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Title: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: spider on January 09, 2013, 09:39:32 PM

Omg...was at a work meeting earlier....got so overheated when I went to speak I actually forgot what I was saying mid conversation ::) ::)

I was mortified....thankfully some of my team are experiencing hormone issues too :madeyes:

Any similar experience girls?
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: mac on January 09, 2013, 09:53:46 PM
Yes frequently ;D Some days worse than others. Another great memo symptom - not >:(

Macxx
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: Joyce on January 09, 2013, 10:16:42 PM
OMG yes! So embarrassing at times.
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: Suzi Q on January 10, 2013, 05:42:23 AM
IM 58 15 years or so post meno
I can start a conversation get sidetracked and say what was I saying hehehehehe
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: Firewalker50 on January 10, 2013, 09:47:28 AM
Oh yes Spider.  And worse when at work or in a meeting.   I have had people finish sentences for me.  how very embarrassing.

Fx
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: CLKD on January 10, 2013, 10:30:26 AM
Yep  ::)
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: Greyhoundgal on January 10, 2013, 01:17:53 PM
Glad it's not just me ;)
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: honeybun on January 10, 2013, 04:23:49 PM
I sometimes get so muddled even I don't know what I am on about.
It's worse when I am stressed or tired.

I feel sorry for my hubby....his eyes glaze over as he tries to figure out what I am on about.

Honeyb
x
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: Joyce on January 10, 2013, 04:30:43 PM
Even worse when you lose your train of thought mid argument, like I did last night. I then started shouting at hubby, but that's another story!  :o
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: mrsfred on January 10, 2013, 05:43:57 PM
Yes. The last 2 years I'd been noticing memory lapses & it was getting worse. There was one night that I laid in bed & couldn't remember my husband's name. I know that sounds funny but at the time I was really traumatised.  That coupled with the severe migraines forced me to see the doctor. Noticed a vast improvement since taking hrt.
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: Cassie on January 10, 2013, 06:45:38 PM
I have a reminder setting on my phone and many a time I am busy setting myself a reminder and forget what I was reminding myself a bit, as for going to the shop and coming home without half of what I meant to get and forgetting to pick up the kids, its shocking :(
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: Js on January 10, 2013, 07:26:30 PM
Yes I'm the same specially at work I got up from my desk went to out to the front office to get something and forget what it was how embarrassing I had to retrace my steps sit back down and think what the hell was it I was going to do it is worrying but I'm sure im not alone.  I did remember what it was in the end , but as for shopping well if I don't have a list when going shopping I'm hopeless my brain goes as soon as I enter the shop omg

Js
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: Elena on January 10, 2013, 09:10:30 PM
Yes, it's a horrible disorientating feeling too at times.

I can identify with all the examples people have posted here.

I'm not on HRT as my physical meno symptoms are not bad atm. I do wonder if I should be on it for my more emotional/mental issues though.   :( :(
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: jax on January 11, 2013, 12:54:23 PM
Millie moo....the reason i went to GP in 1st place was due to mood swings and feeling miserable and intolerant.
HRT made me feel normal again although the last few weeks I have emotionally felt as moody, intolerant and weepy.I know what it is and am trying to pinch myself when doing it as I already increased to 2mg 6 months ago and am worried about changeing HRT as elleste seems to control most other probs.
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: Elena on January 11, 2013, 01:59:58 PM
Well that's certainly food for thought Jax but I am on thyroxine and citalopram already.  Not sure how that would combine with HRT. 

Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: Cassie on January 11, 2013, 02:38:22 PM
There shouldnt be any problem with that combo, I am also on the Thyroid meds, not sure about the other though, but am sure that someone will be along to help. x
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: Elena on January 11, 2013, 04:17:00 PM
Very difficult to know what to do as I wonder how much of it is ME and how much is meno-related.  I've always been a bit of a mood swinger :(

BUT I did used to have a fantastic memory, be really on the ball and good at my job.  Sadly those days have gone :(
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: rebecca on January 13, 2013, 05:27:06 PM
I have often wondered how ladies in professional positions (ie. lady judge,doctor/dentist, teacher ) cope with this 'loss of memory' :o   Awful!

Rebecca   
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: Taz2 on January 13, 2013, 06:27:39 PM
My husband is the same age as me (58) and he has the same sort of problems with memory. I think it is not always hormone related. His friends all say the same too - going into a room and forgetting why, forgetting people's names and losing their thread halfway through a conversation. I read somewhere last week that research has shown that our brains just get too full of useless information and then we can't retain the important stuff. I will try to find out where I read it.... can't remember!

Taz x
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: Elena on January 13, 2013, 08:35:09 PM
Thanks Taz, that's what I wonder too. If it is me and the fact that I have loads on my plate atm and a lot of stress plus getting old and the brain cells all dying off!

I dont want to go on HRT for something that isnt meno-related.  I had bad period pains and even worse mid cycle pain and i dont miss that at all.  Wouldnt want to go back to that just for something that is nothing to do with  meno.  I know that at my age (54)  I would probably be given the no-bleed version but even so some people get period type pain just from using Vagifem.  I cant say I have noticed that, thank goodness.  It's good to have some advantages of the meno at least.
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: Rowan on January 14, 2013, 10:31:00 AM
I am inclined to think that the loss or lowering of estrogen is involved with memory problems

http://www.realsmartdoctors.com/dev/index3.cfm?VID=1231096830001

http://www.power-surge.com/php/forums/index.php's=ab8599c91e8797a3578f5b9bf527e111&showforum=37

Estrogen sparks the comunication of dendrites in the brain if I remember rightly.
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: Elena on January 14, 2013, 01:19:55 PM
What could be the cause of memory loss in men if that is the case?
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: Rowan on January 14, 2013, 03:10:43 PM
Men go through changing hormone levels too, the andropause.

http://www.andropausesociety.org/about-andropause
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: CLKD on August 21, 2020, 02:59:19 PM
I've had problems in recent weeks.

Last week I met a new puppy - although I called him by name whilst fussing his coat, from yesterday  I can't remember it  :-\

Same with a neighbour who I've known for years - name has gone completely.
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: Moneypenny on August 21, 2020, 03:58:08 PM
I also find that by the end of the day I run out of words!  It's like I've used up my quota or perhaps by the end of the day I just can't be arsed anymore?  Either way I just don't want to talk of an evening.  Is this just me?
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: Sally S on August 26, 2020, 09:38:29 AM
Geez, these posts are so reassuring to hear. My focus on things has really gone and if I’m doing something and then get distracted,  then sometimes I forget to do things.   You mention about forgetting to pick your children up, Cassie, I really beat myself up, as I once started to walk out of a birthday party with my youngest and someone said aren’t you taking the other one home and I momentarily forgot I’d taken my 13 year old as she was with friends, not by my side for the whole of the party. I beat myself up for not remembering😌. This really upset me as I obviously adore both of them!!!
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: Barnacle on August 26, 2020, 01:59:34 PM
I've had problems in recent weeks.

Last week I met a new puppy - although I called him by name whilst fussing his coat, from yesterday  I can't remember it  :-\

Same with a neighbour who I've known for years - name has gone completely.


It's probably down to feeling worried about your trip. Your mind is working overtime and needs a few days of "normal" to get itself back on track.
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: melbh on September 01, 2020, 12:04:19 PM
Dear all, Having a tough menopause, I've just joined - this Forum will make me feel much better, I think, less alone and crazy. I have all the classic symptoms, and doing all the right things (taking ADs at times, as needed, though not HRT - not yet, anyway). But for all the psycho-symptoms, HOW do you stop yourself from imagining you have Alzheimer's, or that you'll inevitably get Alzheimer's, from having one's brain in such a state for all these menopause years? Obviously, this thought makes things worse and I do use CBT awareness on it. I'm basically healthy, working, happily married, etc. But how do you all prevent yourself from having the Alzheimer's thought, and manage instead to so helpfully laugh about it all - the brain-fog, depression, anxiety, etc - as a meno-symptom? Thanks.   
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: CLKD on September 01, 2020, 12:07:11 PM
Hi Melba

 :welcomemm:
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: DS68 on October 07, 2020, 09:25:35 PM
Oh yes... Made redundant early in lockdown... Fast forward to ZOOM interview for new job... Asked the usual what attracts you to the position your applying for?  Well to say I got sidetracked mid answer is an understatement, I was like a Google search - went completely of topic for so long, ended up somewhere way off track, I had to ask to be reminded what the original question was 🤭😂😂
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: CLKD on October 08, 2020, 06:21:10 AM
Did U get the job  :-\
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: DS68 on October 09, 2020, 10:38:07 PM
I honestly couldn't have been more shocked when I received the call to say they wanted me... complete surprise. Whatever I muttered on about must have been ok I guess 🤣
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: CLKD on October 10, 2020, 07:24:49 AM
 :medal:  will you take it ?
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: Foxylady on October 10, 2020, 08:46:29 AM
Well done DS68, you couldn't have performed that badly then! Amazing how down we are on ourselves at times. x
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: DS68 on October 10, 2020, 08:02:12 PM
It's working for a charity helping people in crisis who can't feed themselves or their families on the salary or benefits they are on. Definitely an important area that really shouldn't be necessary in 2020, but here we are!

Yes deffinately took.the job and hope to be able  to make some positive change to someone or something.🙂
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: CLKD on October 10, 2020, 08:24:13 PM
YEAH! we help where we are able 2 locally.  Supporting the food bank either via the office or supearmarkets.

It is said that we are 3 wage packets from the dole!
Title: Re: Forgetfulness mid conversation
Post by: DS68 on October 10, 2020, 09:25:56 PM
No nicer feeling than helping another x

No matter how small the contribution or effort.