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sheila99:
I couldn't get on with a bcp either but hrt for me has been life changing. Perhaps do some reading on transdermal hrt as it doesn't carry a risk of blood clots.

Cara999:
Welcome Maruuna 🥰 unfortunately all your symptoms point to vaginal atrophy, it can affect the whole area not just the vagina it can also come and go and appear suddenly. Get some local estrogen  and it will help. Sorry your struggling with other menopause symptoms too. Perhaps  you could discuss HRT with your GP xxx

Maruuna:
@Sheila

thanks again, it's helpful for me to know there are options that migt be possible for me concerning the hrt!

@Cara

hi  :) thanks for telling me, it is at least a little comforting to know it can all happen to us, it just started so suddenly for me I still feel like an alien in my own body right now ::)

Maruuna:
A little update:

I've been to two gyns meanwhile, one in January, the second one three days ago.
Both appointments were rather disappointing I'm afraid.

The first gyn (both were women around 50 by the way), was cold, had a harsh tone, didn't even listen to what I say (I said that due to my problems I had bought lactic acid gel and moisture gel, and she answered back 'and how long did you take this antifungal cream?',and there were several such situations. She verbally doubted that all my symptoms have anything to do with beginning of the menopause, or perimenopause as I said. The examination itself was awful too, she was rough, and pressed so hard on my lower tummy that I made a pain sound. She then said in a very unfriendly way' well, the next time you go to the toilet before the appointment,right?' like scolding a little child. (I did pee when I was at home - which was like an hour before because the practice is an hour drive away, but well...)...She then started again about doubting it has anything to do with menopause (even with my suddenly totally irregular cycles, and I am 45) and said she would want to check my thyroid. I told her my thyroid was checked in detail 5 months ago, and there was nothing - she didn't care and kept saying she wants to check it again. I left the appointment without any real help, and the feeling I had to justify coming to that appointment because she simply doubted it all has to do with menopause.

Ok, I thought one bad appointment can happen, so I made a new appointment with another gyn. A practice that particularly advertisese at their website that they are specialsts for menopause an 'also take the soul and mental aspects of this time in life serious' bla bla.

So that appointment was three days ago and it was even worse than the first. I again tried to explain the many symptoms I have and even straightforward asked about the options of HRT or whatever there is as I just know (and feel all the time) that I have severe hormonal imbalace and fluctuations and they also severly impact my daily life as well as my private life.
So this second woman didn't know anything about perimenopausal symptoms other than the three 'hot flashes, sleep disturbance, mood swings'. She didn't even ask about my cycle or anything. No offer to check on anything, and when I said that I am also very unhappy with the fact that exactly since these imbalances and cycle length differences started I have gained around 0.8 stone, while I am eating healthy, controling calories, doing exercise, even reduced my calorie intake even further down compared to the past 15 years where I easily kept my weight (was 10 stone for the past 20 years, now all of a sudden it's 11 stone, there is lots of water stored at certain times in the cycles) and she just told me to 'have more serenity' Oo

When I told her that I simply don't have 'more serenity' when I steadily feel unwell in my own body and my clothes don't fit all of a sudden after I could wear them for 20 years, she started attacking my husband, saying 'it's him, isn't it? He is telling you you weigh too much!' I was totally taken aback saying no, it's even the opposite, he is totally supportive and steadily tells me I look fine, but the point is I don't FEEL fine like that, it's me, not him'.

She then said, well, she can't do anything about this, as it's also 'family dispostion' and there is 'nothing one could do about that'
When I tried again and said that these extra pounds of water appear and partly disappear in different phases ofthe cycle she then even said, 'but it's not just water, it's also fat!' Oo
I said again, that I know how I feel and my body feels with 0.8 stone less, when I'm sporty and fit, and I know how I look then and how good and normal I feel then. She replied: 'well, at your weight, with 0.8 stone more or less, it doesn't really make a difference does it?' I'm still having a hard time believing she just said that to me.

So I went out of this second appointment even more dispapointed and actually feel quite distressed now as I have no idea what to do. Shall I go into anoreixia mode (was there 20 years ago, don't want to do that) because doctors just don'tcare to help me and even insult me?

Or am I wrong even asking about HRT with 45 and in perimenonpause?

sheila99:
I'm so sorry you're not getting anywhere. Where are you based? Just wondered if anyone could suggest a knowledgeable clinic. In the UK gynaes are usually ignorant about menopause but there are menopause clinics in most areas if your gp can't help. It seems to me you need to see someone who knows what they're talking about.
 The weight may not be entirely hormonal as our metabolism tends to slow down around this age too. Agree it's frustrating though, I had no trouble keeping the weight off when I was younger but now I have to watch what I eat.

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