Menopause Matters Forum
General Discussion => New Members => Topic started by: terri on April 06, 2014, 06:23:30 PM
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Hello all..newbie here.
I'm 53 and over the past 18months my memory is so poor it's scary! Does this improve as time goes on? I find that having to remember things can sometimes be so overwhelming. Is this normal? I started HRT 2 months ago hoping that it would get better? My mood swings are frequent, mostly low, this only serves to make my poor memory seem even worse!
Any support would be greatly appreciated..
Terri
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Oh we have several threads here - I'll bump some ;)
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I am the same, age 54, really gets me down!!
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I do things and then promptly forget I have done them and then have to go back and check.
I have been on HRT for four years and it has improved a little but not that much.
I find when I am tired it is worse. I also struggle to get the right words out sometimes and end up really muddled. I drive my family nuts ;D
You are not alone in this.
Honeyb
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Terri - You are definitely not alone.
I'me like HB, I do things then can't remember if I've done them, drives OH demented ::)
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A friend and I have complete conversations without using the correct words, but we know what we mean ::)
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I'm the same I'm like a goldfish I'll think I must do something & then it's gone & I won't remember it til days later & then I get upset as it's evidence my memory is not what it was. I really hope it does get better x
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Won't get better, we get used to it or forget how it was before ;)
I was with a very young man on Sunday - talking about fish, I wanted to ask how to keep sturgeon but couldn't remember the name of the fish >:( ........ I told him 'bear with me, the name will get to my brain in due course' ...... it did ::)
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I'm the same.
Memory like a fish............... :-\
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As long as that ;D
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I disagree that memory doesn't get better. I really thought I might have Alzheimer's when in my fifties, wrong words, couldn't recall what I was getting ready to do, forgot names, etc. I was taking occasional Valium and now I have no problems in that area. I am older and still on ERT and it has all steadied out just fine. I was seriously worried before, up until about early sixties.
I feel so much better now that I am post meno and have survived some really bad stuff. Right now I'm concerned about retina, but planning cross country RV trips and moving on. Never had this can do attitude before. Having a really neat new husband certainly adds to the positive attitude, but realizing my years are numbered has made me aware that I don't wish to waste any time. I've also moved on and left resentments and disappointments behind. In fact, this is the first time in my life that I've put me up there as important as others. No longer a people pleaser. Take me or leave me, I don't need to care anymore.
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Great post Trey, agree about memory, mine is fine, only gets a bit wonky when I am stressed.
Also agree about not caring what people think of me and being a people pleaser, in that department I am getting there.
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CLKD ;D
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Thanks Trey - there is hope then ;D
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So my memory may improve? ;D
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What was the question ………..
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you can't remember either :D
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It's short term stuff with me. In floats around and then floats out again.
I always got muddled with words on the run up to a period. Even my hubby noticed that many years ago it was so noticeable. Now I go through phases where I am fine and at other points it can be really quite bad. I can only think that it's still hormone fluctuations. Hopefully when I get fully post meno it will level out and I will be a bit better.
As for being a people pleaser......It's a work in progress and my ability to say no more often is improving.
Honeyb
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Oh well done you! the more you say 'no' the easier it becomes ;) - enjoy your 2 days of peace …..
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Nice one HB. :great:
That's something I must put into practice myself.
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Oh my goodness ladies...I forgot I'd written this post!! Shows how bad it is :-\..
Thank you all so much for your replies, I now know A. It's normal and B. I'm not alone :)
Trey...a great post about people pleasing..I've been doing that all my life, and now,like you, am getting to the stage where I actually don't care what others think,it really is quite liberating ;D..I guess there are some positives in the twilight years..
Thank you all for being here
Terri
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I've only just joined this site and I'm so pleased I found it :)
I've felt so alone.....like no-one understands, but there are lots of you :)
I agree with Terri re Trey's post, there comes a time when you have to do what you want to do and not what others expect.
It's hard.....but I'm working on it.
Look forward to reading posts that will help and inspire.
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Hi my memory is pretty awful, I have to write everything down, then I can't remember where I put the list :o
Also words are a real problem, I have discovered I am quite godd at charades ;D ;)
Wombat x
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The only time my memory goes bonkers is when I am stressed. It was really bad in the height of meno. I used to be afraid to take the Alzheimer's 'tests' that pop up in magazines or the net. I still think the fifties were my most difficult years and really they should have been because my really screwed up life was fairly settled then.
I'm just sitting here in the desert sun waiting for oh and my legs have suddenly gone blotchy red. Age does have some weird downsides.