Menopause Matters Forum
General Discussion => This 'n' That => Topic started by: ellie on July 06, 2013, 07:45:29 AM
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If you could turn the clock back , would you do it and why?...I would like to turn it back to when I was 20 and married my first husband, I was too young.
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I would go back to when I first met my husband and do the same thing all over again. This time I would remember to enjoy every minute and not be so "busy" all the time.
My kids are grown up now but to do it all again and have two little ones in the house would be wonderful.
I really would not change much.....a few things, but not much.
Honeyb
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I do think about this question occasionally, there are a few key points in my life where I made decisions, and I'd love to know how different things might have been if I'd chosen a different path.
For example, when I first left school I went to Art College to study fashion, and I had some vague notion to go on to University to study stage costume and design, but for various reasons (mostly laziness I have to admit) I dropped out half way through my second year in college. I do occasionally wonder what life would have been like for me if I'd continued with that plan.
There are other 'crossroads' moments I wonder about - should I have finished my Psychology degree (told you I was lazy!), should I have been stronger and left my (now ex) husband when I first knew I wanted to and not waited 10 years (but then I'd never have met my fiance, or if I had he'd only have been 11!).
BUT then I consider that I have so many wonderful people and things in my life, and maybe going back and changing even my choice of socks on any given day might cause everything in the now to change, and I'm glad it's not possible. Still like to know if I might have ended up married to some famous actor and living a glamorous luvvie life though!!
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I would. I'd turn the clock back to when I was about 18. I didn't feel I had much self confidence and I worried a lot about what other people thought. I never wanted to upset anybody and although I might sound a bit precious, I always put others first.
I look back and I really should have had the sense and strength to have my say and do what I wanted.
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I didn't feel I had much self confidence and I worried a lot about what other people thought. I never wanted to upset anybody and although I might sound a bit precious, I always put others first.
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That's just how I feel now Pennyfarthing, but nearly 38 years older ??? ???.
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I would turn the clock back by about 10 days and not buy a blasted motor home - I never thought I would have such anxiety :'( - I feel totally trapped :(
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I wish I had the fearlessness and confidence I had when younger, these last five, years It seems to have fizzled somewhat.
If I am honest its probably to do with OH not being able or wanting to go on holiday and me worrying leaving him if I went on my own, its the only thing I don't feel confident about.
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:( oh no CLKD what happened? thought you loved your new motor home?
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I would turn it back eleven years and follow my heart instead of waiting around until it was right for everyone else! I didn't listen to older friends who said "Do it now before it's too late and you lose your confidence" How right they were!
Taz x
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Never say never Taz.
Perhaps we will all get our confidence back at some point.
I just hope I am not too old to enjoy it.
Although I would not change much about the past there are a few things. Money probably. I wish we had saved more. Hey ho it wad fun at the time.....Not laughing that much now though.
Honeyb
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I didn't feel I had much self confidence and I worried a lot about what other people thought. I never wanted to upset anybody and although I might sound a bit precious, I always put others first.
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That's just how I feel now Pennyfarthing, but nearly 38 years older ??? ???.
Sorry to hear that Cazikins. I still tend to put others first (must be the mother in me ::)) but I do try and make a point of doing some things I want to. I don't really care what people think about me now, so that IS a positive.
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I would turn the clock back by about 10 days and not buy a blasted motor home - I never thought I would have such anxiety :'( - I feel totally trapped :(
I love ytou CLKD even if you are trapped by the bloody thing ya gota laugh girl hehehehe
NO just me then who plucks up hahahahaha xxxxxxxxxxxxx
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I would turn back to when I came home on leave from the WRENS
I worked for my 17 days leave for my Unlce who ran a HUGE disco PUB (72)
I saw this lad amongst lads Id one to school with oh god I thought he was drop dead
He looked just like Ray Davies out of the KINKS saw him a few times but he never spoke to me
Came home 10 weeks later for a month Id had glandular fever same again went to Pub tro work
In he walks second night home OH god my heart pounded my hands sweating could hardly breath
Later that night one of his group came up to me and said would yo go on a date with my mate
I said which one never thinking it could be HIM I mean he was 6/5 so thin long jet black hair
All done in he glitter glam style beigfe trouser beige jkt purple shirt with those stripy vests
He said him over there it was HIM I said trying to be super cool tell him to come and ask me
HE DID made a date for the Tuesday (sunday htis was)later that night they left
Me and my pal Margaret went along to the after hours club 10/2AM IN nEW bRIGHTON GUINEA
Walked down the stairs had a couple of dances wiht Magie then a hand comes on my arm amd says can I dance with you Music Long Train Running Doobbie Brothers as it finished he pulled me off the floor looked down from his height I have to add he also hd 2inch high shoes
So me 5/2 him 6/7 he bentr down ans kissed me NOT a shove in your mouth kisses but almost like a butterfly kiss I f... melted my head span my legs went He said Im going to marry yoHe then turned me round and he held me round my waist he leaning bac k on the wall me facing
The dance floor no words were said music finished no more dances we just heldf hands he lft his mates he walked me home I said do you still want to see me Tuesday he held my palm upwards kissed it said yes and I strill want to marry you he was just 18 me 19 3mnths later
We were engaged I finished my time in he WRENS 400 miles away took 6 months
Been together ever since yes it was my Bobbles If I could just revisit that night shttttttttt
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:bounce: I remember *falling* in love too :-* - he's been my Rock!
There are things I have said and a few things I would like to alter :'( ...........
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silverlady i have the same problem i have always loved my holidays and even last year when i could hardly walk with hip pain i still went ;D now my other half really doesnt want to go on holiday and says he wouldnt mind if he never went away but me i would go away as often as i can i still feel the need to to as much as i can with my life before its gone ;D ;D
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There are so many things I wish I could change and that I wish I'd done differently that I'd go right back to birth, but with the knowledge, confidence and ( I hope) wisdom that I've acquired in latter years.
However, although I get down at times, I feel that my best years are probably happening now. As I keep telling people, I feel that I'm now in my prime. At 57, I'm the latest of late starters!
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<wave> BattyoldBird! Well said!
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Hello Bob! where ve you been all this time?!
I think I'd do the same as you, but with different parents :-\
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Hello Milliemoo, I've just been taking some time out from the Internet, and have been working full-time for the last few weeks so am too exhausted of an evening to do anything much, and weekends are spent doing housework. It's nearly the end of the school year, and I've had such a good year at work that I'm not looking forward to the holidays at all. I've been thinking of increasing my working hours from September but I'm sorry to say that I think full-time would be too much for me. :( Just glad that financially I don't need to work full-time.
I wouldn't change my parents. I think the biggest thing I'd change would be to stay on in the Sixth Form at school, or go to college. As it is, I walked out at the age of 17 without taking my A levels and ended up with no career as such. I often wonder what if I had taken my A levels? Where would I be now? :-\
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Hi BOB - nice to see you back!
I left school at 16, did A levels at night school, whilst working full time, oh and doing city & guilds lab technicians certificate. Not easy, but interesting, went on to do degree.
If I'd known then what I know now, I would have made much more effort to get maths O level at 16 or 17.
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naaaaa I walked out of school 24th July started work 4 days later
Nwever regreted it joined the RNavy
Became aSWEN?RN nurse
Became a daycare worker
Worked as a manager of 3 Sunglass HUTT stores for 10 years
Ive done everything I wanted so school ahhhhhhhhhhhh
OH Son went to UNI twice hehehehe so mAYBE IN THE BACK OF MY BRAIN ?????
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Hi BoB didnt realise you worked in a school, that's pretty brave in my book :)
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Thank you Milliemoo. It's a 'special' school for very special children: with multiple and profound physical and learning difficulties. It's the best job in the world! I've never had a job that's brought me so much joy; some heartbreak, but mostly joy. :)
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Ah, that's great. My best friend is a special needs teacher :)
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Good topic.
If I could get my youthful looks & body back, without plastic surgery, then Yes.
I left school after 5th year, I had every intention in going back for a 6th year. My mum spotted a job in the paper which she thought was suitable and encouraged me to apply and I got it. However, looking back, I should have given it more thought and gone back for my 6th year. I may still have gone down the same road, but I'll never know now.