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[mags]

Hi Bev-I had no idea either about the high levels for peri- have no idea what they are meant to be in post meno either. I have heard several times from GP's etc that blood tests for meno are unreliable as the hormones fluctuate so much daily.

How are you today- I am low right now-I think because it's my birthday next week and am in no mood for celebrating- It's not the age thing but just the fact that people will be wanting to come round  and I Don't feel like  facing anyone-I'm ok with close family as they know what I'm like but anyone else is a no no- my sister will want to come round too but she is quite forceful and as I have mentioned before is always trying to tell me what to do and thinks she knows best- she never had a meno and has never had anxiety or panic attacks. It sounds so ridiculous doesn't it- I don't feel like getting up again today and just want to hide away from the world. Hope you are having a better day-Love Magsxx

[CLKD]

Tell people you are going away so it won't be appropriate for visitors to call.  Put foot down with firm hand, that's what I do.  I can then choose who and when I meet and where 

[Dyan]

Mags I agree with CLKD.
Why put yourself through it?

I'm only just out of bed.
Got up at 8 took tea & toast back to bed,read my book then fell back to sleep.
My head is thick so don't know how I feel at the moment.
Well,definetly in zombie land that's for sure.
Haven't gone into work today.spoke to my boss this morning and she was very understanding.

[mags]

Hi CLKD- You are right- I will see who I want to see and  if they don't like it then tough!  To Dyan- sorry  you are feeling so zombie like- am glad though that you decided not to go into work- your boss  sympathetic. I think I have said to you before that I felt really   spaced out and terribly dizzy with mirtazapine- but also anxious and low at the same time- I also used to wake in the night feeling dizzy even though I was lying down. These are side effects from the medication and  as you have increased the dose, it is bound to take a while for things to settle down. Hoping that the day improves for you-and a   

[bev567901]

Mags it doesn't seem ridiculous at all. I have a note on my door saying please leave all parcels in the porch & I cancelled my much needed hair cut/colour today (she comes to the house.) Just have who you want with you, tell them how it is. If they insist you insist. I would not put yourself through it at all at the moment. Yes we do need to start normality soon but just not yet.  How has today been?  Bev x

[bev567901]

Dyan sorry you aren't feeling right just yet. Glad your boss is understanding though. Did your afternoon get any better? Bev x

[mags]

Hi Bev- and thanks for your kind words, so sorry you had to cancel your hair appointment and  hope you will be able to face having it done again soon. I think we beat ourselves up too much about these things when we should be kinder to ourselves. As you said-why  put myself through it. I haven't had such a great day-only went downstairs once and didn't want to do anything- I had an e-mail from a friend who had a back operation earlier this year  and is now recovered. she said she'd been to Canada to see her daughter and came  home feeling like a new woman-I thought how lovely it must be to feel like that-She has also suffered with anxiety but is very much into meditation and shamanism and  I think that helped her through it. I have tried meditation but found it hard to switch off- I think I would need to do classes to learn how to do it properly.  Hoping you have had a better day apart from the cancelled hair apt- Love Magsxx

[bev567901]

Well at least you went down once. Glad your friend feels better, going on holiday can be a feel good boost if you are up to going in the first place.
I am so tired today those hormonal wobbly legs! Will be glad when this period stops. My stud dog went to stay at my daughters yesterday as I have two girls in season & he was causing havoc. Its much easier without him  I need to do more tomorrow though, I could only work until lunchtime.
Here's to us all getting a good nights sleep tonight. I cannot wait for the day that I am still asleep when my alarm goes off at 6.45 that will mean progress!!!  B x

[mags]

Hi Bev- yes I suppose it was a small step- but tried to go down at teatime then had to retreat back upstairs as I felt too teary and didn't want to eat-so not so good.  Sorry you have been feeling so tired-do you take any extra iron/vits to help?   Having the dog causing chaos must have been the last thing you felt like! At least your daughter can have  him for a bit.
I know what you mean about the early waking- I can't remember the last time I woke without the adrenaline rush and dread feeling-do you have that too? I am always awake long before the alarm goes off-hope you sleep well

[CLKD]

These feelings do eventually go.  But it is AWFUL at the time    ... try having some biscuits by the bed to eat before you get out.  As soon as you wake have a drink ........ juice or some water.  If you had 'flu ? you wouldn't be able to get out of bed.  Ain't quite the same though until one accepts that 'this is where I am at the moment' ..........

[mags]

Thanks for that ckldxx

[JJ]

Hi again mags, i wouldn't say I'm through it, but I would say I'm 60-70 % better! I find symptoms come and go! sometimes I do still feel anxiety and occasionally I feel low. Initially I felt horrendous, I didn't know what was going on, never in a million years had I thought peri menopause could make someone feel so awful, of course once doc said your in perimenopause I did a lot of reading, my doc explained a lot and basically I was offered hrt, anti depressants, cbt and emergency vallium , which I take if I'm having a bad anxiety patch, I can go months without but it's good to know they there if I need them. I also take an older style anti depressant which does help. I'm not ruling hrt out but it wasn't my first choice due to family breast cancer.

I don't sleep as good as I used to, that seems common, I get hot flushes, they come and go, but these symptoms for me, are a piece of cake compared to the anxiety. Feel free to pm me if you feel it may help you. 

You WILL improve
Xx

[bev567901]

At least you tried to go down at teatime. I guess CBT may be able to help this week, sometimes you can understand why such & such is a trigger but certain things are a complete ? aren't they.   I  know what you mean about that horrible waking feeling, I still get it but it has got better recently. Lets see what tomorrow brings & fingers crossed for a good night.     I have a very happy nearly due Beeny with me in the bedroom now & everytime I move in the night she wags her tail & as she is in her whelping box it clunks. I am learning how to not move & my normal getting up 10x for the toilet in the night has had to end!  B x 

[mags]

Hi Bev-am hoping that the CBT will help on Friday- it sounds mad but I almost feel afraid to go downstairs-I don't  know why-I have to keep reminding myself that I got out at the weekend- but the negativity stops me from being able to hold onto  that.  I  just don't know why  this last year has been so much worse symptom wise- the pattern of it has changed completely as I have said before and that worries me.  Hope that  Beeny delivers on time and doesn't cause you too many disruptive nights- you'll have to get a potty or chamber pot to keep under the bed-Love Magsx

[mags]

Hi JJ and thanks for your kind words- my anxiety and depression used to come and go in cycles and it was horrible- but at least I had some respite .-this year I just seem to have gone completely backwards and the symptoms have been almost constant- it does seem endless at the moment  but am hoping that the sertraline will work eventually-I too never imagined that meno could make you feel so horrendous-why does no one ever prepare us-I have noticed that any books on the menopause seem to focus on the hot flushes and  forgetfulness and insomnia, but anxiety and depression don't get much of a mention. Glad that your symptoms aren't as bad and it has given me some hope - I tried HRT earlier this year despite having a family history of cancer- but the dr assured me it would be ok- however it did nothing for me apart from give me heavy bleeding , I came off it cold turkey on my dr's advice after being on it for five months and also stopped my Prozac at the same time as it wasn't helping-I am wondering if the HRT has messed everything up this year and then coming off the Prozac-who knows!  Thanks again for all your help and a big :bighug:x