Menopause Matters Forum
Menopause Discussion => Personal Experiences => Topic started by: Hinari hot flush on March 06, 2021, 04:39:45 PM
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Hi everyone I am 50 this year and didn't expect to be contemplating this but with the lack of hair dresser trips I'm now sporting a lot of grey hair. Was wonder what anyone's experiences are with growing their grey hair out?
Also worried about becoming invisible at work if I go totally grey.
Also due to hot flushes I'm now finding I am constantly putting my hair in a ponytail due to the sweat on my neck ( I know TMI lol) what hairstyle is best for these tropical moments dont fancy the pixie look that older women tend to go for
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How about a French braid? At least you're not making the same mistake as me! I did a buzz cut last September to get rid of all the dyed hair.
Loved the buzz cut but when I'd grown enough out for a pixie, I realised the grey was not doing me any favours (i. e. added 10 years to my appearance :-\)
Braids hide the demarcation line well also.
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Before last years lockdown I had very thick longish auburn bob. I decided after being encouraged by OH to go grey, so when I could go to the hairdressers I got a pixie cut, which hid the horrible badger line. Most of the dye is gone now and I don't mind the short cut but it is lots of work but I hate the grey, I look so old! I don't think the grey necessarily makes you invisible, it's a matter of how you feel about it and its hard to tell until you've done it. I'm thinking of having some highlights / lowlights. Anyone got any ideas? I don't want to have roots done every month so want something that only needs doing every 3 months at most but lifts it a bit.
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Before last years lockdown I had very thick longish auburn bob. I decided after being encouraged by OH to go grey, so when I could go to the hairdressers I got a pixie cut, which hid the horrible badger line. Most of the dye is gone now and I don't mind the short cut but it is lots of work but I hate the grey, I look so old! I don't think the grey necessarily makes you invisible, it's a matter of how you feel about it and its hard to tell until you've done it. I'm thinking of having some highlights / lowlights. Anyone got any ideas? I don't want to have roots done every month so want something that only needs doing every 3 months at most but lifts it a bit.
What about some silver-blonde highlights? Once my second 💉 has kicked in I'm SO making a hair appointment :)
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CherryG what did you do with yours / plan to do re colour
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CherryG what did you do with yours / plan to do re colour
Hey shropshirelass, I'm intending to go for a brown base with a few pale blonde, and some golden blonde highlights. Having said that, the whole-head single colours seem to be what people have these days, so I'm a bit concerned that that would be a little old-fashioned. What do you think?
I also couldn't deal with being grey, although it really suits some women.
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10 years ago I stopped having my hair coloured: hi and low lights 6 weeks apart then left for months : I like the result. Short hair suits better after a certain age, I have enough mousey/hazel background with silver on top. When it's cut off it's mostly the grey that disappears, I put the last lot out for the birds 8)
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10 years ago I stopped having my hair coloured: hi and low lights 6 weeks apart then left for months : I like the result. Short hair suits better after a certain age, I have enough mousey/hazel background with silver on top. When it's cut off it's mostly the grey that disappears, I put the last lot out for the birds 8)
Great time of year to do that CLKD. I saw a blackbird busy gathering material for her nest this morning.
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Hi there
I never had that dilemma! I started dyeing my hair in my 30s as I was having children throughout this time and no way was I going to look grey. So now in mid 60's and still dyeing! I know I will look so old if I grow it out. Not sure when I'll stop but not yet!
As for the hairstyle - also no way woud I get that all cut off short/pixie look. I did cut it short a while back but decided again I looked too old so keep it longer now - hides the lines somewhat - well the neck particularly. I do have in ponytail in the summer when it's hot although I know I look older as it reveals my face in all its glory ;D.
It is not necessary to have your hair cut short as you age!!
However you are still so young at 50 so just keep on looking as young as you feel even with a bit of artificial help! Make the most of your youthful face! :)
Hurdity x
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It isn't necessary but I haven't seen a woman with grey hair yet that wouldn't benefit from shorter hair ;)
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It was a big step for me to stop dyeing my hair but 5 months without a hairdresser helped and I absolutely hated the stripe contrasting with with my dark dyed hair. Also my hair was so thick and long going pixie was a huge step. The cut is ok but the colour, which is what I'd describe as salt and pepper is not very flattering. My youngest son doesn't like it and wants to know where his mum has gone. I haven't seen him much for obvious reasons and he jumps when he sees me!
I'm not going back to having roots done each month and touching up after 3 weeks. My hair was so dry and it is much improved now but the grey does make it a bit wirey. I am hoping my hairdresser has some suggestions about low maintenance highlights which will make me look a bit more presentable.
I have been particularly interested in the countless blogs Ive read about women embracing their greyness and I think a lot of my feelings about mine are culturally constructed. So Im going to keep the grey but go for a compromised position.
CherrySG I think you should go with what you are comfortable with and try not worry about what others think. It's a shame we can't try colours / styles out before taking the plunge.
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Find a hair dresser with wigs?
I have enough colour to make the grey acceptable ::) but I rarely look in the mirror anyway ;)
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CLKD haha!
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We used wigs B4 we had our hair cut short: that is 3 friends and I took over a salon one afternoon and had Great Fun.
When my hair is cut professionally most of the grey disappears ;-)
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Grey hair looks ok when styled but if not it can look unflattering. It's hard work maintaining appearances when you get older, and lockdown makes it worse. Then the " oh I can't be bothered" feeling starts and it's a slippery slope! Can't wait to have my hair done, booked in already!
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I did buy a couple of wigs during the worst of the buzz cut grow-out, as my hair looked so awful! They are the Raquel Welch 'Real Deal' style, Iced Cappuccino and Iced Mocha!!! They are brown with blonde highlights. And also a couple of others, a blonde Bob and a shoulder lengtj wavy brown. They alleviated the lockdown boredom a bit... ;D
My own hair is just light brown as cannot do my own highlights. My neighbour has just dyed hers a fabulous violet colour, it looks great.
There are some Youtubers with beautiful grey hair. Monique Parent springs to mind but she's stunning with any colour.
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Grey hair looks ok when styled but if not it can look unflattering. It's hard work maintaining appearances when you get older, and lockdown makes it worse. Then the " oh I can't be bothered" feeling starts and it's a slippery slope! Can't wait to have my hair done, booked in already!
I have booked mine too. My hair is grey and looks much better when shirt and well shaped. Now it looks terrible because I so badly need a cut. I'm going to get some highlights this time to soften the grey.
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I read that as 'alleviated the lockdown bedroom a bit ' ;D
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Hi folks.
I was a beautiful auburn colour in my younger tears. At 35 I lost my step dad suddenly and became almost grey overnight, dyeing it then began for many years.
Well 12 years ago when I was 46,I'm 58 on Friday I called time on the dyed hair. I sport a beautiful graduated bob in a nice shade of grey and get lots of compliments for my look.
Yep, lockdown got me too so I am groeing my hair to donate to charity for natural hair wigs following cancer treatment. I felt it fitting to make good use of what I have.
Embrace grey its ok
Ms Peaks xx
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I think that Trevor Sorbie, the Hairdresser makes real hair wigs Ms Peak. R U donating yours locally?
Happy birthday for Friday :cake:
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When I had my hair cut, there was someone else there having hers cut to donate and my hairdresser said no one would want your thick course hair! The floor was absolutely covered as there was so much of it.
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I read that as 'alleviated the lockdown bedroom a bit ' ;D
Ooh er, missus ;D
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When I had my hair cut, there was someone else there having hers cut to donate and my hairdresser said no one would want your thick course hair! The floor was absolutely covered as there was so much of it.
Well, there goes her tip ;)
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Hi folks.
I researched a cancer charity to donate too.
My dear best friend died 10 years ago to breast cancer and paid a fortune for a real hair wig in her time of need. My hair is beautifully soft and a great colour admired by many so tis the right thing to give ot to someone else.
No coarse strands here CKLD only softness and style.....
Ms Peaks
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Laziness on the part of the stylist then >:(. It has to be cut in a certain way to make it useable anyway.
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Hi ladies sorry for the lateness in my reply. Thank you for all your lovely replies.
After thinking about it going grey and short might be a bit much in one go as an insecure hormonal mess so thinking I will hold off going grey at the moment. But as soon as the hairdressers open I will go for a shorter cut to ease the sweaty hair.
Was talking to a few friends on a zoom call and out of the 6 of us the hot flushes have got so bad about half of us are contemplating a short cut. Least having a hot flush on zoom is less embarrassing than in a restaurant lol
On the subject of wigs a lady I knew had chemo and found she was too hot with hot flashes to cope with a wig
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Was that a real hair wig?
I washed my mop this morning and it's full of grey which will come off once the stylist gets her scissors on it ;)
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Having started to go grey in my 20s and dyeing it all that time, I promised myself I'd let it go natural by the time I was 50. By then I actually had very short hair anyway so it wasn't hard to make the transition. By then I was exetremely grey, but people were very complimentary and I was so relieved to be out of the constant tyranny of dyeing I stayed with it. Then within a year I got breast cancer, and lost all my hair anyway! Obviously it grew back grey, but to be honest I was so happy to have hair again I really didn't care. Now, 5 years later and aged 54, I have very long thick grey hair and I love it! Don't let anyone tell you you can't have long hair after a certain age - says who? x
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Was that a real hair wig?
I washed my mop this morning and it's full of grey which will come off once the stylist gets her scissors on it ;)
Oh I don't know, would that make a big difference?
Haha hopefully not long till she can attack the greys
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It should make a huge difference. NHS wigs are not made to measure. Where as those that are involved with human hair wigs, will make adjustments for the various conditions.
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Having started to go grey in my 20s and dyeing it all that time, I promised myself I'd let it go natural by the time I was 50. By then I actually had very short hair anyway so it wasn't hard to make the transition. By then I was exetremely grey, but people were very complimentary and I was so relieved to be out of the constant tyranny of dyeing I stayed with it. Then within a year I got breast cancer, and lost all my hair anyway! Obviously it grew back grey, but to be honest I was so happy to have hair again I really didn't care. Now, 5 years later and aged 54, I have very long thick grey hair and I love it! Don't let anyone tell you you can't have long hair after a certain age - says who? x
Wow thats very young to go grey. Im not surprised you were fed up with constantly dyeing it. I remember asking an older colleague about 10-15 years ago about her hair colour and she went ive dyed it that much the only reason I know my natural colour is now grey is cause my drapes are lol ;D
Glad to hear you are doing well after your breast cancer and your hair grew back. Did it texture change when it came back in?
Truthfully I would love to keep my long hair but I just cant handle the heat at the moment thats why I want to cut it short!! Do you suffer with Hot flushes? x
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It should make a huge difference. NHS wigs are not made to measure. Where as those that are involved with human hair wigs, will make adjustments for the various conditions.
See this lady told me she got a voucher that allowed her to purchase a wig from a wig shop or money off if she was willing to make up the rest.
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Did she choose different styles for how she felt ? Different colours .......... my friend's hair grew back softer and slightly curled after chemo..
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Did she choose different styles for how she felt ? Different colours .......... my friend's hair grew back softer and slightly curled after chemo..
No she went with the same style and a similar colour to her hair.
My friends grew back curly as well
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Hi Hinari, no I don't get hot flushes since being on HRT, and I intend to stay on it for as long as possible so not bothered from that point of view! If I get too hot I just put it up in a bun or tie it in a plait.
My dad went grey very young, and both my daughters (aged 20 and 24) have a fair few silver strands sprinkled amongst their very dark, so I think they take after me. The difference is that they're both determined not to start dyeing, so they won't have the dilemma we have. My mum, who's 83, is still dyeing her hair - arrrrggghhhh!
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Any 1 remember the blue rinse ladies in the 1960s?
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Hi Hinari, no I don't get hot flushes since being on HRT, and I intend to stay on it for as long as possible so not bothered from that point of view! If I get too hot I just put it up in a bun or tie it in a plait.
My dad went grey very young, and both my daughters (aged 20 and 24) have a fair few silver strands sprinkled amongst their very dark, so I think they take after me. The difference is that they're both determined not to start dyeing, so they won't have the dilemma we have. My mum, who's 83, is still dyeing her hair - arrrrggghhhh!
See ive never went on HRT but its maybe something to discuss with my GP. See I put mine in a bun or tie it up but my warm moments are happening so regularly at the moment that its constant. Its also noticeable a mile off.
That's so good that at that young impressionable age they aren't reaching for the dye. Most people I know went for the dye at the sight of the first grey but I dont blame them it is hard work.
Im surprised at 83 she can be bothered but that generation always want to look their best