List.
Post by: babyjane on October 05, 2014, 09:30:50 AM
My husband is all for living in the moment as good health in old age, or even old age itself, is not guaranteed for any of us.

However I  worry about things more than he does, I wish I didn't  :(

For now we are just enjoying having our home to ourselves and seeing our 3 grandchildren regularly as possible.

Oh, he has just recently bought his new car  :)
Title: Re: Bucket List.
Post by: honeybun on October 05, 2014, 12:39:51 PM
My bloomin anxiety gets in the way of things and I feel guilty that I also hold hubby back from the things he would like to do.
Anyway it's a work in very slow progress I hope.

Hubby never complains bless him but I'm sure he must think plenty.


Honeyb
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Title: Re: Bucket List.
Post by: babyjane on October 05, 2014, 12:45:29 PM
((honeybun))
Title: Re: Bucket List.
Post by: Dyan on October 05, 2014, 05:55:14 PM
I like to live in the moment,whereas OH worries about retirement, although I do have a bucket list.
Whale watching
Seeing elephants in the wild to name but a few.