Just come across this thread and wanted to send you a huge hug. I'm now 41, started getting symptoms at 35 but wasn't diagnosed til 39. I agree that if you want to meet up with people face to face, putting a post up either here or on the Daisy Network might be a good way to start. A lot of women, especially younger women, tend to keep quiet about what they are going through, so you may find there are some women you actually know who are going through this, but who haven't mentioned it. People can make so many tactless comments that I have been very wary of letting anyone know, although I am now getting more outspoken.
Are you getting any support or checkups from your GP? It doesn't sound as if you are getting much help in dealing with this. I hope the forum can at least make you feel less isolated. Sending huge hugs.
P.S. I totally get the baby thing - my cousin has just had a second child when it was thought not to be possible - everyone is going on about how wonderful because how terrible it would have been for her not to be able to have a second baby. I'm pleased they were able to have the baby of course, and that the little one has arrived safe and well, but at the same time, I'm getting a bit fed up of hearing how terribly traumatic it would have been for them to be limited to just one child. I feel like telling them to be grateful they had the one because it's one more than some of us get!