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Menopause Discussion => All things menopause => Topic started by: Spangles on December 28, 2013, 08:11:51 AM
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Hi ladies
Well here I am on a long awaited spa break with my other half. Sounds amazing but all I want to do is go home. I woke at 4.30 Thai morning and have lay here pondering ever since not good i know.
I thought the break would lift me but its done the opposite. We arrived at the hotel which seriously resembles a crematorium, complete with brick pillars along a covered walk way and a memorial garden!!
Putting this aside we decided to hit the spa..................chilling in the steam room and all of a sudden the door burst open in in walked a group of 8-10yr olds!!! Oh yes I'd gone down at family time!
Seriously not the experience I was hoping for but he ho, make the most of it and all that.
This morning I have woke up with terrible anxiety and diarrhoea but also felt a little nauseous, automatically I put it down to my anxiety and depression followed by menopause.
Am I expecting too much or is this how it is when you are menopausal?
Thanks
Shellb
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Hi Shellb.
So sorry hun to hear how you feel this morning. Maybe take it a step at a time, insomnia,anxiety,nausea are all things that I have experienced in this journey......but not of them will hurt us it is a feeling or symptom of the time in our life.....what other things are on offer for you today? a nice walk, a massage maybe, or having your nails done? just thoughts hun but enjoy the time with your OH too who wants to help you on this break away and journey in life......love and hugs Lyn :)
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Hi Shelb, so sorry to hear you aren't feeling good, I know exactly how you feel, I have been on so many holidays where I have felt anxious, sick and panicky and just wanted to come home. The most recent one was this Sept when we went to Bulgaria and I spent most of the time in the apartment crying, this was after several agonizing weeks of wondering whether to go or not, on the day we went I was ok but once we got there all went downhill :( I am post meno and anxiety and bad depression has been my worst symptoms, I hope that you can manage to do a few nice things, as Lyn said,
maybe a massage to relax you a bit? Are you taking anything for your symptoms ?
Really hope things improve for you and you manage to enjoy things a bit, Lots of Love and hugs, Mags :hug:
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Thank you Lyn
It's good to know I'm not alone in this although I feel it sometimes. I have booked to get my nails done later and mabe some sleep catch up!
I'm so tearful today and have no reason to be, al I can think of is hormones.
I'm now 4 months without a period again so my doc changed my HRT regime, she said the absence of them was probably because the meno is really kicking in now, well I just hope thats what it is and that it will hurry up and do one!
Thanks again
Shellb
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So sorry to read that you are not enjoying your break Shelb. Listen to you body at the moment and do what you feel best. I gave up a lot of things which caused me anxiety. Some may see that as "giving in" but I saw it as actually doing what was right for me at that time of my life. It's not always great for your partner but hopefully you have got an understanding one.
Which type of HRT are you taking?
Taz x
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Thank you Mags and Taz
I am taking citalopram 30mg daily and I have been on various HRT for 18months. Currently I am using evorel 50 for 3months with 5mg of norethisterone for the last two weeks Although I have only just started the regime the oestrogen is the same so I am where I would usually be on the sequi. It's so confusing as I don't know what is my real anxiety and depression and what is my meno anxiety and depression. Some days I think I just going mad!
I'm really hoping there is light at the end of the tunnel and that it doesn't stay like this for too long.
Thanks again
Shellb
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Be kind to yourself Shelb. Your doctor seems to have tailored your HRT regime individually which is good - mine would just have put me on to the Evorel Sequi patches. Have you had norethisterone before? This is one of the progesterones which can give anxiety and low mood so watch out for that even though you will seem to be on a lower dose than that in the patches.
Of course there are also lots of bugs going round at the minute - especially ones affecting the tummy - so it could be that you are not well anyway and it is nothing to do with hormones. It is always so difficult to know.
Taz x :hug:
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Hi Shellb - sorry to hear you are feeling like this. I get very anxious when out of my comfort zone and it's horrible when all you want to do is come home. Glad to hear you are having nails done - maybe do some other things just for you and your OH of course. Some spas do lack atmosphere but maybe if you have a little sleep and try again you will feel better. I am on citalopran and some days I feel as if I am going under but other days I'm ok. It's a rocky road isn't it. I can't take HRT owing to history of endometriosis but I am on vagifem . I hate feeling like this too and it's a struggle - hope you manage to lift your spirits a bit and have a nice break x
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I hate the struggle that anxiety causes :-\ .. I have spent many holidays wanting to come home, so that I know if I've enjoyed myself or not but never the opportunity of trying it out first ......... so wish the time away so that I get home before panic sets in :'(
Half a day at a time?
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Hi Shell, know exactly what you mean, i used to feel even worse if i had went away because you feel extra pressure to feel 'good'! it will get better shell but at present just try to relax and dont beat yourself up x
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Hi Ladies
Thank you all for your kind words, it makes me feel better to know I'm not alone and any different with this whole menopause thing.
I got my nails done and then smudged them! Never mind it's really not important. Just having a relax now so we'll see what tomorrow brings, a better morning than today hopefully.
Thanks and hugs
Shellb
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Just much happier at home probably being a bit anti social.
I did enjoy my holiday last year but I had huge moments which was horrible. Still planning to get away next year although I suspect it will be a struggle.
Honeyb
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I think we should have 'menopause' holidays where we can all go, at least we will understand each other!
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I have my own menopause holiday - on my own. It works a treat!
Taz x
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So do I Taz, at least DH and I holiday together alone ;)
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How can you holiday alone with someone? Am puzzled! That wouldn't work for me I'm afraid.
Taz x :-\
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Separate ends of the camper van perhaps. ;D
It's the worry of spoiling things for others that bothers me.
Honeyb
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Me too! On my own I don't have that worry. It doesn't matter if I spend the whole week wrapped in a duvet feeling dreadful - there is only me there to be bothered by it.
Taz x
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Hi Taz
your 'alone' holiday sounds great, I would love to do it but I'm afraid I'm just not brave enough, maybe one day.
I really feel for my OH, he's so patient with me through all this I just hope he doesn't have to go through it with me for many years, I hope I'm lucky and don't have to much longer to go. Seriously though I think it's going to be a long haul but there's nothing wrong with dreaming.
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Hi Shelb - I have been going alone for over ten years now but only in this country and to one of two favourite places. In the beginning I did it because I was looking after my two ill parents - 150 miles from my home - and still had sons living at home and a part time job. I split myself between the two places each week - four nights at my house and three nights at their house. Although I didn't know it at the time menopause was looming with all the various period problems and mood swings. A week totally on my own doing exactly what I wanted used to put me back together to carry on for a bit longer. It was just so liberating not to have to ask someone else what they wanted to eat or where they wanted to go and to get up when I wanted without feeling I might have been spoiling someone elses day. You meet lots of people when you are on your own - people tend to talk to someone on their own but not to couples.
It may not be a long haul for you and it is great to have a supportive partner.
Taz x
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Do not assume that your husband/partner feels like you think he does ;) . I felt guilty for years in case I spoiled our holiday but as DH told me, he likes reading so would sit quietly if necessary; he would go fishing and when he caught something would phone so that I could look through the binocs to see how big the fish was as our cottage over-looked the Bay in which he was fishing. So talking through each other's requirements for a holiday is important!
Holidaying together alone is: we 2 but no one else ;)
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This year was the first for 25 years that hubby and I had a holiday on our own.
It was a bit of a mixture for me as I missed my daughter very much. On the other hand it was really nice not to have to think of anyone but ourselves.
I think if my anxiety had been a bit better I would have enjoyed myself more.
Anxiety has a lot to answer for as it leaches the pleasure out of life.
Honeyb
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