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suzieQ:
Thank you Susan - some really good points there and much food for thought.i never thought about the long term benefits of oestrogen - maybe I should revisit that. I have recently moved ( since retirement) and so got a new GP. Must check her out on this. Also the zopiclone points re very good. I never had to up my dose - in fact I cut it right down  - but maybe it was just a psychological crutch! It mst be hard o sleep with fibromyalgia though- hope you get some relief soon xx

suzieQ:
That's interesting Susan as both my friends who have fibro and one  who has had chronic ME for over 20 years have had poor sleep all their lives.
Must be frustrating for you though I can really see that and I feel for you. My ME freind was put on a benzo sleeping pill by her GP nearly 20 years ago ( temazepam I think) and is bravely in the throes of coming off it. She is 3 months into the battle having cut down over 6 months do is having the worst time poor love. I think of her every night and pray! Xx

suzieQ:

This has brought me such comfort as at the moment I really do feel I am going totally off my trolley.
The flushes are easing, only get the occasional one now but my problem is the total lack of libido & the intense irritability. I really am the she devil at times. I feel I am Mrs Angry. I have absolutely NO tolerance levels at all.
I can completely identify with the feeling that I don't feel normal at all & will this ever end.
Hi Sueanne
Just wanted to send my love as you seem to have been suffering for such a long time and it must seem like its never going to end even though I think it sounds like you are almost there  with some symptoms.I think that when we have suffered a long time our responses get a bit conditioned and we sort of act out the same script over and over again. it takes a real effort to stop and consider our responses and choose to do it differently. Maybe the loss of libido is at the root of some of your anger and that is bound to affect the harmonious balance of your relationship with your husband. I think too I didn't realise how much of a tension releaser sex is and if we are going with it and expressing our relationship through good sex then that can have a very upbuilding effect. do you and he talk about all this and how you might build intimacy in your relationship in different ways. The irritability might be helped by something like meditation or "mindfullness" techniques. Or even a herbal support like St John Wort. Sorry if I am overstepping my brief here - just concerned for you.I can only say I feel totally different now to how I did a few years ago - my biggest thing apart from insomnia was anxiety. All that has gone now and I feel calm and joyful most of the time. But I do have to remind myself that my response, demeanor and attitude are a daily choice and I am responsible for what comes out when I get squeezed! DO i want sweet fruit juice to come out - or bitter aloes? Put it another way, I try to be so full of the right stuff ( love, patience, graciousness) that when life tips me up I don't empty. Very hard and I don't always succeed but its my goal now.
You just have to keep the faith that you will be YOU again and this will completely pass one day soon.xx

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