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General Discussion => This 'n' That => Topic started by: Spadger on June 19, 2014, 11:46:20 AM
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:'( My beautiful cat was run over and killed this morning and I found him on my way to work. My heart is breaking, I loved him so much - sweet, funny little chap. I realise this is a strange subject for this forum... but I just can't stop crying - embarrassing really in an open plan office with two blokes (who are avoiding me like the plague). Not sure if it's shock, but I haven't had a flush today yet, however I'd have one every 5 minutes if it would bring him back.
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Oh I'm so sorry to hear this. What a horrible shock for you.
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Honeyb
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thank you Honeybun...just needed someone to tell.
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Oh Spadger, so sorry about your cat, what a shock it must have been. Run free at Rainbow Bridge little kitty :-*
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So sorry to hear this. Please don't be embarrassed about getting upset - especially in front of blokes. I work at a vets and in my experience it's the blokes who get far more visibly upset about poorly pets.
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Hello Spadger,
So sorry to hear about your cat :'( what a shock!
I really sympathise as I had to have my dog put to sleep on 1st June, so understand your loss.
:hug: Dyan X
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Thank you for your kind comments ladies - I'm sure a lot of people think I'm too sensitive and that 'it's just a cat' but he was so special to me, I loved him more than I love some of my relatives!
Tiger74 - thank you for that - my husband just rang, he's in tears too!
Sorry to hear about your dog Dyan - they are such a big part of our lives aren't they?
Greyhoundgal - I already have quite a menagerie waiting for me at Rainbow Bridge, and made him promise to wait for me there as I said my goodbyes this morning - it's such a lovely thought and I choose to believe it's true.
Hope you're all ok,
love Spadger x
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It's not just a cat, he was your little friend and part of your family. You will have to give yourself time to grieve.
Rainbow Bridge is very real and I too have some special friends waiting for me too so I understand how you feel.
Hubby will have a big cuddle waiting for you when you get home.
Take care
Honeyb
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Rainbow Bridge got me through my pets leaving.
2 of my cats were killed :'( on the road outside my house - 9 days apart :'( it took 2 years before I could look at their photos and 3 before I considered another kitten. I ended up with 3, a dog and 3 rabbits ::)
The only thought was that at least the death was quick as the cars came down the hill really fast.
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So very sorry Spadger - it's just as upsetting as losing one of the family. Took me quite a while to get over losing my cat, infact sometimes I swear I can see him out of the corner of my eye creeping upstairs. :hug:
Katy x
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Bless you CLKD - to lose 2 of your kitties only 9 days apart must have been heart-breaking (this morning hubby thought about making our remaining cat a 'house-cat' for safety, but I think it would be so sad as they love to be outdoors).
Glad you felt able to give a loving home to more pets, I have never been without some type of pet my whole life but it does break your heart when they go.
It really helps to know that I'm not alone in grieving for pets.
Katy - thank you, and like you I swear I sometimes see a cat we lost some years ago out of the corner of my eye, sitting in her favourite sunny spot in the garden - it's nice to think that they love us so much that they never really leave us.
love Spadger x
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Our pets/animals take up lots of our time, are part of our daily routines so are going to be missed when they leave us. Our chickens need care too so neighbours step in to feed.
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So sorry to hear about your cat spadger,what a shock for you and your hubby.We had to have our much loved 17yr old cat put to sleep last year and I too think I still see her sometimes in the flower bed she loved to sleep in.At least I got to hold her as she went to sleep, hubby couldn't be in the room he was so upset.You will need time to grieve and hopefully in time the happy memories will be a comfort.Sending you hugs just now.
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:hug: Ju Juxx
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thank you Thorntrees & Ju Ju - bless you x
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:hug: So sorry, know just how you feel....take care .
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So sorry to hear about your cat - it must have been a real shock. But at least it was quick. Pets just worm their way into your heart and you don't realise how big a part they take up until they are gone. Take care.
Bramble
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So sorry about your cat. I would be in tears too. :hug:
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So sorry to hear about your cat Spadger. I would feel exactly the same as you if one of mine got killed. What a shock for you but I'm really pleased that you found him. So many cats are hit on the roads and carry on running into the nearest cover never to be found or some well meaning person takes them home for burial. Although you have lost him you know that he is not shut in somewhere or lying injured. It may sound a strange thing to say but I'm sure you will understand what I mean.
Taz x :hug:
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Spadger - having only recently lost my cat at a good age and through natural causes, I can only guess how you must be feeling at the moment.
Take care.
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Thank you so much for your kindness and comments, I have just lit a candle and raised a glass of wine in memory of our dear, sweet, lovely cat. Taz2 I understand what you mean and you're right, I'm so glad I got him home and we buried him in our garden. No wondering and hoping, I know exactly where he is and will plant a shrub in his honour and memory. His brother is beside me, looking slightly lost but getting "twice the love"! I appreciate you all taking the time to respond, and to those who know from experience exactly how I feel - I am sorry for your loss also.
Lots of love, Spadger x
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I have a corner of the garden never to be cultivated as it's under a tree: 3 rabbits and 3 cats there …… with various statue thingies close by including an angel with a shell for water.
I was there pruning on Tuesday muttering, "sorry to disturb you pussies" as I tramped all over ::) ………. I know their Spriits are running free though :-*
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Sorry to hear about your dear little puss Spadger - it is always so sad to lose them under any circumstances.
Hurdity :hug:
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CLKD - thank you for that, he is now buried in the garden along with two other kitties we lost a few years ago, and will plant something for him soon, I hate to think how I will feel if we ever move house... Thank you Hurdity, it really helps to know that people care and understand.
Love to all, Spadger x
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I will be sad when we move. But their Spirits are at Rainbow Bridge. I saw 2 of ours after ……. so I know they are OK ;). I will leave a note for the new owners pointing out why there's a quiet corner …….
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So very sorry to hear about your cat. The exact same thing happened to my gorgeous cat last November so I absolutely know how you feel. He was my constant companion, rarely away from my side and I felt like I'd lost a part of me. It does get easier over time of course but they never leave you in spirit. As Taz said, it is some comfort to know what has happened and, like you, our cat is buried in our garden which he loved.
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So sorry about your lovely cat and how sad that you came across him like that on your way to work. I also blubbed all day in a large office when I had to have my cat put to sleep 4 years ago. No one dare speak to me.
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Ariadne xx
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I'm overwhelmed by the lovely comments and kindness you have all shown, it's really helped. I'm still quite sensitive and it feels so sad today to be sitting in the garden without him - but his brother (our only pet now) is here - albeit a bit bewildered. Friends and neighbours who have heard the news are being very kind, and in some ways it does restore your faith in humanity.
Have a lovely day everyone x
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Only just caught up with this.
So sorry to hear about your cat Spadger. :hug:
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Spadger- thinking of you :hug:
I've been sitting in the garden missing my dog :'(
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Of course Dyan .......... it's not the same is it :-\
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Lots of love, Spadger. So very sorry to hear about your cat. My 2 beloved cats died from illness, and I nursed them day and night to the end, but whether it's a predictable loss like that or a sudden, terrible shock like yours, the grief and loss are so hard to bear.
There's a book written for children about the loss of a kitty friend, but I loved it and found it comforting. It's this one http://www.amazon.co.uk/Cat-Heaven-Cynthia-Rylant/dp/0590100548
Sending you big hugs. Don't let anyone make you feel diminished by grieving and crying. It's never "just a cat" (or dog). It's a loved one.
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Thank you so much oldsheep (lovely name!) - I am getting there albeit slowly, today feel a bit wistful... I will check out the book on Amazon.
I nursed an elderly cat a few years ago until the end, I look back and feel that I gave her better care than some elderly people receive - hard work but I felt I owed it to her for being such a poppet - never any trouble at all.
Dyan it must be awful for you without your dog - you obviously felt just like me yesterday - just such a perfect sunny day and our pets would have loved to be with us in the garden :(
Take care, things will get easier I'm sure.
Love to all,
Spadger x
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:thankyou: Spadger.
Missing her so much. The garden was her favourite place to be.
Love to you too X
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I am so sorry to hear about your little furry friend. I also lost a cat to a car. It is just over 22 years ago now and I still get a little teary over him when I think about it, but I also remember all the funny things he used to do. He was Mr Personality Plus.
I've lost other cats over the years, but it's always been due to age or ill-health, and somehow that's been easier to handle. The fact that he died at just 3 years old, and so suddenly and needlessly, just seemed too cruel.
Like you, I was a total mess at work and had to come home and I actually took the next day off as well. Frankly I didn't care if anyone thought I was stupid. He was my boy and I was grieving for him.
Just take your time and feel any emotion you want to feel. If anyone thinks you are silly, then they are the ones to pity because they don't know or understand the love of a pet.
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Dana thank you so much for that - I am beginning to remember the funny things he did and I know in time it will get better.
I understand what you mean about it being harder in these circumstances - taken so suddenly and in the prime of life just makes it feel like they were not given a fair chance. I'm trying really hard to get on with things and try to stay positive, but I fully expect to be upset about this little chap for quite a while as I loved him so dearly.
Take care,
Love Spadger x
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So sorrry to read about your little cat. :'(
Somehow its comforting to know that there are so many lovely people out there that do care and do not think youre bit loopy! we love our pets and they are a part of our family, I have my old pals resting in their spot in the garden and I sit there and read and think about them. Its strange though, we had a stray visit us a few years back- just as our old chap as coming to the end of his time- he had cancer. Oh I miss him. Anyway, this black cat- short legs, looks like a bit of a daushaund!!!! has lived with us for a few years now and is cherished so much. Now he has a little black and white stray who comes for a feed.... who knows eh? I think our dear old cat would approve. I know its a dreadful time for you, but wasnt he lucky to have been so very loved by you?.. Take care, thinking about you xxx
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Morning Spadger, was just wondering how you were and to say hello to you .x
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Thank you Valiant for your lovely messages - and it is a comfort knowing that I'm not alone in feeling so much for animals.
It's 2 weeks now, and I'm still a bit sensitive but plodding on... our other cat has been 'searching' all over the house for his brother - so sad to watch. Yesterday I found him sitting on his brother's grave in the garden, so his search is over I suppose. I haven't ruled out getting another cat, or even a puppy (our remaining cat doesn't appear to mind dogs) but at the moment I feel it's too soon.
I think generally things happen for a reason and if a stray came into our lives we would not turn them away :-)
Thanks again for the support - it's much appreciated.
Love Spadger x
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Spadger :hug:
I know how you're feeling having lost my dog 4 wks ago.
It's strange how animals seem to know when one is gone.
My dog liked cats and would get excited when the neighbours teased her by walking along the fence.
They would never come down,not that she would have hurt them as we've had a cat ( sadly passed 10 years) so she was just a puppy then.
As soon as Jenny( our dog) passed the neighbours cat came round to the front door and lied there for sometime.
Another neighbours cat came and sniffed her memorial garden( although she's not in there) but we have made a special place for her.
It takes time Spadger. We still have Jenny's bowls,bedding,toys etc.
Her ashes are on a special shelf in the lounge with a picture of her,a figurine of her breed,her favourite toy etc.
People have asked me will I get another dog but we haven't even thought about that.
It is too soon,we are still grieving for the one we lost.
There's no rush,you'll know when the time is right :)
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Within a few days someone asked if I would replace mine :'( …….. I spat bricks and haven't spoken to that person since
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I was asked the day after if I intended "replacing" my cat (by someone with no pets), I was mortified - I could never replace him but one day hope I could offer a loving home and my heart to another pet. Somehow though the older I get the harder I take their loss, and this is worrying :-/
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It's how we view Life. Perhaps an older pet ………. one a little less frenetic than a kitten ;)