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General Discussion => This 'n' That => Topic started by: CLKD on March 14, 2011, 09:10:51 AM
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Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
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Thank you so much for posting this CLKD. Brought a tear to my eye.
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I often wonder what will happen when all of my cats (some of which hated each other) come running to meet me over Rainbow Bridge - I can see an almighty cat fight ensuing ;D
Taz x
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They will be too busy greeting you initially; however ::)
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With love .....
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If it should be I grow frail and weak
and pain prevents my peaceful sleep.
Then you must do what must be done
when this last battle can't be won.
You will be sad, I understand.
Selfishness might stay your hand
But on this day, more than the rest,
Your love and friendship take the test.
We've had so many happy years
That what's to come can hold no fears,
You'd not want me to suffer, so,
When the time comes to let me go
Take me where my needs they'll tend.
Only - stay with me until the end
Hold me firm and speak to me
until my eyes no longer see.
I know, in time, you too will see
It is a kindness that you do for me,
Although my tail Its' last has waved,
From pain & suffering I've been saved.
Do not grieve
It should be you
who must decide this thing to do.
We've been so close we two these years
Don't let your heart hold any tears.
Anonymous
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when my 2 boys passed away within 3 months of each other in 2009, I found this very comforting.
It's by Irving Townsend
“We who choose to surround ourselves with lives even
more temporary than our own, live within a fragile
circle, easily and often breached. Unable to accept its
awful gaps, we still would live no other way. We cherish
memory as the only certain immortality,
never fully understanding the necessary plan.â€
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I had 2 cats which went to RB 6 weeks apart, the same Vet. came to the house. I knew each time [4 in 22 months] that I was doing the 'right' thing .........
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Sadly this is in our minds again ……..
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I found Rainbow Bridge a great comfort when my Dad died - I knew he would be re-united with his beloved border collie, Deefa, who went to the Bridge 10 years before him.
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Oh how sweet. I can't think that we are on this Earth without somewhere waiting …….. our Vicar used to have an annual pets' blessing service - until a hamster was got by a cat not in a basket :o - the same Vicar did his rounds on a large chestnut horse ………
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When we lost our dog last June I showed DH The rainbow bridge poem and he said it brought him comfort.
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I can't type either without :'(
It's 13 years soon since my dog went to RB …..
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We've had another dog and 3 cats that have also gone to rainbow bridge over the years but
I didn't know about the poem then.
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OK now adding up [not that this is a competition] - 2 cats that were run over 9 days apart; a JR that lived until she was 14-ish. A working lab.. 5 rabbits, 3 cats and a dog in recent years …….. it is hard work :-\ so I've called a halt now. There were also the 3 dogs that I babysat whilst owners were at work ……….
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Phew! ;D
It breaks your heart when they go.
I think we will have another dog at some point.I wouldn't mind a kitten now though...............don't know what DH would think to that..........
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2 then - we had 2 ginger brothers who would play with DH all evening and curl up with him, rarely with me - unless he wasn't at home ;D. Had they lived they would have been HUGE :o
I can't face going through it all again : >sigh< and as it's is pouring out there, am glad I don't have to ;)
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CKLD, these words have helped so much. Only a week since he went, but I still miss him so much xxxx
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Oh it's over 20 years for me and I have sudden moments of missing them ……… [20+ years, 14/15 and 13] ……. the pain isn't present all the while now but a corner of my heart holds each 1 of them.
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For Poppy
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For Poppy
:'(
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Loved dog - 12.03.88-24.02.02 :-*
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Just seen this, Made me cry!
Thank you, it's a beautiful thought. :thankyou:
Hope it all comes true! :'(
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Of course it does.
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I am tearing up reading these, i have a special place in my garden with about 5 cats in it, and 4 in other places,
My little dogs ashes are on a cabinet with 2 photo's of her
I really believe this place exists,because my dad told us he had been to this place and described it in detail, the very bright flowers,the very green grass and blue sky
He said it was in a lovely dream, but asked when the 26th of May was, how long to that date
He was the most cynical person you could find about any afterlife,
He passed away suddenly on the 26th of May,
It does bring me comfort to know and believe i will meet all my lovely pets and family once again
So sorry for your loss Briony,i still miss my dog and can still get upset if anyone mentions her,lost her in August
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I would love the believe that Rainbow Bridge existed. How wonderful to be reunited with all the pets that have given us so much joy. I would give anything to hold my boy again, my heart aches at the fact he's not here.
I have both of my cats in their little boxes at home and my boy (dog) is in his box in the living room, tucked away with his favourite toy. I also have an ashes ring, his name tattooed on my foot and a wonderful portrait painted of him. Yes, I really went to town but, for me, it was the right thing to do.
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Jellyb, i also went to town a bit,i have a painted portrait of her,[painted before i lost her, and she is on my key rings too,also a bit of her fur and ashes beside my bed in a little glass container
That is her on my profile,she was so sweet and my cats didn't mind her either, or she them, even when my boy cats swiped at her sometimes,she would give a little growl and ignore him
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I have my Molly in the bedroom, her ashes anyway. With a photo of her, and one on a canvas on the wall above my dressing table.
I can't and won't keep her forever, so we've decided that when the dog we have now, passes on, we?re going to scatter them together somewhere. It gives us peace of mind that if they?re together, the dog we have now will look after Molly, she was timid and shy, whereas, the one we have now, has more about her and will protect her.
That's in our minds anyway! Silly really. ☹️
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jaycee & jillydoll - that's nice, we keep them near us don't we.
I know it sounds silly, but since my boy passed, whenever I am walking our other dog, we always seem to see a robin. And he's not shy, comes quite close and follows us for a while. I say hello and talk to it as if it's my boy, I couldn't tell anyone else this, they'd think I'm nuts.
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Of course not silly. Silly ;-). If it helps come to terms with loss then what ever it takes!
DH hadn't remembered that ours went to RB 18 years ago today :'(.
I found 3 lots of fur recently in a corner of the cupboard but can't remember which cat is belongs to :'(
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I'm a true believer that everything, and everyone comes back as something else.
Doesn't sound silly to me Jellyb. xx
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Some believe that when feathers appear a loved one is near. What ever helps?
I was probably a slot last time as I love my sleep ;-).
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Or even a Sloth....🤣😂 glad I read that right! 🤣😂🤣
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Sloth will do nicely - blasted predictive text >:( ::)
They laze in the trees, coming down to the ground in order to poo ......... a koala would be OK though I would get bored with ecualypt.
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Dangerous coming down to poo like they do. That's when they?re most vulnerable to predators. 🙀
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Jellyb, not silly or nuts,i have a robin comes every year in summer,and perches on my rose trellis and watches me cut the grass,you would think it would fly away, but it doesn't
People don't belive me when i tell them what my dad saw in his dream, if it was a dream, i believe he saw a glimpse of the other side, .but if we had told him that he would have said it was a dream, nothing more,he wasn't a believer in anything like that
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Sloths can move upwards quite quickly - wonder if they need to read the Poo! thread ;)
When I mentioned my dog's anniversary in conversation yesterday, DH didn't pause for breath nor flinch :'( :-\
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When I mentioned my dog's anniversary in conversation yesterday, DH didn't pause for breath nor flinch :'( :-\
I know exactly how you feel. My DH is the same, although that's not to say that he didn't love them as much as i did when they were alive, he just never remembers, whereas i seem to remember everything. It's tough
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:thankyou: it makes it tuffer when he doesn't remember which he probably doesn't. He moves on with everything that happens to us :-\
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Your not on your own CLKD. My OH does exactly the same. I think most men are like it tbh.
They don't ponder on things like us women. x
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But if he really cared about me [I know he does in the main], he would remember. Or at least give me a hug earlier when I broached the subject.
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Rainbow Bridge is a place I believe is a happy place for all animals, and people who were kind to others. A few weeks ago a stray cat turned up in our garden and had an nasty looking wound on it's body. With the help of the local charity Cat's Protection and the RSPCA we were able to get this beautiful cat medical help at the vets. As the cat was not microchipped no owner could be contacted and no one came forward despite putting this little fellows details and photo on local social media sites. My husband and myself were sad that no-one contacted the vet about him. Unfortunately blood tests revealed that the little boy cat was very sick and it was best that he was put to sleep. Although we had only known him for a few days we were pleased to have helped him in his hour of need.
In the past we have had several cats at pets who have lived with us for many years and it was illness or old age which lead to us having to take them to the vet for end of life care. (This always seemed to happen in a January). The first time this happened many years ago my late Mum told me about Rainbow Bridge and this helped us to cope with the death of our pet. I feel that the little stray cat we met last month has gone to Rainbow Bridge to be with our other cats and possibly my Mum. This makes me feel a lot stronger about the loss of life for the little stray cat. Bless him.
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Was he rough and scruffy when found? There was one in the News a few weeks ago. At least he was loved in his final days, they are aware.
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Big Hug.
"If it should be that I grow old and ..........
Lots of cuddles. If he were in the wild he would crawl away, go to sleep and not wake up. Be guided by the Vet.. Never easy but the best 4 Monkey - better to know than have him disappear. I stayed with mine ........ do be aware that if you pick him up after, he will wee a little as the kidneys empty on relaxing.
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Birdy,
I can imagine how sad you must be feeling at the moment. Cherish your moments with your little Monkey.
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Ohhh Birdy, I'm really sorry.
it's never an easy thing to do, it's totally heartbreaking.
If he wasn't keen on out door life, then get him cremated. That's what I'd do.
I'm really sorry, thinking of you. xx
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My 3 rabbits and 3 cats are buried in the garden. There wasn't room for the dog ::) so she was cremated. I scattered her on would have been her birthday in her favourite field that will never be built over.
What's up with the Vet. :-\
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If you are not happy with the vet Birdy then find another one. I wasn't happy with the vet who was looking after my little dog and when the time came I had to go to an emergency vet. I was really worried but they were lovely with us and I was actually glad that we went there instead of to the usual vet.
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Definitely try to find another vet, if you are not happy with this one. Sending you a big hug x
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So sorry Birdy,i hope you get to the bottom of what is wrong with your cat,
You are right, vets always seem to choose the most expensive option first
They sure know how to charge, and vets used to do a second consultation free of charge if the treatment was ongoing, now my vets at least charge everytime i walk in with them ?32 upwards
I have 2 cats having dental treatment at the moment and it has cost me almost
?500 already, and now mention of a biopsy even though one had blood tests which came out clear,they are both 11,
Hope your little cat gets the best treatment
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It could be an ear infection .......... but an MRI shouldn't be necessary as there are drugs that could stabilize the condition. Certainly the profession, unregulated, seems to be more money oriented.
What does your gut tell you Birdy? Is he distressed? Difficult to watch, my friend's cocker had labyrinthitis ...... the 1st Vet said it was a brain tumour without any inventions! My Vet took one look at the dog, put him into a dark area dn did the investigations: i.e. looked into his ears and eyes - and he was given bed rest in a dark room and appropriate meds. He lived another 5 years :-\
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You made the correct decision however hard. :'(. ........... :hug: ........ Did he have lymphoma? That's what my dog was treated for, with chemotherapy. Diagnosed via a biopsy after I had found glands in her neck :-\. But she didn't die from that but from a long standing back complaint.
Thinking of you. It is so hard .............
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I'm so, so sorry Birdy. Sending you a huge hug at this shitty time.
Sleep tight, Monkey xx
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I heard my two ginger Boys after they were run over, I would go and open the back door :'(. I also saw two of my cats after they were pts ;). The boy wasn't limping any more ...........
Now running free.
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I'm so sorry Birdy, sending you a gentle hug. But you gave him the kindest gift by letting him go. He will always be in your heart and you have loveley memories to remember of him.
Today would have been my boy's 14th birthday, we lost him in May, have been trying to keep busy.
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My heart wrenches for you, Birdy,
no one knows the rawness and depth of such a loss unless they have animals they truly love and consider to be far more than just pets.
My throat tenses as I write.... Monkey's memory will be etched in your heart as long as you shall live.
God indeed has angles ...
they come in disguise.
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Oh Birdy...
Roses are Red
Violets are Blue
I'm glad I walked
This World with you.
My boys are hitting that age too...my heart breaks for your loss.
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So sorry Birdy, you did the right thing honey.
Doesn't make it any easier for you tho.
He's at peace now.
You?ll never forget him, he?ll always be with you.
Take care babe.
xxxxxx
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IF I SHOULD GROW FRAIL
If it should be that I grow frail and weak
And pain does keep me from my sleep,
Then will you do what must be done
For this last battle can't be won.
You will be sad I understand
But don't let grief then stay you hand.
For on this day, more than the rest
Your love and friendship must stand the test.
We have had so many happy years,
You wouldn't want me to suffer so.
When the time comes, please let me go.
Take me to where my needs they?ll tend,
Only, stay with me till the end.
And hold me firm and speak to me
Until my eyes no longer see.
I know in time you will agree
It is a kindness you do to me.
Although my tail its last has waved,
From pain and suffering I have been saved.
Don't grieve that it must now be you
Who has to decide this thing to do.
We've been so close, we two, these years,
Don't let your heart hold any tears.
Julia Napier, copyright 1999
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CLKD...That was beautiful. Tears streaming down my face right now. Losing a pet(s) is the most wrenching experience. We ask so much from our pets and they give it voluntarily.
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I can't type it without shedding tears :-\
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Oh Birdy,I'm so so sorry,got a lump in my throat and don't even know you :'(
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In reply to your question about the cat we found in our garden, (posting 26 February by me). The cat was not scruffy or dishevelled. When we first took him to the vet's, the vet speaking in broken English said that the little cat was very well looked after as his coat was glossy. They said he was healthy and sent us away with him saying we should advertise we had found him. There was a wound on his body but they said that was OK. The vet said as he was playful there were no problems. By now the cat had been in our garden 48 hours and the weather was freezing. The day after the visit to the vet the poor cat was very poorly. He wandered into our kitchen and spent nearly three hours on the floor not moving. The local Cats Protection Charity referred us to the RSPCA who accepted little cat's case, gave us a log number and said they would pay the bills. When we had our own cats they were covered by Petplan which reimbursed some of the bills. This little cat had no such luxury. We contacted the vet again and gave them the RSPCA details. My god, money talks. They were immediately interested so back to the vet little cat went. We left him at the vets to continue with his care. He was someone's cat but no-one in the area said he was theirs. In all the time we knew him not once did he spit, scratch or struggle when took him in and out of the cat carrier or in the car. To anyone reading this whose own pet is not well my thoughts are with you. X
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That's where microchipping might have traced the owner, though some don't re-register the details when they move as it costs :-\. The RSCPA of course, should have taken up the issue in Court with that particular Vet Surgery!
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Monty Dons dog Nigel has died, he was the star of Gardeners World :'(
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Oh, that's so sad. :'(
We always call it Nigel's World. He was such a part of the programme.
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:'(. I said to Himself on Friday that Nigel was beginning 2 look old. He was also out in the rain whilst Monty was filming. Then Monty was holding a Yorkie :-\ ::)
Strangely a clue in a crossword this afternoon was 'abbreviation of the name of the gardener with a dog named Nigel' :-\