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General Discussion => This 'n' That => Topic started by: CLKD on February 24, 2013, 07:46:50 PM
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I walked by several street people in Norwich City and felt I ought to have stopped. Then I got to thinking that maybe if we each bought a space survival blanket and gave one to those we pass by - I could go back to the Very Warm Hotel and leave them dully sitting on the street sometimes with their dog.
If I had been alone - I would have offered a cup of drink, then of course they have the problem of leaving their site to go to the loo and maybe the dog would have to be left too and perhaps their stuff would be nicked :-\
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A bit cynical perhaps but some of them are professionals. They make a good few pounds a day doing this. We have a Big Issue seller in the town near us who after a shift gets in his car and goes home.
I never give to the homeless preferring to give to the Salvation Army who help them. The money goes to drink and drugs.
Don't mean to sound hard but some of them do have a choice.
Honeyb
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It is always unsettling to see rough-sleepers and not feel able to help but if you want to donate to the Norwich ones in particular you can do so here http://stmartinshousing.org.uk/latest-news/article/20
Taz x
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Some are professionals. But the Big Issue handers out have to buy the magazine and some take part in the writing and manufacture of it. I don't want to help any one particular centre but maybe if we all help one person, regardless ......... I don't give to UK Charity I would rather give directly to the person concerned, so much money goes into Company Cars, Conferences, Pension Plans that not as much goes to the Cause ......... and Charities, as they are now run as businesses, ought to be paying high street rates too but that's a different subject.
I was talking to a lady over the weekend who has worked in Northern Africa, directly with Tribal women helping them to out-source their jewellry. Money goes directly into the Tribe rather than via a Charity Bank Account or local arms trade. Funds can get there directly but I have been advised that buying a drink/bun is better than giving money in the UK, so that the person is nourished and doesn't spend it on drugs etc...
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I don't understand why you said you wanted to help these people but don't want to give to the charity which has set up in Norwich specifically to help them. I agree that we can all help one person but from what you said I don't think you did actually think of a way to help one when you were in Norwich so this would be a way. Did you actually read the "About us" part of the link as it does give a really good idea of what they can actually do to help the homeless http://stmartinshousing.org.uk/about-st-martins-housing/
Buying a drink or bun for someone is obviously a nice thing to do but it wont cover them up for the night or give them somewhere to have a shower or keep them safe which is what St. Martins Housing Trust does.
Taz x
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Without going into too much detail about money and charities, I just think it would be nice if people helped each other more generally. For example in some countries, I noticed that younger people are quick to give up their bus seats to older people. In this country, you get able bodied people sitting in the priority and disabled seats, they don't care about older people struggling and it is very annoying. It would be good if some of the long-term unemployed could do voluntary work helping others, whilst they are trying to find work. There are so many lonely old people out there in need of someone to talk to. :)
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There is a huge debate to be had here but just to say re Big Issue we know nothing of the circumstances of individuals who are selling the Big Issue but I understand they have to be homeless, or vulnerably housed (liable to become so) or marginalised in some way.
This is what I read about it:
The Big Issue recognises, however, that for many people, being housed is only the first stage in getting off the streets; therefore, The Big Issue Foundation exists to support vendors in gaining control of their lives by tackling the various issues which lead to homelessness.
The Big Issue is a not-for-profit organisation, with all ...profits passed to The Big Issue Foundation (... separate entity). The Big Issue Foundation is the registered charity arm of the organisation. It aims to underpin the company's work by tackling the underlying causes of homelessness.
That seems to me to be worthwhile.
Big Issue Sellers are self-employed and selling the magazine enables them to earn legitimate income.
Regarding charities generally, it also should be possible to determine from their annual reports and accounts the percentage of funds raised or donated which goes directly to the work of a particular charity enabling a giver to choose on this basis as well as the particular cause. It is clearly more efficient to pool resources when tackling particular problems but this usually goes alongside working with individuals. A charitable gesture like giving food or a blanket can also help the homeless and hungry but as already mentioned there are organisations which do this very well.
Hurdity x
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I have read the ppublished accounts for Guide Dogs for the Blind, Hearing Dogs for Deaf People and Cats Protection in the last couple of years and the amount that does not go directly to the Charity amazes me. Why would Charities invest in property? Stocks and Shares? I am sure taht the public expect the monies to go to training a guide dog etc.? (I don't believe in Charities breeding their own stock either, it's actually against the edict of Hearing Dogs but that's another topic!) If the monies obtained were used in this way many more dogs could be offered up after training to people who are visually impaired. Some of the monies is put into housing and training facilities but in the UK we have such a NIMBY situation that it takes several years for plans to be passed for such establishments to become a reality.
So giving directly to a person on the street, as long as the gift doesn't encourage jealousy amongst other homeless people is the basic way to begin. It means that someone has stopped and passed the time of day with an apparently homeless person, we all know how good it feels to share on here: imagine if we went ALL day without a smile or a nod in our direction :-\ ......... I no longer need to know why a person is on the streets that is up to the Police to make sure that they are genuine or a problem for the local Charities who are involved more directly - but knowing that I can go home to the warm and they maybe are unable to do so .........
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"I no longer need to know why a person is on the streets that is up to the Police to make sure that they are genuine or a problem for the local Charities who are involved more directly"
Exactly! But how are the local charities who are involved directly able to help the homeless in their town if nobody supports them?
Taz x
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I thought that I had heard it all, but reading a paper last night the YMCA was complaining about the lack of 'spaces' where people can sleep in safety and undercover. Due to lack of Government Funding many beds have been lost due to less monies which means less people, particularly those with severe mental health issues, can be taken in at night.
However: the writer also stated that 'they' were fed up with other helpers handing out sleeping bags and blankets because it encouraged people to remain in doorways - 'our aim is to get people off the streets' :-\. Aren't we all in this together, to help or not without being at each others' throats :bang:
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Nothing at all pertaining with the debate but when I was working in London a few years back on a six month contract, didn't know a soul, I used to have a short conversation with the big issue seller outside m&s in Kensington high street. He was Scottish, like me, and it certainly brightened my Saturday. Most weekends he wAs the only person I talked to apart from shop assistants.
Glory days!
Big issue sellers are the only people I give money to in the street - and the Sally Army of course.
Bramble
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I give to a charity which helps the homeless (Glasgow City Mission) rather than give to an individual. I would much rather give to something that is trying to get them off the streets than give individuals the means to remain on them.
Although the GCM is a Christian based charity, it helps all sorts who are in need from the homeless to prostitutes to children, to addicts etc. I feel they make every penny count.
Bramble
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I will buy a sandwich/hot drink for a rough sleeper but only give money to charities - chiefly because friends I know who used to be homeless reckon this is the best thing to do!
I thought that I had heard it all, but reading a paper last night the YMCA was complaining about the lack of 'spaces' where people can sleep in safety and undercover. Due to lack of Government Funding many beds have been lost due to less monies which means less people, particularly those with severe mental health issues, can be taken in at night.
However: the writer also stated that 'they' were fed up with other helpers handing out sleeping bags and blankets because it encouraged people to remain in doorways - 'our aim is to get people off the streets' :-\. Aren't we all in this together, to help or not without being at each others' throats :bang:
It's all very well saying that giving blankets or sleeping bags encourages people to stay on the streets, but I don't believe it. If someone doesn't want to take up a hostel place, withholding a sleeping bag from them won't force them to do it, it will just make it more likely they die of hypothermia. Some of the hostels can be very rough places and a lot of the gentler people are too scared to go to them. And some people suffering from claustrophobia or similar mental health issues are just not able to cope with the idea of being shut in. Also, as the writer of that article was obviously aware, there are just not enough spaces even if everyone was able and willing to take them - so what are we supposed to do, just wait for people to freeze to death?!!!
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Hi ladies.
I'm a volunteer cooking for homeless folks in Norwich via The Norwich Soup Movement......numbers of folks sleeping rough are increasing all the time.
I like many do what I can
Ms Saucy xx
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Thanks Dorothy that was my point ………. the article did state that by 2009 it was thought that the UK was going to get everyone off the streets :-\ but now it's becoming problematic again.
Well done Ms Saucy - I found out this week that there has been a Food Bank in our local town since 2012. I will wait until New Year B4 adding anything to the box in the various Supermarkets ……. most of what they are requesting isn't actually healthy :(
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What do you mean by not healthy? I know at Christmas, most foodbanks try to add some extra treats like biscuits, cake or chocolate, to cheer things up for families that can't afford to buy these things themselves. So if they are well-stocked with the healthy basics, that may be why the list is requesting 'unhealthy' food.
Our local foodbank is short of some basic supplies, but are also asking people to consider donating Christmassy stuff and last month were asking for choc advent calendars to give to the children. I always give advent calendars to the foodbanks as my godchildren get about 6 each so don't really need more from me!
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Before I give any money to rough sleepers on the street, I look at them discreetly, from a distance. If I think I see a look of real hopelessness and abandonment about them, I will give to them. I gave to two such people today. The look of gratitude in the eyes of one of them said it all.
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What do you mean by not healthy? I know at Christmas, most foodbanks try to add some extra treats like biscuits, cake or chocolate, to cheer things up for families that can't afford to buy these things themselves. So if they are well-stocked with the healthy basics, that may be why the list is requesting 'unhealthy' food.
Our local foodbank is short of some basic supplies, but are also asking people to consider donating Christmassy stuff and last month were asking for choc advent calendars to give to the children. I always give advent calendars to the foodbanks as my godchildren get about 6 each so don't really need more from me!
I agree - we all like to indulge ourselves at Christmas with a few extra treats so why should homeless and rough sleepers be any different? Life is hard enough for them without them having to miss out on Christmas treats.
Taz x
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It's said that the average person is 3 pay checks away from homelessness
If I hadn't had my brothers back in 2009 and a good friend I could have so easily found myself without anywhere to live, and all because I fled an abusive relationship
I rarely carry cash but if I do I always give the Big Issue seller money but never take the magazine so they can sell it to someone else.
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Interesting discussion as I have always given to charities rather than individuals because I know some are professional whilst others are genuine, and I do not know how to differentiate. I do like the idea of giving survival blankets or sleeping bags to people directly, or possibly hot drinks / food, as I know a lot of people don't like hostels etc., especially as most don't accept pets and people don't want to give theirs up. I've read about charities which gather food for homeless pets and I have often taken food to the local vets for distribution to such organisations.
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I don't know whether to give hot drinks because the person needs to find a loo which may result in them losing their place of safety.
I've decided to 'do' a food shop in the New Year, did I say that already :-\. Mum sometimes gives us stuff that we wouldn't eat so it can be passed on well 'within date'.
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We have a local Facebook page of women who take tinned food/clothes/tents etc donations and they go out weekly (sometimes 4 nights a week) and anyone on that page is invited to donate
They also take hot soup
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40 years ago I used to go out with a local charity to take soup to people 'living rough'. We found that some didn't want to stay in a hostel maybe it was too regimented obviously they weren't allowed alcohol so for some it was a none starter. I would have liked to have thought that the homeless problem would have improved over the years but it just seems to be so much worse now.
Every time I go out on a winters evening to put something in the bin and feel the icy air it makes me wonder how many people are having to spend the night outside.
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Me too, I often wonder about Box City. However, the problems of society have never altered despite the ups and downs of the availability of housing and jobs. There will be those on the outside who will never socialise, plus those who have family breakdowns.
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Who would have thought it difficult to give freshly laundered blankets and sleeping bags to a Charity? I want them to go directly to those on the streets, not be sold via a charity shop where they may linger and eventually get put into the rag bag.
I have thus far contacted 3 local charities ........ 1 isn't taking in anything due to lockdown; the 2nd homeless charity hasn't answered my e-mail or telephone message; the 3rd is contacting on my behalf the direct street support group ......... hopefully they will take my offerings ::).
I have a couple of other charities in mind should this one not suit !
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This does not surprise me my DD and I had the same thing last year, so nothing to do with lockdown. We tried all the places we could including the churches that help the homeless and none of them were interested, in the end a rescue centre for dogs took them.
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I expect sleeping bags are more suitable for those sleeping rough.
It's easy to miss understand what charities need/are short of. Probably best to contact them first. Blankets are a bit old hat and modern fibre is often warmer.
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Wool and tweed are the warmest products known to man. After all, they keep sheep warm enough ;D. Modern lycra etc. do dry much quicker . I have found that charities are becoming picckie when offered items .......... they can no longer blame lack of space as many have a central hub so items handed in go there to be sorted, B4 being sent out to areas which need specifics.
If necessary I will take them to the street myself and offer them up. Where have charities suddenly got bedding, towels etc. from when those on the streets were put into hotels at the start of cover? :-\
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Hello ladies
Before Lockdown I had some duvets to give away but the all charity shops told me they can't sell them. A woman working in the animal charity shop said she would like them for her dogs so I gave them to her.
Supporting the homeless by donating to charities like Shelter is likely the best way to help.
Take care ladies.
K.
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Yes, that's what I do. Have given monthly to St. Mungos for twenty years.
Giving in the street is problematic. The last time I let my heart rule my head was in Hastings. The 'coffee' money I gave a homeless man may well have been spent on substances. He promised me he was going straight to the coffee shop but walked straight by. Filled me with guilt.
Donations are better as it helps get people off the street, which is the ultimate aim.
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At the moment hardly anyone living on the streets as, due to the virus, they have been found emergency accommodation.
Amazing how this can happen when they are seen as a danger to public health. Government not bothered before. ::)
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Hello again ladies.
I agree Shadyglade, nothing like self interest for getting things done. Likewise Boris and Co are now fans of the NHS after ten years of spending cuts.
Wishing you well.
K.
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Many were put up on hotels but will be unable to stay there now they are reopening. I'm sure the covid doctors deserve a pay rise but my GPs don't, they've used it as an excuse to do as little as possible.
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My daughter works in a homeless hostel on the bank to supplement her income. She is a front line worker, but not recognised as such by the general public. Not an easy job and poorly paid. Many of the residents have had such poor life experiences and parenting, they are unable to behave in acceptable ways, particularly when drugs and alcohol are added in the mix. Social distancing? Not a concept taken board by many, but interestingly no covid cases yet. My daughter has my respect. She is kind, but doesn’t take any nonsense. A hotel in a city near was used, but was trashed. There were few staff employed, many since have given their notice in as it was so difficult and they were not supported. Good, caring people not valued and left despairing in the situation.
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Caring people who could have instilled a sense of caring in their clients had they been supported themselves.
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The company have all these wonderful aims, with just a footnote on poor staff retainment. Bosses sitting behind desks have no idea how to support staff. How do they think they can achieve all these aims without supporting the very people who will be implementing them? The pay is poor, but most people who do the job do it because they care and would carry on if they were supported in other ways. My daughter was offered a full time position and refused as she has no intention of being treated badly. It has been helpful implementing her income and she can say no. She’s self employed with her main work not happening at the moment.