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General Discussion => This 'n' That => Topic started by: clio on March 14, 2013, 09:06:38 PM
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My wedding dress is a few inches on the long side which isnt a problem I could where heels. My husband to be is about half inch smaller than me so with heels he will b bout 2 - 3 inch smaller. Would. It look odd or should I wear flats and hav dress shortened??
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Depends on dress length really. Flats can look okay with some dress lengths. Ask a friend's honest opinion.
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Wear heels - Penny Lancaster is taller than Rod Stewart!
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Really the best person to ask is your fiance. If he is fine with you being taller then go for it and if not ballet pumps are very pretty.
Also think of the photos.
Honeyb
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Get the dress shortened incase it snows or rains ;) .......... ask at your local WI if there are any needlewomen or at the Senior School in your area?
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Get dress shortened and wear some pretty flats. Get husband to be to wear heels ;)
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Congratulations clio
Do what feels right for both of you - if neither of you mind you being taller then wear heels, but if either feel awkward about it, then have dress shortened (or get an extra hoop to take it up further?) and wear nice pumps. Is it soon? Good luck.
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Just a thought, pumps will be easier to dance in later on.
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Thanks for the replies, im hopeless making decisions. I wld prefer to wear flats to b the same height as it wld look better on photos. Wr are only having a church service. No cake, wedding breakfast, or reception. No bestman or bridesmaids, we are putting our money into our new house. In saying that its still costing a fortune, no wonder people dont get married. My dress had been the cheapest at £50! Church £500, rings £450, flowers £100, the list is enless. register office would of been £47!!!! But just couldnt bring myself to get married there.
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Nobody will see your shoes under a long dress, so wear what feels best. Know what you mean about expense. Reminds me of when hubby and I married. All money went on the house. We did marry in registry office though. Dress made by my mum, shoes bought in sale, meal for us and 8 guests. It still wasn't cheap, but we were just as happy as anybody who spent oodles of cash and that's what matters most.
When's the big day?
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£500 for church? Is that normal these days? I cant remember what we paid. I know we had to pay for the choir.
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If you go to church reg as my son and his fiance did (it was her family church)
It cost zip dijnada nought and it was a BIG CHURCH They gave $200
Plus every wedding person put money in to the offering box (full COFE wedding old fashioned service)
If your not having anything just going to church
Having the marriage ceromony Id do what ever you feel is right
Why waste money get the dress taken up your not having a reception
Wear flat it doesnt matter if it gets a bit grubby cos once Piccies are over thats it
Same for me I got married with a special Licence 1o.00
Had a set menu for 12 in Bernis inn for lunch no cake no official piccies nothing
We did the same we had put all our money in to a house
We had no honey moon We got married atr 10.15am
Went to the pub for a drink went and picked son up from Baby sitter
We all then went for a meal 3.95 each set meal
Mum took son home and we went for a after dinner drink till 3pm with our 2 pals
That night Dad gave us a 10 pound note to go for Dinner we went to the Mercury Inn in Chester
Home at 10om picked up son and carried on next day as normal
Only thng I regretd asap was not having proper piccies I have about 12 snaps thats it wear flat wear heels be happy Son is 1inch smaller than wife she wore red flat shoes under her white wedding dress no dont ask hehehehe
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Hey! Congratulations! When is the big day? We are also getting married this year and are doing it 'on the cheap' (as far as we can anyhow). Just to let you know, I wish our registry office was only charging £47 - it's costing £200 at our local registry office for the ceremony plus a further £70 for the Notice of Marriage we had to have done and anothe £4 each per certificate! whole lot nearly £300! Then we had the dilemma of the reception afterwards. have found a lovely pub in one of our local villages which has a newly built function room - they will do us a buffet at £10 per head, so we are going with this for around 50 people. Then we still need to but rings, dress, shoes for me - new suit etc for him.
I think you should go for some pretty flat ballet pumps and have the dress hem taken up.
Hope all goes well for you both on your day
xx
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An update. Tried dress on again with sone shoes I have with 1inch heel, im happy i'll get away with this height heel so hav ordered some shoes of ebay that were cheap but I think look nice. After walking up and down bedroom my shoes do stick out the bottom as the dress dosnt come out just straight down so these shoes ive bought hav a lovely front to them so will look nice. We picked our rings up yesterday that turned out to be £200 more as we felt we needed the heavier ones cos of the manual job we both hav the cheaper ones were just too thin so paid the extra. On our way home we calculated how much the whole thing has cost......... Just short of £2000!!!!!!! That includes the cottage we have booked for our short break honeymoon. my dress was cheaper than my fiance suit ha ha. You just realise how much your spending till you add it all up. Ive saved and done loads of overtime for the passed 12 years for this time, work called me the docket queen, so im enjoying spending it on our new home and our wedding. We are so happy and when all said and done thats what you go to work for. we are getting married middle of May so not long now, im so excited and so in love, its a lovely feeling.
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Oh clio I'm so happy for you - I'm sure you will have a fantastic day and you will look gorgeous :)
Katy x
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Clio - so pleased it has all worked out as you hoped.
You sound absolutely happy and delighted and I wish you a lifetime of that.
Congratulations to you too YoungatHeart. Your arrangements sound so personal too. Wishing you
much happiness in your marriage too.
Fx
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It's all coming together nicely Clio. Not long now.
Hope you and YoungatHeart have great days.
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Enjoy yourselves. One can't take the money with us ;) .......... I usually buy my jewellry at auction or in antique fairs these days. My 1st engagement ring was £35.00, my wedding ring a little more ........ then I had to buy a 2nd wedding ring when the 1st got a fracture in it ::) which cost £80.00 - then those 2 were melted together ....... then I lost the 1st engagement ring so DH bought me a 2nd, £65.00 from a dealer - 4 days later I found the 1st ::) ;D - and 3 weeks ago I saw another engagement ring that I liked so we paid £100.00 to another dealer. Oh the sparkle - which I hope you will both have on your Special Days :cake:
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Clio and Youngatheart - all the very best for your wedding days, enjoy!
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I`d like to add my congratulations to both of you too lovley !
love Lindyloo :) :cupcake:
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Thank you all for the good wishes, which month are you getting married youngatheart??? Let me know what month your getting married.
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expense has gone up :o
my 1st wedding at 19...church,dress, flowers etc was about £600
my second in 87 cost around the same for register office, flowers and small bistro family only reception.
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When is the big day Clio and is this the guy you met at work? Fairytale romance. I love a happy ending
Taz x :foryou:
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Do you wear all your rings CLKD?
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On hi-days and holidays. The wedding ring, which is a mix of the 2, every day. The 1st engagement ring goes onto my finger, then the wedding ring, plus the '2nd' engagement ring; the 3rd engagement ring I wear on the right ring finger. I also have several other rings in opals, gold, Blue John ::)
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CLKD's story of rings reminded me of mine - although it is not the same as CLKD's.
I had engagement ring we could afford at 19. At 21 I got the engagement ring I had seen at 19 but could not afford. When my daughter was born I went out and left it in a toilet in a restaurant while I changed her.
I claimed insurance and got another one made the same (it was rather unusual and I had a photograph).
I lost that one too when doing major DIY in the house (may have gone under floorboards).
I decided to buy a different style of ring and nothing happened to that one although my husband and I separated/divorced and so I did not wear it. I gave it to my daughter on her 21st birthday.
She used 4 of the diamonds in it to form part of her engagement ring a couple of years ago. And she has kept the other three to use for her wedding ring design :)
Fx
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That is lovely, thanks for sharing!
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Just an update, im getting a different dress!! The one ive already got is plain and simple and chosen cos it was only £50 in the sale but its not the one I would of chose if money wasnt a problem. Mum has now offered to buy me one but dont think she realised just how expensive they are! Ive found one that is so amazing, over a grand :-/ but cos its only a few wks away I would have to hav it off the peg so shop is having it dry cleaned and knocked 20% off :-). What a performance, nothing ever straight forward, but shop can hav it shortened so that sorts that issue out, flowers already got - dry ones that was chosen with other dress in mind but will hav to do fir this dress also. Its a lot of money for just a church service so asked hubby to b if we could hav a reception after all so I can wear my beautuful dress, hes not keen however as we both hav anxiety issues and although I would be ok being centre of attention for an evening do, my oh wouldnt. I cant help feeling disappointed but know I have to consider his feelings and the fact that he wouldnt push me into doing something I wasnt comfirtable doing so I dint hav the right to do it to him.
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Get loads of photos taken in your gorgeous dress. Don't have to be by expensive photographer. We married nearly 36 years ago and only had family taking pictures, which were much more relaxed.
Would your future hubby be comfortable with just close friends and family for a posh meal? That's all we did and it was perfect, neither of us wanted a fuss.