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Menopause Discussion => Alternative Therapies => Topic started by: Woodlands on September 12, 2018, 10:32:56 PM

Title: My greatest thanks
Post by: Woodlands on September 12, 2018, 10:32:56 PM
Hello folks.
I've been a member of this forum for around five years now.
Many of you know I lost my eldest to suicide aged 23 in. 2014.
Thanks with all my heart for you kind words and support.
Our own 9/11 is hard to bear but we try
Woodlands xx
Title: Re: My greatest thanks
Post by: ali 61 on September 13, 2018, 08:34:37 AM
Hello Woodlands,
I've only just joined, so didnt know your very sad story.
There are no words I can say to help you. And I cant even begin to imagine the pain you must go through, which will be even worse on the anniversary.
Through my own losses, I have learnt that it helps, just a little, to talk about it and mark the special days.
I wish you peace and strength, and I send you much love. xx
Title: Re: My greatest thanks
Post by: bramble on September 13, 2018, 10:48:42 PM
Hi Woodlands
You have been terrifically strong through the last few years and are a shining example to us all. I wish you all the best in the future and your road gets easier. .

Bramble
Title: Re: My greatest thanks
Post by: Annie0710 on September 14, 2018, 09:20:44 AM
You had no choice but to face every parents worst nightmare.  True inspiration to us all xxxx
Title: Re: My greatest thanks
Post by: AgathaC on September 14, 2018, 10:57:49 AM
No, Woodlands, I did not know your story.
There can't be many worse things that a human being could bear. I imagine since 2014 you've barely been able to go on. I'm full of admiration from afar that you're even able to type a message. You must be a very resilient lady.
I lost a friend to suicide in my 20's. She was just a friend (if you understand what I mean) and it's such a complicated grief process. And this was your child. Just don't know what to say, Woodlands.
Sending lots of love your way xxxx
Title: Re: My greatest thanks
Post by: CLKD on September 14, 2018, 11:52:26 AM
  :bighug:
Title: Re: My greatest thanks
Post by: Woodlands on September 30, 2018, 09:41:32 PM
Hello ladies.
Just past the four 9/11 anniversary without my eldest son..... This anniversary hit me very hard... He would now be 27 had he not been an angel. Do so wish heaven had visiting hours.... You get my meaning.
My DD is back to the nightmare of drugs again but apologies for her behaviour towards me, she's the youngest at 20...and my middle DS at 21 is OK......
Life eh?.. It breaks or makes you some days.
I know I couldn't have done it without this forum do help and support.
Woodlands xx
Title: Re: My greatest thanks
Post by: bramble on September 30, 2018, 10:58:00 PM
 :hug: :hug: :hug:
Title: Re: My greatest thanks
Post by: CLKD on October 01, 2018, 08:33:38 AM
Apparently DD continues with her struggles, understandably.  What support is she getting?  She is mayB trying to escape memories and feelings and is probably aware of the consequences.  But escaping is easier and quicker than other methods of coping.

Take care of you.  Let the various agencies take DD under their wing. 

Title: Re: My greatest thanks
Post by: jillydoll on October 04, 2018, 08:02:12 PM
Hi Woodlands,
Where you get your strength from, is beyond me.....
Sending you        :bighug:      , you deserve it.....

Stay strong, thinking of you......xx
Title: Re: My greatest thanks
Post by: Woodlands on November 15, 2018, 10:59:47 PM
Hi ladies.
A wee update, DD remains much the same, less drugs but still drama, she's now had an increase in Ad's and having counselling.... I parent loosely at arms length.... No new news is good news etc.. Means she's coping and not being awful to me.
My DS decided to move out, briefly living with his GF parents whilst they buy their own place.... Shikes living alone-I'm loving it.
Woodlands started dating this summer after 5 years alone, packed a bag and walked out on my now ex second husband.... And I've just sold my house in 5 days....
Looking for a new place closer to work.... Gosh a difficult 5 years but life in the ole lady yet...
Big hugs xx
Title: Re: My greatest thanks
Post by: Lanzalover on November 16, 2018, 06:40:20 AM
Good morning Woodlands

Thanks for the update.
Lovely to hear that thing are going well for you good luck.

Take care
Lanzalover x
Title: Re: My greatest thanks
Post by: Woodlands on November 16, 2018, 12:42:56 PM
Thanks ladies.
Viewing a renovated Chapel tomorrow.... Perhaps ment to be xx
Title: Re: My greatest thanks
Post by: sheila99 on November 16, 2018, 01:46:24 PM
I'm so glad thing are improving for you. You've had such a hard time, you desrve some happiness now.
Title: Re: My greatest thanks
Post by: Woodlands on November 29, 2018, 07:15:59 PM
Hi ladies.
Well how a few weeks change.... DD the worst she's ever been, but I remain focused on moving to a delightful converted Chapel after Xmas.
I have had to cut ties with DD for now as I know my ex is now having to parent her as I step back..... My DS has moved on with his GF buying their first home.
Life eh....
All the best folks
Woodlands x
Title: Re: My greatest thanks
Post by: NaturalMystic on January 15, 2019, 07:38:12 PM
Hello folks.
I've been a member of this forum for around five years now.
Many of you know I lost my eldest to suicide aged 23 in. 2014.
Thanks with all my heart for you kind words and support.
Our own 9/11 is hard to bear but we try
Woodlands xx
So sad to read this, my heart goes out to you. 


 my own son has suffered depression and suicidal thoughts in the past. 17 now and i still worry that the day will come 😢
Title: Re: My greatest thanks
Post by: jaypo on January 16, 2019, 01:52:23 PM
What an amazing lady you are ❤️