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Menopause Discussion => Personal Experiences => Topic started by: CLKD on July 16, 2014, 06:50:54 PM

Title: Facebook
Post by: CLKD on July 16, 2014, 06:50:54 PM
I need to ask a favour.  So don't answer until you have given it some thought.

I am trying to contact a friend I was in Infant School with; then I moved house, we met up again at College then lost touch.  I am going to write to a different address ……… a proper letter  :o

But if anyone could ask on Facebook for me ………  :-\
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: honeybun on July 16, 2014, 06:58:06 PM
I would CLKD but I don't have a Facebook account.

It's really quick and easy to set an account up CLKD. The only reason I don't have one is my kids have threatened to disown me .....Now there's a thought.

You don't have to post any info that you don't want to but it would enable you to look for your friend.


Honeyb
x
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: Limpy on July 16, 2014, 07:27:05 PM
I had a very brief go at facebook - once.

Didn't get on with it. Reasons:
  Had to supply all sorts of personal information before account was set up.
  Once on, kept getting things (emails I think) from people wanting to be my friend
  Having decided to come off it found this was much more difficult than you would think.

Never again.
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: Linsey44 on July 16, 2014, 07:44:53 PM
Sorry CLKD dont use facebook as I value my privacy.   There used to be a site friends re united you could maybe see if thats still on the go - it was pre-facebook times.

Good luck in finding your friend.
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: Linsey44 on July 16, 2014, 07:51:32 PM
CLKD, just realised the irony of saying i value my privacy then joing in Melbury's just wondering thread re baldness


 ;D
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: bev567901 on July 17, 2014, 09:14:39 AM
I use Facebook it's very useful for me. Send me the name & I will have a look x
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: Rowan on July 17, 2014, 09:46:28 AM
I love facebook too, I will do the same as well if you message name CLKD.
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: minkusmum on July 17, 2014, 10:05:12 AM
I love Facebook. As long as you remember that anything you post could potentially be read by anybody at all, it's a great way to keep in touch with people from all over the world. In addition, life would be less fun without the Scrabble app and other similar time wasters. I'm happy to do a search too, if it would help you.
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: CLKD on July 17, 2014, 11:45:09 AM
 :thankyou: I will send this friend a snail mail at an address she may live at - her name and husband when we were in College is the same though they have moved: then let you know!
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: Mrs January on July 18, 2014, 07:28:56 AM
Hey CKLD

I use Facebook too if you want any help
Hugs Mrs J
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: CLKD on July 18, 2014, 10:58:00 AM
Thanks.  I have to go to a Library that has phone books for Sussex ………. to see if I can find the full address, otherwise I can see another trip South coming on ……...
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: scriv on July 18, 2014, 01:48:04 PM
I had a very brief go at facebook - once.

Didn't get on with it. Reasons:
  Had to supply all sorts of personal information before account was set up.
  Once on, kept getting things (emails I think) from people wanting to be my friend
  Having decided to come off it found this was much more difficult than you would think.

Never again.

My sentiments entirely. Plus its little icon popping up when I was on other websites - so it was tracking me. Spooky.
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: CLKD on July 18, 2014, 01:56:25 PM
I didn't join due to 'them' wanting too much personal information!  ::)
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: Rowan on July 18, 2014, 02:15:55 PM
I have been on facebook for years now and wouldn't be without it, you can keep it as secure as you want to, mine is just family and friends, if you read the rules and checkout what you need to do for privacy (many don't) there shouldn't be a problem.

Honestly I can't think that info on my FB is of any use other then  to the people I want to see it. It is not set for the Public Domain.

You can set your browser ie. google to not target you and I have eg adverts.

To be honest it tracking me would not bother me I have nothing to hide and I am only one of millions in the world using facebook.

Forgot to say you can set it so that only you can see your info and no one else, so if anyone visits your home page they can't see it.
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: Hattie on July 21, 2014, 11:23:38 AM
I have only just joined facebook.

Does anyone know how safe the messaging is on facebook ? Is it private like sending a pm on here ?

I have contacted a friend in Oz and have given her my other email address in a facebook message to her as i don't know how else to contact her. Now wondering if i have been a numpty and how safe this facebook message is as i have just literally joined then messaged her  :-\

Thanks for any replies



Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: Taz2 on July 21, 2014, 11:53:31 AM
Facebook messaging is safe - nobody else can see it on your friends list. It is important to set your privacy settings though in terms of who can see and share your posts or photos. It's worth going through the checklist on your profile with a fine toothcomb and check it often as well because Facebook change the way they do things and operate an "opt out" policy where you have to take responsibility for what you allow.

It is possible to set your privacy so that nobody can find you although I think that defeats the whole idea of facebook to be honest.

Taz x
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: Hattie on July 21, 2014, 02:38:39 PM
Taz

Thanks - will check through the privacy bit now.
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: minkusmum on July 22, 2014, 08:20:16 AM
Hi Hattie
From my experience, a PM on Facebook is just that. My church has a private group, where we can share info which is sometimes personal.  It appears on the newsfeeds of people in the group, but not elsewhere. I also message the same people via FB and have never seen those messages pop up elsewhere. This is my experience, but I've never heard anything negative about FB messaging.
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: CLKD on March 23, 2019, 06:04:06 PM
How does one find someone on Facebook  :-\ - I have photographs to send but the person has moved so the envelope was, eventually, returned to me. 
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: Taz2 on March 23, 2019, 06:08:09 PM
It depends on how their privacy settings are set. Google their name and see if it comes up. Are you on FB?

Taz x
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: CLKD on March 23, 2019, 06:16:06 PM
 :thankyou:

Not really.  I drop into our village group to read but can't post for some reason  ;D probably best that I can't  :-X  :D
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: Taz2 on March 23, 2019, 06:20:25 PM
If you are on FB then just go to the search facility at the top of your own page and put the name in.

Taz x
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: CLKD on March 23, 2019, 09:32:10 PM
  :thankyou:
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: CLKD on December 16, 2019, 06:20:06 PM
I am totally confused  ;D

I had several friends on a list but out of 7, 2 remain the others have gone  :o.  I never clicked delete, they simply 'went'  :-\ but loads of people who I have never heard of, appear as 'friends' .............
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: Hurdity on December 17, 2019, 08:21:02 PM
Well either they've "unfriended" you on Facebook (you wouldn't be told this by them or Facebook) - or you them (in error maybe?). Re people you haven't either asked to be your friend, nor they you ( when you would need to accept their friend request in order for them to be your friend) - could your account have been hacked if you rarely use it, as you appear puzzled by some of your contacts "friends"?

However it is easy to send friend requests by mistake on your phone - which I have done! However your Facebook notifications should tell you if someone has accepted a friend request from you (white bell on blue bar at top of screen - red numbers tell you how many notifications you have!). If this is all a mystery to you - then I wouldn't bother with FB! If people you don't know appear as friends ( even though you didn't request them) just "unfriend" them.

If friends you want to keep have disappeared then just send another friend request perhaps with a polite message to say you seem to have deleted them by mistake and apologise (I've done that before to avoid embarrassment!).

Not that I use FB that much but I'm a member of a few groups....

Hurdity x

PS This thread seems to be in the wrong place as it's not about menopause at all! It's a chat topic!



Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: CLKD on December 17, 2019, 08:24:53 PM
 :thankyou:    It's here for security  ::)

These 'friends' come via the village site  :-\ ........ names pop up that I have never heard off and occasionally someone that I know.  I can't even write a post  ;D .......... but can read what is happening.  Give me a quill and Ink ......... I can kind of understand those  ;D
Title: Re: Facebook
Post by: Mogster71 on December 24, 2019, 01:03:01 PM
Hey CLKD

How are you getting on with Facebook, did you manage to track down your friends? :)
Feel free to PM me if you need any help or want me to look x

If not Facebook, there are other ways, if you know job history etc you could try on Linkedin? A google search should bring up some profiles. Even better if they are not called Susan Jones or a name where there are probably 10000s!!