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Trey:
My dear Don has a six cm tumor of the brain and has been given 1 to 3 months to live, with the most possible six months is the guess of the radiologist. We see the neurosurgeon early Monday to see what he thinks of the MRA and whether a biopsy to see if it is aggressive or slower growing, which I guess is the six month option. They have told me be prepared for the short estimate, the other is a totally long shot.

This was a total shock as no headaches, no dizzy and really his mind is excellent.

He cannot feel his left hand or leg and I thought, how on earth can I have missed a stroke.  How I wish it were only a stroke.

We have decided to make something beautiful out of every day so we have something to hold on to, rather than all negative.  This doesn't mean that we won't be in tears at times, just that we will try to find some beauty in every day.

We've been through many hard times, but we've always come through them together so this is the really devastating part.

One of our rare close relatives was so rude and heavy handed and said if you don't let us visit I'll be mad because you will upset wife.  This, after I'd said we were going to try to go it alone and not hire help as we have such a short time to have intimacy, prepare each other, get me taught finances and so on.
I never said we would not enjoy short visits.  So that really upset Don.

We will have hospice after we've sorted through any options and when it gets too difficult to manage alone.  Son's wife in extremely precarious pregnancy so do not wish to have him leave her.  They are 1400 miles away.

Anyhow, this is why I haven't posted much.

hot&spicy:
Aw trey that is so sad. I was really hoping I wouldn't cry today after my day of tears yesterday but too late your post has touched my heart and I am off again. I cannot imagine what you must be feeling but I think the title of your post says it all. The way you describe how you want to spend the next few months with don sounds so intimate tender and special. Make the most of every moment trey life is so short and precious. We need to appreciate every moment we have with the people we love. Big hugs to you - you will be in my thoughts and close to my heart.  Xxx

jules:
Dear Trey,

I read your post with such sadness....I can only imagine what you are going through but I just want to send you the biggest of hugs, and lots of love to you both.

You are in my thoughts xx

catweazle7:
Oh Trey I am so sorry to hear your shattering news.  :'(

I am lost for words except to say that I hope your remaining time together is filled with love. Your determination to see beauty in each day is so admirable when you are faced with such a devastating prognosis.

My thoughts are with you and Don.

Love Catweazle xxx  :hug:

mac:
Dear Trey

So sorry to hear your devasting news.  Your time together is precious and it will be filled with love.

My thoughts are with you.

Macxx

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