Menopause Matters Forum
Menopause Discussion => Personal Experiences => Topic started by: Lynjane on August 25, 2014, 11:36:14 AM
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I am 9 years into meno, and have been dealing with all of the usual symptoms; mood swings, flushes, loss of libido, weight gain etc Some of these symptoms have just about started to get a bit less severe, but the one thing which is getting worse and more difficult to deal with is, my total lack of tolerance with situations and people! I find that if I'm talking to someone whose conversation doesn't interest me, I have to bite my tongue or walk away...I just cannot put up with the c**p people go on about! And as for being in situations I find tiresome, I either just will not go there, or I get up and walk out!! Basically, most people and social situations, in the world outside my immediate family (and even some of them), get on my b****y nerves!!! 😠 anyone else feel like this?
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May I giggle ………. yep. I have found out my levels of who I want to interact with and those I don't want to breath the same air as ;) - the list gets longer weekly :o
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I am pretty anti social these days but that's more anxiety based than anything else.
As far as my immediate family are concerned I am probably more not less tolerant.
I used to be pretty volatile temper wise. Now I can't remember the last time I blew my top.
I just can't summon up the enthusiasm so keep my mouth closed.
Honeyb
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Yes, CLKD, you may giggle as much as you like! In fact sometimes if I didn't laugh at situations, I'd probably break down completely!! :'( !! Honeybun I used, in my 20's and 30's, to have a volatile temper with everyone (prob PMT related), but shame made me learn to really control it, which I did very well! But, during the menopause, I seem to be more brittle and care less, not so much with my husband, kids and grand-daughter (she's a joy), but we are a blended family, and oh boy, does the 'other side's' neediness and possesiveness try me sorely!! ::)
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Family dynamics are hard to handle.
Maybe it's apathy on my part but I just can't be bothered enough about some things to even react. The only one that really pushes my buttons is my mother and I don't know why my reaction to her is different than to almost everyone else.
I mat loose my temper less but I have managed to learn to stand my ground when it counts and calmly say what I think.
Strange how we are all so different.
Honeyb
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Trouble is other people could be thinking the same about us :o
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How right you are SL :lol:
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Oh I used to have a very short fuse, but becoming more tolerant. I tend to switch off nowadays during boring conversations or nip to the loo. :) However, I will not stand for anyone who chooses to try & walk over me.
I can still flip on occasion, mainly with hubby. But I just tell him to his face so he knows where he stands. He just smiles. It's a bit like that car ad where couple fall out, then he sends a text "Forgive him he's an idiot."
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I don't blow as often ……….. my sister pushes my buttons too so I have little to do with her ……
I don't know either Mum's phone number nor my sister's 'off by heart' :-\ and neither are on my mobile list.
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Hello Lynjane.
Yep, count me in on this. Absolutely everything and everyone annoys me these days. It's not just mild irritation either, I can feel furious at the drop of a hat. I used to be such a reasonable person but not since that fateful day four years ago when my periods stopped and I went over to the dark side...
Take care and keep posting.
K.
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Yes I'm the same. Am very intolerant or certain people or situations, can find my mood changes on a whim. It's more frustrating as sometimes you cannot delete these people from your life so you have to grin and bear it :(
I'm a real grumpy old so and so :(
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Hey folks
Me too, I am like this .......mood changes on a pin, and tolerance is low at times although professionally I can usually tolerate it......
New man of 5 months gets right on my pip just now so is now ex.....
Maybe it is better to be alone until I get to grips with work stress and meno
Mrs January xxx
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Great topic. Apparently according to everyone else I am more mellow, I fail to see how they come to that conclusion. Doesnt take much to flick my switch to volatile/ vile depending on my mood.
My husband thought I would be a nightmare after getting ovaries out earlier this year, just mentioned other day how he thought I was a lot calmer than before op.
My oh my hasnt hrt lulled him into a false senseof security!!!!
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I think I am more assertive than I used to be. I no longer tolerate people treating me badly; I either walk or speak up, which ever is the most appropriate. I used to keep quiet and not make waves. Interestingly, I haven't been treated badly recently.
I do get irritated by bad or inconsiderate driving. The language gets a bit blue in my car at times!
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Hi
I think it is important to be try to ourselves, however that looks. We only live once and should enjoy it every minute we can x
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I find there far more people I can't deal with these days.
It's not family, I haven't got any and OHs don't live close.
But I still get irritated with lots of people
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I think.............. it may not be US ..... but them! ha ha. ;D No seriously I really believe society as a whole has become more selfish, self obsessed, rude, bad mannered.. and im not just talking about the young ! So its very difficult to deal with, when your not on par. And that includes dealing with family ! I know I cannnot, wont, and damn right, will NOT put up with some peoples crap anymore. But I am finding that most people dont like the truth, (or just plain CANT see it .. ) even if its said in a polite way. At fifty I am realising that" hey ... who cares if they dont like me ... I will speak up if I find something offensive " whether its the spoken word, the written word, or a action that offends. Most of the population are bloody selfish idiots .. Sorry but its what I think. !!