Menopause Matters Forum
Menopause Discussion => Personal Experiences => Topic started by: Mrs January on February 23, 2014, 04:54:44 PM
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Hi
Some of you lovely ladies will know I have had a tough few months with OH etc......
Today I found a home to rent and get to move out to a brighter future:) I am so relieved and excited too...my son is coming with me and new adventures are ahead...maybe coming off the AD's is my next step forward to happiness and laughter xxx
Love Mrs January
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:congrats:
I hope it all goes really well for you.
A happy New life awaits.
Honeyb
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Thanks Honeybun
Spk again soon guys xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Do NOT stop the ADs for at least a year because you will have all kinds of emotions to sort through. How does OH feel about your moving out?
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Wishing you the best of luck in your new adventure - sounds as if you're doing a lot better now :)
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Fingers crossed for you. Hope it works out well & you are happy.
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Well done, so pleased for you. I've been there myself just over 3 years ago. I was glad to be out of the situation at home but it took a while to feel that my new place was "home".
Agree with CLKD re. the anti-depressants. Dont be tempted, please. Not just yet.
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Is Mrs J still here :-\
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Hey guys
Mrs J is still here.......had a few days away with a lovely guy...ooops.
Off to my new home this weekend/staying with friends just now.
As soon as I have the internet back on I will post again
Thanks to you all for your lovely comments.
Lyn xxxxxxxx
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Good luck with this new chapter in your life
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Let us know how you get on!
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Thanks lovely ladies
I ma both excited and scared in this new chapter. Better to love ones self than to remain in an unhappy marriage though. I have joined a new social group too and met some lovely friends.
Onwards we go lol and hope it is the adventure I need.
Mrs January
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Little steps ;)
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Hey guys
Mrs J is still around. Seems a certain OH has hacked my emails again!!! so I will need to register under a new email and name to continue to use this site. For now I hope they read this and then leave me alone!!! lol xxx
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You can just change your user name if you want and your password.
Don't link anything to your email address and then you are in no danger of being hacked.
It's quite easy, just go to preferences and change them as you want.
Honeyb
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Thanks Honeybun
He has been doing it for ages and you would think he would have better things to do now I have left as he asked!
I will sort a new profile and I do have a Gmail account that will give me privacy for the future thta a freind of mine set up for me.
Love and hugs
Mrs J
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Make sure that the 'friend' isn't passing on information though :-\ ………. find out how to set a password then make it entirely your own!
My DH would never dream of reading what I type, nor would he open my mail when it arrives ;)
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Hubby and I share an email account and a laptop. He knows my passwords for every thing. He doesn't look at MM but to be honest I really don't mind. I have nothing to hide.
He also rummages in my handbag and raids my purse. ;D. No secrets between us.
Difficult if it's an ex partner though. In that case it's very intrusive.
Honeyb
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We would never 'raid' each other, we even have different cupboards to hide gifts in until the various celebrations ;D ........ it's a matter of respect.
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We have respect but we also have closeness and absolutely nothing to hide.
We have always been the same right from day one.
It's what makes for equality in our house. Why would a close couple hide anything apart from Xmas and birthday gifts.
No need I think and it works for us.
Honeyb
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I kept hubby clear of my tablet. He would have been on it all the time otherwise. But he has his own now. He could have worked out the password if he'd thought hard enough. ::) ;D
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We don't have anything to hide either. (Except the odd item of clothing I buy and 'forget' to mention).
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We don't have anything to hide either. (Except the odd item of clothing I buy and 'forget' to mention).
Everyone knows they don't count ;)
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Wont he be able to hack your Gmail too if he has already managed to hack your other email account?
Taz x
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Mrs J - Not trying to be awkward, ok hopefully your ex may not be able to get at your Gmail account but Gmail don't have a good reputation as to the way they handle their own accounts. I think they had a reputation for monitoring internet browsing activity. Might be worth setting up an email account with somebody else?
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Emails either sent to a Gmail account by both GMail and non-Gmail subscribers are browsed to lift any company names or other content which can then be used as "ad targets". This is from their own FAQ section
"1.1 What is Google's Gmail?
Gmail is a web-based e-mail service offered by Google offering one-gigabyte (1000 megabytes) of e-mail storage to users, five hundred times the capacity offered by Microsoft's Hotmail (as of June 2004, although banner advertising-supported web-based e-mail services, including Hotmail and Yahoo! have or plan to increase their storage capacity in response to the competitive pressure of Gmail).
Gmail is supported by advertisers who buy keywords, much like the Google search engine's AdWordsadvertising program. Gmail uses "content extraction" (the term used in Google's patents) on all incoming and outgoing e-mail in order to target the advertising to the user. For example, if the user is having an e-mail conversation about applying for a job, Gmail might present the user with ads about online job search sites and resume writing services."
This doesn't mean that anyone can hack in any more easily than any of the other email providers though - it's just that your emails are searched by computer for the relevant words.
Taz x
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This doesn't mean that anyone can hack in any more easily than any of the other email providers though - it's just that your emails are searched by computer for the relevant words.
Taz you are obviously correct - I just hate the idea of my emails being searched at all, especially when they want to target adverts!
Mind you adverts generated when browsing can be stopped by installing AdBlock on Google Chrome.........
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I never use my Gmail account because of the way they "lift" certain information. Hotmail doesn't do that.. yet...
Taz x
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argghh, really? I switched from Hotmail to Gmail when Hotmail gave me an outlook account which I couldnt get on with...
Back to Mrs January, i do find it rather odd that your ex husband is stalking you after his attitude to you before you left...seems he doesnt want you there but soon as you leave is wanting to find out what you are up to. hope everything sorts itself out and best of luck with your new beginning.
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Millimoo
I guess you are right. One thing for sure I ain't a going back! happy in my new life and embrace new adventures.......I have loads of single girlfriends to have fun with and maybe time will be short until the house sells and D papers get to me.....his loss
Hugs
Mrs J
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Do you have a good income Mrs J? I think it is a lack of funds which stop many couples from going their separate ways. It's not always possible to buy two properties out of funds from a jointly owned one and renting is so expensive.
Taz x
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Hi Taz
I am a nurse ( community but work with children) so not too bad. I rent now and pay some of the mort on the shared home so funds are tight.I would rather be broke than unhappy thou xxxx
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Good for you - it must be difficult on what's not a huge salary. It's finding the deposit and three months rent up front which has floored a couple of friends.
Here's to many happy times!
Taz x
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Hi Taz
You are right hun. I had a fab girlfriend who has helped me enormously, with furniture and money bless her. I have to support two houses until one is sold- so not good.
Anyway my older lad has given me an invite to the pub.....off i go again and dinner out tonight with friends xxxxx
Mrs J xxx