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CLKD

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Re: Teenage daughter with anxiety
« Reply #30 on: February 13, 2017, 05:58:21 PM »

What I stated is happening to many young people due to various pressures. This is the daughter's feelings not the parents' feelings.

"I wouldnt want to make her different, in my own experience ... "  this isn't the mother's experience though !  and what's wrong with being different, I've never conformed.  Not conforming has never held me back, anxiety however, has done ..... at times anxiety has ruined my Life  :'(
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nearly50

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Re: Teenage daughter with anxiety
« Reply #31 on: February 13, 2017, 06:05:39 PM »

Childline has a good section on anxiety your daughter might like. Her friends will hopefully be supportive too, with the best will in the world none of us get 100% what it is like to be a teenager now.
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Lanie66

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« Reply #32 on: February 13, 2017, 08:00:08 PM »

Thankyou everyone for your replies.  I appreciate everyone has a different history, experience and angle, I've got a more chequered past than most, BUT, please no scare mongering, its not required, nor constructive.  Most of you have everyones best interests at heart, thats why you're on this magnificent forum x
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Lanie66

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« Reply #33 on: February 13, 2017, 10:15:15 PM »

Nearly50, Sparkle, Woodlands and Elsie001 thankyou.  I will definitely look into mindfulness for dummies, doubt there'll be any classes in our area however but I'll look. 

Private counselling tends to be around 40 here aswell so if the Mytime counselling looks to be ages away I might have to go for that.  Woodlands, you mentioned being a school nurse, my daughter has an appointment on Wednesday.  She does tend to eat well, i.e. salads, fruit and vegetables aswell as the crap like any teenager.  She doesn't eat much in the morning though as she feels sick, its a viscious circle.  Shes sleeping ok at the minute too.  She does things that make her cosy like nice warm baths, hot water bottles, fluffy robes etc and she gets great comfort from them.  Who doesn't x

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Salad

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Re: Teenage daughter with anxiety
« Reply #34 on: February 13, 2017, 10:29:53 PM »

Sounds like she's in good hands  :foryou:
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sparkle

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« Reply #35 on: February 13, 2017, 10:33:50 PM »

Lanie, you're very welcome.  Do let us know how things go.

S x
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cubagirl

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« Reply #36 on: February 13, 2017, 10:40:44 PM »

Lanie, maybe check out your local GP surgery. My one has counsellors who help with anxiety. No payment, part of their service for patients. One actually used Mindfulness approach. Maybe our surgery is lucky, but worth enquiring about. Can't be easy for you, we'd move heaven & earth to help our kids. Hope she improves & I'm sure with all your love & support, she'll do just that.
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Woodlands

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Re: Teenage daughter with anxiety
« Reply #37 on: February 13, 2017, 11:45:01 PM »

Hi honey.
So glad your exploring the things i know will help you.
Children i've worked with in school before i have introduced a red card via the head of year...youngster shows it to teacher and exits the class no questions asked......my DD has self harm and now substance misuse.......xx
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CLKD

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Re: Teenage daughter with anxiety
« Reply #38 on: February 14, 2017, 12:53:16 PM »

Lots of sunshine = VitD as well as eating regularly ....... to stop that awful dip when the body is hungry which can cause anxiety surges.  The trick for me is to eat B4 my body is hungry  ;)
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Re: Teenage daughter with anxiety
« Reply #39 on: February 14, 2017, 05:52:39 PM »

Hi,
I could have written your post. My daughter was very similar last year and is a very empathetic child. In fact a counsellor she saw last week said she had gifts which she could use when she realises her potential. I wont give you the whole story of what my daughter has been through here as its very personal and probably irrelevant. If you want to private message me at any time feel free.
Please check out a website called Excel At Life. It has many audio self helps for your daughter and some fab meditations. Have you approached Camhs? They offer some great CBT therapy.
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Lanie66

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« Reply #40 on: February 14, 2017, 06:40:46 PM »

Thank you jedigirl.   It's been a bad day today, had her first panic attack at school.  It appears it was well managed by the school first aider and head of year.   She was able to use her time out card.  Her head of year has been fantastic and has referred her to camhs.  The mytime section has been in touch but unlikely to be able to offer counselling b4 may.  I'm organising some private counselling thru Relate thanks to advice received on here.  I feel so helpless, been having a sh*t time at work myself recently too so feeling the strain.  She has an appointment with the school nurse tomorrow, hoping for miracles tbh or at least some coping mechanisms delivered by someone other than mum and dad that she might listen to.  I might pm you  x
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nearly50

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Re: Teenage daughter with anxiety
« Reply #41 on: February 14, 2017, 06:44:55 PM »

Good luck Lanie,  sounds like the school dealt with it well. Feel for you, you're doing all you can
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Meadowblue

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« Reply #42 on: February 17, 2017, 03:54:53 PM »

Wondering Lanie if this would help.  My daughter now in first year of A levels suffered terribly leading up to her GCSE's and is, indeed, a naturally anxious young lady.  Her symptoms manifesting themself in being unable to sleep through worry, she then finds writing herself notes of everything she has to do which is going round and round in her head helps.  She also writes every night in a diary and gets her thoughts out of her head.  However, leading up to changing schools and revising for GCSE's I was at my wits end with her as she was so anxious she would be either physically sick or retching before school most days.  It was awful to see.  Not sure if you have considered herbal remedies but I was recommended to buy her a tincture from the A Vogel range called Passiflora.  You basically add 20 drops to a small amount of warm water every morning.  It has been nothing short of miraculous for her and she stopped the sickness and retching within a couple of days of taking it.  I kept her on it throughout the exams and now she takes it just for a few days leading up to stressful events.  It may be a placebo but quite honestly I don't care it works.  She passed her GCSE's with 6 A*s and 5 A's so must have done something! 

Hope this helps.
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Lanie66

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« Reply #43 on: February 17, 2017, 06:21:25 PM »

Thank you Meadowblue !  I'm going to Google passiflora tonight.  I've used those type of tinctures before and am all for natural remedies.  I've started her on vit B complex and omega3 this week hoping there'll be a positive result. Wow your daughter did well in her exams, well done to her.  Mine also retches before going into school too and although she's had a panic attack this week she also had more calm times.  We're also starting some private counselling next week. 

Lots of great advice on this forum, I'm really grateful.
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sparkle

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« Reply #44 on: February 17, 2017, 08:30:27 PM »

Lanie, that all sounds really positive, so pleased for you.  Keep us posted.

S x
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