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[Bette]

That's helpful, Susan, thanks. I'll see what the SS lady says when I call her.
Bette x

[Eddie]

This may help, i think it looks like all elderly over 65 can get some help regardless of financial situation. I hope so.
However, what they are doing with my mum is called re-enablement, this lets them see what she can do for herself, and they will do the rest. Care component only of course.
http://www.medic8.com/healthguide/elderly-care/paying.html

Eddie. x

[Bette]

TBH, I think that it may well be that Mum doesn't need carers now but I'll wait and see what she and the SS lady says. She is coping very well now, it might just be a case of making sure that she (and I!) feel confident.
Bette x

[CLKD]

It will be nice to know what she is entitled to should she/you require extra services.  Information to lodge in the back of your minds if ever you need it 

[Cazikins]

I did ring SS & asked them if we could get someone out every morning to put the surgical stocking on for dad but they said that it was not an "extreme" requirement (or some other kind of expression). Basically they could only send someone to help if it was possible that dad would be a harm to himself or others - it had to be something more serious.
I did politely try to explain that we were trying to do as much for him as possible to try & keep him out of hospital, thus saving the NHS some money in the long run.
Fell on deaf ears though - I just got an explanation that funds were tight etc & this was not a serious enough case.
They suggested I apply for a benefit (attendance allowance I think it was  called) that could help pay for a private carer.
Anyway me & Bro have agreed that what ever we do Dad is not going to have someone to do it.

Cazi xx

[grandy]

Cazikins, I would definitely apply for the attendance allowance. My Mum has been getting this for some time and you could use it to help pay for carers.

[Cazikins]

Cheers Grandy - I think it is about £50 per week & they said it's not meens tested - not that dad has got much anyway but to be honest
I still don't think he will allow a carer to help him anything at all.
I know I need to bring the subject up with him (not for the first time either) but I wonder if I need to let things settle for a while.

[grandy]

Last year we did get some carers for Mum. Only a couple of hours a week. From day one she did not like them and could not understand why they were coming in. (She has dementia). Well to cut a long story short we eventually had to stop them because they were causing us so much agro from Mum. Constant phone calls complaining about them etc. So perhaps if your Dad is dead set against them then it might not work. Don't know if that is helpful to you. Eventually we got mum a place in a day care centre which she loves as she likes to have company.

[Cazikins]

Ah thanks Grandy - yes it was helpful to know.
My Mum had dementia too, luckily dad has shown no signs of it whatsoever - (I have though) 

I do think that eventually one day dad might realise that it would be better to have a carer in to help him with some chores rather than end up in a hospital or home. He really is sticking it out for as long as possible. He is so independant & will not let anyone help him with anything. He reckons the day he accepts any help will be the long road to...

xx

[san]

Catkins look into the attendance allowance. You could claim it for you and your brother being the part carers that your dad needs.
It's assessed on his care needs and as they change (usually requiring more) the allowance goes up. Easy to do once the initial paperwork has been done.
Also if he has a emergency alarm this too can be funded from the attendance allowance.

[Margarett]

I got Attendance Allowance for my Mum recently, following her coming back to her flat after her stroke. It's a long detailed form, but quite straightforward really. She gets about £50 a weekwhich helps a lot. She needs a hairdresser to go in, as she can't wash her own hair, and a cleaner for her flat, amongst other things. So this pays for that. Everyone's needs are different, and it enables her to stay in her own home. You can apply for it on someone elses behalf. It was easy for me though, as I am her P.O.A.

[Bette]

That's interesting, Margarett. I looked at the form online and started planning how to fill it out but then noticed a bit at the end about it being unlikely to be approved if the care hadn't been needed for at least 6 months. 
Bette x

[Margarett]

Yes that is true. She had her stroke at the end of November though. But if you are near to the 6 months, I would fill it in anyway. They will then start paying it after the 6 months are up, if it's approved.

[Bette]

Thanks. The way things are going, I don't think that she'll be eligible for it but then, that's a good thing!
Bette x

[honeybun]

Does it have to be official care.

If anyone needs help with cooking cleaning and shopping then that could well be counted as requiring care.

Just a thought.

Honeyb
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